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Your Sexual Energy Powers Everything In Your Life | Ep14
We explore the transformative power of female sexual pleasure as a wellspring of vitality rather than a mere luxury. Drawing from the book "The Multi-Orgasmic Woman" by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams, we uncover how ancient Taoist sexual practices combined with modern medical understanding can unlock profound sexual fulfillment and overall well-being.
• Taoist perspective on sexual energy (jing qi) as the source of overall vitality and life force
• How "the mind moves and the Qi follows" directs energy to where you focus attention
• Common roadblocks to pleasure including physical conditions, medications, hormonal influences, and emotional barriers
• The importance of self-nurturing to replenish energy that women often deplete through constant giving
• Healing sounds practice to transform stagnant emotional energy in different organs
• Understanding female sexual anatomy and the PC muscle as the "control panel" for pleasure
• Techniques for whole-body and multiple orgasms through the microcosmic orbit and orgasmic upward draw
• Practices for maintaining sexual vitality throughout life including breast massage, ovarian breathing, and jade egg
• The "use it or lose it" phenomenon where regular sexual activity increases sex hormone production
What one small, gentle step can you take this week to nurture your erotic life? Your body holds a miraculous capacity for sensual joy—a deeper wellspring than you might have ever imagined.
Welcome curious minds to the Deep Dive.
Speaker 2:Great to be here.
Speaker 1:Today we're embarking on a journey into a topic that's well profoundly personal, often misunderstood and honestly holds incredible untapped power within each of us. We're talking about the wellspring of a woman's vitality her sexual pleasure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's fundamental.
Speaker 1:For too long this aspect of life has been kind of dismissed as a luxury or even for some, maybe a source of shame. But what if we told you it's actually the engine of your overall well-being, your creativity, your joy?
Speaker 2:Indeed, that's precisely the revolutionary perspective we're going to explore today. Our deep dive is anchored in a truly profound resource the Multi-Orgasmic Woman by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams, md. It's so compelling about this book, I think, is its unique synthesis it weaves together these ancient Taoist sexual practices, often called healing love, with cutting edge modern Western medical understanding. It really bridges millennia of wisdom to bring you practical, transformative insights.
Speaker 1:So for you, our listener, what does this actually mean? We're inviting you on a journey, not just to understand pleasure, but to truly embrace your personal passion, to unlock the inherent potential you possess for sexual and personal fulfillment.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:Think about it. We often view sexual energy as just for physical gratification, maybe even a distraction from our busy lives.
Speaker 2:Yeah, compartmentalized.
Speaker 1:But the Taoists completely flip that script. They see it not as an optional luxury, but as the root of your vitality, your creativity, your joy. It's the engine, not just a fun ride.
Speaker 2:That's the core idea.
Speaker 1:Our mission today is to uncover how cultivating this energy can enhance pleasure, unlock deeper orgasms and, crucially, help you identify and overcome some very common roadblocks that might be standing in your way.
Speaker 2:Things that hold people back.
Speaker 1:So what does it mean if we're constantly depleting or ignoring such a fundamental power source?
Speaker 2:Let's unpack that. The Energetic Foundation Understanding Sexual Vitality, Jian Jingji. Okay, let's unpack this foundational idea, because it truly shifts how we view our own bodies and desires, doesn't it?
Speaker 1:It really does the Taoists have this incredible ancient perspective on sexual energy? They don't see it as merely a biological function.
Speaker 2:Right, not just plumbing.
Speaker 1:But as the very source of our overall desire, our drive, our vitality. They believe it's absolutely essential for a healthy and joyful life.
Speaker 2:It's fundamental to their worldview.
Speaker 1:Their core teaching is that by actively cultivating this energy, which they call chi, our life force, our vital energy, we can actually augment our sexual pleasure in profound ways and even deeply heal the body. It's not Almost too good to be true sometimes, but the insights are really compelling.
Speaker 2:It is, and if we connect this to the bigger picture, it's about consciously optimizing your internal resources.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:There's this Taoist saying the mind moves and the Qi follows.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:It's central to understanding this, and what it means is remarkably literal. Wherever your attention is focused, your qi tends to gather and increase.
Speaker 1:So just focusing your mind directs this energy.
Speaker 2:Exactly, and this isn't just some abstract concept. Western science has actually shown fascinating parallels. When you focus your attention on a specific area of your body, it leads to increased nerve and muscle activity.
Speaker 1:Right, you can feel that sometimes.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and there's also a measurable increase in blood and lymphatic flow to that area. Traditional Chinese medicine has always understood these systems as being deeply moved by qi.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 2:So your focused attention literally shifts the flow of this vital energy, empowering the area you're concentrating on. Imagine the implications for where you choose to direct your awareness.
Speaker 1:That's incredible, that the mind-body connection isn't just a metaphor, it's a tangible process we can actually harness. So how do we begin to feel this chi?
Speaker 2:Good question.
Speaker 1:The book introduces something called qigong for the bedroom, which are essentially Taoist sexual practices, a form of qigong or energy cultivation.
Speaker 2:Right specific practices.
Speaker 1:There's a simple, tangible exercise you can try right now actually to get a sense of it Go ahead and briskly rub your palms together for maybe 10-15 seconds until you generate some warmth, some energy.
Speaker 2:Okay, getting them warm.
Speaker 1:Now slowly separate your palms until they're about an inch or two apart. As you do, you might feel a kind of cushion of air between them or a subtle pressure, perhaps some heat, or maybe a gentle tingling sensation.
Speaker 2:I feel a little something yeah.
Speaker 1:That's qi passing between your hands Once you feel that you start to understand. This isn't just theory, it's something you can actually experience.
Speaker 2:And once you become aware of that sensation, you realize how accessible this energy truly is. This cultivation extends to a specific type of qi known as jing qi, which is your sexual energy. Think of jing qi as the raw, potent fuel within you. The ability to expand and consciously move this jing chi is directly linked to increasing your pleasure, intensifying your orgasm and, crucially, providing you with a great deal more energy for your life outside the bedroom.
Speaker 1:So it fuels everything.
Speaker 2:It's a direct route to increasing overall life vitality, whether that means more energy for your work, your hobbies, your relationships. It's not just about what happens between the sheets. It's about fueling your entire existence.
Speaker 1:That's a huge shift from how many of us typically think. In Western societies. We tend to locate our awareness, our sense of self, primarily in our heads right.
Speaker 2:Very much so Head-centric.
Speaker 1:It's all about what we think, what we analyze, what we see and hear. We're very head driven, but Taoist teaching encourages us to shift that awareness and thus arch T from our heads down to our belly.
Speaker 2:Down into the body.
Speaker 1:This concept recognizes what they call the abdominal brain.
Speaker 2:The abdominal brain. Yeah, think about those moments when you feel a gut wrenching decision or maybe a burst of butterflies in the stomach, kind of excitement.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, definitely.
Speaker 2:We say love resides in the heart, but often that deepest knowing feels like it comes from our core, our gut. Western science is actually catching up to this. They talk about the enteric nervous system.
Speaker 1:Right, the second brain.
Speaker 2:Exactly A massive network of neurons in our gut, more than even our spinal cord. It's not just digesting food, it's independently processing emotions, intuition, even memories. So when the Taoists talk about shifting awareness from your head mind to your belly mind, they're asking you to tap into this profound, intuitive and highly emotional processing center which, as you can imagine, is absolutely critical for deep pleasure and truly feeling alive.
Speaker 1:It connects feelings directly to your organs, not just abstract thoughts.
Speaker 2:Precisely.
Speaker 1:And here's where it gets really interesting and, frankly, truly profound. The book emphasizes that when we combine this sexual energy, this jing chi, with real love and compassion, it creates the most potent force for healing and happiness that humans have access to. That's why these practices are called healing love.
Speaker 2:Healing love. It's right there in the name.
Speaker 1:It's about more than just physical sensation or a fleeting moment of pleasure. It's about integrating the emotional and spiritual aspects for a truly profound experience that not only increases pleasure but also deeply heals and nourishes your entire being.
Speaker 2:It transforms energy into a force for genuine well-being. It's quite holistic, right, unpacking the roadblocks what stands in the way of pleasure.
Speaker 1:Okay, so we've explored the incredible power inherent in this energy and how it's meant to flow freely through us, but what stops us from accessing it?
Speaker 2:That's the big question, isn't it?
Speaker 1:Because, truly, for many women, the path to pleasure isn't just about unlocking potential. It's about identifying and dismantling those very real barriers that stand in the way. So many women come into this feeling a sense of inadequacy.
Speaker 2:Oh, definitely.
Speaker 1:We're constantly bombarded by societal perceptions about the right way to have an orgasm or expectations about what normal libido looks like. It can leave you feeling like there's something fundamentally wrong with you or that you're just not enough.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that comparison trap is huge and it raises a profoundly important question what exactly is normal pleasure?
Speaker 1:anyway, Right, what is normal?
Speaker 2:The reality, as the source makes clear, is that your body is whole and fully capable of giving and receiving great pleasure, just as it is. The goal of these practices is not to fit your body into someone else's experience of pleasure or to conform to some societal ideal.
Speaker 1:Which is impossible.
Speaker 2:Exactly, but rather to awaken your own natural desire and energy. There's truly no single right way to be a sexual woman.
Speaker 1:Thank goodness.
Speaker 2:Your preferred pattern might be long, intense sessions once every two weeks, or maybe quickies twice a day. Or perhaps you find profound satisfaction in self-cultivation, where partnered sex is enjoyable but not absolutely necessary for your fulfillment. So many variations, right and tools like a sexual personality quiz, which the source touches upon conceptually, can be incredibly useful for self-exploration. It helps you identify your unique starting point and where you might authentically want to go on your own journey. It's about celebrating your individuality.
Speaker 1:That's such a vital reassurance. Our bodies are unique and so are our paths to pleasure, but sometimes, beyond these mental or emotional hurdles, there are very real physical and physiological barriers that can block pleasure and orgasm. It's crucial to acknowledge them.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. We have to look at the physical side too.
Speaker 1:Let's talk about arousal problems. Well, for most women, the underlying plumbing you know the nerves and vessels supplying these areas is intact and functioning.
Speaker 2:Usually yeah.
Speaker 1:Issues can definitely arise from specific physical conditions.
Speaker 2:That's right. The delicate balance of blood flow and nerve supply to the genital area can be diminished by certain chronic diseases that affect the nerves and blood vessels throughout the body.
Speaker 1:Like what kind of conditions?
Speaker 2:Well, we're talking about things like longstanding diabetes, which can damage small blood vessels and nerves over time, high blood pressure, which can constrict blood flow, heart disease, which compromises the circulatory system, and kidney disease, which can disrupt hormonal balance and overall vitality.
Speaker 1:So these broader health issues can directly impact arousal.
Speaker 2:They can subtly but significantly interfere with the physiological response of arousal. They can subtly but significantly interfere with the physiological response of arousal, making it harder for the body to fully engage in pleasure.
Speaker 1:And it's not just chronic illnesses, is it? Medications can also play a huge, often overlooked role.
Speaker 2:Oh, absolutely huge.
Speaker 1:I've heard so many women express frustration about how certain prescriptions seem to put a dampener on their sex drive or even make orgasm feel impossible.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's a very common side effect. Many commonly prescribed medications are known to inhibit arousal and orgasm.
Speaker 1:Which ones are common culprits?
Speaker 2:Well, certain high blood pressure medications, for instance, can reduce blood flow, and antidepressants, particularly SSRIs, often have side effects that can dull sensation and make orgasm more challenging.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:If you suspect your medication might be affecting your libido or orgasmic response, it's really important to have an open, frank conversation with your doctor about potential alternatives or adjustments.
Speaker 1:Don't just suffer in silence.
Speaker 2:Exactly and beyond specific medications. Various other chronic illnesses, even those not directly affecting the genital area, can impact overall energy and sex drive. The source mentions a more extensive list in its appendix, underscoring how interconnected our health truly is.
Speaker 1:Then there are hormonal influences, which are such a significant dynamic part of a woman's life journey. For instance, nursing mothers often experience a natural dip in libido and maybe some vaginal dryness.
Speaker 2:Yes, and this is a completely normal physiological response. It's due to the hormonal shifts during breastfeeding, specifically higher prolactin levels, which can suppress estrogen.
Speaker 1:But it's usually temporary.
Speaker 2:Usually yes. The good news is that for most women desire typically returns once their babies are weaned and their hormonal balance starts to normalize.
Speaker 1:OK, and then there's menopause.
Speaker 2:Menopause also significantly impacts hormonal levels. Specifically, testosterone, which is considered a primary driver of sex drive in both women and men, naturally declines during this phase.
Speaker 1:Right. Testosterone isn't just for men.
Speaker 2:Not at all, and this decline can lead to a noticeable decrease in libido for some women. Furthermore, the decline in estrogen during menopause often causes vaginal dryness, which can make intercourse uncomfortable or painful.
Speaker 1:That's a common issue.
Speaker 2:It is, but this raises an important point for women to consider. While libido might decrease, it doesn't automatically mean a decrease in sexual satisfaction.
Speaker 1:Ah, that's key.
Speaker 2:It simply means adapting and finding new ways to experience pleasure, maybe focusing more on other kinds of touch or intimacy.
Speaker 1:That's such an important distinction, reminding us that pleasure is adaptable. And what about just straightforward physical pain? It seems obvious, but it's worth stating clearly.
Speaker 2:Indeed, chronic vaginal pain or recurrent infections like yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis or BV, or urinary tract infections, utis. They are obvious and immediate deterrence to sexual activity. These conditions make sexual engagement uncomfortable, painful or even completely undesirable. They naturally reduce desire and block the pathway to pleasure.
Speaker 1:So addressing those underlying issues is fundamental.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. It's a basic step toward reclaiming comfort and libido.
Speaker 1:And in our incredibly busy, demanding lives, there's another major factor that can silently chip away at our desire Just pervasive fatigue and chronic stress. Oh, this one is huge. It often goes unaddressed because it feels so normal, doesn't?
Speaker 2:it. It does, and what's profoundly impactful here is how chronic fatigue and the constant, relentless stress from demanding work schedules, family responsibilities, daily pressures how drastically they affect desire.
Speaker 1:How does that work biologically?
Speaker 2:Well, when your body is in a constant state of fight or flight or simply running on empty, your natural inclination towards pleasure, connection and intimacy often takes a backseat. Your vital energy is being diverted elsewhere, to survival, to meeting demands, just getting through the day.
Speaker 1:Right. Sex isn't a priority when you're just trying to survive.
Speaker 2:It's a clear biological signal that your body's resources are too depleted to prioritize something like sexual exploration. It's a huge, often unacknowledged, roadblock for many women.
Speaker 1:Okay, shifting gears now to emotional and psychological barriers, because these are just as significant, maybe even more so sometimes than the physical ones.
Speaker 2:Often intertwined, yeah.
Speaker 1:First up, something many women grapple with body image and comfort. If you don't feel good about your body, if you're constantly criticizing yourself, it's incredibly hard for your body to feel good and open to pleasure. That constant internal criticism creates a tangible barrier.
Speaker 2:This raises a critical question about self-acceptance. The source emphasizes that for a woman to truly experience and expand her orgasmic ability, it's of primary importance that she focuses on loving and appreciating her body as it is right now.
Speaker 1:Easier said than done sometimes.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. But that negative self-talk like what's wrong with me, or why can't I orgasm like others, or I'm not attractive enough, can completely deflate your intentions for pleasure. It sabotages the potential for erotic experiences before they even begin.
Speaker 1:Like poisoning the well.
Speaker 2:Exactly. It's like trying to cultivate a delicate flower in a hostile environment the internal critic poisons the soil.
Speaker 1:And unfortunately for far too many women, they carry the weight of past experiences and trauma. This can profoundly impact their ability to feel safe, to trust and to experience pleasure in their bodies.
Speaker 2:This is a deeply sensitive and really important area. The body has an incredible memory.
Speaker 1:It really does.
Speaker 2:And it can learn to associate genital stimulation with pain, fear or emotional withdrawal due to past trauma, whether that was physical, emotional or sexual.
Speaker 1:So the body remembers, even if the mind tries to forget.
Speaker 2:Yes. For healing to occur, it's absolutely crucial to never engage in sexual activity unless it's truly and authentically desired. In that moment, your body needs to relearn, through safe and consensual experiences, that genital touch is safe, that you are always in control and that pleasure is possible without fear.
Speaker 1:That can be a long journey.
Speaker 2:It can be a challenging journey and in many cases, professional help and compassionate therapy are vital. Furthermore, our cultural upbringing also plays a subtle yet powerful role in shaping these perceptions. I thought so Well. Consider the stark difference between culturally demeaning terms for a woman's sexual organs versus, say, the Taoist term jade gate for the vagina, or the tantric yoni, meaning sacred place.
Speaker 1:Wow, jade gate, that's beautiful.
Speaker 2:Isn't it? These names, these cultural narratives fundamentally shape our perceptions and can either open us to or block us from pleasure and self-acceptance. Language matters.
Speaker 1:That's a powerful point about how language and perception can either heal or hinder. Another major hurdle, and one that often overlaps with past experiences, is trust and relationship challenges. Definitely, if there's a lack of trust due to abuse or prior hurts, it can understandably lead to emotional guarding, which is a protective mechanism, but one that ultimately prevents true intimacy and deep pleasure.
Speaker 2:If a woman is in a situation of physical or emotional abuse, seeking professional help is paramount. There is no true pleasure or intimacy without safety, full stop.
Speaker 1:Absolutely critical.
Speaker 2:But beyond that, sometimes we carry the residue of past betrayals, even if our current partner is trustworthy. This emotional defensiveness, while designed to protect, can ironically prevent the closeness and vulnerability needed for full passion.
Speaker 1:Like a wall goes up.
Speaker 2:Exactly. The source offers a powerful example of Jean and Charlie who are struggling to reconnect sexually. Jean finally had this honest, vulnerable conversation with Charlie, admitting her deep-seated fear of being abandoned, a fear rooted in past relationships.
Speaker 1:That leaves courage.
Speaker 2:It does, and by sharing this truth and Charlie responding with unwavering reassurance and patience, it allowed them to rebuild trust. This opened the door for them to re-engage sexually, not just physically, but with a new level of emotional intimacy and freedom that profoundly deepened their pleasure. This illustrates that if you know your partner is safe, openly discussing your fears and expressing what you need from them to relax and to trust can be profoundly helpful.
Speaker 1:That leads right into the next point. Yeah, Discussing sexuality itself. Many women feel embarrassed, vulnerable or even ashamed about discussing their sexual needs and desires with a partner, or sometimes even acknowledging them to themselves.
Speaker 2:It's still quite taboo for many people.
Speaker 1:Taking the risk of asking for what you want. Even writing a letter, if speaking feels too difficult initially, can be incredibly liberating. The source stresses that most partners actually find great satisfaction and joy in truly meeting their lover's erotic needs. They want to please you.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. This highlights the importance of open, honest, loving and patient requests and, crucially, it's about honesty with both yourself and your partner about what you are and are not feeling sexually.
Speaker 1:Even if it feels awkward in the moment.
Speaker 2:Yes, sexually, even if it feels awkward in the moment. Yes, if sensation wanes during lovemaking, it's important to be honest, even with yourself, and to consider pausing to explore what you truly need for satisfaction Trying to hurry an orgasm, for example, or forcing it to fit a schedule.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that never works.
Speaker 2:It often makes it run away or feel unsatisfying. Orgasm simply doesn't accommodate a timetable. Giving yourself and, by extension, your partner, permission to take the time needed can make all the difference.
Speaker 1:Patience is key.
Speaker 2:And for those who struggle with surrendering with partner self-cultivation, exploring on your own can actually be a faster and easier way to learn to orgasm, as it removes the complexities of partner dynamics and allows you to explore at your own pace.
Speaker 1:Good point. Finally, two more subtle but incredibly potent roadblocks that operate deep within our minds the censorship of imagination and the ever-present internal critic.
Speaker 2:Ah yes, the inner world.
Speaker 1:If we limit or suppress our sexual imagination, what we allow ourselves to think, dream or fantasize about, we're essentially restricting our access to our own sexual energy.
Speaker 2:What's fascinating here is how deeply our minds influence our bodies, particularly our sexual vitality. Censoring your sexual imagination isn't just about being boring in bed. It literally limits your full access to your jing chi, your sexual energy.
Speaker 1:So imagination fuels energy.
Speaker 2:It's a significant block to increasing pleasure if it's censored. Our imagination is a powerful engine for arousal. Similarly, that negative self-talk, that internal critic saying what's wrong with me, or I'm such a hopeless case, or I'm not doing this right, that negative loop, internal force working directly against your desire and your body's natural capacity for joy. This underscores the profound need for self-love, self-compassion and a gentle, accepting approach to your own body and its unique capabilities. These internal battles are often the quietest but most formidable roadblocks. 3. Stoking your Inner Fire.
Speaker 1:So we've talked about these various roadblocks, both visible and invisible. Now let's turn the page to how we can actively stoke that inner fire, how we can cultivate desire and deep self-love.
Speaker 2:Yes, the proactive part.
Speaker 1:It really starts with reclaiming your ideal sexual self. Remember there is truly no right way to be a sexual woman. The goal here is to awaken your own natural, authentic desire.
Speaker 2:Back to that core idea.
Speaker 1:That sexual personality quiz we mentioned earlier. Think of it as a wonderful conceptual tool for self-assessment, a personal compass, helping you identify where you are right now, what aspects of your unique sexual self you want to celebrate, what areas you might want to explore and grow in.
Speaker 2:If we connect this to the bigger picture, it's about deep individual empowerment and self-discovery. The path to increasing pleasure and achieving orgasm is profoundly personal, and one of the primary, most powerful keys to stoking your libido and expanding your erotic potential is freeing up your sexual imagination.
Speaker 1:Right, unleashing the mind.
Speaker 2:This is where you really begin to unlock internal pathways to pleasure that you might not even realize exist.
Speaker 1:That makes perfect sense. Our minds are incredibly powerful. So how does one do that practically Like? What are some tangible ways to actually free up that imagination, especially if it's been suppressed for a long time?
Speaker 2:Well, the source offers several avenues for this. You could try the simple act of writing down your fantasies no judgment, just letting your mind wander and capturing what emerges.
Speaker 1:Just getting it out there, yeah.
Speaker 2:If you have a trusted partner and there's a foundation of deep emotional safety, you might even consider gently sharing these fantasies or perhaps exploring, acting them out in a safe, consensual way.
Speaker 1:With trust, of course.
Speaker 2:Absolutely Changing your physical environment to inspire your sensual self can also be incredibly potent. Think about setting the mood with specific music or candles, exploring lovemaking outdoors if privacy allows, or incorporating sensuality into travel experiences.
Speaker 1:Shake things up.
Speaker 2:Exactly, or incorporating sensuality into travel experiences, shake things up Exactly. Simply reading erotica can also be incredibly stimulating, not just sexually, but as a gateway to your own inner landscape. The purpose of fantasy, crucially, is not just escapism, but to uncover your own unique erotic possibilities so you can explore them either in self-play or with a trusted partner. The emphasis on trust here cannot be overstated, especially if there's a history of hurt in a sexual context.
Speaker 1:That creates the safety for exploration Absolutely Beyond imagination. What other ways can we actively cultivate desire and keep things fresh and exciting?
Speaker 2:Introducing novelty and embracing personal growth into your lovemaking can be incredibly powerful. Varying your usual environment as we mentioned, music, campbell's outdoors travel can rekindle excitement and a sense of adventure.
Speaker 1:New scenery helps.
Speaker 2:It really can Role play when done with deep trust and clear boundaries. Isn't about disconnection. It's actually about a deeper, playful inclusion of your partner, exploring new facets of your connection and desires.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And beyond explicit sexual novelty. The source notes that living a life of personal growth and passion is inherently magnetic.
Speaker 1:Ooh, I like that.
Speaker 2:If you are single and live a life committed to personal growth, truly following your passions, you will naturally attract many partners, because passion and vitality are simply deeply interesting and alluring qualities. It's about being vibrantly alive in all aspects of your life.
Speaker 1:That's a beautiful thought.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Passion as a magnetic force radiating from within. But let's get real for a moment. Okay. So many women, myself included, feel like they're constantly pouring their energy into others Work home, family community, caring for children or aging parents. The constant giving. How does that relentless giving connect to libido? It feels like an ever-present drain.
Speaker 2:This is a critical and often overlooked insight into female sexual vitality. Women, by their very nature, often drain what Taoists call their principal energy by constantly giving to others without adequately replenishing themselves.
Speaker 1:Principal energy Okay.
Speaker 2:This constant energy drain directly correlates with low libido and a diminished sense of overall vitality. The Taoist solution is profoundly simple, yet often incredibly challenging to implement. You must increase your qi by actively and intentionally nurturing yourself.
Speaker 1:Easier said than done again.
Speaker 2:Oh, absolutely. This means consciously carving out time for yourself, Time for love, for play, for creative pursuits that ignite your spirit and for spiritual care that nourishes your soul.
Speaker 1:Making time for you.
Speaker 2:I know how difficult this can be, especially for busy women juggling demanding careers, caring for young children, supporting family members. But even small, consistent changes like dedicating just an hour more a week to self-nurturing can make a significant difference.
Speaker 1:Just one hour.
Speaker 2:It can be a start. The source shares the powerful anecdote of Danya, a 63-year-old patient who had felt her libido wane over the years. When she finally committed to prioritizing her own needs carving out time for hobbies, meditation, quiet reflection she began having the best sex of her life, experiencing more profound orgasms than ever before.
Speaker 1:Wow at 63,. That's inspiring.
Speaker 2:Isn't it? It's about replenishing your wellspring, so you have more to draw from increasing your overall capacity for joy and pleasure, not just in the bedroom, but in every facet of your life. It's a fundamental act of self-love. Four harmonizing emotions for deeper pleasure. The healing sounds.
Speaker 1:So we've touched on how important it is to deal with emotional blocks and the internal critic. The Taoist approach offers a fascinating and deeply gentle way to do this, through what they call healing sounds.
Speaker 2:Yes, the healing sounds a beautiful practice.
Speaker 1:It sounds almost mystical. But how does this actually work? What's the theory behind it? Yes, the healing sounds A beautiful practice.
Speaker 2:It sounds almost mystical but how does this actually work? What's the theory behind it? Well, what's truly insightful here is a Taoist perspective that emotions are not just abstract feelings existing in your head, but actual energies that arise from and are stored in different organs in the body.
Speaker 1:Emotions stored in organs.
Speaker 2:That's the idea. For example, anger is often associated with the liver. That's the idea. For example, anger is often associated with the liver, worry with the spleen, sadness with the lungs. When the qi in an organ becomes congested, maybe from chronic stress, an unhealthy diet, unresolved emotional experiences, the emotions associated with that organ become prominent and can even overwhelm us.
Speaker 1:Like an energetic traffic jam.
Speaker 2:Kind of it's seen as a tangible energetic blockage.
Speaker 1:So these healing sounds, then, are a way to what physically or energetically clear out that congestion. How does a sound do that?
Speaker 2:Precisely. The healing sounds are a gentle, calming practice designed to balance and release this congested emotional chi. They involve specific vocalizations combined with simple physical movements, often done while focusing on the associated organ.
Speaker 1:So you make a sound and move a certain way.
Speaker 2:Yeah. By producing these sounds, you literally vibrate and massage the organs, helping to release stagnant energy and emotions. It's a profound practice that prevents the stagnation of vital energy throughout your body and, crucially, refines the sexual energy that you generate through other practices we'll discuss later.
Speaker 1:Okay, it clears the way.
Speaker 2:Think of it like this it's as if the turbulent waters of your emotions become clear and still. This transformation allows your energy to flow more freely, which directly contributes to deeper pleasure, greater emotional resilience and an increased capacity for orgasm.
Speaker 1:So it's not just about feeling better, it actually helps the sexual energy.
Speaker 2:Yes, it refines it. It's a way to actively transform so-called negative emotions into more positive, beneficial ones, rather than simply burying them with temporary fixes like, you know, a block of chocolate or a glass of wine.
Speaker 1:Guilty.
Speaker 2:It's a direct method of emotional alchemy really.
Speaker 1:That's a powerful analogy transforming their energetic quality within your body. Can you give us a quick overview of some of these sounds and what emotions they specifically address? I'm curious how they work.
Speaker 2:Certainly, there are six main healing sounds, each corresponding to a major organ system, plus a specific one for the uterus and ovaries. The practice involves specific sounds and subtle movements to balance qi in key organs. While there's an optimal sequence the creation cycle you can be flexible and use a sound that addresses your specific emotional needs in the moment.
Speaker 2:Got it so examples Okay For the lung sound. You exhale with a soft hissing S-S-S-S sound, often with palms facing down. This sound helps transform the heavy emotions of sadness and grief into feelings of courage, integrity and vitality. Imagine releasing that weight from your chest.
Speaker 1:S-S-S-S-S Okay.
Speaker 2:The kidney sound is a deep, resonant woo sound, often with a slight bending motion. This shifts the energy of fear and shock into gentleness, stillness and inner peace.
Speaker 1:Ooh, like an owl.
Speaker 2:Sort of, and this sound is particularly potent as it also relates to the uterus and ovaries, helping women transform physical or emotional pain in that area into a feeling of personal power and self-trust. Same sound, chi W-W-W, is sometimes used specifically for uterusuveres, but it relates to the kidney energy.
Speaker 1:Interesting connection.
Speaker 2:For the liver sound. You make a sustained S-H-H-H sound, often with an upward twist. This transforms anger, frustration and resentment into kindness, generosity and compassion. Think of it as cooling down an overheated system.
Speaker 1:S-H-H-H-H.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Telling anger to be quiet.
Speaker 2:Ha, maybe the heart sound is a broad, open ha-W-W-W sound, often with arms widening. This turns impatience, arrogance and hatred into true joy, love and honor. It's about opening the heart space.
Speaker 1:Ha-W-W-W expansive.
Speaker 2:The spleen-stomach sound is a deep gutt guttural who sound often with a rounded posture. It transforms worry, anxiety and pity into feelings of compassion, equanimity and inner balance. It grounds you.
Speaker 1:Oh, very earthy.
Speaker 2:And finally, the triple warmer sound, which is a high pitched. He is about calming the mind, balancing all the organs, energies, and bringing a sense of overall peaceful integration, helping you relax into the present moment.
Speaker 1:Yee like releasing tension. Wow. So by practicing these sounds, you're not just venting emotions, you're actively transforming your energetic quality within your body.
Speaker 2:Exactly. That's the core idea.
Speaker 1:That feels like a truly powerful tool for anyone looking to increase their overall sense of well-being and therefore their capacity for pleasure and connection. It's like proactive emotional regulation.
Speaker 2:It really is a gentle yet profound way to work with your inner landscape V the journey to orgasm, knowing your body and techniques.
Speaker 1:Now let's dive into the core of enhancing pleasure, the journey to orgasm itself. It's such a deeply personal experience, and the book really emphasizes that.
Speaker 2:Very personal yes.
Speaker 1:Orgasm feels different for every woman, right From incredibly intense and explosive to a gentle sigh of profound satisfaction, to maybe a wave-like full-body undulation.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. There's a huge range.
Speaker 1:It's important to remember. It's a learned response, something that can be influenced, expanded and deepened over time. It's not just range. It's important to remember. It's a learned response, something that can be influenced, expanded and deepened over time. It's not just fixed.
Speaker 2:That's a really empowering point. It can evolve.
Speaker 1:So, to begin mapping this journey, let's talk about the essential plumbing, specifically the muscles that play a crucial role.
Speaker 2:Okay, the pelvic floor.
Speaker 1:Exactly the PC muscle.
Speaker 2:Indeed, and a crucial piece of this plumbing is the pubocaustis, or PC muscle. Piece of this plumbing is the pubocaustegis, or PC muscle. This isn't just one muscle, but rather a collection of muscles that form a sling, powerfully supporting your pelvic organs, your urethra, vagina and anus.
Speaker 1:Like a havoc inside.
Speaker 2:Precisely. It runs like a hammock from your pubic bone in the front to your tailbone in the back. What's profoundly impactful here is that strengthening and, just as importantly, learning to effectively contract and relax your PC muscle.
Speaker 1:Relaxation is key too.
Speaker 2:Oh, absolutely key. Contracting and relaxing it directly increases the pleasure you feel and the ease with which you can have orgasms, both clitoral and vaginal. Think of it like a control panel for your pleasure.
Speaker 1:How do you work with it?
Speaker 2:Simple exercises like PC pull-ups, where you gently lift and release those muscles, like stopping the flow of urine, but more nuanced and consciously learning to relax the PC muscle during moments of arousal are foundational. They build both strength and sensitivity, allowing for greater control and deeper sensation.
Speaker 1:So it's not just about tightness, but also about finely tuned control and the ability to fully release.
Speaker 2:Exactly Both ends of the spectrum.
Speaker 1:Beyond the PC muscle. How do women truly learn the intricate map of their bodies for deeper, more personalized pleasure? Many of us are taught a very limited external view of our own anatomy.
Speaker 2:That's so true, and this raises a profoundly important question for you, our listener how well do you truly know your own body, particularly your unique pleasure points?
Speaker 1:A confronting question for some maybe.
Speaker 2:Perhaps the source emphasizes that the primary importance on this journey to expanded orgasm is to truly love, appreciate and respectfully explore your own body. If you don't feel good about your body, if you hold judgment towards it, Like we talked about with body image.
Speaker 2:Exactly, it's incredibly hard for your body't feel good about your body if you hold judgment towards it, like we talked about with body image. Exactly, yeah, it's incredibly hard for your body to feel good and open to pleasure. The book then provides a detailed yet accessible overview of the female sexual anatomy to help you truly understand what's going on down there.
Speaker 1:Okay, like a real map.
Speaker 2:Yes, sensitive clitoris, recognizing its head, shaft, internal legs, bulbs and hood, as well as the labia, both majora and menorah, the urethra, the elusive G-spot which is actually part of the urethral sponge.
Speaker 1:Ah, so that's what it is.
Speaker 2:The AFE zone anterior fornix erogenous zone and even the anus. Knowing this internal map of your pleasure is absolutely foundational for self-discovery and for guiding a partner.
Speaker 1:And it goes beyond just knowing the names. It suggests a guided self-touch exercise, which sounds like a beautiful, empowering way to map out one's own pleasure landscape.
Speaker 2:It really is a very respectful exploration. What?
Speaker 1:does that involve step by step?
Speaker 2:This exercise is designed for deep, judgment-free exploration, not necessarily immediate orgasm, especially for those who might experience a dip in desire post-orgasm.
Speaker 1:So the goal is an orgasm. It's exploration.
Speaker 2:Primarily yes. The first step is creating the right environment Ensure you have complete privacy and are in a comfortable, relaxed space. It begins with whole body sensuality, moving from head to toe, exploring different textures and touches.
Speaker 1:Like using feathers or silk.
Speaker 2:Yeah, perhaps a brisk slapping of the skin, first to awaken qi and circulation, then using silk feathers or even ice to notice various sensations. The key takeaway from this phase is realizing that orgasms can actually be achieved from non-genital stimulation like the nipples or ears.
Speaker 1:Really.
Speaker 2:Oh yes, it underscores the whole body's vast capacity for sensual pleasure.
Speaker 1:Then you move to more focused genital exploration.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Bringing that whole body awareness to the core.
Speaker 2:Yes, you then gently explore your pubis, feeling the bone underneath. Then the outer lips, labia majora, noticing their softness and how they might swell with arousal. Then move to the inner lips, labia minora, noticing their delicate sensitivity.
Speaker 1:Taking your time.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Next comes focused clitoral exploration Gently finding the clitoris, experimenting with touching it through its hood and then, if comfortable, direct stimulation. You can experiment with different strokes Slow side-to-side rubbing small circles, short up-and-down motions, observing what creates sensation.
Speaker 1:Finding what feels good for you.
Speaker 2:Exactly For the G-spot and AFE zone, which are located on the anterior vaginal wall about an inch or two. Inside stimulation initially might feel like an urge to urinate.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, that's normal.
Speaker 2:Very normal. Due to the surrounding urethral sponge. This sensation then often transforms into a deep, pleasurable fullness and pressure with consistent, firm pressure. Fingers, especially the curl of a finger or a curved dildo, are often ideal for stimulating this area. Good to know communication, slow progression and its potential to multiply sensations when combined with other forms of stimulation, always with the caveat of strict hygiene, of course right important note the core principle throughout is curiosity, not a race to an outcome, just gentle exploration okay.
Speaker 1:So once you've begun to know your body and understand what feels good, what's the next crucial step for unlocking deeper pleasure and orgasm? The book talks about the arc of surrender.
Speaker 2:Ah, surrender yes.
Speaker 1:This seems counterintuitive in a world that often demands control.
Speaker 2:It does, but this concept is absolutely crucial for full expansive orgasm. Fear, anxiety, self-consciousness or even the subtle pressure of an expectation during intimacy will instantly block the process of surrender.
Speaker 1:The mind gets in the way.
Speaker 2:Totally. If you find yourself tensing up or your mind racing, the advice is to pause sexual play immediately. If you're with a partner, it's vital to share your feelings honestly, maybe say I need to take a breath, I'm feeling a little anxious right now, and reconnect emotionally.
Speaker 1:Be vulnerable.
Speaker 2:Yes. Or you can do a simple calming exercise like belly breathing, focusing on deep, slow breaths that expand your abdomen. Orgasm truly does not accommodate a schedule, definitely not Trying to hurry it, trying to force it will almost always make it run away or diminish the experience. It's essential to give yourself the time and space you need and to ask your partner for that time, reminding them that patience often amplifies the pleasure.
Speaker 1:Good communication is key there.
Speaker 2:And for those who struggle with surrendering with a partner again, self-cultivation can often be a faster and easier way to learn to orgasm, as it removes the complexities and potential performance pressure of partner dynamics. It's about building a foundation of trust with your own body first of partner dynamics.
Speaker 1:It's about building a foundation of trust with your own body first. Once a woman has explored her own path to pleasure, learned to surrender and understood her unique map, how does she then share that knowledge and experience with a partner for truly mutual and deeply satisfying partnered play?
Speaker 2:That's the beautiful next step integrating it. The book suggests a powerful and intimate approach, a show and tell session.
Speaker 1:Show and tell Okay.
Speaker 2:The woman guides her partner to touch her exactly as she touches herself, communicating what feels good, where and how. It's vital that the partner initially focuses solely on her pleasure and her experience, not on intercourse or their own gratification.
Speaker 1:So it's really about her receiving.
Speaker 2:Initially, yes. The source highlights that most women find it easier to orgasm with a partner's finger or tongue stimulation to the clitoris and or vagina. Certain positions can also significantly aid stimulation.
Speaker 1:Which ones work well.
Speaker 2:Well, woman on top gives her control. Missionary with a pillow placed strategically under her hips can change the angle for better G-spot or clitoral contact. The spoon position allows for deep clitoral and G-spot stimulation from behind.
Speaker 1:Lots of options to explore.
Speaker 2:Definitely, and for many women, combining clitoral, vaginal and G-spot stimulation, like a partner using a finger on the G-spot while simultaneously stimulating the clitoris with their tongue or hand, is highly effective.
Speaker 1:Sounds intense.
Speaker 2:It can be. It's all about open, loving communication and gently guiding your partner to what truly feels good and expansive for you. This shared exploration deepens connection and enhances pleasure for both. Six, expanding your orgasm, whole body and multiple peaks.
Speaker 1:Okay, so we've learned how to find orgasm, to release and surrender into it. Now let's talk about taking it to the next level, experiencing whole body orgasms and multiple peaks. Moving beyond the basics, yeah, the Taoist practices introduce a truly fascinating concept called the microcosmic orbit. What is that and why is it so important for preventing energy loss and expanding orgasm? What's profoundly insightful here is the Tao for preventing energy loss and expanding orgasm.
Speaker 2:What's profoundly insightful here is the Taoist understanding that during a typical orgasm, especially one that leads to immediate satiation or a feeling of drainage, yeah, that energy drop. There can be a loss of vital sexual energy through the perineum almost like a leak. The microcosmic orbit is envisioned as a central chai highway in the body. Think of it like a figure-eight energy circuit or an internal circulatory system for your vital energy.
Speaker 1:An energy highway.
Speaker 2:Kind of it connects various key energy centers, Starting from the perineum, running up the spine through the sacrum and the powerful door of life point in the lower back over the crown of the head, and then down the front channel through the third eye, throat, heart, navel and finally, for women, the ovarian palace, before circling back to the perineum.
Speaker 1:Wow, that's a whole circuit.
Speaker 2:It is, and before practicing this, it's essential to do the inner smile meditation, focusing loving energy inwards to ensure the chi you circulate has loving, healing and life-giving qualities.
Speaker 1:So you charge the energy with love first.
Speaker 2:Exactly Circulating qi through this orbit helps you retain and amplify sexual energy, preventing that energetic loss and nourishing your entire being rather than letting that powerful energy dissipate.
Speaker 1:So it's about holding on to that incredible energy and making it work for your whole body, not just experiencing it in one localized burst.
Speaker 2:Precisely Recycling and refining it.
Speaker 1:And then there's something called the orgasmic upward draw. This sounds like an advanced technique that takes the microcosmic orbit into the very act of pleasure.
Speaker 2:It is indeed an advanced yet highly rewarding practice. The orgasmic upward draw involves consciously circulating sexual and orgasmic energy through the microcosmic orbit during arousal and orgasm.
Speaker 1:While it's happening.
Speaker 2:Yes, this active engagement prevents the energy from flowing out of the body, allowing it to profoundly nourish your internal organs and energy centers. The practice suggests that pausing from the action, whether you're alone or with a partner, to consciously circulate this energy.
Speaker 1:Pausing during. Wouldn't that kill the mood?
Speaker 2:You might think so, but it can actually heighten sensation and lead to much higher, more expansive levels of pleasure. The source recounts Lily's experience. She and her partner Greg were intensely aroused when Lily felt the urge to pause.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Instead of pushing through to orgasm, she used that moment to connect deeply with Greg, both emotionally and through the orgasmic upward draw. That brief interlude, far from breaking the momentum, actually amplified their pleasure and intimacy, leading to an even more profound, circulating orgasm.
Speaker 1:Wow, so, pausing, built it higher.
Speaker 2:With consistent practice. This allows you to collect and amplify the sexual energy, reaching a higher, more sustained level of pleasure when you do eventually achieve orgasm.
Speaker 1:That's a profound way to think about pleasure, not just as a singular peak but as a circulating nourishing force that can continually expand. And the idea that any woman can become multi-orgasmic that's truly a game changer for many who have perhaps felt limited.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. The source affirms that with patience, consistent practice and persistence, any woman can become multi-orgasmic. It also makes an important distinction between a terminal orgasm.
Speaker 1:Terminal orgasm.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the more common experience where lovemaking ends because desire is lost or you feel fully satiated and multiple, whole body orgasm, which is characterized by continuous pleasure, undulating sensations that ripple through the body, or pleasure experience throughout the entire body in waves without a distinct ending.
Speaker 1:So it just keeps going in waves.
Speaker 2:It's about sustaining and expanding the sensual experience.
Speaker 1:Yes, so what are some of the practical techniques or approaches that women can use to actually achieve and sustain multiple orgasms?
Speaker 2:Well, the book outlines several effective approaches. One is to engage in a purely focused sexual session with your partner, making your multi-orgasmic pleasure the sole focus and intention of that time.
Speaker 1:Setting the intention.
Speaker 2:Right. Another highly effective method is the teasing technique. You build pleasure to a very high point, then gently pause stimulation for a moment, allowing the energy to deepen and spread, and then continue. This helps prolong and intensify sensation.
Speaker 1:Building and pausing.
Speaker 2:Actively contracting your PC muscle to send sexual energy up into your spine as arousal climbs. Pausing briefly to circulate that energy through the microcosmic orbit and then continuing stimulation is also a key strategy using the orbit again yes, after the first orgasm, if you can gently re-stimulate within about 30 seconds, it can often lead to another wave don't wait too long right and for many women, combining clitoral and vaginal stimulation or even adding g-spot stimulation, like we discussed. Finger on g-spot, tongue on clitoris is also highly effective for reaching multiple peaks.
Speaker 1:Experimenting with combinations. Exactly. And it doesn't stop at multiple orgasms. The book also delves into deep pelvic orgasm and female ejaculation. These are concepts that have been frankly misunderstood, dismissed or even denied in Western discourse for a long time.
Speaker 2:They absolutely have. Despite being recognized in ancient traditions for centuries, deep pelvic orgasm is described as a state of total relaxation where the pleasure feels incredibly deep, full and expansive, often distinct from the more typical high-tension, localized clitoral orgasm.
Speaker 1:Deeper and more relaxed.
Speaker 2:Yes, it involves what are called push-out contractions, which is a unique sensation. Instead of the typical squeezing up many associate with orgasm, imagine a gentle, expansive, lengthening Pushing out. It's as if your deep vaginal muscles are softly bearing down, almost like a subtle internal push, while the PC muscle which you might have been contracting is actually letting go and relaxing fully. While the PC muscle which you might have been contracting is actually letting go and relaxing fully. This allows for a deeper, more integrated release, rather than just an intense, singular peak. That sounds very different. It is. While some women experience these spontaneously, most need to learn how to access this profound potential through conscious practice. As for female ejaculation, Right, that's often debated.
Speaker 2:It is, but it is a well-documented phenomenon, varying widely from a few drops to a copious fluid release. Historically, Taoist texts referred to it as three waters and tantric texts called it amrita, a life-giving ambrosia, highlighting its sacred and nourishing qualities.
Speaker 1:So it's been recognized for centuries as a natural part of female sexuality, even if Western science was slower to catch up. How does one access this, and what are these three gates the book refers to.
Speaker 2:The source explains that, to access this expanded orgasm and female ejaculation, the key lies in opening the three gates. This refers to stimulating specific highly sensitive areas the clitoris, the G-spot or urethral sponge, and the cervix or AFE zone.
Speaker 1:The three key zones.
Speaker 2:Exactly Each of these areas, when stimulated effectively, can release a cascade of pleasure. The practice suggests pausing after opening each gate, meaning after effectively stimulating one area to a peak sensation to consciously circulate the bubbling qi through the microcosmic orbit.
Speaker 1:Pause and circulate again.
Speaker 2:Yes, circulate the bubbling qi through the microcosmic orbit. Pause and circulate again. Yes, this act of love, conscious awareness and surrender during stimulation brings you into a high state of expanded orgasm, refining your plentiful qi into a woman's natural watery yin essence. The more regularly you practice opening these gates and circulating the energy, the easier it becomes to access this ability within yourself, leading to truly profound, nourishing and often multidimensional orgasmic experiences.
Speaker 1:It sounds like a journey of deep self-discovery and really expanding sensual capacity.
Speaker 2:It truly is. Seven sustaining sexual vitality throughout life. Cultivating health.
Speaker 1:We've covered increasing pleasure, overcoming blocks and even expanding orgasms, but this isn't a one-time fix. It's a lifelong journey of cultivating and sustaining vitality, isn't it?
Speaker 2:Absolutely. It's ongoing cultivation.
Speaker 1:The book powerfully moves into maintaining sexual health throughout life, starting with something as fundamental yet often overlooked as breast health and massage. Many women aren't entirely satisfied with their breasts. Maybe focusing on aesthetics common focus.
Speaker 2:What the book highlights a deeply different energetic perspective.
Speaker 1:Yes, and what's truly transformative here is the Taoist understanding that breasts are not just about aesthetics or milk production. They are crucial energetic centers. Breast massage is presented as a simple yet profoundly powerful practice.
Speaker 2:How does it help sexually?
Speaker 1:It directly increases chai flow, not just to the breasts themselves, which promotes breast health, but to the entire glandular system, which is intrinsically linked to hormonal balance and sexual vitality.
Speaker 2:Ah, the glands.
Speaker 1:More specifically, it stimulates the kidney meridian, a vital energy pathway that runs through the body and provides she and vitality directly to the sexual organs. Thus regular breast massage, especially nipple massage, can actually significantly increase sexual energy in the clitoris and vaginal area.
Speaker 2:Wow, direct connection Leading to greater arousal and pleasure. It's a foundational act of self-nurturing that physically connects and energizes your breasts with your core sexual organs, fostering a deeper sense of internal flow and connection.
Speaker 1:That's a beautiful way to connect different parts of the body and the overall flow of energy, reminding us that pleasure is holistic. And then there's ovarian breathing, which sounds like it could have profound effects on hormonal harmony and energy balance.
Speaker 2:Yes, very powerful.
Speaker 1:This feels incredibly relevant for women navigating different life stages.
Speaker 2:It does. Ovarian breathing is introduced as a natural, ancient and highly effective way to improve common female experiences like menstrual pain and irregularities, and even menopausal symptoms such as hot flashes, low libido and vaginal dryness.
Speaker 1:Really it helps with all that.
Speaker 2:The book shares truly remarkable testimonials. For instance, a universal Tao instructor recounts how she's been able to control how many eggs she releases per year and even shift her menstruation from a heavy five-day 28-day cycle to a one-day 45-day cycle, making her periods almost symptom-free. Another woman, heather, used it to transform hot, irritable sexual frustration into a calm, cool and integrated energy.
Speaker 1:That's amazing control.
Speaker 2:This practice focusing on breathing energy into the ovarian palace, the area of the ovaries, is safe for women of all ages, even post-menopausal, and many regular practitioners report an almost symptom-free menopausal transition with maintained libido and natural vaginal lubrication.
Speaker 1:So it helps balance hormones naturally.
Speaker 2:It's about consciously nurturing your core, feminine energy and hormonal balance through breath and intention.
Speaker 1:That sounds truly remarkable and empowering for women navigating hormonal shift throughout their lives. The book also introduces the jade egg practice. For those unfamiliar, what exactly is a jade egg and what's the purpose of using it?
Speaker 2:The jade egg is a small, smooth, polished egg, typically made of jade or other healing stones, designed to be inserted into the vagina.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:It's a tool primarily used for strengthening the PC muscle that vital pelvic floor muscle we discussed earlier and significantly increasing vaginal sensitivity.
Speaker 1:So it works, those muscles internally.
Speaker 2:Yes, if we connect this to the bigger picture, it enhances your core sexual musculature and deepens your internal awareness. What's even more profound is the Taoist belief that the vagina contains numerous acupressure points connected to all vital organs of the body.
Speaker 1:Acupressure inside.
Speaker 2:That's the concept. So using the jade egg can have a powerful healing and balancing effect on your entire being, not just the pelvic region. The practice involves cleaning the egg thoroughly, inserting it and then using your PC muscles to gently lift, lower and move it.
Speaker 1:Like internal weightlifting.
Speaker 2:In a way, but very gentle. The source notes that some women with hot or highly sensitive energy might initially find it too stimulating, while others find it helps absorb and balance their energy, making it a truly versatile tool for self-exploration and strengthening.
Speaker 1:That's amazing to say a tool for both strengthening and energetic balancing. Let's talk about navigating menopause and sexuality more broadly. It's a phase of life that can bring unique challenges to sexual vitality, yet it's often framed as an ending.
Speaker 2:When it really doesn't have to be.
Speaker 1:When it can truly be a powerful new beginning.
Speaker 2:It's true that testosterone, the primary driver of sex drive in women, naturally declines with menopause. However, the source emphasizes a crucial point Decreased libido doesn't necessarily mean decreased sexual satisfaction or an end to your erotic life.
Speaker 1:That key distinction again.
Speaker 2:What's fascinating here is the use it or lose it phenomenon. Engaging in regular sexual activity actually increases your body's production of sex hormones like testosterone, estrogen and DHEA.
Speaker 1:So sex makes more sex hormones.
Speaker 2:It creates a positive feedback loop. This loop is particularly important in older life, when sex hormones are naturally lower, so being sexually active can actively help maintain desire and vitality.
Speaker 1:Keep the engine running.
Speaker 2:Exactly. The book also briefly touches on holistic treatments for menopausal symptoms, like phytoestrogens from plants, bioidentical hormones, if appropriate and discuss with the doctor, and various effective treatments for vaginal dryness, such as vaginal estrogen creams or dilators.
Speaker 1:Options are available.
Speaker 2:And, crucially, it reiterates that penetration and intercourse are entirely optional. Oral sex, manual stimulation and other forms of intimacy can be equally, if not more, satisfying and deeply connecting at any age. It's about expanding your definition of sexual fulfillment.
Speaker 1:That's a great reminder of the many avenues for pleasure and intimacy available throughout life. Finally, let's talk about maintaining general genital health and a factor that impacts many women daily Birth control.
Speaker 2:Yes, the practicalities. What's often overlooked here is how fundamental basic genital health issues can become subtle yet significant blocks to pleasure.
Speaker 1:Like infections.
Speaker 2:Right. Common infections like urinary tract infections, utis, vaginal yeast infections and bacterial vaginosis DV can deter sexual activity due to discomfort, pain or irritation. The source provides practical advice on prevention and treatment, including the importance of probiotics for maintaining a healthy vaginal microbiome.
Speaker 1:Good gut health helps down there too.
Speaker 2:Absolutely Sexually transmitted infections STIs are also covered, stressing the importance of consistent condom use with new partners and regular testing for peace of mind. Then there's the issue of generalized genital pain and itching, often stemming from a sensitive vulva or vagina.
Speaker 1:Irritation issues.
Speaker 2:Identifying common irritants is key. Certain soaps, harsh laundry products, latex and condoms, semen for some people fragrances and preservatives and lubricants can all cause discomfort.
Speaker 1:So knowing what irritates you is as important as knowing what stimulates you, and adequate lubrication is absolutely key here too, right?
Speaker 2:Absolutely critical. Adequate lubrication is vital for comfort and pleasure, and the source advises on different types water-soluble, silicone-based, natural oils like coconut oil, while cautioning against irritants. And finally, on birth control. It's a very common experience that hormonal birth control, like pills, patches and rings, can indeed suppress sex drive and cause vaginal dryness for some women due to their impact on natural hormonal fluctuations.
Speaker 1:That's a known side effect for some.
Speaker 2:It is the source, acknowledges this common complaint and mentions alternative, that is, the mini pill, progestin only, barrier methods like condoms, diaphragms, cervical caps and IUDs, both hormonal and non-hormonal. Ah, so there are choices. The key is to have an open conversation with your health care provider to find an option that works effectively for pregnancy prevention without significantly interfering with your desire, your natural lubrication and your overall capacity for pleasure. It's about empowering women to make informed choices that support their overall sexual vitality and well-being throughout the reproductive years. Outro.
Speaker 1:Wow, as we wrap up this profound, deep dive, it's just so clear that a woman's pleasure is far more than just a physical sensation, isn't it?
Speaker 2:So much more.
Speaker 1:It is a vital transformative source of life force, creativity and overall well-being. By truly understanding the common roadblocks, both physical and emotional, and by engaging in intentional practices, from deep self-nurturing to these ancient Taoist techniques, you can unlock an incredible wellspring of vitality and joy within yourself that really ripples out into every area of your life.
Speaker 2:It truly can. This journey is profoundly personal and it raises an important question for you, our listener, to maybe carry forward. What one small, gentle step can you take this week to nurture your erotic life?
Speaker 1:Just one small step.
Speaker 2:Perhaps it's dedicating an extra 10 minutes to self-nurturing, or simply observing your body's sensations with greater curiosity, or exploring a new texture or sensation that sparks your interest. Something small and achievable.
Speaker 1:As you've learned today, your body holds this miraculous, limitless capacity for love and sensual joy, a deeper wellspring than you might have ever imagined. So, as you move through your week, maybe consider what untapped wellspring of passion are you ready to discover within yourself today? Yeah, and how might that profound discovery ripple out to enrich your entire vibrant life? The possibilities are truly limitless. Beautifully put.