Let’s Get Real with Jena Burris
Welcome to Let’s Get Real, the podcast for women who feel like they’re holding it all together on the outside… but falling apart on the inside.
If you’re exhausted from pretending, overwhelmed by the pressure to be everything for everyone, or unsure who you even are anymore—you’re not alone. And you’re not crazy.
Let’s Get Real is where we have honest conversations about the struggles most people avoid—healing emotional wounds, losing yourself in motherhood, rebuilding your identity, and learning how to live whole again.
I’m Jena Burris—wife, mom, and your host. With a background in marriage and family therapy, life coaching, and years spent navigating life behind the scenes of the NFL and Hollywood, I’m passionate about creating a space where real conversations lead to real healing.
Each week, you’ll hear real stories, practical tools, and the reminder that freedom is closer than you think. Because I believe that in order to heal, we have to get real.
New episodes every Tuesday. Real talk. Real tools. Real healing.
For speaking inquiries, brand partnerships, or workshop opportunities, visit www.jenaburris.com or email jena@jenaburris.com.
Let’s Get Real with Jena Burris
Real Tools for Handling Anger, Conflict & Parenting Triggers With Davina Hehn
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Episode 50: Real Tools for Handling Anger, Conflict & Parenting Triggers
With Davina Hehn
So many of us were never actually taught how to feel our emotions, communicate clearly under stress, or handle conflict in healthy ways. We were told to stay calm. To not overreact. To “just communicate better.” But without real tools, we often end up repeating the same emotional cycles we grew up with.
And parenting? Parenting exposes all of it.
The triggers we didn’t know we had suddenly surface. Old wounds get activated. Reactions happen faster than we can think. And we’re left wondering, Why does this keep happening? And how do I actually change it?
In this episode, I sit down with therapist, coach, and podcast host Davina Hehn, who teaches emotional regulation and conflict skills to individuals, couples, and parents. Through her work, she realized most people were never taught the foundational skills needed to navigate anger or emotional intensity in the first place.
Rethinking Anger & Emotional Triggers
This conversation reframes anger completely. Instead of seeing it as something to suppress or tightly manage, Davina explains how anger can actually be information. A signal. An advocate for change.
We talk about the shame that surrounds anger, especially for women, and how that shame keeps us isolated and stuck. Davina breaks down the neurobiology of triggers, explaining how our bodies react in a fraction of a second, before our brain even has language for what’s happening.
Parenting often magnifies unresolved wounds. The boundary crossings, the noise, the overwhelm, they connect to experiences we may not even realize are still active. Moving from self-judgment to curiosity becomes a powerful shift. Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?” we begin asking, “What is this connected to?”
That shift alone changes everything.
A Practical Framework for Real Change
Self-awareness is important, but it isn’t enough. Knowing why we react doesn’t automatically change the reaction.
Davina shares her SHIFT framework, a practical, repeatable way to move through anger and conflict in real time. Instead of trying to eliminate anger or strive for perfection, she focuses on healing, repair, and innovation. Small, intentional changes that create ripple effects over time.
We talk about repairing with your kids in ways that build trust, how to take responsibility without shame, and why growth isn’t dramatic, it’s incremental. It’s messy. It’s practiced.
You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be willing to take the next small step.
If you’ve ever felt triggered in ways that surprised you…
If you’ve felt shame around your anger…
If you’re determined to break generational patterns…
This episode will give you language, tools, and hope.
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P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters — and I’m here for you.