She Ignites
This is where power gets raw, healing gets hot, and rebellion becomes ritual. Hosted by Kari Lowe, She Ignites is your weekly dose of fire-starter truth, bold stories, and permission to break every rule that kept you small.
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She Ignites
Your Confidence Wasn't Lost—It Was Stolen
Your confidence wasn't lost, it was stolen through subtle moments of criticism, comparison, and cultural conditioning. We're planning a confidence heist to reclaim our power through deliberate action and supportive community.
• Confidence theft happens gradually through critical teachers, social media comparison, gaslighting bosses, and cultural programming
• The 4-step confidence heist plan: case the joint, assemble your crew, take action before feeling ready, and secure your wins
• Confidence comes from doing things while shaky, not from waiting until you feel ready
• Guard your reclaimed confidence by limiting access to undermining people and documenting your wins
• The 7-day confidence heist plan includes identifying thieves, celebrating wins, and taking imperfect action
• Create a confidence folder with evidence of your capabilities to reference when self-doubt creeps in
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Welcome to G Ignite, the podcast where we burn the rule book, dig up the goods, and light up the lives we were meant to lead. I'm your host, Carrie Lowe, candlemaker, confidence dealer, and your favorite fire starter. Around here, we speak boldly, dream wildly, and show up messy and magical. If you're done playing small and ready to own your own spark, you're in the right damn place. Now let's get lit. Welcome back to my favorite Fire Starters. Here at She Ignites, where we don't just talk about empowerment, we take it back with interest. Today's mission: The confidence heist, the stealthy, deliberate act of reclaiming the power you were born with. But somewhere along the way, someone stole. If you've ever felt like you're just not confident anymore or you're waiting to feel ready, I need you to hear me. That confidence wasn't lost, it was taken, and we're going to steal it back. So I want to share a story with you one instance where I realized my confidence was wrong. I could tell you the exact moment I knew it had been hijacked. I was standing in a meeting room full of coworkers presenting an idea that I'd worked on for weeks. And through the presentation, I started editing myself in real time, toning it down, making it safer, going completely off script that I had prepared. By the time I wrapped it up, it was like I'd shrink-wrapped my own personality. Driving home, it hit me. I used to walk into rooms. I claimed them. Now I was sliding in quietly, like a side character in my own fucking story. And the scariest part? I couldn't even remember when that shift happened. That's the thing about stolen confidence. It's rarely taken in one big grab. It's lifted in pieces slowly. Until you don't notice what's missing, until you feel the emptiness. So how does our confidence get stolen? You know, from the silent thieves. It happens subtly in moments that seem normal. The first critique, that teacher who called you too much when you were just enthusiastic. The comparison game. Oh my gosh, social media feeds that make you feel like you're always a few steps behind and never gonna catch up. Authority gaslighting. Man, this is a big one. Bosses are leaders who downplay your wins or take credit for them for themselves. Cultural programming. The constant hum that says your worth is in your looks, your likability, or your compliance. Each one of these is a pickpocket, and after years, you're left holding an empty wallet where your self-belief used to be. So we're gonna talk about the heist. Step one case the joint and be honest. Every heist starts with reconnaissance. You can't steal back what you wouldn't admit is gone. Ask yourself where do I hesitate now that I didn't used to? Who am I most myself around? And who do I shrink around the most? When did I stop trying things I wasn't sure I'd be good at? Write your answers down. These aren't weaknesses, they're coordinates. Step number two, assemble your crew. Even the best thieves don't go it alone. You need people who will look you in the eye and say, Oh, you're doing this, no question. Your confidence crew might include the friend who reminds you of your worth, a mentor who pushes you without cutting you down, the online space where your voice is encouraged, not corrected. You can also have an imaginary crew, the future self who already did the thing, a role model whose energy you borrow, even a fictional character who walks with the swagger you're practicing. Step three, the grab. Action before you even feel ready. Here's the part that makes people uncomfortable. Confidence does not come from waiting until you feel ready. It comes from doing it while you're shaky, from the mic drop email you send with your hand trembling, from the posting that video that's 80% polished because 80% really is enough. From asking for the raise before your brain lists every reason they'll say no. Every action you take before you feel ready is a brick in the vault where your confidence lives. Step four, secure the fucking goods. Once you've stolen back a piece of your confidence, guard it. That means limiting access to people who habitually undermine you, celebrating your wins out loud, documenting your proof, a brag book, maybe, a highlight reel, a folder of look what I did screenshots. Because the world will keep trying to lift it again. And you, you're not leaving it unattended anymore. So let's create a micro ritual. The 60-second confidence lock-in. If you're not driving, close your eyes. If you are, come back and listen to this again. Picture the last time you did something you were really proud of. Something you almost didn't do because you weren't sure you could. Replay it in slow motion. See yourself in the moment, not watching from the outside. Now I want you to say out loud, I did that. I can do it again because I am capable. Even when I don't feel ready. That's not just affirmation. That's your nervous system learning what proof feels like. So we're gonna do a seven-day confidence heist plan. So make sure you write this down. On day one, I want you to identify one confidence thief in your life. Is it a person, a habit, or environment, and limit your exposure to it. On day number two, do one action imperfectly on purpose just to prove that you can survive it. On day three, call or text someone in your crew to celebrate a win, no matter how small it is, because they all deserve celebration. On day four, write down five past receipts. On day five, try something with a visible risk of failure and do it anyway. On day six, create a digital confidence folder and drop your proof inside so you can look back at it anytime you need some help. On day seven, share one brave action publicly and claim it in your own voice. So you know what? Your confidence was never lost. It was lifted piece by piece, and every time you act before you're ready, you're breaking into the vault and taking it back. This week I challenge you to pull off one small heist, steal back something that is yours, and when you do, guard it like that's the crown jewel of your damn life. Because it is. This is She Ignites, and your getaway car is idling. Let's fucking go. Well, that's it for today, babe. But your fire is just getting started. If you're feeling lit up, go ahead and hit subscribe, leave a spicy little review, and tag me at SheIgnites CandleCo. So I can hype you up. Remember, the world doesn't need a quieter version of you. It needs the bold, blazing, fully expressed view. Until next time, keep glowing, keep going, and never, every end of your damn life.