The Healing Power of Letting Go

This episode explores how true healing and personal transformation often begin when we stop trying to force outcomes and finally let go. When persistent effort, self-blame, and willpower have failed to break unhealthy patterns or heal emotional wounds, it’s often a profound surrender—an honest admission of “I can’t do this on my own anymore”—that opens the door to real change.

The episode guides listeners through the journey of self-inquiry that follows surrender: asking deep questions, searching for blind spots, and confronting hidden beliefs that block growth and healing. It introduces the role of spirituality, emphasizing the importance of believing in something greater than ourselves—whether that’s God, nature, the universe, or collective wisdom—and being open to guidance, even if it comes in unexpected forms.

Stories and reflections encourage listeners to recognize that answers and help often appear subtly: through dreams, chance encounters, or quiet moments of insight. Limits to receiving, such as low self-worth or limiting beliefs, can prevent us from seeing or accepting the support the world offers, leading to prayers that seem unanswered.

Drawing on the principles of recovery programs like Alcoholics Anonymous, the episode affirms that shifting from isolation and self-reliance to openness, humility, and trust in a higher power can be transformative. Listeners are encouraged to maintain a positive outlook, see every challenge as a potential blessing, and stay aware of life’s subtle invitations for change.

Ultimately, the episode inspires hope: Miracles and answers are possible for everyone when we ask, believe, and open ourselves to receive.

Transcript

Hello and welcome to UR a CURE Inner Power podcast. You are so welcomed here!

The beginning of healing often starts when you finally let go. You’ve tried countless times to change the outcome of a specific situation, to break a habit, or to end an addiction. You’ve approached the problem from every possible angle, yet nothing seems to work. Maybe there’s a brief improvement at first, but before long, you find yourself back where you started. You still end up in the same kind of relationship. You still regain the weight. You still return to gambling, drinking, or other habits you swore you’d quit.

After a while, you realise that nothing you’ve done has created lasting change. You feel angry and disappointed in yourself, convinced it’s because you didn’t have enough willpower. But then something shifts. You reach a point where you’re not just frustrated — you’re exhausted. Tired of repeating the same patterns, tired of ending up in the same place no matter how hard you try. It’s like exploring every possible road and path yet always ending up back where your journey started.

And it’s in this stage — when you’re worn out, when you stop forcing solutions and let yourself simply sit, cry, and feel everything — that something inside starts to break open. Strangely enough, it’s in this surrender, this honest acknowledgment of “I can’t do this like this anymore,” that genuine healing can begin.

You start asking yourself deep questions. You begin analysing your beliefs, becoming like a world‑class detective, determined to discover why you keep repeating the same patterns — whether it’s staying in a toxic relationship or struggling to lose weight.

What am I missing here?

What can’t I see?

What’s still hidden from my awareness that’s preventing me from truly changing and fully healing?

These are the kinds of questions you find yourself returning to. And this process — peeling back the layers, looking for blind spots, confronting the hidden reasons behind your struggles — is something most of us go through. 

This is where spirituality begins to play an enormous role. Spirituality is the belief that we are not just a body and a mind; we also possess a soul. It means recognizing that we are part of something much greater than ourselves—something that our limited human brains cannot fully comprehend. Most importantly, spirituality suggests that there is a source, a higher intelligence, where the answers to our deepest questions reside.

There exists a higher consciousness, a wisdom beyond the personal mind, that seeks evolution and harmony in all things. How do I know this? Simply look at nature—our planet itself holds the answers. Everything in nature evolves; everything strives toward balance and growth.

When we step back and observe the natural world, we see patterns of continual transformation, interconnectedness, and adaptation. Trees reach for sunlight, rivers carve their paths, and ecosystems self-regulate to maintain harmony. These processes unfold without conscious intervention, guided by an intelligence that underlies all existence. In this way, spirituality offers reassurance: there is a wisdom, a force, that wants everything to grow, heal, and return to balance.

By embracing spiritual perspectives, we open ourselves to the possibility that we are supported by a greater wisdom, and that answers may come—not always through logic or reason, but through intuition, connection, and a sense of trust in the unfolding journey.

So, if you are struggling to find an answer to your problem—if you don’t know what your next step should be, or if you’re searching for a way to feel just a little bit better so you can stand up again—ask. But don’t just ask passively; ask with conviction and faith, trusting that an answer already exists for you. Ask with an open heart, truly ready to receive whatever wisdom or guidance comes your way.

Often, we pray or seek help, but our own limiting beliefs block us from accepting the answers or support that are available. We might hold on to the idea that we are not worthy of anyone’s help, perhaps because of mistakes we have made or regrets we carry. Sometimes, we believe that we have done so many bad things that we no longer deserve compassion or healing. Or, maybe we see the world as an unfair place, convinced that only bad things happen to us and that people are only capable of hurting each other.

In these moments, our limiting beliefs can prevent us from receiving abundance, love, and support—even when we ask for it. If you suspect that this pattern is part of your own story, try asking the universe, your higher self, or whatever you believe in, not just for new circumstances, but for a new perspective. Request help to shift your negative outlook and replace it with openness and hope. Then, take time to observe what changes might unfold in your life.

Sometimes, the most powerful transformation begins with simply being willing to see things differently. Openness to change and a willingness to receive can be the first steps toward healing, growth, and new possibilities.

When you begin to notice changes—when help starts arriving in unexpected ways, perhaps through a dream, a kind word from another person, a coincidence in your circumstances, a song you overhear, or even a message hidden in a movie—you just know that this is the answer you’ve been waiting for. The prayer was heard, and, most importantly, you were open enough to receive it.

In those moments, you realise there has been a form of communication happening all along—a subtle dialogue between you and something greater—that you simply weren’t aware of before. It’s as if the universe, life, or a higher power has been speaking to you in a language beyond words, using symbols, synchronicity, and gentle nudges. Once your awareness shifts, you start to see messages everywhere, guiding you toward the path you were always meant to walk.

Once, I was struggling with a deeply traumatic experience that happened to me as an adult. There was so much pain, so many tangled emotions connected to this situation, that I couldn’t process it on my own. I tried to connect with those feelings, but it felt as if something was blocking me from truly expressing them.

I believe now that they were connected to something similar that might have happened to me in childhood, which is why I wasn’t able to fully release or transmute those emotions. I prayed and asked for help. I said that I had tried everything I could, but the pain was unbearable, and I couldn’t help myself anymore.

That night, I had a dream. I dreamt that I was an elderly, life-weary man with a bushy beard. I was in my parents’ flat and wanted to go to the toilet, but I couldn’t. I went to the bathroom, where I found an elevation resembling a theatre balcony. In the dream, two women handed me a box about 20 cm long and 10 cm wide. I opened it and took out a red toy car. The box was intended for defecation, but I knew it was too small and that using it would make me dirty.

The dream then shifted, and I found myself in an unfamiliar room. Still in the form of the elderly, bearded man, I was confronted by a man of authority—someone clearly more important. He touched my chest. I saw my tired, bearded face contort into a grimace and realised that I had soiled myself.

The next day, while meditating, the image from the dream suddenly returned. In an instant, I felt a suction-like sensation in my chest, as if a vacuum nozzle was placed there, pulling something out of me. I knew a miracle had just happened—my pain had been taken away. Just like in the dream, through the touch of this authoritative figure, I released the pain I had been carrying in my chest for so long.

I was told not to speak about it to anyone for a day or two, and I followed that guidance. Before that day, even thinking about the traumatic experience would fill me with overwhelming pain. After that meditation, I was finally at peace.

These types of miracles can happen once you believe, and you are open to receiving. And believe me, I am not special or different than you. I believe we all have this ability to communicate with the source, God whatever you want to call it. 

Even in the AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) program, belief in something greater than ourselves plays a crucial role. One of the core steps involves admitting that we, on our own, do not have full control over our addiction and that our personal willpower alone isn’t enough to bring about lasting change. This acknowledgment of our own limits opens the door to seeking help from a higher power—whatever that may mean for each individual.

For some, this “something bigger” is understood as God in a traditional religious sense; for others, it may be the collective wisdom of the group, the power of love, the laws of nature, or simply the concept of universal order. The essence is the same: recognising that healing often requires guidance, strength, and support that goes beyond our individual mind and ego.

This belief helps people shift from isolation and self-reliance to a state of openness, humility, and receptivity. It transforms the recovery journey from a lonely uphill battle into a shared path where trust and surrender become as important as personal effort. And it’s often in this surrender—this willingness to lean on something greater—that many individuals find the courage, clarity, and energy to keep going.

So, keep asking, stay open, and remain aware of what is unfolding in your life. The answer—the help you’ve been asking for—may not always arrive in the form you expect. It might come as a new situation that gives you a chance to act differently, or as a challenge that forces you to grow into the version of yourself you’ve been asking to become.

Always try to maintain a positive outlook, holding the belief that everything—yes, everything—is happening for your highest good. Think about something from your past that you once saw as a painful failure or a serious problem. Looking back, what did it actually do for you? Did it make you stronger, wiser, or more compassionate? Did it protect you from going down the wrong path?

When you start to view your reality through this lens, life transforms. You begin to see it as a miraculous journey in which every event holds meaning and purpose. You recognize that even the most difficult moments can carry seeds of blessings, and that magic truly exists in the way life shapes, guides, and supports your growth.

There are so many people who pray every day in churches, asking for things like health, financial stability, better relationships, or new opportunities. Yet, many wonder—why aren't their prayers being answered? In my view, it often comes down to a couple of key reasons. First, they may not truly believe they are worthy of receiving what they ask for. Second, they might overlook the subtle opportunities the world offers to help them get what they've been asking for.

Let’s imagine someone is praying for a better relationship with their children. Perhaps opportunities for connection do arise—maybe their child reaches out in a small way, or there's a chance to spend time together—but these moments go unnoticed or unappreciated because they were expecting something bigger or more dramatic. Sometimes, improvement comes in the form of quiet invitations: a simple conversation, a shared meal, or an act of kindness. If we are trapped in doubt or the belief that we don’t deserve good things, we might miss these openings entirely.

In many cases, prayers are not "unanswered;" rather, the response comes in ways that require us to be truly open and receptive. The belief that we are worthy is essential—it creates space to recognize and accept the gifts that life offers. If we expect help to come in a specific form, we might miss small but meaningful signs of progress. Becoming aware of these subtle opportunities is just as important as making the initial prayer.

In essence, the act of asking through prayer is only half the process; the other half is believing we deserve the answer and staying open enough to truly see it when it arrives, even in unexpected forms.

As usual, I wish you all the best and if you have any questions please get in touch. 

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