
Whatever happened to Gentle Men
Welcome to whatever happened to the Gentle Men podcast, where we talk about all things dating, healing from toxic relationships, self love, healthy relationships, healthy sex and loving yourself to help single people attract the person who is right for them.
Using research, theories and 11 years experience as a healthy relationships, sex and habit change coach, Sam Morris dives in. If you're looking for self improvement, self development, advice on love, how to heal from toxic relationships, advice on dating, advice on self love, advice on sex and advice on how to change your habits, uncover your mental blocks and your unconscious mind and try and live the best life.
Then this is your place.
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Whatever happened to Gentle Men
The 1% Self-Love Rule: Why Healing Starts Small (and Why That’s Enough)
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Let’s cut through the noise. You don’t need a fancy morning routine or hours of journaling to heal. What you do need is a nervous system that finally learns to stop chasing what’s familiar—and starts choosing what’s actually good for you.
In this episode, I’m speaking directly to those of you who are successful in your careers, maybe even smashing it professionally… but when it comes to love? You feel stuck. Or worse—exhausted from trying.
You’re not broken. You’re just operating from a system that’s trying to protect you based on past pain.
And the truth is—healing that doesn’t start with logic. It starts with self-love.
But not the fluffy kind.
Not spa days, not #SelfCareSunday.
I’m talking about the kind of self-love that rewires your nervous system from survival mode to safety. That helps you slowly but surely stop ignoring red flags. That makes you remember who the hell you are.
And it starts with just 1% effort a day.
In this bite-sized but powerful episode, I share:
- Why self-love is the foundation of every healthy relationship (no exceptions)
- What practicing "1% love" looks like day-to-day
- A deep dive into the 7 life alignment areas that create inner peace and dating confidence
- How to spot where you’re not living in alignment—and how that’s affecting your love life
- A confidence card pull from my Self-Love Deck (plus how to use it)
- Why learning to love yourself is like learning to ride a bike—you won’t even notice the moment it clicks, but one day it just will
💬 I’ll also ask you the uncomfortable but necessary question:
What are you doing today to show yourself love?
And no—it doesn’t need to be big. It just needs to be real.
Key Takeaways:
- Self-love is essential for finding and keeping a healthy relationship
- Your nervous system is wired to choose what’s familiar—even if it’s toxic
- 1% effort every day rewires your patterns
- You don’t need to be perfect—you just need to be consistent
- Confidence comes from acting in alignment with your truth, not trying to perform for love
- You can’t attract someone who values you if you don’t value you
- Self-love is the entry point to emotional regulation, healthier choices, and finally attracting the love you deserve
Power Quotes:
"You are the lighthouse. You attract the right people who need your light."
"You won’t remember the moment you started loving yourself—just like riding a bike, one day it just clicks."
"Self-love is a muscle. You don’t build it in a day.
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