NextGen on Elevate Springfield with Ellie Ferriell: 10X Obsession

Summary

In this episode, Ellie and Robert discuss the 10X mindset, emphasizing the importance of obsession in achieving goals. They explore the concept of 'starving the doubt' by surrounding oneself with positivity and supportive individuals. The conversation delves into the duality of obsession, highlighting how it can be both positive and negative depending on its focus. They conclude with reflections on the impact of obsession on personal growth and the importance of maintaining balance in life.

Takeaways

• The 10X mindset encourages setting massive goals and taking action.
• Obsession can drive success when focused on positive outcomes.
• Surrounding yourself with supportive people is crucial to overcoming doubt.
• Filler words can detract from effective communication.
• It's important to recognize and manage negative influences in your life.
• Obsession should not consume all aspects of life; balance is key.
• Criticism should be weighed against the source's credibility.
• Positive obsessions can lead to personal growth and fulfillment.
• Being aware of one's speech can improve communication skills.
• The conversation emphasizes the importance of family support in personal development.

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Transcript

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Alright, let's go, y'all. Time to 10X.

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Hey everyone, welcome to the next gen on Elevate Springfield. I'm Ellie and I'm here with my dad Robert.

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SPEAKER_02 1:47

Hello and welcome back to another episode of Nextogen on Elevate Springfield. I'm Ellie and I'm here with my dad.

SPEAKER_06 1:52

Why, hello.

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Hey.

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Gorgeous out today. Sun shining through these big, beautiful windows in downtown Springfield. Love it.

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And today we're in our matching t-shirts. But if you're just listening, it's a Disney shirt and it's got our three favorite villains on it.

SPEAKER_06 2:10

Well, and you know, I was just thinking about this as we were going on air here that this is the first time in a long time that I haven't been in a black shirt on Elevate Springfield.

SPEAKER_02 2:21

So my You're gonna have one to watch the clips and the visual version of this podcast.

SPEAKER_06 2:27

My Elevate Springfield podcast uniform is typically a black shirt in the 10X hat, normally. And uh you're probably the only one that would get me to change that uniform. But I'm sporting the old what does it say? Made for mayhem shirt. It's got all the three of the villains on it.

SPEAKER_02 2:44

So I feel very special. And you usually don't wear blue jeans either.

SPEAKER_06 2:48

I do not. Yeah.

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I like it.

SPEAKER_06 2:50

I would do it for you. That's right. That's right. And one of the villains on this shirt is from one of the most underrated movies in Disney history, probably.

SPEAKER_02 3:00

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06 3:01

And I'm talking about Hades on there, right?

SPEAKER_02 3:03

From Hercules.

SPEAKER_06 3:05

Yeah. It's a good good movie. Anyone out there that's a Disney fan or not a Disney fan, you want an underrated tip, hey, head out and watch Hercules.

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Head out onto your couch in the living room.

SPEAKER_06 3:18

Head out to the couch, put on Disney Plus and watch you some Hercules. And before you know it, everybody's gonna be singing along to go the distance. Right?

SPEAKER_02 3:28

Of course.

SPEAKER_06 3:29

That happens in our house sometimes, right? So I assume it happens in everybody's house.

SPEAKER_02 3:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 3:33

Or maybe we're just a little off our rocker when it comes to the songs, maybe.

SPEAKER_02 3:37

No, no, the playlist is like peaks.

SPEAKER_06 3:39

It is. It is. It's pretty good.

SPEAKER_02 3:40

It's very good.

SPEAKER_06 3:41

All right. So what do we got going on today?

SPEAKER_02 3:45

Well, today we're gonna be talking about some of the 10x stuff because you are obviously a big I'm 10x Springfield here now. Yeah, yeah. I don't I don't want to say like fan, but I I mean you are. You're you're a big fan of the 10x um strategies, yes, mindset strategies, the mindset. You're a 10x coach, so obviously you're very ingrained in all the 10x stuff. And I I have a couple thoughts on it, but so I guess we're gonna unpack that a little today. But we have a little twist. Last week we were saying a lot of filler words, and we were like, okay, next week, no filler words. Let's do a challenge with no filler words. And we were saying that we need to see now I'm trying not to say any. We need to get some type of noise maker to call out the other person for when they say filler words. So what is yours, Dad? Okay, that is his for when I say a filler word, which we will get to what the filler words are in just a minute. Now this is mine.

SPEAKER_06 4:46

Gonna kazoo it on me.

SPEAKER_02 4:48

Yes. Here is your headphone warning right now. Your headphone warning is right now, just so you know.

SPEAKER_06 4:52

Yeah, because this isn't gonna be soft.

SPEAKER_02 4:53

I mean, it's or this. So there's your warning right there.

SPEAKER_06 4:58

Um we thought it'd be fun because I mean we just had this had this conversation. If you've never done a podcast, you've never been a guest on a podcast, you've never actually listened to a recording pre-editing. Everybody has their filler words that they say. Some of them are very, very common, like like and you know, and write, or don't you think, or or you know what I mean.

SPEAKER_04 5:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 5:27

It's not they're not bad, but people tend to use them as filler words as they're going from from thought to thought.

SPEAKER_02 5:34

So we transition words. Yeah, to yeah, use them as transition words when they're probably not really transition words, but yeah, they kind of but they use them as a it's not inherently bad, but especially if you're talking for like a certain length of time, it gets when you start hearing it over and over. Once you notice it and then you hear it over and over, it can get kind of tiring. And it's just it's good to exercise and stretch your vocabulary anyway.

SPEAKER_06 5:59

And people, you know, a lot of people say um or ah and things like that in between. So we thought it would be fun to see if we can get through an episode without any filler words, and we're gonna try to hold each other to that. So there might be a couple extra pauses as we're thinking about our next our next words. So trained yourself to get out of the fill filler words. No. I feel like we won't cut out all the pauses, right?

SPEAKER_02 6:24

Because that's the point of the episode, right? We're not gonna cut out all the pauses.

SPEAKER_06 6:27

We're not gonna cut out all the pauses. So I feel like I've done enough episodes where even though I've done over 200 episodes of Elevate Springfield now, I still have some filler words that I say occasionally. I sometimes say you know. I feel like I've gotten bet pretty good at deleting my filler words out of my vocabulary, but I still, even after so many episodes, still say them sometime. You feel like you're gonna be able to knock out a full, I don't know, maybe 20 minutes without any filler words.

SPEAKER_02 6:58

But I have my golden kazoo right here for for when you mess up. Except for what are we considering your filler words? I mean, any of the ones I use would be filler words for you as well. I'll live. Any of my filler words.

SPEAKER_06 7:12

Define those. It could be, you know. I sometimes say, uh no doubt about it. That could be that could be considered a filler if I say it too many times.

SPEAKER_02 7:23

Maybe I'll I'll give you like a two limit. And if you say it more than twice, then I'll buzz you.

unknown 7:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 7:29

And in mine, I've got an actual button on order. So next time we do this, I'm gonna have the big smash button to where I get you. But today I'm using the the cell phone button. So it's gonna be a little something. Just remember.

SPEAKER_02 7:45

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 7:46

And we're gonna add one wrinkle to that too. If the other person does not feel that it was a filler word, feels like it was a legitimate transition word, they can buzz back and state their case on why they think that was not a filler word.

SPEAKER_02 8:01

Or any other type, because you just said like, but you said if you feel like.

SPEAKER_06 8:05

Yeah, so that was not a filler word. Yeah. Even though like is used as a filler word a lot, it was not in that particular case.

SPEAKER_02 8:11

Yes. Or if I'm contrasting something you say and I say but, that's not considered a filler word because I'm contrasting what you just said by disagreeing.

SPEAKER_06 8:19

That is correct.

SPEAKER_02 8:20

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 8:21

Did you feel a filler word coming?

SPEAKER_02 8:23

I was about to say but again, then I was like, well, I guess I'd I guess that'd be a contrast. I don't know. Um, how would you like to start off with our 10x Well, what's the book you have?

SPEAKER_06 8:32

10X TED Talk. Yeah, what's the book you have there?

SPEAKER_02 8:35

I got the be the be obsessed or be average book, which is your favorite.

SPEAKER_06 8:40

Yeah, it's my favorite by GC, Grant Cardone. He's got a number of books out there, and he was, is the founder of the 10x movement. So he has the 10x rule, he has be obsessed or be average, he has if you're not first, you're last, sell or be sold, millionaire's handbook, the wealth creation formula, all these different books that he has. But be obsessed or be average is probably my favorite because it really kind of I was waiting for it. I was waiting for it because I heard it come out of my mouth right when I said it.

SPEAKER_02 9:12

If you guys, if if you post a clip of me, I'm probably just gonna be staring at you like really intently the entire time. Because now we have two things to think about, because usually we're just thinking about what we're gonna say. Especially because our filler words are so common to the point where you don't notice it.

SPEAKER_06 9:33

But like I was saying, I don't think that go ahead. I'll let you do it, but I'm gonna come right back at you because I think that was a legitimate contrasting transition.

SPEAKER_03 9:42

Yeah, I agree. I agree.

SPEAKER_06 9:44

So be obsessed or be average really embodies the obsession part of 10x. Because when we're talking about the 10x mindset, it's talking about having goals and targets so big. But the only way you can reach those giant goals and targets or even get anywhere close if is if you have the obsession for 10x massive action and the obsession for what you're doing. Because if you're not really obsessed with what you're doing, if you're not really passionate about what you're doing, you're gonna get up every morning and not really care and you're not gonna go after those big massive targets. So that's why I like be obsessed or be average.

SPEAKER_02 10:23

Yeah, and it's gonna feel like a chore.

SPEAKER_06 10:26

Yeah. So one of the topics out of there, you can grab one or I'll throw one out for you if you want to pull up the table of contents on that book. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 10:34

Because you're gonna know more about these contents than I will.

SPEAKER_06 10:38

So I could point out one to you, and then you could be like, Well, yeah, maybe what we can do is since you haven't actually read that book, I've read it a number of times. Maybe we can talk about we can throw out a topic and then you can tell me what you think that means.

SPEAKER_02 10:53

Ah, okay. You can give me some.

SPEAKER_06 10:55

We can go into context on what that is.

SPEAKER_02 10:57

So see, I was about to fill the silence right there, and I was like, I feel like you're gonna buzz me, so I'm not.

SPEAKER_06 11:04

I've got one for you if you want me to start.

SPEAKER_02 11:05

Okay. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_06 11:07

Starve the doubt.

SPEAKER_02 11:09

Ah, I saw that one. Yes.

SPEAKER_06 11:10

Starve the doubt. What do you think starve the doubt means? And how could you use that in your in your life or in a teenager's life?

SPEAKER_02 11:18

I think it means not giving it energy. That's what I took from it. I take it as starving your doubt means to not give it. What is that?

SPEAKER_06 11:30

Somebody just drove down the road with a massive stereo system, or at least a massive That was music? Yeah. A massive subwoofer in their car. That's what that was. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:40

Oh, it felt like someone was like drilling into the side of the No, the bass was so heavy and so deep on that.

SPEAKER_06 11:45

That's what you were hearing there. Not sure if that came through on the mics, but that was very, very loud out on the streets of 6th Street.

SPEAKER_02 11:52

I just said a filler word and you didn't catch me.

SPEAKER_06 11:56

I wasn't paying attention, I guess. Exactly. That's too late. Yeah, too late.

SPEAKER_02 12:00

You gotta catch it when you hear it. So you need to be paying attention to what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_06 12:04

Right. So one to you one zero right now. Are we keeping score? I don't know if we are.

SPEAKER_02 12:08

I think the commenters should keep score and then let us know who won.

SPEAKER_06 12:11

You buzzed me legitimately once earlier and I just missed your buzzing. So Okay. Go ahead. Starve the doubt.

SPEAKER_02 12:16

Okay. Yeah, I think that starving the doubt just means that you're not giving it energy, you're not giving it thought, you're just leaving it to its own devices, and then you're not giving it anything to grow it, I guess.

SPEAKER_06 12:29

Okay. What do you think it means about the people around you?

SPEAKER_02 12:33

What does it say about the people around you?

unknown 12:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 12:35

When when you're when we're talking about starve the doubt, how could that play out with the people you're surrounding yourself with?

SPEAKER_02 12:44

As in if the people you're surrounded with are producing doubt?

SPEAKER_06 12:49

Could be. Or they might not necessarily have doubt, but they might have so much negativity toward what you're doing, or so much not necessarily hatred, but could be a hater or a naysayer on what you are doing, which create could create some doubt in your mind on what you're doing if you're not careful. So if you have so many people around you that are like, yeah, you can't do that. You really think, you really think you're gonna build a business that big? You really think you're gonna be able to do that? You really think you're gonna be able to be successful in this realm? You really think you should quit your job and do that? What's that gonna do to your mind?

SPEAKER_02 13:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 13:27

But what what do you think that would do to your doubt if you're not careful? Do you think that could cause you to doubt yourself?

SPEAKER_02 13:36

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_06 13:37

If you're especially if they're people that are close to you?

SPEAKER_02 13:39

Yes, definitely. Especially if it's somebody who you value your their opinion, right? And I think that also brings up another interesting topic of con of conversation because I have seen people come up with like a new quote recently.

SPEAKER_06 13:57

Um good catch there, by the way. I saw a filler word about to come out and you stopped yourself.

SPEAKER_02 14:02

Are you sure? Because I just said two and you didn't catch me. What? What'd you say? I said like and um in the same sentence. I'm just gonna be catching myself this whole time.

SPEAKER_06 14:14

Um I'm so ding ding. You know, I guess I am so You're so bad at this. I'm so used to hearing people's filler words that it doesn't even register anymore. It does not register with me until I edit. So I'm gonna have to get better at this. Go ahead. I'm gonna catch you on your next one.

SPEAKER_02 14:36

The quote is don't take criticism from somebody that you wouldn't take advice from, which is 100% valid as well. However, I think that gets me thinking too, because just because you take advice from somebody and you value your their opinion doesn't mean that you should be giving like so much thought into what they say either. What did I say?

SPEAKER_06 15:07

Like so much thought. Giving like so much thought.

SPEAKER_02 15:11

Oh, okay, you got me.

SPEAKER_06 15:13

Proceed.

SPEAKER_02 15:15

I don't know. I think it's I think that's another one of mine actually.

unknown 15:18

Which one?

SPEAKER_02 15:19

I don't know.

SPEAKER_06 15:20

It is, it is. I I didn't think about that when we were talking about your filler words, but that is one. That is definitely one.

SPEAKER_02 15:28

I think that it's confusing for me because yes, if you value someone's opinion, you should 100% give thought to what they say, obviously, because your brain will just do that if you think really highly of someone. But also I've had like I should stop pausing if you're not gonna catch it if I don't pause.

SPEAKER_06 15:55

I was gonna let you pass on it, but then like, nope, nope, you wouldn't let me pass. I know it.

SPEAKER_02 16:01

I know now I'm focusing too much on what I'm saying instead of what you're saying, so now I can't catch you.

SPEAKER_06 16:05

Uh-huh. It's difficult. We got two things going in our brains right now where we're having to really focus on two sides of that.

SPEAKER_02 16:12

So do you understand what I'm saying though? It's a difficult thing to like. It's a difficult thing to mmm.

SPEAKER_06 16:25

New wrinkle, pause too long.

SPEAKER_02 16:27

No no no no no no no no no no no no no. You said we could pause. Do you understand where I'm coming from though?

SPEAKER_06 16:32

I do. I do.

SPEAKER_02 16:34

It's it's a weird thing when you value someone's opinion and you think of them very highly as a person. However, you still have to combat that with your own thoughts as well. Even if you think of them very highly and value them a lot. That doesn't mean they're right all the time, I guess is what I'm trying to say, is that that doesn't mean that they are correct like 99% of the time.

SPEAKER_06 16:59

Well, let's move to the let's move to the opposite side of starve the doubt. Right. Part of that is you just missed when I said one. I said starve the doubt, right? So that's a fill, that's a filler word. It had no it made no difference on the would have been fine without it. So it was a filler word.

SPEAKER_03 17:22

But starve the doubt, essentially You need to practice that kazoo a little bit before we uh before we move on.

SPEAKER_06 17:34

There you go.

SPEAKER_02 17:35

There we go.

SPEAKER_06 17:36

Okay. Too late, but okay.

SPEAKER_02 17:38

You said K. Does that count? I said. Are you gonna buzz me back? Well, you said K, then okay. You said K.

SPEAKER_06 17:44

I'm not sure what I said, so I guess I can't. So starve the doubt. Yes, in is essence, in essence, make sure that the people around you are really supportive of what you're doing, or if they're not, then they need to be out of that inner circle. So starve that doubt. Know that you can get to where you want to go, but then feed the beast on the other side of that. Feed the beast of your obsession. Did you see that in there? Yeah. Kind of a weird, kind of weird turn of phrase if you don't do the 10x mindset or if you never read any of the books, but feed the beast is feed into your obsessions as long as they are the correct obsessions. Of course, you don't want to feed into an obsession of gambling, losing a bunch of money. You don't want to feed into obs. Yes. You don't want to feed into an obsession of drugs or spending way more money that than you make. There are certain obsessions that are bad for you and could cause negative consequences for your life. But if they're good obsessions, I know you're about to buzz me on that, but I was thinking of it.

SPEAKER_02 18:55

I was thinking of it.

SPEAKER_06 18:57

With good obsessions, good obsessions could be taking care of your body, could be taking care of your business, could be being there for your family, all those things. So feed those good obsessions and starve the doubt and get those bad obsessions out of there. So I think what typically people would think about when it comes to obsessions, a lot of times there's a negative connotation on both sides. If I were to just say you're obsessed, a lot of times people just take that negatively right off the bat, even though I might be saying, hey, I'm really obsessed with being a great dad. Can that be a bad thing? No. No. But when you say obsessed, people typically see a negative connotation with that.

SPEAKER_02 19:47

Yeah, that is interesting. That is another interesting thing to bring up as well, because I definitely, I definitely feel that that the word obsession just has this negative like aura to it.

SPEAKER_06 20:03

I let you have that one.

SPEAKER_02 20:05

It has this negative aura to it. See, I'm gonna try and repeat myself to fix it if I say one.

SPEAKER_03 20:17

Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

SPEAKER_06 20:19

I just hadn't buzzed it in the sound like a wounded duck.

SPEAKER_02 20:27

Yeah, pretty much. I haven't yes, we were having an interesting conversation, you and me, yesterday about Christianity and the Bible and what the Bible tells us to do, things like that. And we were speaking things like that.

SPEAKER_04 20:43

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 20:46

We were talking about the word judge, because we were talking about the word judge, and we were referring to the fact that I just want my finger right next to the button.

SPEAKER_06 21:00

I'm just ready for you. I'm really thinking about it now.

SPEAKER_02 21:03

That the word judge has a negative connotation to it, no matter how you say it, where you say it, why you say it, it usually always has a negative meaning. And I think that is an interesting thing to bring up about the word obsession as well. Because I never really see the word obsession used in a positive light. In a positive light. Yes, exactly. I always and firsthand, I've seen it be used in a negative way.

SPEAKER_06 21:33

Like You're doing pretty good, even though I buzzed you a handful of times now. You're still doing pretty good.

SPEAKER_02 21:40

Hey, at least you don't have to edit out all this stuff at this point.

SPEAKER_06 21:43

It's gonna be a completely raw power. Yeah, exactly. That's the point of it today, I guess.

SPEAKER_02 21:48

Exactly. To be fair, with that one, I was going to say quotation mark, so don't buzz me on this. Like when I was a kid. So that would be a four. example type thing.

SPEAKER_06 22:01

Correct. If you would have, if you would have continued on down that road, yes. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:06

I feel like you still would have buzzed me though.

SPEAKER_06 22:08

Probably would have just been fun.

SPEAKER_02 22:10

For example, when I was younger, I would I was really into a certain group. If you know me, you know what group I'm referring to. And I and I was definitely obsessed with them 100%. And people would tell me that all the time. They'd be like, whoa, you're obsessed with them. And I'd always take it super offensively. And to be fair, I mean they weren't saying it in a positive light either. They were they were yeah it was probably more they were like can you please stop talking about that you're obsessed with you're obsessed type thing. And that always just like grind my gears type thing.

SPEAKER_03 22:55

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 22:57

That always grinded my gears when I was a kid. I completely understand it now. I was kind of crazy. Kind of?

SPEAKER_06 23:05

No, I'll take that one back.

SPEAKER_02 23:10

I can't get it.

SPEAKER_06 23:12

I retract my buzzer I retract my buzzer on that one. That is a incorrect isn't it or an adjective. I don't know. Am I an English teacher here or something?

SPEAKER_02 23:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 23:25

I haven't tried to figure out what an adverb adject What was I saying? I don't know. I was just too busy buzzing you. Well you're talking about obsession your what was considered a negative obsession for a group that you were following when you were younger.

SPEAKER_02 23:41

It was definitely considered a negative obsession. And I completely understand that. I was I was kind of crazy.

SPEAKER_06 23:49

Do you feel like it's a filler word looking back on yes it was. Yeah. So looking back on it you feel like it was a negative obsession or positive No, I don't think it was a negative obsession.

SPEAKER_02 23:59

I mean I was young so you're gonna be cringe when you're younger. And that's why that's why I look back on it negatively because I was like oh my gosh I'm so I'm so cringy. Why was I acting like that? But it wasn't a negative thing on myself or anybody else. I mean it was kind of on the other people because I was just being obnoxious.

SPEAKER_06 24:21

But right but it wasn't something that was really negatively impacting your life. It wasn't bringing you down a road that you shouldn't have gone down. It was just something you really, really enjoyed for a while.

SPEAKER_01 24:35

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 24:36

And it had no real negative impact on you other than maybe you spent a little too much money on some of the memorabilia. So over the years.

SPEAKER_02 24:46

I don't think that obsession should be negative all the time and I don't think that hold on I'm cooking up something here.

SPEAKER_06 24:56

Cook it up I'm cooking I'm cook Chef Elliott here. I'm hungry you're always hungry when you're on the podcast that was no filler word what's up I dropped my kazoo. Yeah you're not going to need it because I don't do filler words I dropped my kazoo.

SPEAKER_02 25:10

Yes I will need it.

SPEAKER_06 25:11

No probably not the rest of the episode I'm gonna lock it in.

unknown 25:15

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 25:16

No filler words. If I say any more the remainder of the podcast I buy whatever dinner you want after we leave I thought that was already the plan that was already the plan. It was going to be my choice for what we bought before even though I wasn't going to eat it. And then if you can catch me up on a filler word then you win and get to choose whichever restaurant you would like as long as I approve.

SPEAKER_02 25:46

Thing bro.

SPEAKER_06 25:46

So exactly the same thing just phrased in a different manner.

SPEAKER_02 25:49

Thing exactly as I was saying I'm gonna start using that instead of um that doesn't count because I was giving an example.

SPEAKER_06 25:59

Correct.

SPEAKER_02 25:59

I will let that one slide I don't think the word obsession should be used in a negative light all the time. However I think we need to look up the textbook definition of obsession because when you think of obsession your brain goes to all consuming I think that's the word I'd use people think of all consuming. Now if that is the by the book definition would you like me to give that to you right now I just of the word obsession yes then okay I un obviously understand that's what the word means. However if it's not then we can have more of a talk about that.

SPEAKER_06 26:41

Go ahead. So just the simple Google definition when it pulls it up through Gemini an obsession is a persistent often unhealthy and uncontrollable preoccupation with a specific idea desire or person that dominates an individual's thoughts it represents a fixation that can cause anxiety distress and disrupt daily life. Ouch wow so it's super negative on the definition here it says some of the synonyms for obsession are fixation compulsion fascination passion which is not a bad thing mania preoccupation that's kind of a weird one another synonym is a be in one's bonnet I mean I've heard that saying before but that's not typically that's saying so the at least the Gemini obsession here is leaning toward the negative and it's already in there.

SPEAKER_02 27:41

It ain't leaning it's in there.

SPEAKER_06 27:42

It's there yes so but you mentioned earlier that you've never really heard obsession put out there in a positive light.

SPEAKER_02 27:51

Unless it's the person saying that being like oh my gosh I'm so obsessed with them that sort of thing. I think that is pretty common of people saying that oh my gosh I'm so obsessed I love them. I'm so obsessed I'm so obsessed with this thing.

SPEAKER_06 28:06

Right. Well to add to that I have never really heard it in a really positive light until I got into 10X.

SPEAKER_02 28:14

I suppose reaction I think reaction from someone else to someone else about something has never been positive.

SPEAKER_04 28:24

Right.

SPEAKER_02 28:25

Like I wouldn't look at you being like you're obsessed and mean that in a good way.

SPEAKER_06 28:31

Mm-hmm so as I said in 10x obsession is a good thing as long as it's for the right things and I never heard it that way before this, but it really resonated with me. You could say that I'm obsessed with this podcast. I really enjoy doing it. I really love having folks in I really love our time here that we have for our Tuesday episode. I really love the impact that we can make through this which drives me to an obsessive state with it. That's why I put out an episode every single day now. When I started I just did one day a week so I don't think that that's a negative obsession and I don't think it could really be construed as a negative obsession anyway. In any way.

SPEAKER_02 29:25

However I do have something to add to this though because your point is that as long as it is something that is healthy slash good then it can't I'm not saying you said that it can't be negative but well that's the the general thing that as long as it's for something good it's not bad.

SPEAKER_06 29:50

Right.

SPEAKER_02 29:51

However if even if it's a really good obsession that's what I was going to say can I jump in with this real quick you can and then I'll say my piece. Okay. So I saw a quote in one of the books I was reading actually it was so we all know how books have dedications this was after the dedication so it had it had its own page so it was kind of just another dedication page with this quote on it. And kind of?

SPEAKER_06 30:17

Yeah really yeah I was a couple seconds late on it because I was trying I was fumbling with my phone but yeah it was kind of go ahead. And it was borderline the way you said it was borderline.

SPEAKER_02 30:28

Yeah the you would have the phrase would have been fine without it yeah but it wasn't an absolutely just superfluous kind of um you know that sort of thing.

SPEAKER_06 30:40

Right. Because that's a definite one a lot of people do that. Well you know kind of you know that's super filler word but sometimes you can dump kind of in there and it's it's still a filler word but it's okay. Makes sense.

SPEAKER_02 30:55

Yeah. The quote was anything in excess is a poison and I completely agree with that. So as even though it's a quote unquote good obsession if you are obsessed with something that is inherently a good thing you it can still be unhealthy no matter how far like you can you can go super far with it and it can still be unhealthy even if you're obsessed with a good thing. You it can still be unhealthy anyway.

SPEAKER_06 31:27

So I was gonna say something similar I wouldn't necessarily say unhealthy, but I would say that if the obsession completely consumes you to the point where say I just told you a minute ago that I'm obs you could say I'm obsessed with this podcast, right? Because of the how the amount of stuff I do with it. If that obsession was causing me to not be a good dad or fall or fall off on some of the other responsibilities that I have it takes away from other things. Yeah if it takes away from other things then that could be a negative outcome to that. But there's two two sides to that. That could mean the obsession here is more important of course not more important than the family but could be more important than other responsibilities and you may have to carve out other responsibilities that you have and get them off your list. Yeah either hire somebody else to do them or optional responsibilities like yes optional responsibilities. So that if you go down that road it could but if you're hitting that point and you're truly obsessed a lot of times what you need to do is either if it's in a business sense you need to hire more people to be able to take some of that off your plate or if it's in a personal sense figure out which ones actually align with your obsessions which ones actually align with your passions and purpose and get rid of the ones that don't.

SPEAKER_02 32:57

Mm-hmm I do think it's interesting how it said that an obsession is uncontrollable what'd I say?

SPEAKER_06 33:05

You know when you say you know uncontrollable oh man you've doing you've done really good though. I've only buzzed you probably what five times? Yeah five five to eight times that's really not bad.

SPEAKER_01 33:19

We've six or seven times.

SPEAKER_06 33:20

We've been recording for like 30 minutes. I put that one in there on purpose I tried to throw you a bone there and it took you forever I I put it in there on purpose for you.

SPEAKER_02 33:33

And it was like by the way if any of you didn't touch that do you think that for an obsession to be an obsession because this is a by the book definition of the word do you think that it has to be uncontrollable to be an obsession?

SPEAKER_06 33:49

No. I don't I don't have to be uncontrollable. I don't get that so throughout my life everybody knows that's listened to the show for a while knows that I'm super into health and wellness I'm very nutrition conscious very workout conscious there have been times in my life that I was and I'm very disciplined most of the time it's not like I get you know that one I didn't mean to say and I but I caught it right when I said it and I was going to give you the opening would you have caught that one?

SPEAKER_02 34:27

I don't know.

SPEAKER_06 34:27

I don't think so I think I could have just kept on going but I let you have that one.

SPEAKER_02 34:31

So to be fair I let you have a lot of mine too because I'd stop and I'd be late that's true.

SPEAKER_06 34:36

That's true. So with all the health and wellness stuff whether it's working out or nutrition there are times when I am very very very disciplined and there's other times where I might let it slide just a little bit. I'm never lazy or slacked off but there's times where I'm more disciplined than others if I'm ri depending on what my targets are. For instance, if I'm wanting to maybe drop a little bit of weight or if I'm wanting to gain a little bit of muscle my nutrition's going to be a little bit different.

SPEAKER_02 35:10

However what was it? Maybe if I'm wanting to maybe drop a little bit of weight because you could have just said No I'll give you that yeah it would have been fine if I wanted to drop a little bit of weight and you paused it would have been fine as much after that and before it you see it would have been fine without the maybe you are correct. Yeah nice I pay more attention when I got the kazoo to my lips.

SPEAKER_06 35:36

However the reason I brought that up is I have been super obsessed with that but at no time did that obsession affect other things in my life. There are times when people go really far down that rabbit hole with health and wellness that it does affect other parts of their life because they neglect some of the other things because they're wanting to work out so much.

SPEAKER_02 36:02

Yeah. So yeah I don't think I agree with the textbook definition of the word obsessed especially because especially people wouldn't be using it as oh I'm so obsessed with this thing if it if it was that much of a negative thing to it all the time if it wasn't if it couldn't be used in any other way.

SPEAKER_06 36:25

Let me see the book real quick.

SPEAKER_03 36:26

I'm pretty sure E C himself puts it in here kazoo break ooh guess the intro's just a real quick that's pretty good by the way thanks real quick from Be Obsessed or be average from GC himself there's two couple of paragraphs I'll read here and how he talks about obsession.

SPEAKER_06 37:11

So when you become unapologetically obsessed like he is you'll be at your very best hyperfocused, persistent beyond understanding creative to the point of appearing magical and with an insatiable determination to win that not only attracts great talent, but also brings out the best in others. This level of obsession doesn't mean you are selfish and self-centered it means you're finally operating at the levels you were always meant to and that you can pull others around you up to their full potential and possibilities. The obsessed are the industry builders, disruptors, titans, game changers, and living legends others admire and wish to emulate the obsessed don't just make the world go around they make the world worth living in and he says imagine if every person on earth threw themselves fully and completely into their positive obsessions without reservation, regret, or apology overnight the world would be a different and better place with everyone so focused on their own production and creating their own success, there'd be no time for war, drugs, or other wasteful, unnecessary destruction.

SPEAKER_02 38:34

We'd all hit levels of success previously thought impossible and inspire one another to do more and be more manybody was obsessed maybe was obsessed with their own stuff with their own positive it would have been great if we had a president who ran on a no war policy and then didn't get us into war. But I digress but not really though.

SPEAKER_06 39:02

Anyways good conversation on obsession today.

SPEAKER_02 39:06

I'm excited for the actual button next time are you gonna read that book?

SPEAKER_06 39:09

I think you should maybe be a good one I think you'd like it.

SPEAKER_02 39:12

I skimmed through it and it seems to have a pretty good writing style in terms of how easy it is to consume.

SPEAKER_06 39:21

Well you ready to go get some of that dinner?

SPEAKER_02 39:22

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 39:24

Where are you going? Hey I caught you I get to choose my dinner I know I was gonna see if you realize that because I the one I put in on purpose to see if you'd catch me but the second one I did not that was a complete biff by me so where you wanna go I don't know but I'll let you guys know next week where I ended up going because I know you're very very interested.

SPEAKER_03 39:45

I'm sure they are yeah did you ever guess the intro I was doing no the well that we've lost about a thousand listeners off the I think we should probably get going but that was the Disney intro song.

SPEAKER_06 40:13

No it was the MGM intro song not the Disney one I meant I don't exactly know what it's called I all I know is the bumblebee I didn't mean I didn't mean Disney I meant it's one of the movies it's one of the production studios at the beginning of all their movies. Exactly yeah whatever it is I don't know if it's MGM or what it's that one with like the gold or it might be Paramount. I don't know whatever let's go to dinner. Exactly I agree well thank you for joining us on another episode of Next Gen and we'll see you next time looking for personalized insurance with hometown care, David Hilst, American Family Insurance agent is here to help you protect what matters most your family, your home and your dreams. Whether it's auto, home, life, business, David and his team are proud to serve the Springfield community with trusted advice and reliable coverage. Local service, real relationships, peace of mind. Call today or stop by their office. They can build your dream protection plan together.

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