Who You Marry Decides Everything

Who you marry will either multiply your life…
or quietly break it.

Everybody wants success.
Big goals. Big dreams. Big outcomes.

But nobody talks about the decision that determines all of it:

Your partner.

In this episode, Greg and Moe break down why your spouse isn’t just part of your life—
they are the foundation of it.

They get into:

• Why most people choose a partner for the wrong reasons
• How the wrong relationship creates friction, stress, and failure
• What real support actually looks like when things fall apart
• And why success without alignment at home… doesn’t last

Because it’s easy when things are good.

The real test is when everything is falling apart—
money’s tight, pressure’s high, and nothing’s working.

That’s when you find out who you really chose.

This isn’t about love stories.
It’s about building a life that actually works.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Show me your spouse or show me your partner and I'll tell you whether or not you're going to be successful. Because every person that ended up either quitting or that we fired had a non-supportive partner or spouse for the journey that they were on. I think that that's true. And I have an unlimited amount of examples of that where you select your mate and you're, I want to be an entrepreneur, I want to do this, I want to do that, and then you have somebody that doesn't want that at all. If you go down that entrepreneurial route and there's no support system when you come back home, and it's the complete opposite, it's friction, it's adding additional stress and chaos to your life. That is not sustainable. Something will break.

SPEAKER_00 0:56

I am a co-host, Maurice Taylor. It organically came to be. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:18

What do you mean by you people? Uh you you wanted to discuss a topic about marriage or the spouse.

SPEAKER_00 1:33

Yeah. What you got? They say that is the most important decision that you will ever make in your life. And I thought from a business standpoint, I would like to hear your thoughts on that. Because I asked you this question a while back when I made my uh proposal video for my wife, and I interviewed all my friends who were married, and I asked them very just strategic questions about marriage and about everything. I asked my grandmother, I asked my uncle, I asked you, I asked some of my best friends who was married, and uh you came up, you said that you said, and also just talks throughout the tree fall when I was thinking about getting ready to ask my now wife to marry me, and you said, man, you know, you know, finding a wife is very important and it's very grounding, and it will help you, you know, because you're not trying to do a whole bunch, you know how single men are. You know, you try to do a lot of stuff, he said it will give you one solid, I guess, foundation of what you were talking about. And you said a woman is always good to have it. In the Bible, they say a man who finds a wife finds a good thing. So I'll just keep it there and then now I'll let you talk.

SPEAKER_01 2:56

Well, I always said when we were hiring people, and people would say, Hey, you know, how do I be successful, or this or that, or this, I'd say, show me your your spouse or show me your partner, and I'll tell you whether or not you're gonna be successful or not. Because every person that ended up either quitting or firing that we fired had a non-supportive partner or spouse for the journey that they were on. And I think that that's true, and I have an unlimited amount of examples on that, where you select your mate, and you're, I want to be an entrepreneur, I want to do this, I want to do that, and then you have somebody that doesn't want that at all. If you go down that entrepreneurial route and there's no support system when you come back home, and it's the complete opposite, it's friction, it's adding additional stress and chaos to your life, that is not sustainable. Something will break. Yeah, you're gonna wind up quitting something. You're gonna quit something. You're either gonna quit that relationship or you're gonna quit that job, and nine times out of ten, people quit the job. And I'm not saying the job is good or bad, but I think it's an unbelievable example of you can have every dream you want. If your partner or spouse is not locked into that dream, it ain't happening. She's not going with you on it, and you may get to it, but the sacrifices that were made during that, they're not gonna just get fixed when you reach the destination. And you can see that with pro athletes all the time. I mean, I just watched that John Elway documentary, and this dude, you know, met his spouse in college, and she was with him the whole time, and then by the end, you know, he's just fighting for Super Bowls and this and that and this. They're not together anymore. He's in the Football Hall of Fame, and you know, he's uh he was a GM for the Broncos, and then they won a Super Bowl, and I think he's one of only two people to ever do that to win a Super Bowl and then be the GM or the president of operations or whatever he was for a team that won it as well. And it's like he's doing it alone now. And maybe he's happier now than he was, but I can tell you the the poisoning of the well and breaking up that relationship, that's not easy. Now, I know a lot of people that have found happiness later on, and I think that that's wonderful. But if you can go back and have a spouse that just is supportive and you guys work and it's a cohesive unit, with you know, this whole thing about prayer and manifestation, when you bring more than one mind, Napoleon Hill always said this, that's why he created the Mastermind Alliance. When you create more or bring together more than one mind, this kind of powerful machine, and you lock it onto a single goal. So multiple people with the same goal, it just exponentially increases the chances that that goal is going to be achieved.

SPEAKER_00 6:20

Right. So you think about people working on one thing.

SPEAKER_01 6:23

Right. But from a from a prayer vibrational frequency, love, harmony perspective, and then if you apply that to life, to kids, to their goals, to their harmony, to your cohesive unit and creating this kind of beautiful foundation of a life that can be built off of for generations, it starts with that decision. And in today's society, what's the divorce rate? 50% at a minimum. Yeah, they people not staying together. They're not staying together, like the olden days. Arranged marriages seem to have been a good thing. And, you know, I joke with my daughter, like, you're gonna bring a dude in here and he's gonna get vetted. I'm gonna check this motherfucker out. I don't care if you think he's handsome and cute and sweet, you know, if he's got substance abuse problems and this and that and this. Let me save you from hurting me. And and I say that to my kids all the time. It's like you've got to look deeper than the current surface level bullshit of I met him, you know, at school and he's cute. And in today's society, I met him at a bar and I really like him. It's like, what the fuck does that have to do with anything? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:53

Well, I guess as kids, that's how we jump in.

SPEAKER_01 7:58

We're dumb. Our brains aren't developed. Yeah, men's brains aren't developed until we're what 25? Oh, I thought 40. Well, it feels that way sometimes. Yeah. But I look at it and I'm very grateful and thankful I chose the woman that I chose. But even back then, I was like, not I didn't take it for granted, but I don't think I realized what I had. Right. And I remember I brought her home. Shout out to Genevieve, and all my neighbors' family friends were over. Not kids my age, but like grown ass men with families. And I'm introducing her around. And at the time she's like a new girlfriend. Maybe we've been dating like three or four months or something. And uh all these guys are like, Wow, man, this is like she's really wonderful. Like, do you know how good you have it? And I'm like, Yeah, you know, we'll see. I like her, but we'll see. And they sat me down. And they go, Yo, dog, you're not gonna find someone better than this. So I think you need to reframe the we'll see. Right. And you need to open your fucking eyes.

SPEAKER_00 9:16

So what were they seeing that you didn't see from? They set you down, they set you down the same day?

SPEAKER_01 9:22

Yeah. Because you know, I'm fucking 20. Yeah. I'm like, oh, you know, we'll see. I'm in college, I'm playing lacrosse, we'll see. And they were just like sat me down, they're like, and a couple dudes there were divorced and remarried, and they're like, let me fucking tell you something, boy. And I was like, whoa, okay. Maybe I need to open my eyes a little bit more. Maybe this is more than you know, a pretty face who we you know, we're going to parties and being stupid college kids. So I do remember that moment, and I'm very thankful that they did that because again, when you're 20 years old, you're a fucking idiot. I know I am. Yeah. Yeah, I can see it.

SPEAKER_00 10:06

So young. We thought we were so old, but we're just gonna be able to do it.

SPEAKER_01 10:08

So old, dude. We thought we were so old. We thought we had no time. Yeah, we thought we were so old. So young. So young. Um, so I think the spouse thing, you need to be thinking about it differently than we do today. And I did do this, where the only reason I was getting married was to start a family. That was the only reason I wanted to do it. So I looked at it as who is this person as it translates to my future children? Is she a good mom?

SPEAKER_00 10:47

How would you look at first?

SPEAKER_01 10:48

Fuck yeah. Right. How are her genes? Are her genes gonna translate into my kids? And I went through it, and I tell her this all the time. I'm like, great jaw structure, nice head size, great teeth, very healthy, thick hair, big eyes, great features. And I like went through this whole thing, and she's like, You're a fucking psycho. I'm like, but it all translated, and you see these you know, NFL and NBA players, they they marry like these little fragile, beautiful women, and then they have weak children. Well, I was looking at ankle stability, foot strike.

SPEAKER_00 11:36

This is so it felt like deja vu to me because I was just watching on on uh Instagram or something on YouTube. It was this other guy who was talking about both his sons in the NFL. He said, Yeah, he said I picked the right one. He said, This was my plan from the beginning. Is it Amand Rash? I think something like that. Dude, his dad.

SPEAKER_01 12:01

Yeah. I dude, I follow him on Instagram, and so he married a white woman. Do you know this? I think so. I don't know. Right, he was a pro bodybuilder. Okay, so his kids are mixed. So now his one receiver for the Detroit Lions, who's fucking awesome. Yeah. Uh he sat the boys down and he goes, You've already, I already cut the black gold once. He goes, You marry this white chick, I can't make any guarantees here. So he's having this conversation, but he's not wrong. You know, like at the end of the day, and this is why the arranged marriage thing is so theoretically correct, you had a panel of people that needed to carry your family name into the future stronger than it was before.

SPEAKER_02 12:55

Right.

SPEAKER_01 12:56

So they're looking at princes and kings and knights and warriors, and they're like, What are you gonna give to me for my elite daughter's hand in marriage? That's like that's like the how they do with the dogs. Everything. It's a million dollars for a champion racehorse to get it seed. Right. Just the seed. So if it's one one of the triple crowns, right, it's a million bucks. Now, take that theory of breeding, translate it to humans, and then do we do that? No. Some people are trying to do it, but they're not doing it for long-term genetic improvement building family legacy, right? We're not fucking doing it. It's like, ah, they're kidding I like their butt.

SPEAKER_00 13:54

I met him at a fucking bar. Yeah, we're kind of doing it now, you know. People, I've seen people in the comments look at him like, man, that's weird. Or like, oh, who does that? That's that's too much. I I did that. Yeah, but you know, uh, I guess now people's like, if you like them, you just you just marry him. And I don't I don't have a problem with that.

SPEAKER_01 14:16

I'm not saying I'm not saying I have a problem with it, but statistically it doesn't seem to be working.

SPEAKER_00 14:21

Yeah, 50% of the people get divorced. Yes, because it's so many, so many options now. I think it's too many options.

SPEAKER_01 14:30

Well, I also think people don't get married for the right reasons and they don't look at the values of the people with open eyes. Genevieve, not to get into her shit, but she had like a rough upbringing. She's very resilient. Everything that she's got in her life, she did overcoming obstacles day in and day out. She worked her way through college. She's a full-time waitress. She had to overcome some fucking shit. I loved that about her because I thought to myself, this woman is strong. She does not fucking quit. Right. She is not gonna jump ship if things get hard. Now, I don't come from any money, so it's not like you know, I was worried about her taking the cash that I didn't have. But I had big dreams and big goals, yeah. And so I'm like, I'm gonna need a very strong, intelligent woman to be by my side, help build a life, be a wonderful mother to our children, and I want to have a bunch of beautiful, strong, smart kids. Right, and that is how I looked at that situation, and not many people do.

SPEAKER_00 15:50

So, from that standpoint of support and you being on your entrepreneurial journey, how did or just in general, how does the right wife support her spouse and that like what what signs are shown that you would know, like, oh yeah, this I made a good choice here?

SPEAKER_01 16:17

Well, for I can only speak for my own wife. Yeah, but it's one, it's like grit, the other is general toughness, critical feedback, radical transparency, and you really measure it when you're in the dark, deep shit, right? It's not the highs, everybody's fucking great with the highs. Yeah, we're rich, we're going on vacation, the world has never been better. How is your spouse on the lows? So I remember Tessie Mays years ago, horrible stretch there when we had to do the turnaround in like 2017 or something, and it was just like the worst time ever. And usually I wake up at four, right? And one day I didn't, and I was laying in bed and I was feeling sorry for myself. Oh and fucking Genevieve walks in, and it's like you know, it's like 6 30 or something or 7, it's not like 10. And she goes, What are you doing? I was like, I'm just tired and sad about what happened and this and that. She goes, I'm sorry. Are our problems solved yet? Are we rich yet? Or is everything crumbling around us? And I was like, Yeah, you know, everything's crumbling around us. She goes, then get the fuck up and solve the problem. Because laying here ain't gonna get it done. And initially I was like, what the fuck did you say?

unknown 18:08

What the fuck?

SPEAKER_01 18:09

But then you had to think back. But then I'm like, you're right. Laying here ain't gonna fucking get shit done. And I need to get the fuck up and I need to go get it, I need to go get it solved. Right. I appreciated that. In a split second when it happened, I didn't at all. But you need to have a relationship that's strong enough to have those conversations, yeah. Because like you don't want a wife that's like, oh yeah, just sleep there all day. Our problems will fix themselves. It's like, no. You need someone that's like, what the fuck are you doing? Like the beautiful Billy Madison quote. Whoa, whoa, whoa, Miss Lippy, you got a dog, you got a responsibility. You get your ass up and you find that fucking dog. Somebody wrote that on the wall. That was amazed. That's one of my favorite. Well, the full quote is like you don't just go out there and look for your dog for an hour and call it quits. You get your ass up. I think it's time for dodgeball.

SPEAKER_00 19:19

Yeah, but I I know um from a support standpoint, like you said, when you're young, you have all those dreams and things that you say, like, okay, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do that. And some people just kind of roll off at the certain, and but then you find that one person who just stick around. They were like, You can do it. Yeah, go ahead. Keep on going. I remember when I did that one, that one uh video with Jay-Z, and I had called my wife, and I said, Oh man, I got butterflies in my stomach. She was like, uh uh-uh, this is what you wanted. Yeah, you wanted this. She said, Go on do it. But I remember I had butterflies in my stomach when I started seeing all these articles pop up. I was like, oh.

SPEAKER_01 20:10

But that's important because one, I think your spouse is supposed to be a puzzle piece and completely compliment you in your deficiencies, right? But then also that puzzle creates something that wasn't there separately, it creates something better, it's a force multiplier. And so Genevieve specifically, she fills in all the gaps that I don't have, right? She loves holidays, she's a great friend. I can show that, yeah. She's super thoughtful. She, you know, is a great listener, not to me, but to other people. You know, she's a wonderful mom. She's a great spouse. Again, all of these things that that she is, it then allows me to be who I am already. Right. And she doesn't really try and change me, right? Like she knew who I was, getting into it. She wants me to be a little better, she wants me to cuss a little bit less. Uh, but for the most part, she's like, this is who I married. And I do think she saw something in me that I don't know if I saw myself. Because, you know, we're public school boys from Annapolis High School. Yeah. Right? There's not a lot of guys or girls that were coming out of there that were doing big ass shit. I mean, we could probably name them on one hand.

SPEAKER_00 21:48

Maybe if we if maybe two. If we had a list to go down. Maybe. We can't just pop out. This was so many people. Such a good time, so many people. Right? But yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_01 22:00

You know what I mean? Yeah. And she was kind of like, no, you got it. Like, you're going to go do big things. You got big dreams. You can go do those things. And regardless of how many dumb decisions I made in the beginning, she was just kind of like, no, you you're going to be good. You got it. Keep going.

SPEAKER_00 22:22

Yep. Yeah, I feel the same way. It's just like, keep on going. You can do it. You can go, you know, and just that uh those nice words that come from out the blue, or if it's just even a nice little husband post that they find on Instagram, and they just forward it to you. I'll be like, Yeah, you know.

SPEAKER_01 22:41

I think my Instagram posts she sends are uh ways for me to improve.

SPEAKER_00 22:49

I guess some of those ones too.

SPEAKER_01 22:51

Yeah. Yeah. But I again I do see, you know, you don't want to say you see people making the wrong decisions, but you can tell from the from the get-go whether or not people are gonna be in it for the right reasons and for the long haul or not. Um I mean, again, the divorce rate's 50%, so you know, you're you're it's a coin flip, really.

SPEAKER_00 23:26

So the right wife, the right choice, that's the biggest choice. You think that's the biggest choice you ever made thus far? I know you're gonna say yes. I mean this is being recorded.

SPEAKER_01 23:36

No, I mean no, absolutely not.

SPEAKER_00 23:41

Well, I would say, how long did it take you to think like, like, what did you did you get some omens? Because I believe when I made the choice, I kept asking. I kept asking God, like, should I do this? Should I do that? Then I had a couple things happen that was like, when I was thinking about, I was like, yeah, maybe I should do that. Okay. The first one was like, okay, I think I should. The second omen was like, okay. I see. The third one was like, all right, man, I got it. I waited.

SPEAKER_01 24:15

Well, it's funny because I just kind of waited for her to fuck up, was my approach. I wasn't planning on having that's that's what I used to do too.

SPEAKER_00 24:26

Yeah, I wasn't never broke up with nobody. I just waited for her. All right, see ya. I'm out of here.

SPEAKER_01 24:31

Yeah, see ya. Um, that was my approach. I wasn't planning on having a long-term girlfriend. I didn't really have a lot of long-term girlfriends. Um, so when we started dating, I was just kind of like, well, this is nice for now. Like, I'll just wait for her to fuck it up. And you know, a year goes in, it's like things are great. Two years goes in, things are great, three years, four years, you're like, and the funniest about why I ended up uh asking her to marry me early, she's like, I wanted to buy a house, you know, because I'm ambitious, I'm out here getting this shit. And I'm like, I'm like, hey, I'm gonna buy this house for us, and she's like, for us? What the fuck are you talking about? I'm like, yeah, we gotta need we need a place to stay, it's nice. She's like, Well, are we gonna be getting married? I'm like, I gotta make this much money, and then I gotta do this, and I gotta do that. And she goes, and then what? I'm like, then I'll be prepared to ask you. And she goes, so let me get this straight. I'm gonna stay with you. I'm like, yeah. Yes, yes, and she goes, and I'm gonna be there by your side while you do all this shit. I'm like, uh-huh. She's like, and then when you're ready, we're gonna get married. And I'm like, yeah, that's the plan. She was like, right? And she's like, I don't know if I'm down with that. She's like, if you're gonna be with me and you're not gonna leave me, then what are we waiting for? And you know I love a good debate, and I love an airtight argument, and I didn't really have a rebuttal to that. So I thought about that, and I'm like, I mean, she's got a point. And then I thought about why I do want to be a young dad. You know, I want to have I want to have the energy, I want to be able to like be a young, energetic dad. So then that was that was when I made the decision. I, you know, started saving up my money and got an engagement ring, but the engagement was funny because she was fucking yelling at me the whole time. So I had this whole surprise, and I got a sailboat, 42 foot sailboat on a sail. G, will you marry me? Ring came up a couple days before Christmas. So I go, fucking, I'm gonna do it on Christmas Eve. The day was beautiful, it was like 60 degrees in December. No wind, not a cloud in the sky. We got dude, we got pictures. So I go, hey, my dad got a sailboat. I want you to go see it. And we were with her dad in Delaware. She's like, Well, I don't want to leave, I want to stay with my family. I'm like, we got to go back, right? Because I got this whole thing orchestrated. You already had it orchestrated. So I told the sisters, she's flipping the fuck out. So I tell the sisters, I'm like, yo, I'm going to ask her to marry me. I asked the dad already. Right. So they're all like, get the fuck out of the house, Genevieve. So now she's all pissed. So we're driving from Delaware. She's just yapping my ear off. I can't believe you made me leave my fucking dad and this, that, and the other. And we were gonna have this and that, and this was supposed to happen. And I'm just driving. I'm like, man, maybe I'm not gonna do this shit. She won't shut the fuck up. So then, so then, you know, we pull up down to Epping Forest Beach, and the sailboat's gonna be coming in like five minutes, and I'm like, hey, we gotta go to the end of the dock, sailboat's coming, and she's just like still yapping. And I got this diamond in my pocket, and I'm just like, I'm about to fucking throw this bitch in the What you want to never mind, we can go. So we went out on the pier, sailboat comes up, gust of wind hits the sail. Gee, will you marry me? She loses her mind, she jumps on me and says yes, and people were hiding and taking pictures and shooting off shotguns, and it was awesome.

SPEAKER_00 28:49

Nice. I had I had a good one too. Mine was pretty decent. I did it at a movie theater. I like I said in the beginning, I shot that whole short documentary on marriage. But I and I still find myself uh watching that every now and then because it still has great seeds in it. Really? And yeah, because I mean, I think it's a piece that you can just continue to watch, especially if you're getting down. You know, if you just need to pick me up, like Yeah, you're right. You're right. You know, it was one, it was one line in there that I always say to my wife, even when she, and we all just laugh. We we both laugh at it. It's because it's um it was a line a lady said in there, it says, When you get married, it's not about you anymore. Right. She said, It's not about you. So I always use that line, you know, sometimes a sarcasm, and just sometimes as a reminder. But yeah, I did mine in the movie theater, and I invited all the friends and family, and we came into the movie theater and everything. I had one of my friend's wife bring her. Uh they told her that it was uh something that they needed to do for school. And then it was just pitch black in the movie theater, and then she just walks in and they take a seat in the back, and then it just starts to come up. I think I put like the paramount stuff in the beginning and stuff, so it looks like a real movie, and then it just started to come up with our little text message thing. It was it was nice, but yeah, but uh uh I think I thought about that. That was probably the most I ever thought about anything was am I gonna you know, am I gonna do that? But I believe I made an excellent choice. Yeah, same. Yep.

SPEAKER_01 30:38

Well, and and to probably sum this up, it is about the heavy shit. Right. Where are they gonna be when everything goes wrong? Bill Murray went viral like 15 years ago. He stumbled into somebody's bachelor party and they filmed it. So he finds out they're having like a guy's weekend, so he gives them this piece of advice, and I think it's relevant, and it translates into other things. But he goes, instead of having a wedding, take that money, fly around the world with this person, see how they travel, see how they deal with airplane delays, see how they see how they deal with language barriers in different countries, and you know, having to deal with all this other shit. And when you get back, if you still want to marry that person, marry them on the spot. Because he's like, that's basically what life is. It's airplane delays and flights getting canceled and trying to make your trip and making the most out of bad situations and trying not to get robbed and protecting them and sticking together. And um, I think it was Conan O'Brien. His test was if you if you really want the ultimate test of whether or not you should marry a woman, give her really slow Wi-Fi and see how she reacts.

SPEAKER_00 32:14

People go crazy over there. Wi-Fi, man. Well, the world has changed.

SPEAKER_01 32:18

Right? But it it it's a it's a funny thing because how are you gonna act when you lose your job? How are you gonna be when you don't have enough money to make ends meet or buy food or pay your bills? Is it gonna be something where you come together and you're better for it? Or are you gonna be two Rams meeting on a fucking cliff head on? Right.

SPEAKER_00 32:45

Or where you need to downgrade to regroup. Like, hey, we gotta, we gotta, we gotta get someplace smaller so we can so we can tighten up financially, or we gotta, we might gotta take uh take one of these cars back. We might gonna have one car for a while.

SPEAKER_01 33:02

Well, in building a business from nothing. Yeah, I mean, I remember my car got repossessed. Genevieve handled it pretty well, actually. I woke up to go drive to the manufacturing plant, and we were living in Epping Forest, and I, you know, could see the driveway. I look out the window and my car's gone. And I'm like, hey, it's early. I'm like, Did you move my car? She goes, nah. I'm like, are you sure you didn't move the car? She's like, no. I'm like, well, it's not there. She's like, well, we haven't paid bills in a couple months. I'm like, I told you to pay the car. She's like, yeah, we didn't have any money to do that. And I'm like, that means that shit's repossessed. She was like, fuck, take my car. I'll figure it out today. That was the response. So I got in her car, fucking drove to the manufacturing plant. She figured out who repoed it. We went and found some money to get it out. And it was embarrassing. Yeah. And we laughed it off together. But I mean, like, talk about a moment of being low. And that's the response. You take mine, I'll figure it out. Right. It's like, damn.

SPEAKER_00 34:25

That's how I guess that that's how you roll. That's how you gotta roll. But nobody rolls like that. In my video, in my video, my marriage video, my uh one of my uncles said, sometimes it's 30-70, sometimes it's 40-60. Sometimes it might be 80. 800 zero. Yeah, or 80-20. Yep. He said, that's how it is. That's how it's gonna be. And that's it's never 50-50. Yeah, and he had gotten, he had gotten divorced from his wife. He said, man, I was young. He said, I was out here, I was, I was ripping, I was running, I was doing my thing. He said, but they remarried again. They got back together. No. And they got married again. Yeah, so so and he was like, he said, man, she was the one for me. He said, he she stood by me when I when I did all that. I know I messed up. He said, man, but I'm so thankful that she took me back. And but I, you know, that's that's just how it was. So I got a lot of wisdom in that video, man. I might have to put that online somewhere for people, you know, just to take a deep dive into that wisdom. Yes, yes. But yeah, man, so I I just I just thought it was, you know, the importance of just picking the right spouse of someone that will support you on your journey, support you just in life, and vice versa. You support them, you know, someone you want to just see happy, see smile. Yeah. And I think that's the thing, and just accomplish stuff in life. Whatever it is you want to accomplish, could be big stuff, could be small stuff. But hey, if you want to roll, baby, I'm gonna grab.

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Well, this is the Greg Vetter podcast with Maurice Gogo Mo Taylor giving unbelievable amounts of wisdom about marriage. I mean, it's the least we can do for people. That's the least we can do.

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And that's, you know, just my own personal perspective. It's great perspective.

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Thank you. Yeah. All right, thank you. Next time, peace.