Numerology, Midlife & Intuition: A Powerful Conversation on Self-Trust for Women with Dina | Hot Flushes & Higher Self

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from yourself, overwhelmed by responsibility, or questioning who you are in this stage of life, this episode will deeply resonate with you.

In this episode of Hot Flushes & Higher Self, Soraya is joined by intuitive coach and author Dina for a powerful conversation on midlife, self-trust, intuition, and personal transformation.

Together, they explore why so many women lose connection with themselves after years of people pleasing, over-functioning, and prioritising everyone else’s needs — and how midlife can become an invitation to reconnect with your authentic self.

Dina shares her own journey from corporate burnout to intuitive coaching, and explains how sacred tools such as numerology, astrology, tarot, and intuitive guidance can help women better understand themselves, navigate life transitions, and rebuild trust in their inner voice.

The conversation also explores the difference between anxiety and intuition, emotional overwhelm in midlife, burnout, identity shifts, purpose, boundaries, and why learning to say no is often part of the healing journey.

There’s also a fascinating live numerology reading during the episode, where Dina explains Soraya’s life path and personal year number — revealing themes around intuition, responsibility, balance, and avoiding burnout.

✨ In this episode, they explore:

• Why midlife is an awakening rather than a crisis
• The connection between people pleasing, burnout, and emotional exhaustion
• Anxiety vs intuition — and how to tell the difference
• Rebuilding self-trust after years of ignoring yourself
• Numerology and understanding life cycles and timing
• Why so many women feel disconnected in midlife
• Learning to say no without guilt
• Purpose, alignment, and living authentically
• Simple daily rituals to reconnect with yourself
• The power of intuition, sacred tools, and inner guidance

This episode is especially powerful for women navigating perimenopause, menopause, identity shifts, anxiety, overwhelm, or a deeper longing to reconnect with themselves.

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Transcript

Soraya 0:00

So hi Dina, welcome to the podcast. First of all, I'm just going to ask you um to uh just show a little bit about your journey personally and professionally and what led you into this type of work that you're doing.

Dina 0:11

Sure. Well, first of all, thank you. Thank you so much, Saraya, for having me on your show. Um I feel as though your work and my work are like, you know, a Venn diagram, like we cross, and it it's uh I'm really excited to be here. So, first of all, my work focuses on helping women, especially those in midlife, reclaim and connect who they are beneath all of the roles, expectations, and everything that kind of life has kind of put on them. I believe that midlife is not a crisis, it's an invitation. So this midlife is a chance for you to ask, who am I now? What actually matters? And why does the life that I built maybe no longer fully fit with um who I am at this point? So um I work a lot with women that are they're questioning it. So professionally, I am a certified life coach and I am also the author of The Way Within: Igniting Your Intuition with Sacred Tools. And I've spent years exploring the intersection between practical coaching and using these sacred tools. And what makes my work unique is that I blend coaching with my use of what I call my sacred tools, which are tarot, numerology, astrology. I created my own system of charm reading. And I look at this as kind of like a spiritual improv with a grounded twist. So my philosophy is simple: these tools aren't about giving you answers. They're about telling, you know, or telling your futures. I see these all as mirrors. And sometimes um these mirrors are playful, sometimes they are fiercely honest, but they help reveal what wants to come forward next. So I'm all about slowing down enough to hear your wisdom again.

Dina’s journey from corporate burnout to intuitive coaching

Speaker 2:05

And sometimes it's the first time in years that women have actually done this, you know, remembering um who you are. And also um the thing is, your body has all the answers. So many women don't really even need advice or um, you know, what they do need is permission to trust what they already know. So that's what I do. Um I know you asked what led me to that work, and I kind of like went off in this whole big tangent.

Soraya 2:36

So what particular moment or life phase like led you? What was a shift for you that got you into this type of work, helping women in midlife?

Speaker 2:44

Well, um, I think that what it was was leaving my corporate career. So I worked in um a career I was in in sales, and what I sold was medical and nursing staffing, which meant that I was staffing for hospitals, emergency rooms, clients that were basically 24-7. And it seemed like there were no boundaries in my work. I worked nights, I worked week weekends. It was constant urgency in my work. And I became someone, you know, because I wanted to keep my job and and, you know, keep earning money, I became somebody who was constantly available, always responsible, always the one that kind of came in and saved the day. But I eventually got to a point where I realized this life that I was envisioning in my mind and the life that I was living really did not um, they they were not in alignment with each other because having this job affected my family, it affected my peace, it affected who I was becoming. And I realized like when it, when um, because really what happened, what kind of like was my fork in the road was like my watershed moment was COVID. And um I felt as though um I had known this for a while, but I think that COVID kind of brought everything, as it did for many people, to the forefront. And it was like I could no longer ignore it. And um, and it got quiet, you know, for a lot of people, all of a sudden like their busy lives came to a screeching halt during COVID. And then what happened is without all of the noise and chaos of like the daily life, I had to face the truth. And then I realized that the life that I have been living isn't the life that I wanted to be living, and that was a real turning point. And um, and so that was kind of like COVID was around the time that I stopped pretending that I didn't know and I started trusting what I did.

The COVID turning point and awakening in midlife

Soraya 4:41

So, from that, did you immediately leave your job and go into the spiritual side working with women? Was that immediate?

Speaker 4:49

Here's the thing since I was about eight years old, my grandmother was very into astrology growing up, and I feel very lucky that I had such a wise and kind woman, you know, introducing um me to this. And um, and so what happened was she opened up something in with me, like as she was teaching me astrology, that like there's always this idea that there's more than meets the eye to people, like when she was talking to me about their astrological signs or who they were. So through my grandmother, I became very fascinated by people. I became very fascinated by their patterns, by their timing, what people do, why they do it. I mean, I had a very happy childhood. I had wonderful parents, I had wonderful grandparents, and I had a lot of love. But like many people, um, when I went to school, you know, in uh, you know, junior high, whatever, there were times that I felt like I didn't quite fit in. And what that did is it kind of put me on the outside. I wasn't always in the mix, so to speak. And when I was on the outside, I started to become an observer, an observer of people. And um, and I started noticing that I could sense the mood in the room. I noticed things that were unspoken, I noticed the difference between what people said and how they actually felt. So this sensitivity became my strength. And um, so I had a strong sense of intuition from very early on in my life. My grandmother introduced me to astrology at a young age, but after I went to college, I discovered an intro to tarot class. And that's when I really started to connect with this divinatory work. So um I have always, like since I graduated college, I have always been doing tarot, astrology, numerology, but the focus to work with women happened right around the time that COVID hit, and I realized that I was at this crossroads. And I thought to myself, am I the only one that feels this way? And I realized that was a big no. A lot of people feel this

Why so many women feel disconnected from themselves

Speaker 7:00

way. So that's that's how it all came about.

Soraya 7:03

And it's quite nice, isn't it, to realize you're not the only one. There's so many women going for that same thing. So you kind of feel you're connected, aren't you? All of us.

Dina 7:12

Yes, absolutely. And and I and I feel like unfortunately, we are connected by um, you know, I think we are taught a lot, like, you know, women um feel like this sense of restlessness, this anxiety, um, this this disconnection with themselves, because we have been taught for so long to people please, to overfunction, to be the strong one, to like over um, you know, to think ahead about what people might need and then jump in and just do it. We always have to be kind of like the good one, the one that, you know, let me get you a drink, let me, you know, let me, we're always accommodating for other people. Yeah, yes.

Soraya 7:49

And it's also the anger. Sorry, you know, it's also that's why a lot of my clients have a lot of anger. They're holding that in that suppression, isn't it? You're not truly able to be what you want or

Anger, suppression, and emotional overwhelm in women

Soraya 8:00

to do what you want. You're always trying to do it for everyone else. And then I think that realization, it's that build-up, the anger kind of is like bubbling.

Dina 8:07

Yeah, because I feel like it's like, okay, you know, we've been doing it for a long time, but I I think that what happens is the anger is from we've been doing it this way for so long that nobody even says, you know, can I help you or let me take care of this for you? Like I always say to the women um that come to me when they say, you know, they're always doing for other people, that they are, I I ask often, like, where are they on their list of priorities? And very often they are not at the top of their own list. And um, and and I said to them, I always, you know, one of my questions is like, so you're taking care of everybody, who's taking care of you? Yeah, and that's where the uh the disconnect comes in because a lot of times the answer is no one.

Soraya 8:51

Yeah, exactly. Not even themselves, but you're always giving so much energy to everyone around you, you forget yourself. And that's a kind of I think also when women who have children, their the children leave home, they've got nobody at home, and they kind of like think, Who am I? It's also getting your identity back, isn't it?

Dina 9:09

That is

Losing identity after years of caring for everyone else

Speaker 9:10

1000% what I see also. And you know, what you know, people ask, like, why is midlife like this point? And I feel like it's because the noise that has filled our lives has suddenly gotten quiet. You know, children grow up, parents age, career shifts, hormones go a little bit crazy, relationships evolve, and you know, and sometimes that um that scaffolding of who we've started we've been starts to loosen, and suddenly there is space, and in that space, that's where the truth lives.

Soraya 9:45

Yeah, yeah, exactly. So, how did your own experiences shape the way you now support women?

Speaker 9:53

Well, I feel as though women want to be heard, and I I and I I know that like in my own experiences when I worked in corporate, like it really wasn't about what I wanted or how I felt, it was just about what needed to be done. So I really want to make sure that women are heard, and so when women come to work with me, I mean, I I have a whole like discovery session and I give them a questionnaire of, you know, kind of where they find themselves right now, what brought them to where they are with me, kind of thing. But I also want to know like, so what are the hot topics that are coming up for you? Like, what are your hot button issues? And where do where do you feel unheard? Where do you feel angry? Where do you even feel rage? You know, rage is it's not even, it's it's like beyond anger because it's been bubbling under the surface for so long. And I also like want to know, like, so what is it that you want to be different? And I want to know, like, if you could paint me a perfect picture, like what would your life look like? Like, would you be living, you know, like maybe people live in a city and they don't want to be living in a city? The city's too loud, it's too busy. Like maybe that was a fit for them when they were at a different point of their life. So it's like, what do you want your surroundings to look like? What do you want your relationships to look like? What do you want, you know, are there friendships that, you know, you know, I understand that friendships are not always 50-50, but sometimes it's like it's 90-10. I'm like, you know what? Like, what is it that's not working for you? Like, do you want to change your relationship with your children? Do you want to have a hobby? You know, and then people are kind of like, I don't even know where to start with this because they haven't had a hobby for so long. Like they're like being asked questions, like, and a lot of times um my clients are like they look a little bit a deer in the headlights when I start asking these questions because for so long they have not thought about themselves, they sometimes are at a loss for where to begin to even searching for the answer.

Soraya 11:57

Yeah, it's like you said for so many years you're taking care of everyone around you, you're not thinking about yourself, and then all of a sudden you're being asked what you

Anxiety vs intuition: how to tell the difference

Soraya 12:05

want to do. Right. Right.

Dina 12:07

So a lot of times what I do is I start out with talking about their intuition, like and how do they um because I I I know that um women, I mean, and once again, I'm not saying that men don't have these issues. I don't want to just like you know, put it putting it.

Soraya 12:24

Yeah, but they were talking about focusing on women in midlife, so that's why you're good to go too.

Dina 12:28

Um but I I do think that another thing that um women feel a lot is anxiety. So sometimes um when we're not familiar with what intuition feels like, there is like a blurry line, like is what I'm feeling anxiety or is what I'm feeling my intuition, like how and and especially after years of ignoring their own signals or living on like high alert of afraid of like maybe what happens if the house of cards falls, kind of thing. Um, there's a lot of different ways you know that they get information. So what I am looking to do is establish a relationship like for women to connect to themselves so they don't have to seek answers and permission and you know confirmation anywhere in the outside world.

Soraya 13:21

But okay, so how going back to anxiety and intuition, how can you tell the difference between what they are in the body? Because they're very similar, like you said. So how would you know?

Speaker 13:31

Well, they can be, but like intuition tends to be very quiet and a little bit more gentle, and it comes in very clearly. It might come in as a soft knowing or like a simple yes or a no. Um, there's usually not a lot of drama, not a lot of urgency associated with intuition. It's just a sense of rightness, like this is the right thing to do, even if it's not always the most convenient thing, like just kind of being like, I know that I need to do this, kind of like trusting that, or even like I know that this line looks like it's moving faster, I'm gonna get on this line at the supermarket as opposed to the other line, kind of thing. Whereas anxiety um can be very noisy, it feels urgent, it feels scattered, and it often feels like catastrophic, like anxiety can loop and it runs through like the worst case scenarios, the what-ifs, the self-doubt. And intuition doesn't spiral, it just speaks. So if something feels like an alarm is going off in your head, usually that's anxiety speaking. If it's just like a like a sense of knowing, then that's usually your intuition talking. And so, aside from that initial uh feeling, I also feel like you can sense it in your body. So intuition can feel very grounding, even if it leads you, once again, to an uncomfortable place. There's a sense of calm, a sense of relief, a sense of clarity in your body. Kind of like um, I don't know if some people um like I know sometimes like I'll get like this this bad feeling in my in like what I call my gut, like my like if if something feels wrong, I'm just like sometimes my body is just like it's almost like resisting as I move forward, kind of thing. I can feel it in my body. Where anxiety can feel very constraining, can feel like you're breathing very shallowly in your in your chest. You can feel like your heart is is beating, um, there's tension in your gut, kind of thing, as I mentioned. And it feels like contraction. It doesn't feel like expansion, whereas intuition can feel very freeing, like you know what? I'm following what I know is right, feeling more freedom, whereas anxiety is like, I have to fit this round peg in this square hole, and it's really hard to do. And it's kind of like it's more urgent in the feeling. And um, but I can give you a few more um examples if you'd like.

Soraya 16:04

I think that's great. Like it makes sense. Is that I've got visual going on. Yeah, yeah. So it's about

Simple ways to reconnect with your intuition

Soraya 16:10

anxiety.

Dina 16:11

Yeah. So, you know, when you're faced with a decision, all I would say is pause, you know, get still and place your hand or your on your heart or on your belly and ask yourself, if I weren't afraid, what would I know right now? Like notice what arises and what first, you know, is your mind debating what the answer is? Or is there a calm and clear, like direct path forward without you having to negotiate with yourself over the next decision? So um because it I feel as though um sometimes we we feel as though we have to do something like to make somebody else happy, or you know, if we're working for a demanding boss or you know, things like that. But um, so it is normal to confuse the two if you are not used to using it. But I big, I'm a big believer that intuition is like a muscle. And the more you use it, the stronger it gets. So you can ultimately begin relying on that the more you use it.

Soraya 17:18

Which goes back to my questions.

Why women lose trust in themselves

Soraya 17:20

Why do you think so many women lose trust in their in their voice? And how can they begin to rebuild that self-trust?

Speaker 17:27

Well, I think that um the the whole idea behind not trusting themselves, it's like it's not that they wake up one day and don't trust themselves. It happens quietly over time, shaped by a thousand subtle or maybe not so subtle messages from family, from the culture, from your experiences. So, I mean, if you think about it, from a very young age, many of us are taught to prioritize other needs over our own, to be good, to be agreeable, to be accommodating, as we mentioned. So we learn to read the room, we learn to anticipate expectations and sometimes silence our own knowing just to keep the peace. So, for many women, trust erodes each time we ignore that gut feeling. And um, because we're just trying to avoid disappointing somebody or um accepting their idea just so we're not being argumentative. So there's the impact of these repeated actions of where our voice was dismissed. So eventually the noise of external expectations drowns out our inner wisdom. So we stop asking ourselves what we want, or um, or if we do, we don't even trust the answer. And, you know, self-trust is what I think, you know, self-toughness is never really lost. It's always there to be rebuilt, but it has to start with you listening to yourself. So what we need to start doing is being a little bit more compassionate, being a little bit more patient with ourselves, and being willing to believe that our inner voice has something to share with us. So we have to undo all of these patterns and programming, yeah, everything around us, yeah. Yeah, it's hard. It's hard.

Soraya 19:09

I'm not saying that's especially in life after like decades of it. Obviously, it's a buildup. It's a kind of you know, wall blocking ourselves, really.

Dina 19:18

So it is, and it

Using numerology, astrology & tarot as self-awareness tools

Speaker 19:20

becomes our way of moving through the world.

Soraya 19:23

Yeah. And going back earlier on, you mentioned numerology and astrology and tarot. How do you see these supporting them rather than creating dependency?

Dina 19:34

Well, for I mean, I don't know, it I know that everybody has their own relationship with these tools. And some of them, you know, we've been taught don't trust them or whatever kind of thing. But I look at these tools not as answers, but as mirrors. So for example, tarot helps with reflection, numerology helps with timing, astrology helps with context, they don't remove responsibility for um, you know, decision making. So it's like you can't get dependent on these things because you still need to be the one to make the decision. But what these tools do is they deepen your awareness. So they invite in self-inquiry. They're not shortcuts to certainty. So every symbol, every card, every number is a prompt to ask yourself, what is true for me right now? So I'm interested in women becoming more self-trusting. And the success that is success to me, self-trust instead of the dependency.

Soraya 20:38

Yeah, so it's just a tool to help tap into your inner knowledge in the top.

Dina 20:43

Exactly. It's just a tool. It's like saying if you were to pick up your phone and use the calculator function on it, like it's, you know, it helps you move things along a little bit faster because it gives you, you know, a way for you to move it along, except for the fact that, you know, but you do know how to do math on your own. Like if you needed to do it on your own, it may take you a little bit longer, but you can still do it on your own. But these divination tools give us something that we can kind of have a little bit of a back and forth with, have a little bit of a conversation with. And um, and it helps us build that muscle.

Soraya 21:17

And how can understanding time and cycles,

Understanding numerology and life path numbers

Soraya 21:20

particularly through numerology, support women during periods of change or reinvention?

Dina 21:26

So every number has a vibration, has an energy that it works with. And so there are a lot of different numbers that connect to us in our lifetime. So we have something called a life path number, which is the energy of our entire lives. And it's that's a number that we get from our birth date.

Soraya 21:49

Can I stop here for a second? How do you calculate that?

Dina 21:52

Okay, sure. So, a how you calculate your life path number is you take your birth date. And so imagine today, today is April 28th, 2026. Imagine today is your birthday. So what you do is you would add four for the month of April. Okay. Two plus eight. So it's the 28th. So four plus two plus eight. And then the year plus two plus zero plus two plus six. So you take all of the numbers of your birthday. So if you have like a November birthday, you write one plus one, you know. So it's like you take the number of the month, the number day, and the number year, you add them all together as single digits, and you get a number. So what we are looking for in numerology, there are foundational numbers, which are the numbers one through nine, and there are master numbers, which are the number 11, 22, and 33. So when you add all of the numbers of your birth date together, my question is do you get a? I mean, obviously the number is going to be higher than um than 10. So is it is it an 11, is it a 22, or is it a 33? If it is not, and it's a double digit, what I want you to do is I want you to add that together. Like so, for example, my Am I doing this now, Dina? I wasn't sure. You you can. I mean, you can. I mean, if you want to um pause it and do it, um, you can absolutely do that. So what we do, so for example, my numbers add up to the number 32.

Soraya 23:30

Okay.

Dina 23:31

So 32 is not a one through a nine, an 11, a 22, or a 33. So what I do with the 32 is I add the three and the two together. And then I get the number five. So my life path is a life path five. So whatever um your numbers that you add up to, you're you're welcome to do that if you want, um, while I while I talk a little bit here. And um, and so each of these numbers has an energy, has a theme, has lessons that are attached to it, have places that you are successful, places that you are challenged, things that you are here to learn. So, how we find out about um the energy that we bring and how we approach things, we can use our life path.

Soraya 24:21

And okay, sorry, we got cut out, Dina. So you're you're back. Um I'm back in the meantime. When when I was reconnecting, I found

Soraya’s live numerology reading (Life Path 11)

Soraya 24:30

my number. So my added number ends up to 29. Add together, it's 11. That's my my life path.

Speaker 24:35

That's your life path. Yeah, so you have a master number life path, which is a big deal.

Soraya 24:42

Nice. What does that mean?

Speaker 24:44

Okay, so a life path 11. Life path 11 is the inspired visionary. So 11 is a number of intuition, it's a number of illumination, and it's also a number of spiritual insight. So, how interesting that you are doing this works. And it's about channeling inspiration and uplifting others with your vision. So, the number 11, it carries gifts and challenges, both light and dark, but I feel like you are here to shine light and give information to those that are seeking it. So, you are the inspired visionary. I feel like people look to you as a leader and somebody who kind of um sparks interest and um and curiosity amongst spiritual work, which is a very actually on target. Do you hear that, listeners? Yeah, it's actually quite uh on target for what you're doing. So that's pretty amazing. So let me ask you, um, if you were to take your month and the day. So now what I want you to do, I know you added it to your birth year. Now, what I want you to do, Soraya, is add your your month. So take like, you know, like I mentioned today, like the single digits of your birthday and your birth month, and then add two zero two six to it.

Soraya 26:15

So this year, this year.

Dina 26:17

So what I'm getting for you now is your personal year number.

Soraya 26:27

15. I said, so that's

The meaning of a Personal Year 6

Soraya 26:30

six then.

Dina 26:31

Very true. Okay, so you are a life path 11. So I feel as though you are always the inspired visionary. You are always, which is your life's work, honestly. So that makes a lot of sense. And this year, the number six I associate with the title of the nurturer. So this year you are very um, and I I don't, you're are you more tuned into caring for your family, or um, you're very more, I don't know if you have more responsibilities at home this year, but the six is the energy of home, of family, and of healing. And your job this year is is very much a job of being of service. So there's a very deep sense of responsibility in the sixth year. And one of the things that I warn about in a six year is if you do not take a step in the direction of finding balance in your life, like you're going to need to become associated with the word no this year. You cannot say yes to everything, even though I know that you probably really do want to. But one of my biggest concerns with a six-year is about burnout. And you can't be everything for everyone, Soraya. You have to decide what's important. Like, you know, it it's um one of my coaches once said to me, like, what's what needs to happen is you need to separate the urgent from the important because sometimes people come to you with urgency. It's urgent for them, but is it important for you? And this is what you are being faced with this year, and it can feel very overwhelming at times, but it can also be very rewarding. But a lot of people, like the vision that I just got was almost like the vision of a life raft, like you're all out at sea, and maybe you've been tossed out of the boat, and there's only one life raft, and that's you, and they're all holding on to you. And the thing is, a life raft is there to support, it is there to keep things afloat. But if 10 people try to get onto the life raft and it only keeps drown. Exactly. Exactly. You just got your visionary of it. So you are a life path 11. And I think that what's really going to be helpful for you this year is for you to lean into your Life Path 11 energy, which is about spiritual, um, the spiritual work that you're doing. So you have to make time to meditate, you have to make time to journal, you have to make time for you, because if you don't, you could burn out, or as a metaphor that I gave, you could drown.

Soraya 29:22

So, how does that sound to you? It sounds spot on. No, that's great. Honestly, for you know, anyone who doesn't know me knows I've got a lot of things going on right now, and it's I I just have so many things, great opportunities, but it's about saying no as well. And I think I'm trying to do too much. And I am I'm a therapist, I'm a mom, I'm a wife, I have so many responsibilities. So, what you're saying to me, I have the visual of me on the lifeboat right now. So, yeah, very much.

Dina 29:49

I love that, and keep that visual, and and and and I think that sometimes when people come to us and they ask us to, you know, for a favor, or if they could, you know, ask us to do the carpool this afternoon, or they could dump an extra project on us, you have to ask yourself like the question that I want you to ask yourself, Sarah, is that and also if you are going to say yes to something, I want to know, you know, I want you to know, how is this serving me? So the question is, is saying yes to this serving the person that's asking you, or is it serving you? Like, for example, if you take on a project and it gets you to um a place of knowledge that you are not quite at yet, or it allows you to work with somebody that you really are dying to work with, that is how it's serving you. But if it's just going to drain you and pull you under, then it's a no.

Soraya 30:47

Yeah, no, completely. And also, I think it kind of brings me to the point of like sometimes we as women, you mentioned earlier with people pleasers. At this point in life, we have to be a bit selfish as well. We have to think of ourselves a bit more and see what works for us as well, right?

Dina 31:01

You do, and that's really hard because being in a six, being the nurturer, you you are in a mindset of service. Yeah, you are feeling like it is my job to be of service to people. And I do feel there is an element of guilt. And um, you know, I I feel you can be very hard on yourself if you feel it like we we have unrealistic expectations for what we are capable of doing. I mean, I know, Saraya, that in your closet there is a cape with an S on it, not only for Saraya, but for Super Mom and Superwoman.

Soraya 31:40

I you know what, Dina, that's honestly, I feel like I'm having a counseling session. Because you really like explaining how I am. And you know, for those of you who do know me, who listen to this podcast, like I have been called Super Mom in the past, and it's actually it's a label I really hate because I've had to be strong, and it's not really served me because I've taken a lot more than I should have. Um, and I think that's not just me. I think a lot of women in general they have this badge, they have to be strong, they have to be, and you know, I think at this point, turning back to everyone else, in this point in our life, we have to really kind of let go of that, you know, trying to do everything for everyone. It's okay, like to show weakness

Understanding timing and life cycles through numerology

Soraya 32:20

and to let things go sometimes. So, yeah. So thank you, Tina.

Dina 32:24

No, my pleasure. And I just want to add on like also the things that challenge you, the things that are hard for you, are your lessons. There is no mistake that you are being faced with this right now. There is no mistake that this is your struggle because until you learn this, you can't move on to the next thing. Yeah, so this is exactly where you're meant to be. So this is what you're saying. Like, how you the, I think the whole I the whole reason why I started all this is because you were asking about how do we know our timing? Like, how does numerology tell us our timing? So, for example, like right now is not a great time for you to start a new business. Like, right now is not a new time for you to launch something new because you are in a six-year. So if you were in a one year, then I would say, well, yeah, it's a great time because one year is all about, you know, the pioneer. It's about being independent and being original and about leadership and new beginnings. But you're in a six, and the six is saying you just have to keep your head above water this year, and you need to figure out how to make everything, the all the plates that you have spinning kept going. That is your challenge of this year. So, how numerology can help, like knowing your number of the year, and it's funny, like knowing your life path and your number of the year together really gives me a very clear idea of the energy that we're working with. So I know that you have so much strength and so much creativity, and and people are you're like magnet, you're like a magnet, like people are are drawn to you, and I feel as though having all these people drawn to you, it also empowers you and it makes you want to do more. And at the same time, you're at a six, yeah. So you need to kind of manage what you say yes to because you are only one person and we all only have 24 hours and seven days. That's it.

Soraya 34:20

Yeah. And uh, wow, Dina, thanks for that. Well, just give me a great example how you work. That's amazing. Exactly, exactly.

Dina 34:28

And it's it's so much like that, and thank you for being willing to be uh the example because my talking about it and my actually doing it, it makes it a lot clearer.

Soraya 34:42

Yeah, no, it definitely shows an example about how you would work with a client and to use a numerology to guide them to just give them an idea of what kind of year they're in and what they should be focusing on.

Speaker 34:52

But yeah, it's also absolutely and then I use my coaching like and I ask you the questions like you need to distinguish between what's urgent and what's important. How is this serving me? So I like to give the client some questions, and these are the questions that you need to start asking yourself because people come to us, and when they are looking us in the eye and they're saying, Will you do this for me? It is human of us to want to say yes, like I want to help you. You are in a pinch, you are having a difficult situation. As a human, I want to help you. And do I have the bandwidth? Is this possible with what I'm dealing with right now?

Soraya 35:37

Yeah, no, completely. And again, going back to women in midlife, this is even more important because we really have we've got so much pressure on us all the time. So I think this is the point in our life we really have to kind of let go of that and start living our lives ourselves more, right?

Dina 35:53

Yes, and these are kind of like you were saying, yeah, and these are the wake-up calls, these are those moments where you just feel like, you know what? I can't ignore this anymore. You can't ignore yourself anymore because we are taught to ignore ourselves.

Soraya 36:08

Absolutely. And what happens um in the woman's life when she begins to truly trust herself again?

Dina 36:15

Oh, well, I mean, to to to live in alignment is I mean, that's everything. I've and so another thing that I do with my clients is I do what I call is called values mining. And values mining. Values mining. So what we're doing is like we're going mining, we're going kind of like hunting, hunting, um, you know, we're going out foraging, like hunters and gatherers, and we're going looking for what you value in your life. So it's funny, a lot of times when I start working with people, um I say to them, well, what's important to you? And people might say some things to me like, well, it's really important that I go to the gym, and it's really important that I drink water during the day. It's important that I that I see my family, like I'm really close to my family, like all these things, you know, they it's important that I get a lot of sleep or whatever it is. And so then I say to them, oh, okay, great. So um, you know, are you going to the gym? Well, no, not right now. I don't, I'm really busy, but I'm gonna get back. And so, do you drink um water during the day? I don't. I drink a lot of coffee right now, but like I'm I'm definitely gonna start drinking water. Like it's definitely a priority to me. And I'm like, oh, great. Well, how often do you see your family? Well, not that often, you know, we're all really busy. So I'm like, okay, you just told me that all these things are important to you and they are your values, like your family is your values, your work ethic, exercise, drinking water, like how you live your life is important, but none of these things are being honored. So, what would your life look like if you lived your life in alignment with your values? Like, what if you did get enough sleep and you did get up and go to the gym and you did, you know, have a regular connection with your family? How could that or would that change your life? Yeah. And like, would that allow you to be more in alignment with your authentic self? So I think that there's a lot of things that people say they want to do, but when it comes time to actually, you know, hitting the alarm clock and you know, getting up and actually doing it, there's a there's a little bit of a discrepancy between what we say we want to do and what we actually do. So that's kind of like where my coaching comes in because I only want it for you if you want it for you. And I would like to know your why. Like, what is the why? Like, why do you want to be close to your family? Why do you want to go to the gym five days a week? Why do you want to, you know, why do you want to do these things? Because if we can't connect it to you, I can't want it for you more than you do. So um, when we are living in alignment, things are just smoother, things are just easier. So I used to think that having a purpose was like a destination, something that I could reach by working really hard and finding the right path. But now I see purpose as being more subtle. It's just about me living my life as being alive. Like my purpose isn't a job, it's not a title, it's not a relationship status or a list of achievements. It's the thread that runs through how I show up every day. And it's about living life with intention. And um, and it's about using my gifts to help others and support my own growth. So that is how um alignment works for me. It's about my outer life matching my inner values.

Soraya 39:55

Yeah, it makes sense. And for someone listening today who feels disconnected,

Daily rituals to rebuild self-trust and intuition

Soraya 40:00

what's one simple daily ritual that they can build to re rebuild their self-trust and their intuition?

Dina 40:08

Well, I want people to start out basic. I mean, there's a I I I can give you, I'm gonna give you two things. First thing is the hand on the heart. I call this uh the hand on the heart ritual, and it's every morning before you even get out of bed, before you reach for your phone. I want you to take a minute and put your hand on your heart and close your eyes and breathe slowly and say, How am I feeling right now? And whatever answer comes, even if it's unclear, this is about practicing kindness for yourself. It's not about fixing anything. And over time it becomes a steady habit. And it's a it's about starting your day, letting your body know I'm listening, I'm here. And you may be surprised by how much change can happen just by noticing yourself first, and um, and then another thing is um be outside. This could be in nature, but I'm going to invite you, invite your listeners to take out the AirPods. I don't want you to be there with music. I don't want you to be there with a book in your ear. I want you to disconnect to like our screens and uh the things that are distracting us so we can focus on what's happening. Like sometimes that's where I know that I get ideas a lot of the time when I'm in the shower because I'm just alone with myself, like letting the water kind of run over me. And the shower is another great place to do that. But if you're looking for something to do and like you're not in the shower, go for a walk outside, let your feet, you know, touch the ground, touch the grass if possible, and just enjoy the moment with you.

Soraya 42:07

Yeah. Yeah, it's so important because you know, I think in our society, we're always rushing from one thing to another, and even when we're doing something, we're constantly thinking about the next thing we have to do. So that's really great advice, just to kind of learn to be present and grounding.

Dina 42:22

And these are little acts of self-care. Yeah, and I and and I think that like we just need to remind ourselves we're here.

Soraya 42:31

Yeah. Yeah, that's great. Thank you. And how is your understanding of purpose evolved through different life stages?

Dina 42:39

Well, I I feel like um you know, I feel like I am interested in connecting with what with what feels true in this moment. And I know that for each stage of life that can be different. So um, but but understanding your purpose, like being purposeful in life takes courage, and it's requiring you to be willing to release what doesn't fit anymore so you can move towards what does feel right and what does feel um just like more aligned with your mindset right now? So I would um, you know, maybe ask, um, you know, you know, suggest a ritual to be, you know, you can ask yourself like, does this action or this relationship or this commitment that you are maybe perseverating over, um, is it following somebody else's idea of where I should be, or is it my own? Like, is this part of my own meaning, my own purpose? So, purpose isn't about finding one thing, it's about building a life that feels like home, you know, in any moment that you are in.

Soraya 44:00

Yeah. Thank you. And what does living in the alignment of your intuition and inner guidance look like day-to-day now for you, Dina?

Dina 44:09

Alignment is quiet. I mean, I find that it's not about striving or working hard to prove my worth. It's a steady commitment to living a life that feels true to me. So it shows up in small ways, like in my daily choices, respecting my energy instead of pushing past it. And as I was sharing with you, letting a no stand on its own without any guilt and without any explanation, because I feel like that's a big thing. I feel like we always, women in general, feel like if I'm gonna say no, I'm gonna need to explain why I'm saying no. And I want you to know like, no is a full sentence. And um, so I am looking, so alignment looks like my inner and my outer life matching.

Soraya 45:01

Yeah, that makes sense.

Dina 45:02

Yeah.

Soraya 45:03

Um, and I like to ask these questions at the end to all my guests. Um, first of all, what's lighting you up most in your work at the moment?

Dina 45:11

So what's lighting me up in my work is I I really love working with these women who who are just so vulnerable and so honest. Like they are teaching me every day. And I feel as though I consider myself not only a teacher, but I consider myself a student. And when I show up in a very vulnerable and compassionate and with grace and love, I feel as though everywhere I look, I am met with that same grace and compassion and vulnerability. And I am amazed by the clients that I get to work with, and I feel so privileged that I get to do this work.

Soraya 46:04

Yeah, I mean, I find that as well. Whenever I work with clients, I always see a bit myself in them. I'm learning more about myself as we're going along. It's collective consciousness, right, Dina?

Dina 46:15

Yeah, absolutely. We are all connected.

One message every woman needs to hear right now

Soraya 46:20

Um, and if there's one message love every woman to hear right now, what would it be?

Dina 46:26

Well, the you are no one is broken. This transformation, this midlife thing that we are going through is an invitation back to you. So I would say, don't look back. I want you to, you know, when we drive the car, we are looking into the front of the car, we're not worried about what's going on behind us so much. And take the opportunity to reconnect with you so you can move forward into alignment and living your most fulfilled, happy, and most joyful life.

Soraya 47:02

I love that. And my last question is what does living as your limitless self mean to you right now?

Dina 47:08

To me, limitless is about freedom and about um, like honestly, it's about saying yes to travel. It's about um I love to read, it's about learning. I just feel as though being limitless to me, I saw the wings of like an eagle, like a bird, really just spread out wide. And it's about just flying, flying high and feeling strong that I am on my path and and doing the right work, and there is no ceiling because it's all happening for me.

Soraya 47:47

Love that. Thank you so much, Dina. Thank you so much for coming on the show today and answering my questions and teaching me about my life, life path number. And that was really helpful. So thank you.

Dina 47:58

Thank you. I loved meeting with you and and sharing all these. This is a great conversation. I really appreciate you so much, Soraya, and your work.