What If You Acted Like You’re Already Abundant

What if the season you’re in isn’t breaking you, but refining you? We open up about eclipse energy that turned the spotlight inward, pairing it with the raw reality of premenopause, chemo fatigue, and the kind of shadow work you can’t out-hustle. This is a candid walk through grief for an old self, body changes after surgery, and a training plan that’s more about regulation and resilience than hitting every box on a to-do list.

From there, we tackle a truth that stings: the body keeps score, and sometimes it writes in symptoms. Rage, UTIs, insomnia, and forgetfulness become signposts to boundaries that need voice. Therapy sessions, breathwork, and strength training sit alongside prayer and intuition, reminding us that spiritual insight and medical support can be teammates. Ancestral blessings, a partner’s well-meant “fixing,” and the noise of social media all weave into a lesson about energy hygiene and kinder pacing.

The lens then widens to wealth. While “already healed” rolls off the tongue with conviction, “already abundant” stalls. We unpack how inner child beliefs about safety can block receiving, and we redefine abundance as clarity, collaborators, creativity, capacity, timing, and wisdom. From that ground, we practice acting from enoughness: pitch without panic, create without chasing, invite from overflow, and let aligned people find your frequency. An oracle pull on boundaries anchors this shift—living, kind, and mutual—followed by a gentle inner child visualization to help you meet the protector within.

If this resonates, share it with someone who’s growing through a tender season. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what’s one boundary or belief you’re updating to move like you’re already abundant?

Transcript

Setting The Stage: Eclipse Energy

Dora 1:30

Hola my gente, welcome back to IMIHITA Embracing Your Roots, Reclaim Your Essentia. I'm your host, Doralicia Parcedis, intuitive healer, life coach, eldest daughter, first gen Latina, Mama, Mujer in Evolution. And today we're talking about eclipse season, premenopause, inner child healing, and abundance, which are my favorite. Because apparently the universe said, Oh, you want expansion? First, let's clean under the surface, Mijita. And baby, it has been cleaning. Lately, I've been feeling all the feels, I've been going through all the emotional part, working through it, and that's where in this episode we'll dive in on how I've been navigating this past week. And next week on Tuesday, it's going to be a full moon eclipse. So I thought, hey, why not just put it all out there? So grab your cafecito, your tea, your beverage of choice, and make yourself comfy. And let's get into today's episode. So, as last week's episode, I mentioned the new moon eclipse and what it all entails. So if you didn't have a chance, you can go back and listen. But eclipses bring sudden realizations, identity shifts, endings that feel faded, truths you can't unsee. And there's a lot of stuff that comes up to the surface. They reveal the shadow, especially with the full moon coming up. And this eclipse season, it hasn't felt external at all. It's been all internal work for me, especially with the shadow work. It's been like the universe turned on a flashlight inside my nervous system, and I feel like I'm a glow stick. Like a fucking glow stick inside. And it's paired with pre-menopause. So whoof, all the different things, all the different feels. And it's just there's a lot coming up to the surface. There's a lot of things that I already knew, and a lot of things that I didn't know that I wasn't prepared for, especially on my own healing journey. But there's things that are ending, and in these past few episodes, I've been sharing how I've been grieving my old self. Well, this week hasn't been no exception. I think week after week it builds on the last week. And it doesn't take like a day, it doesn't take a good cry. It takes some it's a little longer now for me to process these emotions and these heavy, I want to call boulders, these heavy rocks, big rocks, boulders, um, in my journey because I need to break them down. And there's times where I'm working my nine to five and I just start crying out of nowhere. And it's an ugly cry. Um I have often this week asked my husband to just hear me out. And I don't know if it's a men thing or what, but he just wants to fix everything. Um and because he can't fix me necessarily, he started remodeling our bathroom, which ironically that's something he's been wanting to do, but uh he can't do it all in one day like he did before. So he took a few days, and as he was remodeling the bathroom, I started thinking, wow, that's where I'm also going through my own thing of remodeling my life, remodeling how I view and how I want to proceed my business, my life, my job, the people I interact with, and everything that I was taught in business school years back when I went to college. It's very different navigating the waters nowadays, especially with all the different tools at our hand at hand: AI, the works, how it is politically, politically climate. I'm not gonna get into the politics here, but you get what I mean. There's a lot of stuff that's heavy in our heart, heavy in our body, in our minds, in our souls, spiritually, we're bombarded. I feel when I go on social, because I pick up on people's vibes and stuff, and I see way more than the picture holds, or what the let's just call the post means. And I don't even read the caption at times. I pick up on a lot of energy. So this is where I feel like I'm cracking open on my intuitive gifts even more. And it's a blessing and a curse at times because I'm learning how to navigate life with them instead of shutting them out like I've done in the past. I've always bypassed, I've always just gone through my emotions, work, family, cook, uh, work out, do all the things, check all the boxes from the day. But now life is looking very different for me. Um, last week I had energy to knock out 10 things. This week I have energy to do maybe one or two. It's like that's the reality on a daily basis. Like, I've been so hard on myself, and this forgetfulness is really getting at me. So let's get into the different things that have been happening this week. So, one of the things I really want to normalize is pre-menopause. And it's not just about hot flashes, it's emotional excavation, it's old grief resurfacing. I think one of the different triggers I have is I'm going through a major shift. And I know this happens for me every eight years. And I turned 39 in December. Of course, this was no exception. This has been a big year for me this past year, and I have a new body. A little help with plastic surgery. I was able to get obviously new boobies and a tummy tuck. But I'm working on my body. I've been working on it since October 2024. I've lost 50 pounds. At the heaviest, I weighed 226 right after my surgery, and I've been able to get down to 175. Before surgery, though, I went into it at 170. My goal now with my body, aggrieving this body of my old body of mine. I like my I actually liked my gordito. I like my fat. I liked being thick. I and being a Latina, like who does not associate with being thick, right? Um, and my hubby, he loves my nalgas, my butt. And that's one thing that I, you know, obviously with weight loss, it's inevitable. It you lose, you lose the fat, you lose the you know, the curb and curviness. So guess what? I have to go to the gym a little more. And my focus now is my lower body. I want to get toned, I want to gain muscle. And my, I'm not gonna say what's the word I'm looking for. My adventurous ass, let's put it that way, um, signed up for a challenge at Orange Theory for six weeks. It's doing three workouts at least every week. And because I have through work, I have benefits, and I have the OnePass, I could do Orange Theory, Spinga, Pilates, Yoga, um, the works, right? There's a lot. Stretch lab, I also go on Sunday, every other Sunday. And I signed up for this Orange Theory. My goodness, is that kicking my ass right now? Um, kicking my ass in a good way because I'm whipping my body into shape. And I love that when I'm on the treadmill, there's like this whole wall of sayings, and one of them that sticks with me all the time. And I don't know, it's because I stick to the same treadmill or relatively close to the same treadmill number every time. My magic numbers are eight and eleven and seven. But it says that like the real magic happens in the orange zone, and the orange theory is you have to be in that orange zone with the heart rate. And I'm not gonna lie, there's sometimes I get up to the red, even if I'm walking in an incline because it's so hard, so damn hard for me. Um, but I made a pact with one of my friends that we're gonna do a 5K later this year, so I figured why not get into shape with this. And with the chemo treatments, the doctor said you have to work out, not have to, but it helps with the muscle soreness, and then the cardio helps with the brain fog. So let me tell you, it's been helping. Ironically, it's been helping, and especially with the foods that I eat, I feel nourished. I do have to remember to eat. Oh, and side note, um, in October in January of 2025, so a year ago, my doctor diagnosed me with insulin resistance. So that's where my doctor and I did talk about all the options, and I did decide to go with Zipbound. And I know that is such a fab right now or uh bandwagon or whatever you want to call it, but that's in part how I lost my weight was through Zipbound and Metapformin, which is a drug that is given for diabetics. But in my case, it's different. There's a lot of uses to it. Um, and it's been helping me regulate. And I would, I think ever since college, uh, when I was like 21, I gained all this weight and I never could lose it. And now at 38, when I went into my surgery, I was in the best shape ever. Um, best shape ever, like weight loss, weight loss-wise, but not muscle-wise. I am getting stronger day by day, and this whole journey has taught me that much and more. The other thing that I had been struggling with was rage suppressed. So I had a lot of anger and resentment suppressed. And I have a book called Metaphysical Anatomy by Everett Rose, and there was one thing that was coming up, which was UTIs, urinary tract infections. Try saying that really fast. And I looked up the questions and what it all meant because I'm a very strong believer that the this ease that you feel in your body is attributed to an emotional trauma or something emotional coming up and surfacing. Of course, I am not a professional. That's definitely where I seek out my psychologist and my therapist, which I did talk to on Monday. And with her, I was able to work through this emotion, this rage, this, this just I felt so much resentment. And I was working through it, and I'll get into more of that a little later in this episode, but working through that, I felt my body ease a little bit because again, I'm kind of I'm very angry at the fact that I can't do shit again like I used to do. Like even a week ago, I I'm not able to do the stuff I used to do. Um, memory loss is real, and then exhaustion. It let's just normalize that for a bit. You know, I do a lot of things throughout the day. Um, and I think I do more than the average person, and I've been told that many, many times. But I'm very hard on myself. And this past weekend I actually tried because I couldn't sleep for three days. Um, and when I got chemo on Friday, which was round nine, it really hit me hard. Um, it kind of knocked me off my feet, not gonna lie. But then it didn't really help that I did three workouts on Saturday, thinking that I could get everything in. Again, honest theory, trying to get those three workouts in. And I felt exhausted. I feel tired. My body, finally, everything's catching up with me. But it's also a mental game. But then the mental can only take you so far. The body doesn't lie, the body does keep score. So being tired, I decided to sleep all weekend. Well, on Monday, I felt even more fatigued. I thought it was gonna help sleeping, but it it did, but it didn't. Um, there's another kind of tidbit, it takes 90 plus hours to recover from one day that you did not sleep well. So I can just imagine most of some of you hearing this, you're like, what? Yeah, you're in deficit. You're in debt to yourself on sleep. So important to sleep your seven plus hours. There's some people that navigate life sleeping four plus. I mean, that's great. But there comes a time in your life, like now, where I appreciate my sleep. And so I've been trying to do all the supplements, the melatonin, the things that the doctor recommended. Um, but the one thing is definitely exercise helps trying to sleep. But this exhaustion, um, it's draining, it is very draining. And so I do have to have a lot of mindfulness during my day on what am I doing, what's sucking my energy, because I know I have to get stuff done for work or for personal reasons, but if I can change the order of things and do something that energizes me first, and then like an easy win, and then move into the other stuff, or maybe take another day, but really double check my answers because forgetfulness is really getting at me too. That's how I've been changing it up. So I go back to this memory that I was telling myself ever since the beginning of my journey that's also been a game changer for me mentally, is I am already healed. I'm already healed. And two weeks back, I watched a movie with my husband. Um, it's called Heal, Healed, with Joe Dispenza, uh, Deepak Chopra. There's a bunch of there's a bunch of other folks and individuals in there, but it follows these individuals that are going through dis-ease, or one of them particularly is going through cancer. And I thought Feely was gonna fall asleep, my husband. Um, but no, he was actually engaged, and it talked about how your spirit, um, your soul has a lot to do with your healing. And so, in this moment in time, it explains a lot of like I feel like I'm a miracle walking, no joke. I definitely have been in this phase of life that is very challenging and trialing. I'm not gonna say it's easy. Um, I actually had a conversation with my grandma on Tuesday. My aunt called with her on FaceTime or video chat or whatever you call it. Um, and grandma was able to give me her blessing. And oh my god, I started bawling because for grandma to show emotion, like she loves you, but she's not a really cuddly grandma. So that for me just moved me because grandma has been praying for everybody in her family and she worries and she's an anxious person, but again, we don't believe in like therapist or you know, esos palocos kind of thing. But I was sharing with grandma my experience and my trials, and the woman is like in great shape in my mind, even though she doesn't walk like as fast as she would normally. But what do you expect that someone that's about to turn 91 at the end of March? I hashtag goals, hashtag goals, grandma, shout out to you because that's a lot, um, you know, a whole life, almost a century living here, and you were able to witness all the different things, and she tries to walk around and I commend her for that and go to our doctor appointments and everything. Um and if it comes down to just watching TV being and then she feels lonely, I get it. Um, but don't we all feel lonely at a point, one point or another, even if we're surrounded by people? And that's where for me it's a slippery slope because I can definitely fall into depression. So that's where I seek out for support and have my different communities. But my hormones are shifting, and when hormones shift, that's when your coping mechanisms stop working. And what I realized is this premenopause is forcing me to sit with parts of myself that productivity used to help me avoid or avoid. And I can't hustle through the season. I just can't. It's like I'm not even kidding myself now. I I can't mindset my way through the season. My body is saying, Mika, I feel it. And what came up? My inner child. Inner child work isn't just journaling once and calling it done, it's noticing when you feel rejected, when you feel overlooked, when you feel like you have to prove yourself, when you don't trust support, and again, oh my gosh, I don't know if I can get tired of saying trust is the biggest currency, especially nowadays. Um, recently I've been sitting with my younger self, the five-year-old Dora, who became a mother figure too early, and I used to do all the things, the protection, the the survival mode, the um fight or flight response, that stress in my system. Like I felt until recently that I needed to live that life for me to be able to move forward. Doesn't that sound insane to you? But that's the way I operated. That's the way I thought life was. Like I just needed to go on the go, go, go, hustle and grind, let's do this. Like, my parents always strong work ethic, money doesn't grow on trees, all the limiting beliefs, all the things I thought that was my way of life. The teenage Dora, who had to grow up overnight, especially being pregnant at 16 and enduring so much as a mother figure, like for real. Um, the version of me who equated love with the responsibility that I needed to own that responsibility in order to be loved or to be accepted. And I asked her, my inner child, what did you learn about safety? You know what she said? Safety comes from doing everything yourself, and that right there is where abundance gets blocked. So I came to realize on a recent group coaching call, I had an epiphany. We were talking about health, like I was talking about my health journey, I was getting hot seat coaching and this collective that I'm in, this business class coaching, and I realized something powerful. Even though I've gone through chemo, even though my body has changed, I feel healed, and again, I have this embodiment of that. Like I seriously have felt that since day one, and that was my mindset. And I speak about my health like I'm good, I'm strong, I'm already healed. But when it comes to wealth, I don't speak that same way. I don't say I'm already abundant, I'm already resourced, the sky's the limit. Why? Why do I claim healing in my body, but not in my bank account? And I realized because my inner child still associates money with instability, that fight or flight response. And let's just say I felt like I was in a Mario Bros game and I was going through the level, and I just couldn't get on that rope. You know, I couldn't get on that flag and then slide down that pole. I couldn't, I couldn't. There was something holding me back, and it was this it was that sense of safety I associate with money. I could do that with my health because I know and I believe in God, divine source, universe, whatever you want to call it, and whatever you um resonate with. I feel healed, and that's where I started shifting my mindset that I had the certainty that I have the healing, but then I also have the abundance, I have the sources, I have the collaborators, I'm calling in so much in my life and I manifest all the time so much, but it's a reflection of your true self inside. So imagine this is me blocked. Like uh some people look at me as and and think that I have it all together, which I do most of the time, but now it's like I'm falling apart. But then again, I have people to fall back on, and that is seeding that has taken years of trust and relationships, and I appreciate each and every one of them because I go about life thinking everyone is my teacher, and the life is the playground where you learn the lessons, right? And some of them are mean girls, not gonna lie, but there are other people that are so beautiful, so beautiful inside and out. And that's why for me, the the prettiest person, the model, could be the ugliest person because their attitude, and my husband and I are huge attitude, my kids would tell you that. Attitude is key, it's key to living life and how you approach it. And that's not just mindset, it's like in full body embodiment of it. You know, like one thing is to tell yourself, oh, I am abundant, but the other thing is like how you. Say your nonverbal, your body, how does it feel when you say that? It's like that's the stuff that I've been working on, is me feeling worthy of myself without the money in it. It's now I'm starting to see clearly with clarity and certainty that I don't need the money. I just need myself because God is definitely abundant, and I am a daughter of God, and I can go through the motions and I can do all the things, but I'm not gonna do it alone. And that was my biggest block was again, as a child, learning or embodying the fact that I needed to figure it out on my own, on myself, by myself. And no, it's actually through community, it's through support, it's through I get letters in the mail, I get cards, so shout out, thank you, Tia. Um, I get messages from my friends, from loved ones. On Facebook, I and Instagram I post my like try to do it weekly, uh, post, and then I get love there, and I'm learning in the season to receive, to receive all that abundance. Now, abundance has many faces. We think about abundance equally equating money, right? Well, that's how I thought it. But abundance is health, community, ideas, opportunities, collaborators, creativity, capacity, wisdom. And I am abundant, and I'm looking at my life. I have platforms, I have ideas, I have resilience, I have community, I have experience, and I have spiritual gifts that I'm honing in on a daily basis, trying to navigate this. Abundance doesn't only show up as currency, like again, back to the money, and show me the money. Sometimes it shows up as clarity. And I'm sitting in clarity, and I've in all the coaching programs that I'm in and all the things that I've seen in the past, clarity comes up a lot, and though so does certainty. Sometimes it shows up as alignment, like something with ease, something coming through, going with the flow. I always often say also riding the wave. And sometimes it shows up as collaborators being magnetized to your vision. And that's the people that are in your tribe, the people that are walking by side, side by side with you, holding your hand. And I had to ask myself, if I truly believed I was already abundant, how would I show up differently? And that's where I jokingly have said before that I am a millionaire because I have a millionaire body, but this question goes a little deeper than that. I am already abundant, and I have an abundance of love as well. And my mission is to help as many people, women especially, navigate this world and tap into that love tank for themselves, for others, have that compassion and grace, because often or not, we don't have that grace for ourselves. We have it for others, but I'm actually practicing that same abundance with myself of love and grace and compassion, and that's where it yields dividends with peace and joy. So it's shifting for me, definitely shifting for me. A lot of different things are at a cellular level, and it's redirecting, especially during the season. So acting from already energy, this is the shift. When I talk about my health, I act from already healed. So what if I acted from already abundant? That means I pitch boldly, I create without desperation, I invite collaborators from overflow, and I don't shrink my vision. I don't chase, I attract. Because abundance energy isn't frantic, it's calm, it's certain, it's open, and eclipse season is stripping away the parts of me that still operate from that scarcity. Not because I lack, but because my inner child learned survival, and that's where it's so important right now that I'm going slower, I'm taking my sweet time on things. If emotions come up, I do have the ability, if I do have the ability, to cry or to journal, to meditate, to talk to someone, to read something inspirational. And I love my card deck for inner child healing, which I'll pull a card for at the end of this episode. But all those things are I'm basking in. Like when I sit out in the beach on the sun, hitting my face and my body and feeling the warmth, that's kind of how I'm starting to feel this abundance hit me. And here's what I'm realizing collaboration requires trust. And if your inner child believes I have to do it alone, you will subconsciously block collaborators. You'll think no one will show up, or I have to carry it, like you have to be that chingona, right? You have to do it all yourself, or I can't depend on anyone. But abundance says there are people assigned to your vision, there are collaborators aligned with your frequency, like that's where you vibe on a certain channel, you vibe at a certain tune, and it's like people will dance the dance you're dancing. There are opportunities that match your expansion, and that's where when we level up, those people relationships that no longer serve us, or maybe they they ran that cycle. That's where they'll they'll lapse. But you're growing, you're evolving. And most importantly, you're expanding. But you have to feel worthy of the support in order to receive it. So as things leave, new things come, and that's the beauty of releasing and pruning our garden. Because I often talk about like holding your house, and we always say the grass is always greener on the other side, right? The neighbor. But you need to tend to your garden, you need to tend to your household and and and clean and throw out or donate whatever it is that you don't need anymore. You go through those, through those motions. So I am going to pull a card from Healing the Inner Child Oracle from Nina Montejandri. Hopefully I pronounced that right. And I'm opening up this card for the collective, and I'm gonna close my eyes, take a deep breath. And I'm gonna set the intention and ask the question. I'm shuffling, I've shuffled the cards, and I'm gonna pull a card. And my specific question or ask is for the message for our inner children or our inner child. What can I experience more self-love? Ah. This beautiful card of a yin and a yin thirty-nine boundary. And this calls for the invitation. So dear one, it is time to draw a boundary with kindness and strength. Is it time to acknowledge that you have given up your power for too long and have grown weary and resentful? This card comes as a confirmation that it is indeed time to respect yourself and your needs. A balanced life requires a clear sense of where our needs end and the needs of others begin. We can only truly be of service when we have our needs met. Others cannot be expected to honor your boundaries if they are unaware of them, or if you communicate them with resentment or blame. Only you know what your boundaries are. This card invites you to identify and honor a boundary that has been too porious. So to the inner child, depending on the type of attachment you had with your caregivers during childhood, the violation of a boundary might trigger anxiety, fear, rage, or curiosity. Connect with your inner child and notice what their reaction was to the infringement of the boundary during childhood. Did they fight, run away and hide, appease, or become numb? Tell your inner child and your adult self it's more than okay for us to have a preference. So the journey that this card invites us to is enter into this image, and so it's a yin and a yin with some flowers circulating from one section to another, and experience the sacredness and power of boundaries expressed with softness and confidence. Boundaries are ever evolving, they are not carved in stone, they are invisible, flowing, and mutual. Allow yourself to see your current boundaries with clarity and open your heart to any doubt or fear that arises as the thought of sharing these preferences with yourself and those you love. Feel into areas of your life where you have a desire to communicate a boundary. A clear sense of boundaries deepens connection and trust between people. It's it is worth it. By meeting your needs, you replenish your ability to support others. Come back to this image in your head of the yin and the yin anytime you need support with trusting and expressing your preferences and needs. It doesn't have to be heavy. When you relate to boundaries with ease and lightness, it will feel much more nourishing and fun to recognize and honor them. So just to pause here a sec and really take the time to, if you have time allowed, to see what resonated with you with this message in this card. We can all use boundaries. They're very yummy, I think, and and spicy at times. Um, but the big words that kind of like came out for me were for me specifically with this episode and where I'm at is the anger and the resentment of where that whole where I hold it, and the trust and the clarity. Those are the words that kind of jumped out of the page, and especially boundaries, right? Because we can all use some of those. So that is the message, the medicine for this week, and hopefully this lands in your body, in your mind, in your spirit. Um when you feel appropriate. But I'm gonna invite you to close your eyes, and I'm also gonna invite you to grab a journal if you feel cold. And again, you can pause this at any time, but I want you to take a deep breath in through your nose and pause up there, and then when you're ready, you release through your mouth. And let's do that two more times. Inhale through your nose, and exhale through your mouth, and then one more time, inhale through your nose, and hold it here for a bit, and then release. But just envision her. I invite you to do that. Or you can journal. And when you're ready, you can wiggle your fingers and your toes if you decided to close your eyes through this exercise. And open your eyes. And in order to embody it, take a deep breath in and exhale through your mouth. And thank that little girl for the information that she shared with you today. Be in gratitude. This eclipse season is not destroying you, it's refining you. Premenopause is for me not betraying myself, it's revealing. And whatever challenge, or if there's something in your body to seize, it's revealing something to you. So that's just causing you to pay attention. Your inner child is not blocking abundance, she's protecting you. And abundance, it's not something you chase. It's something you remember. You are already abundant. Act like it. Move like it. Speak like it. Invite like it like it. And watch who shows up. Let divine God, source, universe do its thing. You don't have to worry about the how. Just say, God, universe, divine, surprise me today on what shows up and what you want to unfold. And let those miracles, magical things, serendipity things happen. If this episode resonated, share it with another mujer, another woman in your life, comadre, friend, person who is in her becoming. And you can tag me at the Praxedis on Instagram or on Facebook at Doralicia Praxedis. You can visit my website at www.dorapraxedis.com. And remember, embrace your races, reclaim your essencia. Hasta la próxima, mi hermosa gente. Sending you so much love and a big kiss. And talk to you soon. Love ya, so we're going to be able to do it.