Episode 17 - Part 2: The Truth Behind the Message (Foosh's Story)

On episode 16, we pulled back the curtain and talked through Anthony's story.

And today we’re doing the same thing with Foosh’s. (Part 2)

A lot of people see the workouts, the mindset talks, the consistency messages, the coaching...
but they probably don’t fully know what shaped him into the person he is today.

The struggles.
The pressure.
The self doubt.
The seasons where he felt lost.
The moments that forced him to grow, shift his perspective, and become who he is now as a husband, father, coach, and person.

And honestly, I think that’s important.

Because when you really know someone’s story, you start understanding why they care so deeply about the message they share.

This probably won’t be the easiest conversation we’ve had…
but it might be one of the most important.

Because behind every message is a story.

And today, we’re telling Foosh’s.

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

All right, everybody, we are back with the conclusion of episode seventeen. Only right here at the Prime Air Podcast. So so you would say, all right, now let's if we need to fast forward to this, those are the hardest periods, toughest periods of your life. Um, you know, like you now have your daughter's how old? A year and a half, a little over a year and a half. Yeah, crazy. Has there been any any challenging pieces, you know, in in the in the journey of being a parent too? Or would you say that that transition out of like the account and not knowing what the hell you wanted to do for the rest of your life, knowing you didn't want to be there, one of the most challenging?

SPEAKER_01 0:47

I mean, that that definitely was a challenging piece. I'd say the parenting aspect, sure, there were some pieces in the beginning. I feel like I'm still a new parent-ish. So like I feel like I haven't hit those hard like crossroads yet, or maybe hard conversations with your kids, or you know, yeah, sure. She there's some been moments, but you know, in the beginning, sure there was a tough change. But I I'd go back to COVID, man. Like that was probably also one of the biggest challenges and harder times of my life, as opposed to even just being in jumping into parenting, you know.

SPEAKER_00 1:15

Yeah, well, I mean, I think for you, like, like I'm glad you bring that up because this is what I was thinking about on my way over here. So you make this decision that you you don't want to be an accountant. You get into the training industry, yeah. We got a sick setup in transform fitness, yeah, setting Johnny Foosh up for a long period of time. Yep, everything's going great. Then COVID hits, and now gyms are starting to shut down. And I remember that me and you No, this was even before there was outs, and uh when things were going on at Transform, you were thinking about maybe potentially getting your own spot, and we talked on that. Yes, and we were we were we were talking about getting that place on Brook Street, yes, and then COVID hits, yes, and there's gyms are closing down.

SPEAKER_01 2:10

Did you know that I was also like we we were I was looking at it as well?

SPEAKER_00 2:14

You we were talking about it.

SPEAKER_01 2:15

You were talking, yeah, yeah. That's right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, yeah, that's right.

SPEAKER_00 2:18

So I would go out on a limb and I'm not gonna put this into your top top couple' challenges in your life. But now, like, how the hell do you feel that you just quit this accounting game? Because I know me, I'd I'd go back and say, yo, shit. I just I went to school for four years, I quit this job, I fucked up, I've been training for two, two years, and now everything's shut down. What the what am I doing here?

SPEAKER_01 2:40

Well, that yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:41

So, like, can you run us through that real quick? Yes, so that they can see because life full story on that.

SPEAKER_01 2:48

It really, when you look back at it, it was crazy, and it's a lot of series of events that happened that was again very fortunate that they did happen in a certain way. But dude, I was about, just going back to before COVID even happened, I was about to sign a lease for I think it was like five years for that place, right? I had the amount of rent, I had everything ready to go. I had a contractor signed up who was gonna do almost a hundred thousand dollars of work in that place. Everything was gonna be redone. I had a brand, I had everything. I put so much time and effort. I had a rogue shopping cart listed in my on the road on the website, ready to buy tons of equipment. And I mean, I'm in talks with I'm in and out of that building countless times.

SPEAKER_00 3:33

I remember.

SPEAKER_01 3:34

And that's and literally, I remember I didn't even meet this lawyer yet, actually. One of my clients was a lawyer. He's like, hey, I know you're doing this thing. Like, you should have my lawyer who I know personally look over your lease. This is what she does, what she specializes in. So I contact this lady. I meet, I don't even meet up with her yet. I send her the lease. She goes, Okay, great. We'll meet up in probably a few weeks and we'll go through it together, make sure it's all set up the way you want it, and we'll send it back and forth. So before I even sign this, she calls me. This is like a week before COVID happened, and I'm on my bachelor party. Okay. I'm supposed to get married in April as well. I'm on my bachelor party on a cruise. I'm like, this is my last hurrah because I'm gonna open my own gym. This is gonna be crazy. I'm gonna enjoy myself, but also I almost even want to go on the bachelor party because I want to lock in on the gym. And she calls me while I'm on the boat. She goes, You should not sign this lease. I don't know what's going on. Like things are closing down. And this is like when people really didn't know what was going on.

SPEAKER_00 4:28

Yeah, okay. Whatever.

SPEAKER_01 4:29

I still don't even remember her name, actually. I should thank her a lot. She's like, Don't sign this damn thing yet. So it's supposed to be signed March 1st. Actually, no, excuse me, March 8th, which was my birthday. So I'm like, oh, things are lining up, man. Like this is perfect. This makes so much sense. Everything's awesome. And she calls me, tells me not to do that. Okay, so I don't sign the lease to this place. The people are fuming because I just wasted so much of their time and energy. The contractor's pissed, whatever. So now I got all these people who I don't even really know angry at me. And now the gym ends up closing and we can't do training anymore. This whole business that I just built over the last, that was probably what, three years of some really long days, by the way. Like we were in the gym all day long. I remember those days, five morning sessions all the way. I would do sessions at 9 p.m. I don't care what time people wanted to come in. I was working. And dude, it all came crashing down. And it wasn't even just personal training. We did so much of that group stuff, right? Like the group classes I would do. There were in like people would come in and give us, and you know, what was it? What did we do? Uh just give them programs and they'd come in and we just got it. Bro, we had a lot going on, and it was awesome. We were we were doing amazing as trainer, all of us there, right? And dude, and COVID hits, I'm supposed to get married in a month. I'm supposed to pay those bills, you know.

SPEAKER_00 5:44

Didn't your wedding get canceled?

SPEAKER_01 5:45

Yeah, wedding got canceled too. Now that I'm really thinking about it, fucking ridiculous stories, guys. I know, I know. Yeah, you know what's funny though? It I guess I don't think about it because it happened so fast and COVID was like a crazy for everybody. You know, it was just a weird time. You I feel like when you people talk about COVID, it sounds mushy. You don't even realize what the hell actually went on because we all went through it. But yeah, I was supposed to get married of April 2020. So that was a month after. And I remember being at my friend's um, what did he have? It was an engagement party, I think he had he got engaged, and we're um we're at the venue, and that was the day that New York City came out and said they were gonna close the schools. And we were supposed to get married in New York City at uh in Chelsea Piers. What the hell was the name at the Lighthouse at Chelsea? Beautiful place. And that's when my wife realized like this wedding's not gonna happen. So now she's in tears, she's upset, and I'm like, this is a disaster. What's going on? Like everything's gonna be. I got a job anymore. My wedding's not happening. My wife who supported me, like fucking said, yeah, quit, get out of there, dude. She's like, maybe I should have told him to stay, you know. Like, I don't know. And this is all going on. And now, on top of that, I was living in an apartment in Yonkers. Me and my friends owned a house together, and we all ended up kind of splitting our ways out of it. I go back to my parents' house. I remember so now I'm at my parents' house, and I'm like, holy shit, like this is crazy. I'm trying to, I'm I'm trying to train people at my on the dead end street at my parents' house, at fields. We're going all over the place. And my business went from you know full throttle to like a quarter. And I'm like, how am I gonna pay for this wedding? How am I gonna get a house together with my wife? Like, how are we gonna do all this stuff? So, yeah, when you look back, that was freaking wild. Yeah, no doubt about it. So we obviously made it out of the COVID, thank God. But that again, that piece drove me into, you know, trying to figure out what that next piece was. And I remember we talked about this in the last podcast. I remember you coming over one day and us working out together. And we always said, like, hey, we want to do stuff online, or we wanted to, you know, try to figure out how to, you know, build our business outside of the way we were just doing it now. Yeah, yeah. And that's what gives me the drive to build my online community, my build my online business, but also drove me to do what I have at my home now, which is where I train all my clients in my studio at how because during that time, no one wanted to go back to a gym. When you look back, so many people were like, hey, I don't want to train with you if you're not gonna be at a really clean gym or at a nice place. So that's why I decided to do my own thing in my house.

SPEAKER_00 8:17

Well, I mean, what I love, and and and if you're just tuning in and you don't know, John, I love just the mindset to just say fuck it, and he opened up and built out a nice little setup in his garage where he trains all his people. So, like, where I look at it, you know, like we could, if we look at that situation, quitting your job, being very successful as a trainer, to thinking about opening up a new spot, to COVID hitting, losing that spot, marriage, uh, not marriage, wedding being canceled, and now not knowing which direction to go. You like said, screw it. I I gotta generate income. I gotta take matters into my own hand. And that's what he did. He he he transitioned into the garage at his house. Yeah um if you don't follow him, full shit. He's got a sick setup in in the garage, and he and he's very successful doing it, right? So um I think it's a uh a great segue into to the next piece of why like this mission matters to you. Like, why are you why are you so passionate about you know, like I see your content on social now is a lot more about parents. Um what makes you so passionate about helping, you know, parents specifically or just helping people?

SPEAKER_01 9:40

Yeah, honestly, it starting from just helping people. I I've always been a person who who's happy when I feel like the people around me are happy. You know what I'm saying? And I my friends always joke with me about this. Like, I I love you know having them over cooking for them, doing things, and let helping everyone else almost elevate them. And I don't know why that just gets me excited. And sure, the parent thing now is because I'm a parent and I know how hard it was in the beginning, like transitioning from not having a kid to then bringing fitness into my life with a kid and all the challenges that that brings. And I'm sure there's gonna be even more challenges as she gets older, maybe more kids down the road, whatever, with God willing. But that's where my passion lies is I just I love seeing everyone else get to another level in their life and actually enjoy their lives, and that makes me happy that I was able to be a part of that. And that truly drives me. Like when I see one of my clients just you know do something extra or finally get to a level that they've already been at, it it really gets me going.

SPEAKER_00 10:40

And I see it, and that's why I was drawn to use. You know, it's just some people have that that that special heart where they you know really care about, you know, I say it all the time, leading with love and and trying to help other people out. I saw that with you, and um, you know, it's evident in that you're really passionate about taking your your people, you know, whether they're parents or not, to the next level.

SPEAKER_02 11:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:05

Um what do you think like is the biggest, I mean, we've talked about it on some of these episodes, but like, what is one of the biggest things that parents struggle with that nobody talks about? Right? I mean, yeah, I'm sure there's a ton, but what are one or two things that kind of kind of stick out to you?

SPEAKER_01 11:24

I think I think one of the bigger things is you know, still trying to keep it all together in the sense of, all right, sure, you know, maybe you got your fitness in check, and maybe you got your diet in check, and maybe like you're spending enough time with your kid, but are you also filling the box with your wife? Are you also filling the box with maybe your parents or your friends or your brothers and or sisters, whatever? And I feel like that's been my biggest challenge, and I'm I'm starting to really try to hone in on it more. I remember the other day, even I said it to my own. I'm like, I feel like I've seen you the last three days, you know, just going back and forth, but like we haven't had a conversation, you know? It's so hard. And I feel like that is gotta be like number one for me right now. And I'm trying to still navigate, I'm trying to learn it, trying to figure out how to put it all together because you know, there's times where I want to grow so much in my business, and now I'm like, oh my God, I'm taking away from my wife. Or maybe I'm my head's in my phone because I want to make a post, but at the same time, I want to make sure I'm there with my baby girl. And like, I it's it's a challenge, bro. And it's a mind fucker. Listen, bro.

SPEAKER_00 12:29

I mean, it goes to it's a great thing. Yeah, you know, like just because I go through that as well. It's a great thing because you're a you're you're an obsessive about being successful and doing the best that you can in all areas, yeah. But it's so challenging because there's so many different you you just hit it on the head. You got a kid, you you got a wife, you got friends, family. You know, like I think a big piece is just not necessarily saying this is my priority, yeah, but being able to be flexible, yeah, right, and adjusting when needed.

SPEAKER_01 13:01

That's right.

SPEAKER_00 13:02

Like my big thing, and I struggle with it, is and my wife tells me all the time, is doing things. Got it. I don't do anything with like friends anymore, bro. Like just go do something. I'm just so locked into working, you know, trying to offend for my family, coming home to my kids, my wife, yeah. And I don't have a social life anymore, dude. It's pretty boring, right?

SPEAKER_01 13:25

Um I mean, I can see it. Like you just said before we even started this podcast, Jacob's got a game tonight or something at eight o'clock. Like, I said, eight o'clock? Yeah, holy shit. Like to me, that I know it's coming. I feel like I know that's that's the things that I mentioned. Like, I'm not there yet, and I can see how hard that can be, and I totally understand that. And that's a huge challenge, man. And I saw, I actually saw a post the other day, and it was uh it was another dad saying something about um, you know, I'm working so hard to give the life I want to my kids and my family, but it's also taking away at the same time from the life that I should also be helping them live, which is being there and being present. And I'm like, wow, that hit me hard because it's a hard line to find. And I just feel like, like you said, you nailed it too is you have to understand, like, okay, maybe a couple days you've been filling one other box that's really, you know, been taking away from another one. You gotta you have to have the mindset to realize that. And that took me a year and a half to really see that right now. And I'm sure I'm gonna see more of that, but yeah, that's a hard realization to have. So I think parents need to have that realization as early as possible, would be a good piece of advice, which again, tough.

SPEAKER_00 14:35

Now here's here's a a tough one to answer. What do you wish someone told you earlier about being a parent? Right? Or just a lesson of life to help navigate you.

SPEAKER_01 14:47

I think a lesson of life before the parent one would just be you really can do whatever the hell you want to do and take risks early on. And I I really wish someone told me that way younger. Like, hey man, like, first off, you know, stop just going through the motions, but take a risk or two and try it and see what the hell happens, especially when you're young. Because then you look back, and I think going to college was almost a big risk when you think about it. That was a big loan that I'm still paying off to this day. Yeah, that's not a risk. Like, and some people just think that's a normal thing. So I think when people have that perspective of, all right, hey, like, you know, still going to college is not is not a not risky thing. You're you're about to take on all this money, take on this big loan.

SPEAKER_00 15:32

I just I just feel like taking a comparison because in today's world, that is a risk, still going to college, because now with AI and all these jobs being replaced, you don't even know if you're going to school spending a hundred thousand dollars. For no reason you're gonna even have a job.

SPEAKER_01 15:45

That's exactly right. Right. So I think that that for sure, um, for just life in general. But parents too, I I I think uh that's a tough one. But I I don't know, man. I I still feel like I'm I'm learning and I'm growing. So I feel like there's gonna be some times where maybe I'll find something else there. Yeah, but um, yeah, we'll see, man. I we'll see on the parent one at some point. I feel like as maybe another one comes along, God willing, we'll see, you know?

SPEAKER_00 16:12

There you go.

SPEAKER_01 16:13

Yeah, man.

SPEAKER_00 16:15

All right, let's let's keep digging here. Let's keep finding in gems for Johnny Coast. We gotta pull some out of you, kid. Um, so let's progress. What matters way less to you now than it used to? Right? What was something that was very um important to you as a youngin' and that you know, your your perspectives changed on?

SPEAKER_01 16:40

I'm gonna go back to me being that self-conscious kid, man, and being that shy kid, like especially now having my daughter and seeing the way she is as like a little bull and like who just goes into things and doesn't care. Like that really drove me, and I don't give a shit what people think anymore. I don't care. Yeah, sure, there's still a little bit of that that comes out sometimes, and maybe I can get a little, you know, you know, nervous with certain things, or maybe self-conscious certain things. It's normal, right? Whatever. But I feel like that so that really is.

SPEAKER_00 17:11

What's the message that Johnny Fu said a message to uh the next child or uh a client that is going through that tail between the legs, nervous uh phase. What is what does Johnny Fu say to that person?

SPEAKER_01 17:28

You gotta find some sort of way to just not give a fuck about anybody, and you gotta just put your blinders on and do whatever you truly wanna do, or whatever you feel like you need to do or need to say or need to present to anybody. You need to be that person and you need to be yourself too, because there's also points where when, and this is talking from someone who's been self-conscious or been shy, you can try to be other people. And I feel like that was another thing for me is you're gonna try to act differently because you think maybe that's the right way you should be acting, and you're not gonna be yourself. And I feel like that's also a big thing that I had to overcome was actually just being myself and being confident in being myself. So I feel like for anyone young or any anybody in general who might feel that way, like you just you gotta come out of your shell a little bit, you have to be yourself a little bit, and you gotta just not care what you're doing.

SPEAKER_00 18:18

But John, what happens if I try to do uh that's what I do? What happened?

SPEAKER_01 18:23

Like if that's what you do, you're gonna get stuck, man. You're gonna get fucking stuck. You're gonna get stuck, you're not gonna be happy with the way you're feeling, with the way you're acting, with what you're doing in life, maybe your job, your career, or just anything. Like you you need to understand that it's there's going to be times where you're just, what am I doing with myself? I'm not, I'm not being myself, or I'm not being confident enough. And that's that's never a good thing, I think, in general. That that's simple as that, you know.

SPEAKER_00 18:50

I'm just trying to probe it a little bit. You know, you gotta get comfortable doing those uncomfortable things, bottom line. That's exactly it. And you gotta do them consistently. 100% just because you did it one time and you you you know, you battled through the nervousness, you know. Uh you just gotta continue to well, I think you hit that there.

SPEAKER_01 19:08

You have to be consistent with it, right? You have to start to learn to trust yourself and be confident in yourself. And I feel like a lot of people may maybe do it that one time. You came out of your shell once, but are you gonna show up tomorrow and do the same thing? Are you gonna show up the next day or the next thing that kind of bugs you a little bit? Are you gonna come out of that shell there? It's hard, it's not easy, man.

SPEAKER_00 19:28

Yeah. Um I I I know, I I I definitely wanted to touch on this. And I see your a lot of your posts now are a lot about like if I had 30 minutes of time or a pocket of time, like what got you so locked into that?

SPEAKER_01 19:49

What got what was what was the okay. Well, what got me so locked into that was realizing, like, I mean, first off, first and foremost, was I'll I'll say to you, is we we always talked about on the podcast before, you know, I was I don't even how I was it maybe six months old at that point. I was still actually trying to train a little bit like I used to in the past and try to find that full hour. And then we would always say, and you would bring up great points, like, no, like you need to find that 30 minutes, you need to find that 25 minutes and attack it. And that hit me hard. And I feel like obviously now, as a parent, there's so many things you're trying to do. You're trying to grow businesses, you're trying to do your normal thing, you're trying to be your husband, you're trying to be a good father, and you're trying to do everything. You don't have the hour, you don't have all this time. And I feel like so many people, if I was struggling with that, someone who's into fitness, someone who had their mind wrapped around an understanding of how to work out and be consistent with things, other people must be struggling with this. And it's big time. And I just wanted people to understand like, hey, you can do this in 30 minutes, you can get this done in 20 minutes. The cumulative effect, okay, if I worked out 30 minutes for six days in a row, that's a lot of time for instead of just saying, nah, I didn't have the hour, so I didn't do it. And you just got one hour in instead of you know a ton of time, right?

SPEAKER_00 21:05

It's such a terrible like thought process. Horrible. Why, why is it the all or none?

SPEAKER_01 21:11

I just think because it's an easy excuse, to be honest with you. It's, I think, and I've fell into that numerous times before having a kid. There were times where I was training people at my house. This is where I work, right? Everybody knows that. I have my training studio there. If I didn't have like an hour and a half block, I'd say, you know what, fuck it. I'm not gonna do it. You know, I'll just go do something else, I'll do what I have to do, or maybe I'll go to, you know, get a coffee, come back until later because I had that leisure, I had that time to do it. I still would get it done. But like, that's kind of a crazy mindset when you think about it. So now coming out of that from not having now having a kid, and now I don't have as much time. I'm like, oh shit, like I need to do this, but it's an excuse. It's just pushing you back. So anyone who's out there's like, oh, I don't have enough time. I truly just feel like you're giving yourself a little too much slack. Like it It's you do have those 30-minute windows at some point, you know. You just gotta take advantage. You can get a lot done. And trust me, if you need some workouts, go on my page. You'll see a thousand of them. 30 minutes every single time, 40 minutes, 20 minutes, whatever you need. And that's that's truly where it came from. But I have to thank you for that. I really do. Thank you. Because you really drilled that into my head on those first couple episodes with the systems and things like that. I know we talk about a lot, but dude, that's a lot of fun from you, man. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:26

Thank you, bro.

SPEAKER_01 22:27

Shout out to Big Anne over here.

SPEAKER_00 22:28

Thank you, brother. So, what what do people need more of right now? What do you feel like? As a parent, what do they need more of in their life? Right? I uh I mean it's a tough question, but they could go anywhere.

SPEAKER_01 22:44

Yeah, I I I honestly think parents need more of actually truly focusing on themselves a little bit. And you know, coming from a young parent, I know some people might be like, shut the fuck up, you know, but I think parents need to really understand that if you can create a better version of yourself or the best version of yourself, whatever that means, in sense of maybe nutrition or uh mindset or you know, physical appearance, whatever it is, I feel like that is going to relay so much to your kid. And I already see this a little bit with Isla in the sense of like, okay, the first six months of her being here, I wasn't really pushing myself hard. It was a hard, a little hard transition like anyone would have, right? I wasn't working out as often. I wasn't as present, I wasn't as mentally clear because I wasn't getting my workouts in. I wasn't pushing myself, I wasn't doing the tasks that I normally do, I wasn't eating as good. My wife just came over from being pregnant. She didn't have like a lot of craving stuff, but sure, my diet went down a little bit. And I feel like that's a common thing. But I feel like people need to take care of themselves physically to help them with the mental side of it and help them push themselves.

SPEAKER_00 23:58

Yeah, everything. Yeah, you know, not to just cut you off. No, the the I I look back at this, I I don't have many followers or like my posts that I put out there get thousands and thousands of views. It's good. One of my most successful, uh, if you want to define success as views and interactions, yeah, was the uh video I put up a while ago, and I'll reshare it after this about being a superhero for your child and how they see everything.

SPEAKER_02 24:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:26

Right? So, like to your your piece there, like dude, even though she's sick was six months, seven months, subconsciously, they're they're they're soaking everything in.

SPEAKER_01 24:38

Everything. Yeah, and I not to just always relate this to the gym, but we joke now because I'm when I'm working out in the gym at my house or wherever, and Darius says, Oh, where if the baby says, Where's daddy? I say, Oh, the gym. Now, every morning, not even kidding, every single morning when my daughter wakes up, she either wants to go outside or she wants to go in the gym. She says two words outside or gym. And what I pick her up, I bring her into the gym, and she's like this, eyes wide open, looking around. Dad does, dad does, dad does, yes, dad does. And I'll I'll do a pull-up in front of her, I'll do a push-up, or I'll put her up on the bar. And I just feel like, wow, like she's really already seeing that stuff. SpongeBob Sponge, man, and and she loves it. It's the cutest thing. She wants to be in there. And now I love that I she likes that because I want to start leaving her in there while I work out, maybe, and she can see more of it. But little by little as she obviously gets older.

SPEAKER_00 25:30

But they listen, uh this is going away from it a little bit yesterday. Uh Valentina was at home with the nan and the lady who watches her, sends a video to Scarlett. She's in the little pool outside dumping water in her head, and she's three years old, so sometimes she kind of blothers and you don't fully understand. So the video comes over, and I'm like, Scarl, what the hell did she say? So she was calling out me, Giacomo, the nanny, Scarlett, and she dumps the water on her head and she goes, subscribe.

SPEAKER_01 26:05

Get back.

SPEAKER_00 26:06

Because she watches Giacomo, watch those dumb videos where the kids like like and subscribe. Oh, the hell did this girl like? They're yeah, they're freaking sons. They see everything. So yeah, like I agree to that totally, dude.

SPEAKER_01 26:22

Oh my god. But no, going back to that whole entire what we said where we started with, that was was exactly that. Like, you know, show up more. Show up more, be you, you know. You gotta have to take care of yourself.

SPEAKER_00 26:34

So starting to wind this bad boy down here, yeah. What would you say to that parent? You're right. You you you hear like, huh, how 30 minutes of time, and you know, you can do it, you need a system, but you're always gonna have that parent that feels exhausted and behind. What are you saying to that parent, to that client, to that individual that just feels like it's not meant for me, and I can't get it done.

SPEAKER_01 26:58

It's so funny that you're asking that because I had the same exact conversation with my client this morning. She's been trying to get her husband to work out for years with me. Never met the guy. Still, to this day, I've been training her for like, I don't know, five, six years at this point, and she's nonstop trying to get him in. Busy guy, whatever. He's got a busy life. They have two kids as well. And he just can't get started and he can't get going. But she said something to me today was which was so true. And this is exactly what I would say to what you're asking me. She just said, because he responded with, I don't want to go, I don't want to go to a trainer, I don't want to get the crap beat out of me, I don't want to be, you know, feeling like I'm super sore or like he's gonna just gonna beat the hell out of me, which I wouldn't. But he, they're almost like they don't know where to start. And he even said it to her. He said, I just don't know where to start myself either. And I feel like you just need to start with the most basic thing, and that's maybe, hey, go for a walk twice a week. You know, start with the most basic thing you could do, the least amount of effort possible, and that's maybe a 30-minute walk around the block. Maybe that's with your wife, maybe that's with your kids. Maybe that you can make that all of a big thing, right? Just start with the most basic thing, and then maybe that 30-minute walk that you've been doing for the last, you know, couple nights of the week turns into a light jog. Or maybe that turns into, oh, maybe you're into cycling, maybe that turns into a light bike ride that you haven't been on your bike in 10 years. Maybe that drives something back. Something so easy that just gets you into some sort of habit. And once that little habit is built, you can add to that habit. And I feel like people are so afraid to start something like that because there, it's again, it goes back to what I was saying earlier. It's almost that little bit of an excuse of, you know, I'm a little nervous about it and I don't feel like I have the time to do it or I'm exhausted to do it. So maybe I'll try, it's just impossible to get it done, right? But just start with something so easy and try to build off that and try to be consistent with that first before you jump into maybe going to a gym that you haven't been to in 15 years, you know, like be intimidating as hell. You're not gonna know what to do, and then you're never gonna go back because you're like, that sucked. I wouldn't have a great experience not going to the gym for years. You know, I I wouldn't like it either.

SPEAKER_00 29:08

So I guess my next question of what's one small thing someone can do today is answered right there. Start small.

SPEAKER_01 29:17

Go for a damn walk. Yeah, get outside, start small. And maybe it's not even exercise. Maybe it's just, hey, maybe you realize something in your diet that has been like really killing you. Maybe you really enjoy drinking. Maybe you enjoy a lot of a couple beers on the weekend or a couple glasses of wine, or maybe you enjoy pizza on Fridays, or I don't know. Maybe just cut that out and say, all right, you know what? I'm done with Pizza Fridays, or I'm not gonna eat my kids' chicken, my kids' leftover food when they're halfway done with it and there's leftovers there. Like, pick something so small and just do that consistently. And then you could say, all right, maybe I feel a little bit better. Maybe that actually did help. Because guess what? It is gonna help. And then you could build on that. But you have to understand too, like going into it, there has to be a building block there. It can't just be, all right, I'm just gonna walk for the rest of my life a couple nights a week. That ain't gonna cut it. No, you have to go in understanding that and just try to start to build. And that's where obviously, you know, other people can help out who are in, you know, someone like me or you, but you need to come up with that plan a little bit, you know, you gotta schedule that out.

SPEAKER_00 30:17

That's my that's my two cents. Oh, I I love it. I think nobody that's that's one response that nobody likes to hear.

SPEAKER_01 30:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:25

Right? Because like the reality of of that is that it's that easy. It is like just like I seen you post, there was something that's that you post about like maybe it was yesterday, like how you were just you didn't want to work out, yes, and that you just started sweating and moving. How crazy is it? Like you're having a shitty day, you can't get moving. But the minute you start to sweat and get going, and you're maybe a half hour into that workout, you're like, wow, bro, we're ready, we're ready to go. And then it could just change, yeah, and then it could change your mindset to eating better, and you know, like that happens quite frequently, right? All the time. And it's just just start small.

SPEAKER_01 31:08

Yeah. It's and it just to go back to that real fast, that mindset piece what I posted yesterday, it also blows my mind because so many people don't get that out. So when I'm sitting there and I'm feeling like that, and I know I need to get this workout done, but I don't want to do it, and I'm procrastinating about it, and then I'm not doing the other tasks I need to be doing for that day, and it's frustrating, and now everything's starting to weigh on me. It's all trickling, it all's trickling. So, my out to start that is to sweat and get that workout in, right? I get that workout in, everything starts to be clear mentally, physically. I'm starting to bang out my tasks. My daughter, I picked her up later, and now I'm super present. I'm feeling confident, excited. What if you don't have that, right? That's what made me think like, hey, if you're that person who's not doing any exercise, you're not getting any of that out, you must still be feeling like that for the rest of the day. And this is where it comes back to what we said earlier. You need to do this to be present. You need to do this to get the stuff you want to get done.

SPEAKER_00 32:08

I gotta be honest, like this getting away. The sauna.

SPEAKER_01 32:13

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 32:13

I don't like so everybody has their little thing. For me, I swear by it. Okay, a 15-minute sauna session, like early in the morning, like that's sluggish, just to get uh whatever. Even if there's nothing physically that that's doing to you from a health standpoint, forget about whatever that 15 minutes of just lubing up the joints and sweating a little bit, yeah, get you rolling, get you feeling good, get you productive, right? Like, you know, so something small, something small like that could be such a gateway to generate all this uh momentum and do some some great.

SPEAKER_01 32:52

I feel like you can tackle that day and then you keep that consistently enrolling. So again, goes back to finding something. So there you go. You found something that works, someone else, find something that gets you at least going a little bit, something in the blood rushing a little bit, you know?

SPEAKER_00 33:06

So I think we're gonna close with this one here. If there's some if someone only remembered one message from Johnny Fuschetta, what would you want that message to be? My man. Hammer this one home. Let's give him a second.

SPEAKER_01 33:22

Damn. Honestly, man, I would say that truly he just wanted to get the best out of every person that he came in contact with. And he wanted everyone else to be at their best and be as happy as they could be, physically, mentally, mentally clear as they could be. And just he gave whatever he had, no matter what angle you met me from, I gave that person whatever I could. And I feel like that's what I would love to leave. I would love to leave that with my kids. I would love to leave that maybe my future grandkids. Like, I did everything I could to make them as happy as possible and the best life that they could live. Because that would make me happy. I love it, bro.

SPEAKER_00 34:04

I was putting a smile on my face right now. Johnny Foos lifts me up all the time, kid. As I was walking in here a little dizzy, he helped me figure it out tonight. He helped me figure it out, kid.

SPEAKER_01 34:17

We got it done, man. That's it.

SPEAKER_00 34:19

So, you know, like I think this is a perfect opportunity um to kind of close this up, wrap this up, and just you know, again, me and Johnny don't have life all perfectly figured out.

SPEAKER_01 34:31

Nope.

SPEAKER_00 34:31

Right? We don't have the health and wellness all uh, you know, there's so much out there. We're not experts in it. We're learning too, right? And um, you know, this is uh one of the reasons why we do this podcast is just to continue to give tidbits of information and try to provide value out there. Um, and we hope that Johnny's story and his you know struggles and journey have provided you with some type of skills to take away, right?

SPEAKER_01 35:02

That's right.

SPEAKER_00 35:02

Um, I don't know if there's anything you want to close with.

SPEAKER_01 35:05

Um I think I think that was awesome. I think again, going back to, you know, we dove into a lot, but all goes back to you just again being yourself, really get yourself out of the comfort zone a little bit, take a little bit more risks. If you're a parent, take care of yourself mentally, physically, do your thing. I promise you it will help in so many ways that you may not even understand yet because maybe you've never done it, you know? Yep. That's what I would leave it on for myself.

SPEAKER_00 35:30

Yeah, and we got one shot at this, man. We got one shot to live the healthiest version of ourselves. So why not be the best you can? That's it, man. So, in closing, once again, help us share the message. Please. We're two individuals that love and want to provide the most value out there. If you know somebody that's going through it, that's struggling. If you know somebody that's just looking for uh another notch under their belt, another tool in the toolbox to help them get them where they need to be. Prime Parent Podcast is a great place to kind of tap in. So we appreciate you.

SPEAKER_01 36:07

Thank you, guys.

SPEAKER_00 36:07

Till next time.

SPEAKER_01 36:08

See you next episode. Stay prime. Yeah, baby. The Prime Parent Podcast mission is for parents who refuse to just survive parenthood. They're here to lead it. We deliver the tools, systems, and strategies to help you stay ready, stay strong, and stay locked in for what matters most.