Letโs Get Real with Jena Burris
Welcome to Letโs Get Real, the podcast for women who feel like theyโre holding it all together on the outsideโฆ but falling apart on the inside.
If youโre exhausted from pretending, overwhelmed by the pressure to be everything for everyone, or unsure who you even are anymoreโyouโre not alone. And youโre not crazy.
Letโs Get Real is where we have honest conversations about the struggles most people avoidโhealing emotional wounds, losing yourself in motherhood, rebuilding your identity, and learning how to live whole again.
Iโm Jena Burrisโwife, mom, and your host. With a background in marriage and family therapy, life coaching, and years spent navigating life behind the scenes of the NFL and Hollywood, Iโm passionate about creating a space where real conversations lead to real healing.
Each week, youโll hear real stories, practical tools, and the reminder that freedom is closer than you think. Because I believe that in order to heal, we have to get real.
New episodes every Tuesday. Real talk. Real tools. Real healing.
For speaking inquiries, brand partnerships, or workshop opportunities, visit www.jenaburris.com or email jena@jenaburris.com.
Letโs Get Real with Jena Burris
How Your Attachment Style Shapes Motherhood (Part 1) with Bev Mitelman
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Feeling overwhelmed and like youโve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood?
Youโre not alone. And you donโt have to keep feeling this way.
I created this FREE guide for you:
๐ The Overwhelmed Momโs Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again
Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate.
๐ Grab it here: https://jenaburris.kit.com/ecc29b3801
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Guest: Bev Mitelman
Motherhood often feels like youโre holding everything together with duct tape and sheer willpower. From the outside, it might look like youโve got it all together. But on the inside? Youโre tired, stretched thin, and quietly wondering:
๐ โWhy do I keep reacting this way? Why do I feel so unseen, even in my own family?โ
If youโve ever had those thoughts, this conversation is for you.
In todayโs episode, I sit down with Bev Mitelman, founder of Securely Loved, a certified attachment practitioner, and a mom of two. Bev grew up in a chaotic, unstable home filled with conflict and mental illness. While her parents did love her, she never felt truly safe emotionally โ and that shaped how she learned to give and receive love.
What We Talk About in This Episode
โจ The impact of childhood chaos โ Bev shares what it was like to grow up without emotional safety and how that shaped her patterns as an adult.
โจ Attachment styles explained โ What it means to have a secure attachment vs. an insecure one, and how kids develop survival strategies to hold on to love.
โจ The people-pleasing wound โ How children who fear abandonment learn to put their own needs last, tiptoe around others, and grow up feeling like they have to โearnโ love.
Why This Matters for Moms
As Bev says, the emotional safety of a child is just as important as food, shelter, and clothing. Without it, we carry wounds like:
โIโm not good enough.โ
โI will be abandoned.โ
โMy needs donโt matter.โ
Those wounds donโt magically disappear when we become adults. They resurface in our parenting, our marriages, and even our friendships.
Bev reminds us: healing your attachment wounds isnโt selfish. Itโs one of the greatest gifts you can give your children. Because when you heal, you teach your kids by example that their needs matter too.
As Bev described the anxious, preoccupied style โ the tendency to put everyone else first, to constantly seek advice before trusting your own decisions โ I found myself nodding through tears. Iโve lived this. Iโve been the mom who calls three friends before sending a text. Iโve been the woman who felt like I had to shrink myself to keep peace in the room.
And it hit me: I canโt expect my kids to grow up secure if I donโt model what security looks like. My healing matters for their healing.
Listen to Part 1 Now
This episode is raw, real, and foundational. If youโve ever wondered why you react the way you do in motherhood โ why the anger, the fear, or the people-pleasing feels so automatic โ Bevโs story and wisdom will help you make sense of it.
๐ Start with Part 1 here, and donโt miss Part 2, where weโll go deeper into practical tools for breaking free from these patterns.
You donโt have to carry this alone anymore. Letโs take the next step together.
Connect with Bev:
IG: https://www.instagram.com/securely_loved/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SecurelyLoved
Website: https://securelyloved.com/
P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters โ and Iโm here for you.