Inside The Mill Episode 21

Comfort Is Killing Your Results

In this episode, Coach Christian and Seth Humphrey dive into how comfort and instant gratification sabotage long-term results, especially in fitness and personal development. They explore practical ways to push through discomfort and unlock your full potential.

Key Topics:

• How comfort zones prevent progress and results
• The power of intentional discomfort for growth
• Recognizing and overcoming instant gratification habits
• The importance of small pivots and foundational changes
• Long-term mindset shifts for sustainable success
• The role of accountability and coaching
• Strategies to reframe challenges as opportunities

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to Inside the Mill. We talk real fitness, real results, and the stories to prove it. Welcome back to another episode Inside the Mill Podcast. Coach Christian here. My main man Seth. Today's podcast episode is Comfort is Killing You and Your Results. Man, whenever I thought of this title and thought of this podcast episode, I was thinking about whenever you started working with uh, you know, you saw one of our clients in the gym that just, you know, wasn't getting results and you knew he was capable of a lot more and knew how powerful he would be if he would actually tighten some things up and get more serious about his results. And I remember when you laid out a plan for him, had just a few minor adjustments that he needed to make. And then instantly he liked, he just had some pushback of like, well, I don't want to go to bed at that time. Let's do it at this time instead, or man, I don't want to stop cutting off my eating at this time because this and that. And it was like you gave him the simple, sustainable things to do, but it was that instant pushback, and it was because he was comfortable with what he was currently doing. But it's that comfort that got him the results that he even has in the first place. And those results that he has, he wasn't happy with. And so, man, I feel like we're all guilty of it, but we get into this mindset of like, man, like we start making exceptions for why we do the things we do. And it just keeps us in that never-ending hamster wheel of like wanting to get results, but not doing the things that you know you need to do in order to get the results, whether the plan's laid out for you or not. And then that's the thing with a lot of individuals is we know what we need to do. We know we should eat this and not eat this, but it's how it makes us feel in the moment where it feels good then, but then at the end of it, that's when your confidence starts to go down. That's when your results start to go in the other direction. But it's that like instant gratification that we get from eating the food that's bad, but it tastes good, or sleeping in, hitting snooze on your alarm because in the moment it feels good to get a little bit more rest, but then you're groggy when you wake up and you just feel worse, and it's killing your confidence and it's killing your results. But uh, whenever I was saying in this episode, I'm just like, man, like that was just such a such a key example of it. But then once he kind of released the grip and started to listen to you, like results started to pour in. It's like, bro, like the the results can be there, but you have to get uncomfortable in order to even get those results.

SPEAKER_01 2:16

Yeah. You've heard this before, but you've got to choose your hard. It's hard to give up food at a certain time at night. It's hard to uh give up caffeine a certain part part of day. It's like there's things that we do that's hard, like running's hard for me. Like it's my it's easy for you, but it's hard for you. It's hard for me right now. And I say hard, but I mean it's something I get through, but it's not something I'm good at right now. Uh and so like oftentimes, like if our mindset stays of just like, hey, I'm I'm and that's where most people are. The most people are in this good place. That most people that we work with are in this good, this good state. And I always say that like the person that's in that good, they are worse off than the person that is is struggling. And the reason for that is is the individual that's doing good, he's comfortable or she's comfortable, and they they're grabbing hold of something that's that's comfortable right now, and they like their results and like the the benefits they have from the certain results they have. They are so comfortable they will never let go of that that good to grab on to what is great. So they could be 30, 40 pounds overweight, but prior to that, they might have been 100 pounds over the weight. And so they get to that where they have 40 pounds left, and they just go, hey, I'm good. Right here, look, yeah, this is way better than it was when I was 60 pounds heavier or whatever it may be. And it's like, yeah, but you've got this whole other arena that you can open up, area version of you that you can open up that you've never experienced. And like, man, with me, it's like, I'll be transparent with you as far as the running stuff goes, is it's like, I want to exhaust my body. I want uh my and I or my machine, however you want to look at it, this machine that I have that it that I want to just tap it out. I want by the end of when it's when it's my time and I'm I'm on my deathbed and you come see me. I want to be like, bro, look at all the things you've done with your body that you've put it through, that you've and like you've exhausted it. I don't want to be, I don't want to sit there and have like a a machine that's got very used mileage and it's not it's not been used very much and it's still clean, it still don't have any dents in it or anything like that. I want to build I want to know that I went all in, that I at the highest level I pushed myself so I don't have any regret when I uh when I pass. And so for for the individuals that are good, I would just say, like, what if? What if like on that other side you opened up this other version of you, but also that what your kids get to see that and they'd be like, like my son's watching me. He's watched me from the from age three, he's watching me work out, he's watching me be a little bit overweight, he's watching me eat like a buffoon, but he's also watched me the other side of it of kill that kill versions of myself off and and step into a whole new arena of other experiences and problems and issues and continue to come out on top with uh with it as well. So you get to choose. That's a cool thing.

SPEAKER_00 5:14

And you know, you brought up the example of you know running being easy for me and it being challenging for you, but like that's just because I've been doing it a little bit longer than you have as far as the running side of things. So at first, it sucked. Like I'd go out there and be half a mile in and like, bro, I'm about to walk. Like this sucks. But now I can go out there and run eight, nine, ten miles and be totally fine. But it's something that I have done over and over and over again in order to what used to be hard has now become normal to me and become a lot easier. And I think that that's a side of it that a lot of people don't see. And it's kind of a possibility of it is yeah, right now, thinking about going into a social event and not partaking in the food that is there, that seems very hard because you're always the person that goes in there and you eat what's there because you're in that environment. But whenever you say no to it a couple of times, it starts to become easier to go, you know what? I think I'm just gonna eat beforehand and then just go and be in that environment, but not feel so controlled by having to eat those things. Um, or it can be, I mean, plenty, plenty of examples like that, whether it be, you know, waking up in the morning and thinking, dude, there's no way that I could just wake up on one alarm because you always hit the snooze button. But then you you start to just get up and you start to realize, wow, I actually feel a lot better. I feel a lot more energized when I don't hit snooze. I feel more confidence in myself because I didn't lie to myself and say I was gonna get up at this time, but hit snooze over and over and over again. You start to see the result of it. And then the result of it, the fruit of it is what makes you want to go. You know what? I'm gonna do that again. And it starts to feel better and better. And then you start to kill off that version that was telling you, oh, I can't do this, I'll never be that person, because you start to tell that person, no, I'm gonna be this person over and over and over again. And it's a skill set that you build just like anything else. But it seems impossible at first because you always give into that comfortability that where you feel really good and really, really comfortable in that situation. But then once you kill that version off over and over and over again, it starts to feel better. And dude, like that version's always gonna be there though, too. Like whenever my alarm goes off in the morning, I used to always be that guy that hits snooze. But then now, like I get up on the first alarm. And don't get me wrong, like I'm tempted. There's times where I'm like, dude, I'm way too tired. If I get more rest, I'll feel a lot better. But um, I just continue to go no because I know what it looks like on the other side and it's and it's kills my confidence in myself. It hurts the way that I show up for for work and the way that I'm able to impact other people. And so it's uh it's something it's more so just a skill set that you're gonna build whenever you continue to say no to that person that's not getting you the result that you want.

SPEAKER_01 7:48

I think that's the it's the it's the changing of the perspective. Because like you said, it's like it was hard for you, and then it becomes something where it's not it's not uh it's not hard anymore, it becomes manageable and becomes something that you probably uh even look forward to once you start to uh adopt it. I can see that where, you know, a couple weeks ago I ran seven miles, and then uh this week I ran eight miles, and then uh this I looked uh today to see how much I gotta run on uh Sunday, and it's just six to eight miles. And so then I look at that and I go, and I never, I never thought I'd get to that point where I'd look at like six miles and go, oh, it's just six, it's just six miles. Let's just do six miles. But that it's it's it's the refining of, you know, since January, it's been riding the riding the bike, it's been practicing on my breathing, it's been doing these, doing all this stuff that's that's leading up to me to start running. So it didn't, I'm not doing I'm running the half marathon, but I so are you, but I run it for the memorial, but I'm not doing it and attacking it like everybody else would. So uh whereas the running side of it, it's like those six, eight miles I got to run, it's like, yeah, that's difficult for me. But leading up to that, I got myself to a place of I didn't do it like everybody else did, where I just started like, you know, if Seth was building it out, I have a performance coach that's building all my stuff, but Seth was building that out. What I would have done was well, I just started running a lot. And I probably would have got hurt. Probably got hurt, had some type of injury something. Yeah, yeah. Um just just following somebody else's format and plan for me because they have a different perspective and they can see something I can't see. You know, that guy that I I'm helping, great dude. Like, and he's getting great results, and and like we can get even better results. But it's one of those things too that I understand that, like, hey, you know what? Like, okay, you you're pushing back and you don't want to give up caffeine this early, or you don't want to go to bed this early, and you don't want to quit eating this early, that's fine. I still know that there's just some small pivots that we can make, and those small pivots have gotten him down to uh 16, 17 pounds now, to where now when it gets to that that next spot and he gets to where he can't lose any weight, maybe, and he's maintaining or whatever, and he's gonna get to a spot where it's like, man, I want to get that extra weight off now because he's now he's back into the swing of things. When he made that decision and told me that he was still uh he was still heavier and did hadn't lost that 16, 17 pounds, but he'll slowly start to become a different kind of guy and have a different version of him, a different perspective, much like I am with running, to where he'll be like, okay, I'm ready to give up something else now because I realize that that's the only thing that's gonna get me to that next piece. I have a problem with sometimes with giving clients seeing everything through my perspective of the my lens and thinking that everybody should be able to do the things or or think the way or what that I what the way I do things, but then I have to like step take a step back and realize that like I've put a lot of time and energy and focus into to working these skill sets and building these skill sets up. And so oftentimes we just need to start that uh that's what we're doing with the results in advance, is we're starting with the simple. And then we'll graduate you in until we get you to a place of where now you're like, I know what I know how to work out, I know how to eat, I know how to, I just need to maintain my weight now. And once you get to a place where it's main maintenance, oh, it starts to get fun.

SPEAKER_00 11:12

Yeah, and changing the the person that you currently are, like it's scary. It's scary to know that like in order for me to grow, it's gonna require some tension, just like us building muscle. Like we know that, okay, I've been doing 20 pounds on my dumbbell bench press for a while. Like, if I'm gonna get to the next version of myself that I want to be, I'm gonna have to go up and wait. It's gonna be a little bit scary at first, you know.

SPEAKER_01 11:34

If you need a spot on those 25.

SPEAKER_00 11:36

Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna need you, need you there for me. But you know, going up in weight, like it's it's scary, but then you you do it and you realize, okay, I am capable of this because I've been prepping myself to be that version. But it's it's definitely scary and it's it's scary in a way of like, hey, there's gonna be some tension where I might have to have some hard conversations with some people, or I might have to say no to going to that that get together because I know right now I'm just tempted and I don't have the the willpower to stay away from that, or I'm gonna have to have a talk with my wife because she's cooking a certain kind of food for dinner every single night, but it's not necessarily in line with the direction that I want to go. So I'm gonna kind of step out and lead and eat my own things and still not, you know, point the finger and say, hey, she needs to eat this, but I'm gonna take the initiative to lead by example. And that might, you know, rub some rubber the wrong way. But if I continue to lead, continue to get the results, then you know, she's gonna, you'll probably see that and it's gonna rub off on her. So just knowing that, like, hey, in order to get the results, like I'm gonna face some resistance, I'm gonna face some some you know tension from some other people. But it once you continue to get the results, be that version, you're gonna show up on a different level and it's gonna benefit not only you, but it's gonna benefit the people around you too. So just knowing that that that's what comes with the development side of it. Pathway, definitely uh, I think just people starting out small and just looking at one area of their life or like, where am I super comfortable? And what do I need, what version do I need to kill off in order to um in order to get the results that I want to do? So if it's somebody that's, you know, nighttime snacking, that that was a common thing. I know for me, like I would eat dinner and I would instantly want something sweet after that every single night that I would eat dinner. And so, you know, it used to be popcorn and ice cream that I I like to do every night, but I noticed like me doing that every single night, like I'm not, I'm staying stagnant. It's um not gonna give me the results I want. So then it became like, hey, I'm just gonna eat two pieces of dark chocolate, which I found out was uh something that was lower in calories. It still gave me that sweet tooth that I wanted, but it's identifying little small things like that. And then what you'll start to notice is okay, once I get a handle on this, what's the next area that I need to attack and focus on? But we're never gonna be perfect. So there's always some little thing that we can attack, but not trying to do it all at once, just picking one specific thing. And this is where having a coach is huge. Like I've been able to, with our clients that are, you know, tracking their calories, I've been able to go through and look at their MyFitnessPal and go, hey, just change this one thing today. We'll see how your body responds to that. And then the next day, you know, if we need to make another adjustment, we will. But I'm not giving them there, could be 10 things that I could see and and pick apart by what they're doing, but we're just gonna focus on one thing at a time. So having a coach is super key for that because the coach has the education that you don't and has the um, you know, some guidelines that that you may not be able to see that they can point you in the right direction and help get you the results. Yeah, I'm good on that. Well, man, I think that you could pitch our uh our results in advance and uh, you know, we can kind of give some people some clarity on that. That's something new that we're doing, you know, and really simplifying things even more than what we already have with the nutrition that we're gonna have and with the way that we're bringing clients in and then kind of building more of a community with bringing a group of people in together um at one time. But kind of getting back to some of our old things that we saw was working and uh yeah, getting people in that way.

SPEAKER_01 14:49

Yeah, so much like Christian, uh, we've talked about in this, uh, something's got to change at all times. And so, like what we're looking at at the Vitality Mill, looking at time and energy, like um I I get limited time and energy, uh, and Christian gets limited time and energy. And so, how can we best facilitate and provide a top-of-line service, but at the same time, provide a top-of-line service and be able to uh systemize it and structure it out so that we could get long-term results. And so one of the one of the holes that we saw was I know that there are people who have, and I know this from us doing tons of uh uh consultation, bringing new clients in, is I understand that there's some people that have been watching what we're building, what we're doing on the outside for a while now with the Vitality Mill. And I also know that there are a lot of stories and beliefs and that people have created as well of like the price it may be, or they may think this is a boot camp, or they may think it's they don't really know what it is, a CrossFit or whatever it is, and they have no understanding of really what it is that we do inside the vitality mill. And so it was our idea of having something called results in advance that is a 30-day for you to be able to come in, experience what it is that we do inside the vitality mill, work out with us, uh, eat us, uh, and then more than anything, start to uh make some small pivots on the way that you start to view things when it comes to your nutrition and your workouts, your sleep, your recovery, getting steps in, these little basic things. And once we do that over that 30 days, you can make a better informed decision on like, I love this place and I want to keep moving. Then a client continues to move forward with as they go in to our either our 42-day or our uh uh 12 and 12 program. But ultimately what we're trying to do is get those clients through two phases of our program. That's that momentum phase and that skill set phase. And we know that if we get them through those two phases, that they're gonna be equipped uh to be able to get results and have sustainable results long term. And there's no reason for you to come in and you to work out and you to do anything if you're not trying to get sustainable results. And that's what we want to help you with. And so with that results in advanced live, one of the things we're gonna do is we're gonna start having bi-weekly just a uh what we call results in advance live. It's gonna be a live call where you get to come in and you know, we want to have a good number of individuals on that call, but they can watch it, they can learn where they are, where they're wanting to go, the obstacles, and we're gonna show them the pathway of how to get there. And then they can make a raise their hand and say, hey, this is something I definitely need to do, and I'm I want to take action on this and get a discounted rate for that results in advanced live. And the cool thing is, is after they um they commit to that 30 days, if they move forward with us, we give them that 30 days uh to help them reinvest it back in so they can continue moving forward with us. Um and that's what we see is you have to have a carrot at the end of the stick that kind of keeps people uh fired up and um and moving forward because what we do know is like whenever you raise your hand, you start getting better, there is some resistance that shows up. And so if you can have that carrot at the end of the stick, it helps you across the board. So that's ultimately what we're trying to do is get you to come in 30 days, try out what we're doing, see if it's something that's great for you. If it is, then great, we'll move forward. If not, then we'll knuckle bump and we will um if we didn't do what we said we're gonna do, and you're not blown away, we'll give you your investment back. But uh that's not gonna happen. Uh, you'll be happy and you'll love what it is, and that's why we're that's why we want to do something like that. Where it's 30 days, it's not such a big commitment, but you're still getting to try it out. So if that's something you're interested in, be looking out for the ads, but also on you can message us and say, like, hey, I want in on that first group of results in advance, and then you can message us, we'll put you in and get you on the schedule and and go from there.

SPEAKER_00 18:43

Yeah, that's it. We'd love to see you guys, and that'll wrap up another episode of Inside the Mill Podcast. See y'all in the next one.