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Work From Bed Friday
A committed couple of 30+ years in conversation about marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media that have ignited their marriage, sex, and connection. Every Friday. From bed.
Episodes
68 episodes
Choosing What You Have: Come As You Are Chapter 9
In this last chapter of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, Amy & Tommy discuss the the practice of happiness, how Nagoski misses the idea of play, and how we are all swimming in a patriarchal hot tub. Also, cross-body bags and DECIDING. To de...
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Orgasm: Come As You Are Chapter 8
Are all orgasms created equal? What in the actual world? Tommy and Amy discuss the finer points of Chapter 8 of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are. Actually, they discuss ALL the points! There are spicy details not to be missed, including...
The Pleasure Pool: Come As You Are Chapter 7
Finally! In Chapter 7 of Come AsYou Are, Emily Nagoski. Ph. D. gets to DESIRE: spontaneous desire and responsive desire and desire threshholds. Mind. Blown. Normalizing high threshold responsive desire is life changing and relationship...
Oh Baby, I'm SO Concordant Right Now: Come As You Are Chapter 6
Amy & Tommy make it to Chapter 6 of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are and dive into more of the science of sex (what a fun job!) and more of Nagoski's metaphors (THIS is a restaurant.)—both of which are a little bit mind-blowing. Bec...
Cultural Context—Not Sexy: Come As You Are Chapter 5
Our culture plants many of the weeds that choke our sexual garden. In this chapter of Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D., Amy and Tommy discuss cultural context and the "clusterfuck of mixed messages" that effect our sexual well being.&nb...
Fucking Hedgehogs. Come As You Are Chapter 4
Coming off a celebration of their magical 22nd wedding anniversary, Amy & Tommy dive into a rollicking discussion of Chapter 4 of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are.Mentioned in this Episode:
Learning/Liking/Wanting: Come As You Are Chapter 3
The most important sex organ is...the brain!! Even so, Amy & Tommy can't help but start with the clitoris and the fact that it's been largely ignored until the 90s. The NINETEEN NINETIES. Soon enough they move on to Chapter 3 of Emily...
Lemons & Little Jackets & Other Turn-Ons: Come As You Are Chapter 2
Amy & Tommy begin to connect the dots: have our favorite stories from childhood and teenhood shaped our romantic and sexual selves? Emily Nagoski explains as much in Chapter 2 of Come As You Are. Nagoski first blows the mind with the explan...
Hard AND Wet: Come As You Are Chapter 1
Baby gherkin clits and shameful pudendums. Shleimige flüssigkeiten and pillow talk. Hard AND wet. It's all here in Amy & Tommy's discussion of Chapter 1 of Emily Nagoski's groundbreaking book, Come As You Are. Beginning at the begi...
Body or Soul?: Introduction to Come As You Are
What IS our human-ness? Is it the SOUL? Or is it the BODY? What is it that reminds us that we aren't supercomputers and that AI-generated bots aren't human? Amy & Tommy dig into that question as they open up Emily Nagoski's Come As You ...
An AI Threesome: Season 3 Premiere!
Welcome to Season 3 of Work From Bed Friday! Inspired by the feminist podcasting duo Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory of Dire Straights, Amy & Tommy try an AI experiment—in the name of research, of course. Eye-opening, spicy, fascinating...
Our First Guest! Stasia Savasuk and the Season 2 Finale!
Amy & Tommy welcome their first podcast guest EVER—Stasia Savasuk! Stasia is a somatic coach and the founder of Stasia's Style School and other empowering courses for women. Stasia first introduced Amy to All About Love by bell hoo...
I Love Dick: The Book, The Series
Closing in on the end of Season 2, Amy & Tommy discuss I Love Dick, the 1997 cult feminist classic by Chris Kraus. Lucky for them, the book was made into a fabulous television series in 2016. They discuss both of these works, diggi...
Angels and AI : All About Love Chapter 13
What would bell hooks say about AI? Can we imagine her angels as AI bots? How does this chapter's discussion of The Divine figure into the overall philosophy of love? Amy & Tommy jump into all the big questions: the Divine, the cosmos, the ...
Love Heals. So Does Dance: All About Love Chapter 12
Intending to start the episode with a discussion of Esther Perel's AI therapy session, Amy & Tommy soon realize that it's a can of worms that need to be opened at a later date! Instead, they remember a favorite podcast episode and the birth...
Let's Celebrate! One Year, 50 Episodes, and All About Love Chapter 11
Amy & Tommy celebrate their first "pod-iversary" AND the completion of 50 full length episodes with some bubbly, some memories of their first year podcasting, and later, messages from happy listeners.But never fear, they have not for...
Finally Free Love: Heated Rivalry Season 1 Finale
Amy & Tommy's scrappy DIY podcast production catches up with them—this was the first episode in which they desperately needed an intern! At least to remind them of last episode's "cornerstones of romantic love." But do not fear! Here are al...
Where's the Magnificent Romance? All About Love Chapter 10
What are the secrets to enduring romantic love? Amy & Tommy look for guidance from bell hooks in Chapter 10 of All About Love, but find little there. They offer up their own ideas though, and yearn for a long-term study along the l...
Heated Rivalry Episode 5: It's All About LOVE
Amy & Tommy had waaaaay too much to say about Episode 5 of Heated Rivalry. So much, in fact, that they had to make this monster episode into two parts: this episode focuses on Heated Rivalry (typically just the weekly Titillating Tidbit) an...
A Tortured Orgasm: Heated Rivalry, Episode 4. Oh yeah, and All About Love Chapter 9
Amy & Tommy's obsession with Ilya & Shane may be overshadowing their deep dive into All About Love by bell hooks. But they push on, overlaying this seminal text over the cultural reality of 2026. After all, love is love. And ap...
Deep Thoughts and Hot Hockey: All About Love Chapter 8 and Heated Rivalry Episode 3
Who knew that watching hot hockey romances in Heated Rivalry would be a fitting companion for Chapter 8 of All About Love by bell hooks?? So many parallels! Also, some welcome spice for the deep dives into love and community. Amy &...
Love and Greed: All About Love Chapter 7 and Heated Rivalry Episode 2
It's another love sandwich: spicy analysis of the viral hockey lovestory/softporn series, "Heated Rivalry" on one slice, a reader lovenote on the other slice, and the meat? Deep talk about Chapter 7 of All About Love by bell hooks: greed ...
A Love Ethic: All About Love Chapter 6 and Heated Rivalry Episode 1
As our country navigates this this very difficult moment, the words of bell hooks resonate in their prescience. She understood the road that we were, and are traveling. How do we practice a love ethic as a society? How can we stand strong in a ...
Spiritual Love and "Heated Rivalry": All About Love Chapter 5
Tommy and Amy kick off Episode 6 of Season 2 with a tease: a quick peek into what they are reading and which books may make an upcoming episode! After that Titillating Tidbit, they move on to the meat of the episode: Chapter 5 of A...
Self-Love: Chapter 4 of All About Love
Amy & Tommy start with Portland’s stand up comedy scene and end with pubic hair. Sandwiched in between is a discussion of self love and self esteem. Also, they would like to contradict themselves—things ARE really bad in the world. Just get...