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How Your Attachment Style Shapes Motherhood (Part 2) with Bev Mitelman

October 07, 2025 • Jena Burris • Episode 22

𝓕𝓻𝓮𝓮 𝓡𝓮𝓼𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓬𝓮 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝓜𝓸𝓶𝓼

Feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood?
You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way.

I created this FREE guide for you:
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𝐄𝐩 𝟐𝟐 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐀𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐒𝐭𝐲𝐥𝐞 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐞𝐬 𝐌𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐝 (𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝟐) 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐁𝐞𝐯 𝐌𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐦𝐚𝐧

Guest: Bev Mitelman

If Part 1 was about uncovering the roots of your attachment style, Part 2 is all about what happens when those roots show up in the messy, everyday moments of motherhood.

Because let’s be honest—our kids don’t trigger us in theory. They trigger us in the middle of making dinner when someone wants to “help” and you’re already exhausted. They trigger us when a slammed bedroom door sends our blood pressure through the roof. They trigger us when we’re trying to do everything perfectly—bake the Pinterest-worthy cake, say yes to every request—and then wonder why we feel so resentful and unseen.

In this episode, Bev Mitelman, founder of Securely Loved and a certified attachment practitioner, brings her 25+ years of experience and her own raw stories as a mom of two to help us see these patterns with new clarity. More importantly, she gives us tools to pause, repair, and create connection instead of chaos.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

✨ Repair is possible. Why it’s never too late to go back and say, “I missed it yesterday—but here’s what I wish I had said.”
✨ Perfectionism doesn’t equal love. Bev shares a personal story about three-layer birthday cakes that will change how you think about “being a good mom.”
✨ The danger of “should.” Why this one little word keeps us stuck in guilt, shame, and exhaustion—and how to replace it with freedom.
✨ Boundaries = love. Why people-pleasing isn’t kindness, and how learning to set limits is a gift to both you and your kids.
✨ Practical calming tools. From naming body cues (like a tight chest or hot flush) to moving your body when emotions spike, Bev shows us how to shift from fight-or-flight back into calm.

Why This Conversation Matters

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking…

“I have to do it all, or I’m not enough.”
“I can’t say no without disappointing someone.”
“I’m so tired of reacting before I even realize it.”

…this episode will remind you: you’re not broken beyond repair, you’re not alone, and you’re not stuck.

Bev reminds us that perfection isn’t the goal—connection is. When we regulate ourselves, repair after we miss it, and model boundaries and honesty, we’re giving our kids something far more valuable than flawless parenting: a secure foundation for their own lives.

🎧 Haven’t caught Part 1 yet? Listen here before diving in—it lays the groundwork for everything we talk about today.

Connect with Bev:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/securely_loved/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SecurelyLoved

Website: https://securelyloved.com/

P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters — and I’m here for you.