Episode 22: "bieberchella"

Episode 22 and we’re catching up on everything 😊 from our latest after-dinner sweet treat obsession 🍩 to Lydia finishing her book and entering her tandem reading era 📚 We talk Bieberchella and give our thoughts on Weekend 1 of Coachella 🎡

Then into this week’s dilemmas: he’s perfect but a terrible texter 📱 the version of him in your head vs reality, and why he texts every night but never actually makes plans 💗

Transcript

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Hello. Welcome back. I feel like my welcome last week was flat. I'm going, welcome again. We're changing it up. We're like, we're changing it up. I'm like, come on in, guys. You're so town. You're so demure. This ain't blue Peter. No. You sit down. You said let's get to shit. So kid. You said blue Peter a few times this week. Yeah, it's like uh uh like a clean cut vibe. Hello, boys and girls. Oh yeah. Let's read a story. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Um so we're not doing that. We're running this shit. Yeah. How are you, girl? Put it in a box and run it. Girl, I can't even explain that what that means. That is that is something that just You have to do the hand gesture. Put it in a box and run it. For the people listening, we're doing gunfingers. A sideways gun finger. Absolutely. Do you remember that um keeping up with the Kardashian episode where Scott Dissick was like, well, why can't I hold the gun sideways? And he's like, sir, you're gonna have to give it back to me. He's like, Why can't I point it like this? He's got the bugging Glock tilted, Ram. Isn't it like the bullet would hit you in the face or something? And the shoe. Oh, is it like the casings of the bullet comes out the back, it hits you in the face, or six? Or something like that. No way. Yeah. Never thought about that. I don't know, girl. Anyway, anyway, ask me how I am, fellas and girl. How are you? Oh, girl, I'm feeling greedy. Gluttony, if you will. Greed. Really? Yeah. My primal instincts have kicked it. Are you on? No. Yeah. How many pills I love how you've asked me that on here. Wow, guys. That is a very on-brand question. Am I on? I've got about four pills left. That's why I'm asking. Girl, it's it's it's it's the first chapter of like red week. Red week, strawberry week. Yeah. Strawberry week sounds so cute. I think that's what the Germans call it. That sounds like I'm laying strawberries in a field in my coops. Yeah. What do you what did you say to the thing now when she asked you what you were doing that time? Go on. She was like, Emma, what are you doing? And I was like, free bleeding on a patch of grass. Free bleeding, but she didn't find that funny. Any Gen Z would have found that hilarious. Because she just went, What? I was like, why are you not dying? That's fucking hilarious. That is hilarious. Free bleeding on a patch. Why do I feel like you can only free bleed with your hands in the air? I can imagine you like this. Scott in pushing out strawberry. Yeah. I'm pushing out strawberries now. Just call me strawberry shortcake. What's wrong with that? She's pushing out strawberries. Yeah. In the bushes. Oh my god. That's so bad. Yeah, I'm feeling greedy. My sweet treat last night was greed. It was too much. It was greed in a bowl. It was four scoops of ice cream and two tablespoons of Nutella in a bowl. Guys. And I had the same thing after, and I just looked at you after two mouthfuls, and I was like, this isn't okay. No. This is not okay. No. Like this should not exist. I was like, this ain't this is just overkill. No one should be doing this. I'm gonna have it again tonight. I'll do another thing. I'm gonna have some nuts on top of mine. That was sound sweet. Spicing it like. Do you know what we could do? Sandwich it between two cookies. Yeah. That would be banging. Have we got cookies? We have. Okay. You know what I thought we could make? A banana split? Do you ever like banana split? I loved them. I don't like bananas. With ice cream. Or just in general. I just even when we got banana splits, I eat everything apart from the bananas. Really? I don't get it. I'm sorry. It's just not. I'll have a Sunday. Yeah. I won't have a I won't have a banana split. That's fair enough. Because if you guys know me, you know you know how I feel about bananas and how they should be consumed. Each their own. They should be broken, not sliced. They should. It activates the slime. Yeah, and should we really be eating things that like dogs reject? Like mum tried to give Mum tried to give Leo and Bailey a piece of banana each. And the way Leo just rejected this slice of banana, he was like, What is that slimy shit? Wow, should we really be eating things that dogs reject? That is quite something. Like he was like that texture. That's philosophical. No, no, no, no, no. Um but yeah, my dessert was my dessert was unreal. Ice cream in the teller. Off we are post Biba Cella. We are, and I have just one thing to say. Go on. Addison Ray, she fucking did that thing. She left it all out on the floor. She did. Did you see what she said at the end? No. She was like, um, she was like, oh my, she was like, to all my fans, I love you. And then she was like, to all my haters, suck my dick. And I was like, Queen. Queen. She I feel like. Do you know what I admire about her? She posted TikToks, not even all your bowing on the sorry, sorry, sorry. Do not disturb Baby. Sorry, forgot, forgot. It was dad saying goodnight. Or I'll let you off. Um so yeah, I feel like she didn't post singing videos, she posted dancing videos. She did. What do you mean she was headlining at Coachella? I think people wanted to make her work extra hard for it. I think it's hard to once you're labelled as a TikToker specifically, influencer. It's very hard to try and move yourself away from that. So I think when people saw her perform, her performing last year at Coachella in the pink polka dot dress, and she's on Charlie XEX song, and she comes out. People were just like, she sounded out breath. Yeah, she sounded, you know, and she's really grown. She really has. Everyone loved her. I couldn't keep my eyes off her. Bebe smashed it. Like, we don't even need to talk about that. Like, you know what? There's been some really mixed reviews. What? Did you see what Lara Larson's? No. She wasn't for it. She didn't go. Wait, what are you talking about? She was like, why didn't he perform? She doesn't she was like, it's giving he sat at a laptop. But I think the thing that people don't understand is Justin Bieber was this performative child star, basically. Right. And he never got to do a show the way he wanted to. Right. So he's done the show the way he wants. Do you understand how the music industry has fucked this man? All the songs he played on YouTube, I don't think he owns any of those anymore. He doesn't. Is it Scuder Bronson? Owns all of his songs. What a wanker. He also doesn't he own Taylor Swift's songs as well. Yeah. So like he has no rights to that music. I believe he's had a very rough, rough ride. But I feel like if you love music, I feel like you should under you should have understood what he was trying to do. I think he didn't miss a vocal. I think he's also I think he how long has he been in the music industry? Like 15 years? Like something something crazy like that. He was like 12. He's not gonna bust out into a routine in a purple and white outfit. He's not gonna cut shades. No. Because I don't feel like that's him anymore. I feel like he wanted it to be like an intimate show for the fans. And I feel like he gave us a taste of that, the Oscars. I personally loved it. Zara loves a I was sat here, yeah. Zara wants a leg kit. She wants Beyoncé. She wants, you know what I mean? Like that's her. Everyone's entitled to their opinion. Um, but Emma and I fucking loved it. We set the 7.25 alarm to get up on the Sunday. Uh, we did not do that. We were on the sofa at 10 and we rewinded it, and we were sat here celebrating Bible cella, and we had some boss odds and some coffees, and it was great. I feel like everyone else was doing the same thing. Let us know if you put it on your TV and you were in your living room in your pajamas. Because I saw Molly Mae's story, and she was doing exactly what I'm saying. Emma and I were having a great fucking time. Yeah, it was great. No, it was absolutely, absolutely gorgeous. Guys, we need to put you on something, right? Listen, listen closely. Is this Cinoteller and vanilla ice cream? No, no, we've already put you on that. Try that. No, make this and watch this, right? Yeah. So you guys need to watch Trust Me, the False Prophet on Netflix. Whoa. Have we not spoken about that yet? No. Oh, okay. What a cinematic discovery. Wow. Oh, I do know what I just love how strong women women are. Oh my like inspirational. Right? Right. Like I like they need to make a film about this. Yeah. Absolutely. I don't know. It hasn't quite hit socials yet for me. The daughter of the lady who's on it, she's on she's on TikTok, right? I did see a video. Did she come up? I don't want to I don't want to spoil it for you guys, but you're gonna binge watch these four episodes like nobody's business, one after the other, and it's gonna be so good. And you're just gonna be on the edge of your edge of your seat. Absolutely. I think one thing Emma and I say a lot, I'm I'm just gonna say this. I'm gonna leave you with this. Everyone's entitled to believe what they want to believe. However, because uh religion is down to the individual, you can't you can't police or control what people believe. People are entitled to their faith. But because it's because uh religion is a construct created outside of things like uh the police, the government, it's not something that's regulated, it creates space for people to manipulate. Yeah, and we've seen this time and time and time again, and the way that this documentary covers that issue is so like unjudgmental, it gets everybody on the same side, yeah, and it there's just so many themes of just like bravery and growing your own thinking and your own sort of critical thinking of of faith and what that means to you. And there's just so many brave women in this, and it's it's it's actually it's unbelievable. If you guys watch it, watch it, message us and let us know what you think. Please. Because I feel like I just want to discuss it. They we have no one to talk to about it beyond like we've recommended it to our mum and our sister, and they they're yet to watch it. Mum and Athena, if you're listening, watch it. I hope you've already watched this already. This is pre-recorded. This like, hurry up. Yeah, come on, you've got you've got time. Yeah, exactly. Let's watch it. Exactly. So good. Didn't you watch that a film recently that you thought was really good? I haven't watched it yet. Let them go let him go. I recommended that. Oh, did you? Oh, right. Well, I'll just shut up then. Um, yeah, you guys, you guys need to watch that. Absolutely. Do you know what I've got in my notes? Have you ever had an experience where you've almost died? You asking me? Yeah. Yeah. Okay, because I watched something today and I was like, oh my god, I completely forgot about that. Not about the thing we were discussing the other day. No, no, no, a completely other thing. Oh, okay. Go on. I was on a boat, right? Right. I don't know how to articulate this. No, fuck it. Right, so I was on a boat on holiday with an ex-boyfriend, right? Okay. And it's one of those things where you can rent your own boat and just go out into the fucking open water. Yeah, it's pretty. I've done that. It's pretty. Who why after doing that? So much can go wrong. How is that allowed? I don't know, girl. How is that a thing for our own safety? They put a map in front of you and they go, you just follow this line, okay? Cool. There you go. Go here. Here are the keys. Right? They're like, don't, you can go here, but don't go here. And they do a right big X on it. They're like, because there's there's rocks and you will crash. Yeah. Right? And they draw you a map, and I'm like, I'm none the wiser. I'm also I also can't drive. I can't operate a vehicle. Never mind a fucking boat, right? So my boyfriend at the time is the one who has to operate this boat, right? Worst experience of my life. I feel like I remembered his story, but go on. We fell out because of it. Got on the boat. I thought you meant you fell out of the boat. I did think about it though. I was like, I'm safer in there than up here. Honestly, I was like, I'm a good swimmer. I'm a strong cyst swimmer. My dad swam for such a time. You just hear a splash. Ema, babes. Honestly, I was sat on the back. The waves were crashing in the opposite direction to the boat. The boat is at a 45-degree angle upward. And this boat's fucking tiny as well. It's fucking tiny, right? We are crashing into these waves so much that the anchors at the front, the flap for the trap door where the anchor is flap, flaps open, and the anchor comes back at us and falls in the boat. Emma. Bad. Was that not secure? Screaming in fear, and my boyfriend is literally happy as Larry, like giggling, laughing. He's having the time of his life. I crawl up to the peak of the boat and I have to hoist, I have to pull the anchor and drop it in the latch and flip it. Like, you know, there's like a little, it's just a little metal like thing to close it to keep it latched, yeah. Anyway, I go back to the back of the boat. The boat's still moving, right? I'm grabbing to the back of the boat. I have to I find my seat, but it's going up and down like this. You're going to sit down. Yeah. The boat comes up, my bum comes down, and the impact. Oh my god. I'm holding my boobs because they're going up and down and they're hurting. Like we're literally going up and crashing. I've got my foot on the cooler, right? And then I've got my hand on the Zorbers. Because I was like, this is gonna go flying into the ocean. Not the goobest. Not the goobes. I was like, yeah, honestly, because you would have jumped in the sea if that was fucking joking. I'm not letting the fish have them. And I remember I was honestly like screaming in fear, and my partner, partner at the time just found it fucking hilarious. That is so funny. Honestly, I rang Athena afterwards. I was like, I'm fucking fuming. You were fuming. I was fuming. And you know what sparked that memory? I watched a video of it happened to these girls, like they're screaming in fear on this on this boat, and the men who are on the boat are like, no, it's fine, and then it gets too late, and they're like, we should probably turn back, and the boat fucking tips over. Yeah, that's fucked. But they have mate. I've never been on that specific boat trip and it'd be relaxing. No, it's not relaxing at all. I went with a girl that wanted to fucking drown, mate. Wow, really oversharing, mate. It's all coming out. All our phones were dying. I don't give a fuck. Come on, go. Someone's not a phone, mate. We've all got 1%. Also, we're on the boats going, it's fucking flying in the air. I look, I look at land and I'm like, remind. It's getting smaller. We're coming out to the sea. They said the girl's like, no, you can't go that way. And then this bitch was convinced that she could drive in the bay. And the one thing they tell you is, ring us on the walkie-talkie, and we'll let you in. We'll come and get you and drive the boat in the bay. She went, We could do it. Or we're gonna get arrested. Yeah, yeah. And they're yelling at you, screaming, waving. You're windsweats, you're covered in salt. All you want when you get off of that fucking thing is is a kebab. Yeah. This girl wanted to go to a five-star restaurant. We all look like we've been chucked in a fucking tumble driver. I mean, most boats are fun. But like, oh, do we need a window one day? You would have to drive it though. And you know what? He left me to drive it, Lydia. We started doing a donut. I couldn't, I couldn't get it to go straight. And I was doing this. I was like, what way is straight? It was awful. It was awful. But that's how that was a near-death experience for me. And it was the same way the way back, and I was like, I'm gonna kill him when we get on land. I'm gonna let him get back to land, and then I'm gonna drown him. Like, psych. But yeah, girl, how are you though? Tell me what's give us a little bit. Well, I'm alright. Uh Biba Cella was the highlight of my weekend. Yeah. Loved it, it was great. Um, we're sitting on our sofa, and Emma and I would were in the car uh the the day before, and we were blaring, where are you now? And we were like, if they did this, we'd be in the crowd, jumping, jumping, jumping, and then he played it on the screen, and Emma and I were living life. He did favourite girl. Yeah, yeah. Yo, who am being in Okay? I thought you were gonna leave me hanging there, you betch. Yeah. No, I couldn't. I was like, oh Shubachella was was the one. He was the one. Aristotle's alright. Let's know if you know that reference. Um, I finished my book. Oh, amazing. Finally. How many books in are you to see? Um I've got I've got three left. How many have you read? Five. Oh my god. I think so. It's Throne of Glass, seven or eight books. I want to say seven. It's giving seven. Assassin's Blade, Throne of Glass, Crown of Midnight, Air of Fire, Queen of Shadows, five fucking books. Wow. And now I'm on um, oh, is it have I read Air of Fire? Fuck, I don't know. Yeah, I have. Now I've got two books that I'm on. So I've got um right now I'm reading Storm of Storm of Something. That's right, you're learning. I've I've got basically um there's two more, there's three books left. Of the what series, let the people know. Of the Throne of Glass series, the Sarah J. Mass series. Um, but I'm tandem reading these two books. Right. Which basically means you read two books at once, and the chapters are outlined for you in what order to read them. So you're going back and forth between two books. What the hell? So I'm gonna read five chapters of the sixth book, and then I have to read one chapter from the seventh book, and it just goes back and forth. Because I think I think it goes back and forth in time, and if you just read them one after the other, I think they can be a bit boring, and you don't understand certain pieces, and there's a massive cliffhanger, and it how that's how it makes sense, basically. So far, check you out, you little reader you. Yeah, yeah. You little reader um so far, people say it's the best series. They do, yeah. Are you feeling that? Emperor of Storm, Tower of Dawn. Those are the books. Right. Sorry, okay. Um the best button. People say it's like series. People say they love this series. Would you because I'm not getting those. I feel like Do I agree? Yeah, when you read Akatar, you were like mind blown. This is the best. I think I but I think that's because I'd never read anything like that. I think Akatar is a special place in my heart because of the characters. I love those characters. Yeah, yeah. This is I think the storyline's a little bit more challenging in Throne of Glass, but there's a lot more plot. I wouldn't say that Throne of Glass is better than Akatar, but I haven't finished reading it. So I think I need to finish reading. Reading it before I decide. Yeah. Because Akatar is very romance heavy, and I love that. Whether as Throne of Glass is a grower, like it only the plot only really kicks in in book three, four. It's whether it's in Avatar, you just gotta get through the first book and then you're really in the storyline. You're in it. Um but guys, for the ones that have read Throne of Glass, Rowan, his character, wow, really. Yeah, okay. Fantastic character. Um, and apparently all the stories connect, but I don't know how. So all of the book series in Sarah J. Mass's world, they all intersect in some capacity, but I'm not sure how yet. But it's really good. So I've got I've screenshotted um the tandem reading guide off of Google, and I've literally just got all the chapters here. So I've got to read five chapters of um Emperor of Storm, and then I have to read um a chapter from Tower of Dawn, but they're fat books, so I can't really take them anywhere, so I'm just gonna have to be reading that reading them at home. Yeah, yeah. Maybe keep keep them at home. Um so that that's sort of the biggest update with me. Um I was in London today, I was in work today, and they were playing some bangers in the toilet, you know. Why in the toilet? I was sat in the loo and I was like, Is this Lianne the Haven? I was like, I haven't known this girl in forever. And then I went back to the loo a little bit later and they were playing um they were playing um The Boy is mine. Oh chute. I was washing my hands, I was like, I've got a video actually of me dancing in the middle. Um washing my hands. I'm joking. Um but other than that, babes, I'm cushted. The sun is sunning, it's so nice to finish work and it be sunny outside, especially if we're recording the pod. Yeah, yeah, like when we were recording the pod in the winter, it felt like it was three o'clock in the morning. Yeah, like actually filming after a work day or like filming after doing something doesn't feel as bad when it's sunny. Oh yeah, yeah. Absolutely, guys. I'm gonna adjust. Girl adjust. Do you have my knee click? No. Fucking hell, I need a chiropractor. Um you need a knee replacement. Uh, so I have another TikTok video that I found that I want to share. Um, because it's hilarious, these comments. Right, so um the video says, girlies, tell me how your situationship is going, but in a make but in makeup terms, so men don't understand. Oh. Have you seen this? I love this. So good. I haven't read in it. I haven't seen it. Okay, no, no. Girls, buckle up, right. Because I saw a version that was tell me tell me about the girl that you're that you're dating, but in football terms, so the girlies don't understand. Oh I saw that obviously I didn't understand shit, right? No. This is our version. Okay, go ahead. Okay, right. Got a beauty blender, but I have to still use my fingers in the end. Oh girl coming to Jesus. Oh my god, that is outrageous. Wow. These girls are so creative. Literal literature right there. Oh, someone put, I just started to use a new mascara. I really like it, but I'm scared it will burn my eyes. I don't know if I get that. I think she means like I started using a new mascara. I started dating a new man, I really like him, but I'm scared he's either gonna fuck me over or he's gonna give me something. Oh, he's ugly. Yeah. Right? Burn my eyes? Someone put, apparently I keep using public testers. Oh, that's disgusting. God, I hope you're healthy and wealthy. Jesus. Someone put, I've stopped wearing makeup. Oh, if I could challenge you to come up come up with one on the spot, could you? No. Could you not? No. Could you? Uh a recent one. Yeah, I feel like I feel like I'd probably say uh I started shopping in Sephora because I thought the product was was better. Turns out it's all still the same. That's what I would say. Okay, I've got one. Go on. Oh you like I saw your eyebrow and I'm gonna shoot like just remove it. Yeah, uh I added that foundation to my basket and it said it was out of stock. Oh yeah, I like that. Okay, nice. Um got bottle of these other ones. Bottles said full coverage, but it's tinted moisturizer at best. I miss my old foundation even though it's not my shade. Oh, that's sad. I bought the test up. My new blush made me look like a clown. These are good. The mascara wand is a little bit small. Uh okay, last one. I'm scraping every bit of foundation from the bottom of the bottle. Oh, scraping barrels. Scraping bottles. Oh, slowly realising I might have blush blindness. Yeah, that's a great one. That's a good one. Oh girls. I was so creative, girlies. Yeah, those made me go gone. Right. Should we get to the dilemmas slash slash question part of this episode? Go one. Right. Should we just drive dive straight straight straight in? Wow, I'm really, really lagging. Today's been a long day. It has. I hit the ground running this morning. Did you? 7am. Shit. Laptop open. Shit. Five o'clock finished. Fuck. 30-minute lunch. That's fucked, mate. No sleep. At least you wait. Next club. Another club to mine. Ice cream and a teller after that. No, let's get let's get fucking into it, mate. So here we go. He's perfect, but a terrible texture. Red flag or just a guy thing? So I'm that's my response. That is my response, mate. Oh fuck, mate. You know what? I actually think sometimes the best texters are actually full of shit. You know so I actually don't think it when they're hit when they're hitting you with the one-liners and you're laughing, yeah, the next day they're fucking gone out your DMs. Do you know what I mean? It doesn't mean anything. I do not think volume of texting necessarily equates to. Do we mean like practical texting? He's a terrible texture. Or like chatting. Oh, I I thought I'm I thought it was frequency. Oh. Not like terrible texter. Like I'm sorry, I'm not talking about it. He's a boring texter. I'm not talking I'm not doing that. How was your day, babes? Text messages. Just ring me tonight. Yeah. Just ring me before I go to bed. Quick and easy. Low effort. I just feel like with texting, you the only reason you should be messaging me if it's early stages, if we don't know each other, is to plan something. Yeah. Because then you get all caught up thinking the relationship is good. You guys are texting all the time, you're sharing your life stories. That is a parasocial relationship. I might as well be in a relationship with Justin Bieber because I've seen Justin Bieber the same amount I've seen you. Yeah, absolutely. What was the question? Need I say more? Red flag or just a guy red flag? Not weaponised incompetence, not on this podcast. Not on this podcast. Not in this lifetime, though, at least. Come on. We can do better. Come on now. I've always said that. If it's hard work, no, I'm alright. And it's like you're trying to, it's like you're trying to drag a genie out of the fucking bottle. And he don't want to go. He doesn't want to come out. It's like, you know, when you're like you there's like a fly in the rhubus, so you wait for it to come out the window. You're trying to usher it. Yeah, it's awful. No, everyone have I ain't got fucking telling. Yeah, it should be a few. That genie doesn't want to come out. Yeah, that's a red flag. I'm sorry. But I I can equally be a shit texter, but that also means I'm not interested in you. So think about that. When you're not responding to a man, why? Because you don't like him. Yeah. Next. Girl, that's so true. That's so true. You should be like give you should be seeing the text getting excited and be like, okay, I'll wait two minutes, and you actually only wait 30 seconds before you're like, people are gonna respond. That's the reality of the situation, Bubs. I don't know what to tell you. The thing is though, I don't know. Are they a terrible texture in a relationship? I think if if we're interpreting it as they're terrible with telling you where you need to be and filling you in on where they are, and it's disrupting practical things, yeah, that's irritating as fuck. Yeah, if they don't like to text back and forth about how the day's been and what colour socks they're wearing, I can I could actually do without that. Yeah, morning. I'm I'm alright. Yeah, I'm all I don't need that. That's a fourth. All I need is have a good day, babes. Yeah, bring you off the world. See you later. Yeah, see you later. Yeah, remember, we've put that place nice, yeah, yeah. Alright, I'll see you, I'll see you tomorrow. Cool. See you tomorrow. I don't want to be texting you all day while I'm at work. Yeah, long.

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I'm already an admin. I mean, I don't need more admin in my phone. Oh, and that's what it is as well. If you're a corporate girly and your your job's hybrid, yeah, so you send so many emails and Slack messages a day, and you've got family group chat, you got messages from your friends, friend group chat, and I got you. The list goes on. I don't need more. No, I don't need more admin, more live admin. Fuck that. No, right. Next question. You've built a version of him in your head that he doesn't meet. Do you accept reality or hold on to potential? Okay, can I say one thing? Go on. I think this is where women have their downfall. We build up these men in our head. I do it, I sell myself a dream, and then you're disappointed. Of course you're fucking disappointed. You put unrealistic expectations on this man that you don't even really know yet. You like the idea of them, not the reality. And I think we can get a bit because we want to be loved and we we want to be in relationships. I think sometimes we can paint them out to be something that they're not, you know. So of course you're gonna be let down. You kind of put yourself in that situation, yeah. Um, and like Emma and I said, we can get set really quick, yeah. Like a trifle, yeah. Well no, trifles or not overnight. Like a jelly. I'm like get set like scent spray, polyfiller, instant sense, polyfiller, yeah, hairspray, yeah, really quick, locked in quick. Um, so I think sometimes we can twist the facts to fit the theory rather than adjust the theory to fit the facts. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. So that that's what I'm saying. Isn't that what people do though to survive? Like when they're out there in the desert and there's no fucking water, so you hallucinate just to survive. Yeah, but this ain't sometimes it feels like we're not on bloody what's it called? What's that that channel, that show on channel four? Something Sales. Oh, I don't know what you're on about. And we don't watch TV like I watch TV. Um so do we accept reality or hold on to potential? Accept reality, please. Yeah, let's stop falling in love with potential and falling in love with the bare minimum. Yeah. Because I'm telling you now, um uh like a man's going above and beyond is a woman's like bare minimum. Yeah, and this thing about holding on to potential, I don't think you should hold on to potential in a romantic context. You hold on to potential with a house renovation, a career, yeah, a job, a you know, things that are practical, things that you could have clear action items for with targets. I don't know if that man's gonna come up with action items to achieve his goals. Yeah, because as um that series we were watching yesterday, um this so we're watching that um John F. Kennedy and Carolyn show. And he was like, um John was like, people are risky, like there's always risk when there's people involved. Yeah. So you can't kind of you can't, you can't put the foundation, can't just be potential. There needs to be evidence as well. Then there needs to be, do you know what I mean? Yeah, I think sometimes it's easier to like create this perception of someone in your head than to um face facts because I think that's what you do when you don't know someone, you see them around, you see them on socials, like you develop this impression of them like in your head, and then you meet them and you kind of want to hold on to them. There's nothing worse than the pin drop moment when you're like he's nothing like what I thought he was gonna be. Nothing like what I wanted him to be. And well shit, you could be nothing like he thought you were gonna be. Do you know what I mean? Works both ways. Fucking hell, that is the most humbling experience ever. I know, but I don't even want to I don't even want to talk about that. Honestly, that's too much. Yeah, let's not even go that way. Um, so yeah, accept reality, but yeah, because you're just hurting yourself, you're prolonging the pain, babes. Yeah, no, absolutely. If it's for you, it won't pass you by. Okay, uh, right. He texts you every night, but he won't make actual plans to see you. Let you go first, babes. I can tell you've been raining, you need somebody to talk to. Girl.

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You don't have to be hiding. I'm your girl, you're my girl, we your girls, don't you know that we love you?

SPEAKER_01 37:37

Right. Remember what I said about the genie. If there's anything you're gonna take away from this podcast, is the sweet treat I said at the start and the genie metaphor I used five minutes ago. Do not drag that man out of that phone. Do not don't do it, don't make yourself look like an idiot, right? Because it's just it's been tried and treste tested and it doesn't work. It doesn't work. Yeah, and I really, I really don't feel like you deserve to have to read in between the lines and use your emotional intelligence in order to get closure. Yeah. Are you questioning my intelligence? Are you right in the words of Nella Rose? Absolutely, are you questioning my intelligence? I just think if he wanted to, he would. Yeah. And I think actually, I'm so sick of socials because it makes people so accessible, yeah. So much so that you're like, oh, I'll just message them after, or like there's this misconception that someone's at your fingertips when they're not, they could be in a completely different city, a completely different town. Yeah, like I almost feel like a message is not, I wouldn't even categorize it as effort. I was about to say, I think we've we've put way too much weight on messaging, dealing with the stuff. Two seconds to tap your finger fucking virtual shit, yeah. And I think social media is the perfect ecosystem for false promises to foster. Yeah, because it it creates opportunity for people to linger, yeah, linger, absolutely like a ghost. Yeah, you know, they always come back every holiday, yeah, every time you're in your hometown, like shit like that, like yeah, to take it from me. It's just it's just not worth it. Yeah. And why is he texting you at night? Even if he texted you, if you're like, no, that's not my plan. He texts me during the day as well. Girl, if you haven't seen him in three months, fucking bin him off. Yeah, I agree. I don't think I have much else to say on that. Um, yeah, if he won't make plans, again, no one you don't want to pen pal, do you? No. And again, I hate I actually kind of hate texting, I can't lie. It's fun for like a week and then it gets a bit old. Yeah, I mean, I do think I do think you can connect with someone through messages. I do think, like, I think if you haven't met someone and you can key key on your phone, then there's something there. Yeah, and it's nice to scroll through those messages and be like, oh my god, like um, but I I have been put in this situation a couple of times where there's no follow through. Yeah, and I flag it with them, and they're like, I hear you, I'ma do better. Yeah, and then nothing happens, and then they go, I can't give you what you want. Oh my god. I'm like, thank you, sir. See you later. They make it sound like you want marriage and kids. That's the thing that I don't get that I can't give you what you want. Yeah, don't now try and try and sound emotionally complex and like and you're so emotionally self-aware. You're not. Don't make me feel sorry for you and like you're doing me a favour. Yeah, you've just wasted however many months of my life. Yeah, do you know what I mean? But I also think this is the universe telling us that this isn't meant to happen for us right now. You and I have had that conversation multiple times over these last couple of months. I think it's just not meant to happen for us right now. Agreed. Um I refuse to settle for a rat bag as well. I absolutely can't do it. I've seen so many in my time. I refuse, I refuse to settle for a rat bag. Yeah, no, we're not doing that. It's not in total. But yeah, I think I think girlies, we we are better, we are better. We are better than this, and you deserve better. And you don't want to be there's nothing worse than like like constantly checking your notifications, or as soon as your phone goes off, you're hoping that it's a message and it's not, yeah, or you're hoping that he's asking what you're doing and he's not, just don't torture yourself, yeah. You know what I mean? Like it's it should just come to you naturally, and there's there's nothing worse also than if you are sustaining this like unsustainable like way of communication, and then you develop feelings for this parasocial relationship, okay? And by parasocial relationship, if no one gets what I'm if no one's picking up what I'm putting down, that's when you have a relationship, when you feel like you have a relationship with someone who've never met before in your life. Like, you know how there's fandoms, there's fans that are obsessed with like Beyonce or whatever, and they feel a level of entitlement to that to them, they know everything about them, but that person knows nothing about you. Yeah, it's like a similar situation to that. Like, do not get yourself in a state where now you have feelings for that person, and when they decide to ghost you and block you, you have to unpack that yourself, yeah, on your own. Just avoid it altogether, girly pops. Absolutely. Um are we gonna charge it there? I think I think girl, what does charge it even mean? I don't know. Leave it there. I think you've I think you've used it wrong. Charge it. Yeah, I think I get what charge it is. What do you think charge it is? I think I don't know. Charge it is like, oh, she had a crash out about work, whatever. It's like charge it to the rat race. It's like blame it on blame it on, but I also think it can mean like I think it can be like the end. Oh Ever shut up. Oh geez. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings on those things. I feel like I could talk about these honestly relationships with men for forever. Yeah. Uh but we're gonna end on a positive note. Um, I'm really excited to have some dinner. I know. We've made homemade nando's. Oh my god, I haven't. Emma has. I have. I walked in the door and was like, I'm gonna have a Potato, I was like, I'm gonna have one as well. She opens out this oven tray, and I'm like, those potatoes are nice. I've eaten one of the little sp a little bit spicy, a little bit of maize, chili powder. So excited. Are we gonna have a bit of rice? Oh, we could have some rice. Spicy rice. Yeah, the spicy rice in there. Some cohen. Yeah, corn. We've got chicken thighs. Those are the best ones for the things. I hate that open way nando. They're moist. They are moist. They're succulent. They're succulent. Sorry if you hate those words. I love these. If you go to Nando's, if you're not ordering thighs, what you're doing. Yeah, and we're gonna have coleslaw as well. Yeah. I'm very excited. We're gonna watch some TV. Bridgeton? Yeah, I think so. I think so. Cool. And then some ice cream and Nutella after. Thanks for every sharing, Emma. Thanks so much, Andy. We'll see you in the next one. Wait, we post a new episode every Thursday. She's an eager beaver. We post a new episode. I've done this a few times. Should we take the next one? Post a new episode every Thursday. Um make sure to like and subscribe. If you're watching, if you're listening, rate this podcast. We would love it. Please. And don't forget to follow us on socials as well. We're on Instagram and TikTok. We are. And that's it. We love you guys. The next video after this will be the Cypress vlog. Yeah. So we hope you enjoyed that. Let us know what you think. Um, and we love you very much. Love you very much. See you in Cyprus.

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See you in the Cypress. Yes, and lead your hand through stormy weather. Lost in a space right now. I don't know. I'm still old Jew.