Episode 28: "dennis the menace"

Unfortunately, we're both back on Hinge 😭 so this week's episode is heavily dating-app themed 📱 Lydia talks through the things that make her instantly swipe left, from minor irritations to genuine red flags 🚩 while Emma shares some of the messages she's been getting from her matches 👀

We also revisit the cabin crew and pilot conversation 👩‍✈️ and we read our first EVER listener write-in to the pod 🎊 

A lot of Hinge chat, some strong opinions, and the usual oversharing 🎙️🫶🏻

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:17

Welcome back. Episode 28. 28. We're almost 30. We're almost 30. 30, 40, late 30 20s. Yeah, we are. Absolutely. Absolutely. Stop. I'm not claiming that late 20s line for at least a few more years. I know, in it, because when we hit 25, technically we're mid-20s. Yeah. No, it's and I know that's still so young. But it's scary because it's the halfway mark. Yeah. It's actually our birthday really soon. Literally two weeks? Two weeks. I think. Well, it's the start of the week after next. So technically it's under a week. Okay, we've put two days off. Two days off. I'm really looking forward to it. Yeah. Is anybody on holiday? I know. I feel like people are taking their trips. Are people on vacation? Where are you? What are you doing? Are you listening to us by the pool right now? Oh, to be sat by the pool. Or no, let me paint a picture for you. To be on the beach. I think I want to be on the beach, right? You're sunbathing all day. You've got a margarita in your hand. You've had a beach sandwich. Do you know what I mean? A beach sandwich? Yeah. Go on, tell us what a beach sandwich is. You know, you buy a baguette from the supermarket on the waddle down to the beach, and you get crisps and hams and cheeses and lettuce and cucumber, everything. And you just assemble the sandwich on like your sun lounger, and you just cut it in half with whatever utensils you have, and you you like get in the shade for a little bit, and you take that first bite and you put some crisps in there, maybe, and there's a crunch. What's in your beach sandwich? Also, no utensils are involved. You ripping that shit open with your fingers. Yeah, and no utensils are the user that everybody loves in Europe. Aeoli. Aeoli. Aeoli. In that yellow tub that's got the wings. Yeah. Yeah. I don't think it's a big thing. It's fantastic. Is it not? See, I don't think it's a bit more than a lot of things. I think people would be very angry at you for calling it butter. Okay, so I do apologize. Well, it's kind of like butter, I guess. It is fantastic, everyone loves it. I lift on it and I beat them. Yeah, everybody loves it. I hadn't tried it until about last year. And if you know me personally, you know that I don't like butter. Bear with me, okay? I just have certain rules and regulations that people need to abide by. For instance, I don't like when butter doesn't melt on toast, it has to melt golden. So there's a certain time frame in which I need to butter my toast, otherwise, I won't eat it. I'm better now. Like, if you bring hot bread and butter to a table in a restaurant, I'll eat it. But I'm not necessarily having it in like a cold sandwich. However, that aioli crap stunning. Some people, I've got a few friends where we can just eat butter out of the fucking tub. Like, I will have a butter sandwich, but that repulses a lot of people. Yeah. Yeah. No, not for me. Totally. Like butter in a ham sandwich, it makes me like gag. Yeah. You either love it with texture, it really coats your mouth. So, yeah. I'm just not here for it. Anyway, completely. Yeah. Just tangent in the first three minutes. Yeah. Um. Yeah. I thought you were gonna ask me how you are. I was gonna go while you have. I was gonna ask you how you are. I no, I think you should go first. Um, so diving straight in it, right? I've got a note here. Yeah. And ladies, I was enlightened with a bit of male jargon. Yeah. Insight. Yeah, a bit of insight like that we'd never considered before. Absolutely. Yeah. And I think sometimes it rolled off the tongue so naturally, like this term, like this phrase. And that is my favourite thing to discover. Like, I think, I think actually, when this when this phrase was presented to me, it was said so naturally, almost with the assumption that I knew what it was, or I should have known what it was, because it was used all the time with the mandem. I know, right? So, yeah, so here we go. So, did you guys know, or did you know, that when guys go out in a group, there's certain guys in that group who have the pull power. I'd never heard of this term before. Right? I mean, we all know in a group that there are the alpha fem alpha females, alpha males in the in in said boy group. There's always there's always a guy that I feel like all of all of the guys sort of look up to and want validation from, but I'd never thought about it like this and in this way. So no, I'd never heard it before. And I'd never heard of it before either. Now that sounds like their ability to pull girls, it doesn't. Basically, having the pull over the group means that let's say a girl hits up one of your boys, and that guy goes, Oh, there's this girl in this other bar, I want to go, everyone rally up the troops or go in there to meet said girl or said groups of girls. Sometimes some guys in that group don't have that power, basically. So if I give you an example, let's be raw and let's be raw and real, Dean. So I was out on the weekend in the bar with the girly pops. Here we go. We were in this beer garden, it's like 30 degrees in London, everybody's having a good time. It's my friend's birthday. And I've met this guy on hinge, and turns out he was like 10 minutes up the road. And we're like, okay. But I'm not a shit friend, and I don't leave my friends on their birthdays to go and meet men that I'd never met before. Um, so he was like, come and see me, babes, which I'm sure we've all had before. Like that message of why don't you come see me? Oh, is this delivering? I hate this. I don't think so, sir. I hate that. Okay. Which led to us discovering this concept of if if the main guy, if this guy in the group doesn't have the pull, that's why he didn't go, oh, yeah, be there and five. Well, it could be one of two things. It's either that person is really fucking disinterested. I'm sorry. He's really just not that into yeah, he's really just not that. I think it's highly likely girlies. Go, you're that bitch, okay. Thank you. He's just so chalant. I can't no so nonchalant, I can't. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So sometimes it's like, okay, if they've got if they've got the pull, you know, usually it's the it's the main guy in the group, you know. Like, I think it takes a lot of commitment to follow your friend on their quest to meet a girl, da da da. Yeah. But yeah, I I presented all my findings and all our facts to someone last night and got that revelation. So I thought I'd had I had to share it. The pond girlies. So apparently. Because if I think about it, if I think about the groups of boys that we know, yeah, I know who's the leader of that group. Oh, yeah. If you're calling that person, they're gonna rally the troops and get everyone to said motive. Exactly. Yeah, they're making the plans. Yeah, you're not gonna message Sheldon, who literally has no influence over the group. No, not a Sheldon. Oh, we love Sheldon. It's so random. Do you even know a Sheldon? No, I don't, which is what which is why there's no emotional attachment. But if you guys are called Sheldon or Noah Sheldon, or your partners are called Sheldon. It's all peace and love. Yeah. Um, but yeah, go on, Dean. What's the latest with you, babes? Um, guys. This is really not a problem in the grand scheme of things, but I've lost two pairs of sunglasses in the space of like two and a half weeks, and I keep I think about it every day, and it rocks my soul at the minute because I'm yet to repurchase. In the last episode, I spoke about how I went on a girlies weekend and I left my black Ojo sunglasses in the back seat of an Uber. Well, a couple of weeks after that, or was it before that? Anyway, yeah. A couple of weeks in between these two events, I go to a restaurant, we're day drinking, of course. It all involves drinking, me losing these items, by the way. So that's the common denominator here, and just pure carelessness. I've left my Sonnies at the table, left the venue, gone into town naturally, had more drinks in another place, realized I didn't have my sunglasses, and I'm like, oh, you know, I'll grab them tomorrow. And they were closed on the Sunday, and I was like, Oh, I'll go on the Monday, and I just left it and left it and left it. Turns out someone else in the restaurant has gone and picked up those sunglasses and gone, yeah, they're mine, because they kept a bunch of Sunnies behind, basically. That's what I was told on the phone, and they were like, Oh, yeah, we'll keep them. So it turns out someone's gone up and gone, yeah, those are my sunglasses. Well, they full well know they weren't. I'm fuming, and they're not like a standard brand, like they're they're from Lexella, they're quite niche, very niche. Found them on Instagram, and they're not like Ray-Ban or what's that? What's Quay? Key. Key. Yeah, Quay, Key, Key, yeah, like brands that people would have. So I full well know she's looked at them and gone, I'll have them. Yeah, you have him, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You have to be some kind of wench to steal someone else's sunny. Honestly, yeah, like I wouldn't even think to do that to someone. I know, it's definitely so annoying. So she's probably left her crusty, dusty sunglasses left there. Ridiculous. Anyway, I'm gonna I'm gonna repurchase both of them. There's nothing I can do about the Ojos because that's a Cypriot brand. Yeah, yeah. So I'll buy those when I go back to Cyprus. However, the Lexla ones are still discounted to the point that I bought them. So I don't have to pay more for them because I was worried they were gonna come out the sale, and then I have to pay the original price price, which is upwards of £150. So, guys, when you're leaving somewhere again, yeah, make sure you have all your belongings. Have all your repurchase things, and we're in the middle of a heat wave at the moment. So the Sunnies make the outfit. The Sunnies make the outfit. And now I've only got one pair. What ones are they? My black guesswhat which I love, but like the Ojo ones had like a black Ray-Ban frame, like they were very light on your face. That they all just had different moods, they were different vibes, they were different girls. So I'm fuming. Yeah, they were different girls. Uh I can I only have myself to blame, unfortunately. And I hope whoever took my sunglasses stubs their toe, loses their car keys, and can't find the remote to their TV for the rest of their lives, if I'll be completely honest. Um, and also misses their trains and flights, yeah, all the rest of their life. We'll pay an Etsy Witch to curse that person. Yeah, absolutely. Um, other developments, guys. I've decided I want to eat less red meat and pork. I want to transition to potentially the goal is to be a pescatarian. Ooh, that's the goal. Yeah. Because I went through a phase where I was really conscious of it and I wanted to go vegan, and I found that very hard. So I feel like the next step up for that is being a pescatarian. And I was really committing at one point, and now I've just completely fallen off the bandwagon. Emma and I are having beef and pork like every week. Do you know what I mean? Because we love a steak, we love sauce, we love a steak, we love bacon. I'm sorry, we're great. We're great, we're great. Do you know what I mean? But I do love fish, so I and so I think I can make it work. Yeah, so I made a proposition to Emma. I was like, how'd you feel about not eating? Because obviously, we do our food shop together, we live together. I'm like, how do you feel about not eating red meat or pork anymore? Just doing like chicken and fish. How do you feel about that? Yeah, and Emma was Emma was open-minded. Yeah, I just think, yeah, I don't know. Any animal that I probably wouldn't be prepared to kill myself, might I'm probably not eating a few. Exactly. I think I could wrestle a chicken. Yeah, they would be so loud though. Yeah. Fish, I could happily do if it's a fish. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I could, yeah. But when we're in Cyprus, dad cooks the fish whole and we debone it, de-head it ourselves. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So surely that's yeah. Yeah, so that means I can eat it. However, to save you the picture, oink oink, moo moo, I couldn't do that. No, no, no. No, we're not in fucking what's it called? Lord of the Flies. Yeah, absolutely. That's not happening. So I'll keep you posted on the journey. I mean, I'm an oat milk drinker anyway. I don't force you to have it, so you you can still do your cow's milk. That's absolutely fine. Yeah, I feel that's a bit controversial to be a cow's milk drinker. Yeah, and I also know all that I know all the discourse around that as well. Like try not to think about it. Um, side note, we were in a vegan calf like a couple of weeks ago with our uncle who is a full-on vegan, he's been since the dawn of time. And um, there was this guy in front of us, and he ordered a latte, and she was like, What milk do you want? He was like, Oh, just a cow's fine. And she went, This is a vegan calf, sir. He went, Oh, yes, right. He might as well have spat at her. Yeah. All they're trying to do. I want to go back and have that rap, but we'll keep you posted on the developments. Um, because I really like steak. However, I'm gonna try to be strong. It's only week one. You got this. Um, so though those are all my updates. Anyway, completely honest, gal. Joint update, yes, we're on hinge. We're on hinge, which we did mention in the last episode. Yeah, did we? Yeah, we did. We said that we were gonna divulge it a little bit deeper this week, yeah. Um so we've gone away and and kind of made notes across done our homework and come back with our thoughts, tips, things to avoid, things we don't like. Yeah. And then are we gonna divide into the status of of some of the matches? I'm not sure, ladies and gents. No, I'm gonna have to keep that for you. We can only share so much. Do you know what I mean? I'm still doing my research, I'm still gathering my findings, and guys, you know, but what I will say is having the pod has added like an extra layer. Oh gosh, the dating experience. Because if said man, which has happened, goes, What's your Instagram? And I give him my Instagram, it it's not very hard to find the podcast. Not like I'm ashamed, however, I do want to come across slightly mysterious and cool girly, and then you click into the pod account and I'm cackling like a chicken. Do you know what I mean? We're hooting and hollering. Yeah. You like it's like some of the videos are wee, hey man, oh gosh, it's not good. It's like it is like the biggest cock block, but then it also could be pretty effective because it kind of weeds out the guys that we don't want to be entertaining anyway. Yeah, I think I've gotten to the point now where I'm not doing Instagrams, I'm just doing phone numbers and what I'm doing Instagram. Because in what world should anyone who you're trying to get to know and portray this mysterious persona should have what 28 hours worth of footage of you just being your unfiltered, oversharing self? That's just not normal. But also that I think there's things you can establish through an Instagram. I do think Instagram's a trap, they can kind of lurk and just live there for the for the you know the whole eternity of time. However, if you can look at their Instagram, you might see if you have mutuals, that's all also helpful. The amount of guys I've found where I'm like, those girls are from Cyprus. Yeah, I'm like, nope. I mean, yeah, it's good. You can figure out if they're like they're in relationships. I do think there's a lot that can be discovered through Instagram. Yeah, however, I'm enjoying the just having their phone number, just texting, you know, when we're gonna organise dates, because yeah, Instagram is a great environment to just keep that person in your phone, like a sim or like a Nintendo dog. Yeah, you know those dogs when you used to Yeah, those Nintendo dogs, and like you used to forget and not feed them for two weeks, but they're like covered in shit and flies, and they still live, you know, and they just resurface every Christmas, birthday, and holiday. It's just not fun. RIP Nintendo dogs. I reckon they're still fucking alive. That actually gives me anxiety. No, okay, let's move on. Anyway, so yeah, um, I think top like just updates, quick observations about Hinge. Yeah, guys are using AI-generated photos on their profile, and I have screenshotted pictures, which I will put in now. Are we are we? I'm gonna put it on the short too as well. So blur out their faces, maybe. I don't know if I'm gonna blur out their face. Name and short. Because it's an AI photo. Okay. Do you know what I mean? That could be anyone. Yeah, you know, like insert picks. If this is you, what the fuck are you doing? I know, and we haven't tested to see these are AI generated. However, I think I know an AI photo when I see an AI photo. But yeah, using an AI photo on a profile, on a hinge profile is crazy. Girls, please be wary. Please. Hinges should have safeguarding in place where they can detect if a photo has been manipulated or not. Because oh my god, girls, please be vigilant, please. Girls and guys, please be vigilant. Yeah, absolutely. Um, so yeah, that's one thing I've noticed. Um what what else have I noticed? I've noticed that uh the age range for a lot of the guys on our profiles is crazy. Like my age range is my age until about the age of 28. So like 24 to 28. Yeah, right? That's mine as well. Fairly reasonable. However, that doesn't necessarily mean that I'm gonna see, I think at the beginning. So Emma didn't have her her um I didn't, her preferences set up. So Emma's preference was any motherfucker on this thing, any age, zero to a hundred, okay? And the amount of men in their 40s and 50s are swiping on a 24-year-old girl. So they have their preference at 24 and up. Yeah, what do you mean I'm your daughter's age? What do you mean, sir? No, that's absolutely that's not okay. It's absolutely insane. So once I filtered that out, because obviously my profile was up for a little while, yeah, then I had to get rid of them. But I couldn't believe it. Every so often Emma had someone like 40 plus in her in her hinge likes, and I was pretty shocked. Yeah, but when me and Lydia were playing hinge, we realised that we could only play it together, yeah, because obviously our radius is the same, and we did not want to match the same guys. No, because it brings back trauma of comparison. Yeah, you're so right. And we even had guys match both of us. Oh my god, yeah, and we'd have to delete them. And you're in my hinge photo. Yeah, I didn't add you in any of my hinge photos, but surely they I think we need to have a call. At least they could have clocked. Like, if you see this profile, do not match it because that is my system. Yeah, yeah, no, absolutely. But I feel like some guys are into that. I don't even want to dive over. No, I don't even want, I don't even want to get into it. But yeah, those are my I think those are my quick observations of that. Okay. Well, you have sort of set of certain do's or don'ts. I have things that I'm I don't swipe on, I don't swipe right on. Okay, so I'm swiping left if I see any of these things, okay? So let me just I got I created a list throughout the week. So boys who have not political in their bios, yeah, which I saw very often, that is personally something that I'm I'm just not willing to mess with. Personal preference, I don't understand people who aren't political or go, oh I don't I don't get involved in politics because you feel like it has nothing to do with you, yeah, or you find it boring, or whatever your reason is. Um, that personally does not fly with me. I'm not gonna lie, I'm not like a full-on politician. I don't like I'm not like got a seat in the House of Parliament. My politics could be better, my knowledge could be better, but I'm trying to work on it. But I know what's going on. Yeah, I know where I sit with things, I know where I'm on the where I'm on the fence, where I agree, where I don't agree, I know what's happening in this country, I know what's happening happening with women. That's a very strong political opinion of mine. Like the freedom of women and feminism. And if you're someone who doesn't partake or doesn't have an opinion, or you don't want a woman who is political, I'm alright. Thank you, sir. I'm alright. Thank you. Um, so regardless of how tall you are, what your job is, or how beautiful you are, if you've got not political in your bio, I'm just not yeah, I'm not engaging. Um, the next thing football related prompts. And I'm gonna preface my argument by saying this is not me saying that I don't believe football is for women, because I think it is, and I think We've proven that the women's team are sometimes better than the men. Yeah. Alright. However, if you have a really niche prompt on like who my favourite player is and all this stuff, football's their whole personality. I'm just, yeah, I'm just like, yeah, I don't like again. Do you like men? Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Why are you talking to me about I don't know who my favourite my thoughts on like to comparison between two players, basically? That's I saw that a couple of times. I'm just like, sir. I might just avoid that one and swipe another prompt if I feel like, you know, if I feel like I can vibe with you. But I'm like, why is your prompt something you predominantly talk about with your boys? Because they these guys don't know how to talk to women. Yeah, yeah, facts. Well, that's what it is. They just talk about themselves. You go on a date and they don't ask you questions, they talk about themselves the whole time. Yeah, yeah. Um, God, I've got I've got a couple more. Men who leave prompts blank, so you can't leave them blank, but you have to put something in them. And I see a lot of people choose prompts and then just put a full stop in them. Have you seen that? Or they just put their Instagram handle. Yeah, you're boring. Yeah. That's what that says to me. You don't know how to have fun, you're boring as hell. Um, moving on. What else do you um what does this say? Men who don't have any other nice. Oh, men who have like one or two nice photos, and the rest of them they just black them out with a black tile. Yeah, what? What do you mean you only have two photos? Yeah. Some of you and your friends, photos of your dog, anything. You want a holiday? Anything. Um, yeah. I I think that's everything.

unknown 23:45

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 23:45

Yeah, photos who look AI generated. Yeah. That was my last one. Um, so any of those things coming up, those those are my things that I'm avoiding. Yeah. Um because hinge can be a a black hole. So I've gone ahead, I found that actually when people were swiping, yeah, right? Connecting, what do you say? Uh when they were swiping? When we were matching swiping, yeah. When we were interfacing, yeah. Um, you know, if you get the friend's reference. Um, I really I had to write down some of the funny one-liners I got. Oh, yes. Um, so here we go. This is no shade. So unless you're being an arsehole. The first one was easy, Dennis. And that's because, oh, I fucking curse anyone who hated on me in this top. I had this red and black stripe, super crop top that was looking like it was giving brats, it was giving PCD, like pussycat dolls. It was it, insert photo, right, of what this looked like. Anyway, I saw the photo, I was looking in the mirror before I was going out, and I was like, this is very Dennis the Menace coded. It very, it really is. And if Athena's listening to this right now, I know she's fucking slapping her knees laughing. She said it about six times. Yeah. And everyone did the same fucking joke. It's like when you're tall and people go, what's the weather like up there? I just heard it so many times, it was so annoying. So I got about four different variations of the Dennis. And I did not swipe on any of you pricks. Yeah. Because you're not, it's not a compliment. It's not a compliment. I was like, you think you're funny, but you've never had a baddie, so leave me alone. You wanted a man to go PCD. Yeah, but fucking hell. They they shoot your shot. Anyway, the other one was I just barked at my phone.

unknown 25:37

Woof.

SPEAKER_00 25:38

Woof. Woof. Um, uh, yeah, I did not. That kind of made me just kind of cringe, or it's like barked. That's a bit too sexual. Like an animal. That's a bit too, yeah, it's a bit too sexual for me. Um, so this isn't really this this is a line that I got after like a few messages exchanged. Yeah. This guy thought he was it. Oh, I know what you're gonna say. He thought he was it. I think we both actually matched this guy. Um, did we? Yeah, we did. Anyway, I'm really savage on hinge. If you're not giving me what I need and if you're exchanging, like I think it takes like eight to ten messages to plan a date. Right. If you're not doing that, you're being unmatched and we're moving on. Yeah. Anyway, this guy was like, oh, let me pick you up at eight on Saturday. I was like, I've got a prior commitment. I was actually doing the marathon, but I felt like that was just too much information to tell someone. So I was like, oh, I'm busy on Saturday, kind of got something I can't get out of. Literally couldn't get out of it. Yeah. I was like, can we do another time? And he was like, Well, I'm gonna have to pick uh someone else to go on a date with. And I was like, cool, but glad to know that they're second best. And he went, You're actually joined first with a couple others. Fucking arsehole. Unmatched. Is this the one guy who's like seven foot? Yeah, I didn't match him, I just thought how is he that tall? I'm sorry, his whole personality is his height. How fucking boring. Oh my god. Like you're literally a giant. Um joined first. Fuck off. Someone else put height is a social construct, right? He was five nine.

unknown 27:14

That's funny.

SPEAKER_00 27:15

I'm five ten for anyone. I'm a tall, tall man and a half. We leave out the half. I count the half. I don't put the half on my profile. No, you can't by tell people. Um I'm 5'10 and a half and I don't leave out. I'll tell people because I need to let you know because if you're like, yeah, this girl's 5'10 and 5'11, it's fine. I'm telling you that there's a half. Yeah. Okay, someone else put a 5'10 baddie is exactly the height difference I need. He was 6'6. 6'6. President of the Six Club. Yeah. If you're president, Mr. President.

unknown 27:52

Mr.

SPEAKER_00 27:53

President. Bless America. Um, if you don't know what the six club is, is anyone who's six foot and above is in this club we call the six club. Right?

SPEAKER_02 28:04

Sexy.

SPEAKER_00 28:04

Yeah. The sexies are in the six club. Shout out, Ram, for pioneering for pioneering. Pioneering? Pioneering the term. Sexies. We love the sexies. Yeah, we love the sexies. There's loads of sexies in here. Yeah. Um, and then the last one, oh, that's it. I put guys who are using AI on their profiles. Yeah. But yeah, those are just some funny like funny. Joint first. I actually can't get fucking over that. Um anyway, loved that. Should we move on to like the main section of this? To our main squeeze. So, guys, we posted uh a reel a few weeks back. Yeah. Um, and like the text hook of that video was Shagonair hostesses. Yeah. If you watched the episode, you know that um I was helping you girlies out uh to find a pilot. If that tickles your fancy, if that's on your vision board in terms of your boyfriend, your husband to find pilots, I told you where they live. And then Lydia quickly followed up with pilots can be rap bags and they're Shag and the Air hostesses basically. So we edited that, put it into a little short, and put it on socials, and whoa. It got a lot of love. It got a lot of love. Some hate, but it got a lot of dislike a lot of people were discussing in the comments and sharing, and we were obsessed. Which is absolutely obsessed, and people from the fellow industry, like there was pilots and cabin crew commenting on this video, and we can appreciate the interaction more. We love it when you guys comment and engage with us, and I just didn't expect it, and it was it was so great, it reached the right people, it got in front of cabin crew and pilots, and we had a ball in the comments. Yeah, please go look at that video and read the comments. It's so entertaining. We were literally howling, it was so funny. Absolutely. So, what I've done is I've just screenshotted some of my favourite comments just to give you guys a bit of a taste of what's going on over there. Yeah. Um, also, if you don't follow us on socials and you haven't seen all this chaos, what you're doing, stop what you're doing right now, go follow us on Instagram and TikTok. Please. Um, and leave your own comment if you have a have a story with pilots or Cavember. However, I'm gonna share some of our favourite comments, and then we've also had a listener DM us with a story, which is very kindly. Oh my god. I think when we started this, I think our dream was to have someone write in out. Today's the day, episode 28. So let's start with the comments and what our favourites were. Yeah. So Lydia went, uh, can we have cabin crew confirm or deny? Right. And then, so in terms of what what this snowballed into, someone said yes, can absolutely confirm. I have three on the go right now. Girls, scandalous. Three pilots? Three pilots. Three. Three. Are they all from the same airlines? Different airlines. Do you think Emirates, EasyJet? I don't know why those two are and Ryanair. I don't know. Why are they both shit airlines? Surely air hostesses only stay on one. Oh yeah, you're right. They only fly for one. Yeah. But maybe it's the guy for Dubai and then the guy for you know, are they doing different routes? Yeah, like is there a commercial pilot and then a private jet pilot? Yeah. I wonder if there's a timetable, like you know what pilots you're gonna get paired with for flights. I know. There's a little bit of a rotor. I'm seeing Andrew on Saturday, but then go to the Singapore. Yeah, gosh. Yeah, scandalous girl. Yeah, Andrew Singapore. Are they all single? That's what I would like to know. Well, this is the thing. I feel like Emma and I were very suggestive in that video that there's only tomfoolery and and adultery going on in the trees. However, I think it's one of those industries similar to like the nightclub industry where you date bartenders and bouncers and all that stuff because you're all on the same schedule, you're all off at the same time. So I imagine that there are a lot of couples. So I don't think it's all it's not all bad, evidently, on that of pilots not being all bad. We had pilot Joshua, dial in, right? Sir, and he went, There is a common misconception about pilots. We just do our jobs and go back to the hotel to sleep because we're too tired from all the planning, safety, concentration, and flying. We don't have any time for additional drama. To which I said, absolutely howling, we'll let you off pilot Joshua, as you were. And he just followed back with a laughing face. So not all pilots are rat bags, we're not saying that. Some of them are sleeping. Yeah. However, we had another pilot comment people cheat in every profession. Yeah, fine. Yeah, fine. God. Yeah, but I think there's there's I think there's industries where it happens more. There's industries where your job can conceal things better than other people in other industries. That's true. Overnight stays in hotels with women over a weekend, yeah. I can see that being a better way to be a bit naughty than someone who goes to the office for nine to five and probably only has a lunch break to get a cookie in. But then I can also understand how it's easier to meet people in that profession. Because if you've got someone who if you're dating someone who has a normal nine to five and they're in the office every day, and you you get a schedule every so often, and you don't know if you're off on Christmas and all that stuff, I can imagine it's really hard to date someone when your schedule's like that. So I can imagine it is very easy to fall into relationships because you guys you guys get it, you're on the same, on the same wavelength. Yeah, true. Last comment we got though was Crawley, Hayes, and oh, the pheasant pub near LHR for International Hot Pilfs and Cabin Crew. To which I said, Pilfs, pilots I'd like to fuck. That's going straight in our vocab. Pilfs! Pilfs! Exceptional, well done, guys. Honestly, the amount of videos I've seen on TikTok of like women who are dating pilots, yeah, and they're always just stunning, stunning couples, and they like to go like they like go in the cockpit, or like they're like they're flying in addition and they get to fly first class and stuff. It looks great, yeah. It really does. Travel the world and all that. It really looks like amazing. Life to live. Right, let's get down to the nitty-gritty. Are you ready to read this off? Have you read any of it? No, so I'm going in blind. Essentially, we've had someone who engaged with the Instagram reel um kindly write in um because she is cabin crew and her partner is a pilot. We're gonna keep them anonymous, of course. Um, but she's shared their story about how they became boyfriend and girlfriend. Oh, this is a good one. And when I tell you, this message is long. I told her I was like, girly pop, give as much detail as you want. And I'm really excited. So thank you for writing in. You know who you are. Um, like I said, I haven't read this out, Emma hasn't. So this is a blind react. Okay. Can I get it up as well? So I'm following along with it. Well, it's not to the the the girls who overshare pages to my my direct page. Okay, okay, fine. Yeah, absolutely. Um someone's put, you know, a name behind a face. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Um, so I'm really excited to read this off. So you read just get in. I'm nervous. Well, you've got to read no stuttering, you gotta be gotta be clear, all right? And enunciate. Okay. Oh my god, I'm so excited. Okay, it all started because crew control randomly swapped me onto another flight that involved staying a couple of nights overseas. I feel like crew control has been. Okay. I turned up as normal, did all the usual security checks, of course, and I remember the first officer arriving late, looking absolutely drenched in sweat because it was so hot and he'd clearly been rushing. My th first thought was what a weirdo. Not he's so hot jumping in. He's so hot, you know. Okay. We did the crew briefing, that was that, and I headed down to the back of the aircraft to work the to work the flight. I barely spoke to him at all. It wasn't until we landed and I got into a taxi that we actually interacted properly. He was trying to figure out how to connect his phone to the 4G through our work iPads, so I showed him how to do it. He then asked what I wanted to do while we were away. I said I wanted to visit the stray dog centre and go see the sharks. Oh, she's a girly who gives back cuddling the doggies and take him on a little walk. We love you. Okay, dogs and sharks are also completely completely different vibes. She's shown that she's like got a soft side, but she's also a daredevil. Sharks! We love you, honey. Yeah. Okay, um, at that point, I think he decided I was the weird one. No girl, we love a girly with special interests. We got to the hotel, changed, and met for the re for the rest of the crew downstairs for a few drinks. I still didn't really speak to him much, but when we all went out for dinner, we ended up talking properly for the first time, and afterwards we all went to a bar. Oh okay, this is where the things can can escalate. This is where people get relaxed, you know. The long flight is kind of you know fallen away at that point. Yeah, absolutely. The vibes were great. Didn't we say I'm loving this? I feel like I'm right there with you. Gail, if you haven't decided to write a novel, you should. Because I'm oh wow, yeah. The sentence structure's immaculate. Honestly. Okay, right. The vibes were great. One of the cabin crew and the captain ended up pairing off, which honestly happens more often than we'd think. So the two of us naturally ended up spending more time together. Okay, so we've had two people pair off. Okay. At one point he tried putting his arm around me and I completely j dodged it. But by the end of the night we kissed. And then we spent both nights together while we were away. Whoops. Girls, I would do the same thing. I would do the same thing. I would do the same thing. Before we left, he asked if I'd like to come back to his place sometime. I agreed, but I didn't actually think anything would come of it. We barely spoke during the flight home because it was so busy. Then we landed and somehow we ended up going back to his. Okay, the next morning he took me out for breakfast before another flight, and I genuinely thought, well, that's probably the end of that. I don't think it's the end of that. If they take you for breakfast. Oh, but they usually want to get rid of you at that point. If they take you for breakfast. I think sometimes as well, you c you really can think like, okay, this can't go wrong, whatever, and then it fucking hits you like a like a bird in a propeller. The thing is, we know they're together now. However, I think that's always a good sign in the next morning if they keep the energy the same and they're like, should we go for breakfast? You can always see no energy shift the next day. Girl, I love this for you. Yeah. Okay. But then he turned up after work the following day to pick me up with the Chinese takeaway. Who is this man? Where did you find him? Emily Hof, where did you find this one? Jesus. Oh my god. And suddenly that became another night together. At this point, we spent four nights together and he was basically still a stranger. Looking back, that's actually wild. Then he went away for two weeks. So once again, I thought, right, that's that. Nice little holiday romance. End of story. Except the day he got back, I saw him again. After that, we were pretty much inseparable. Fast forward a little, he asked me to be his girlfriend in Italy. We ended up building a life together. We have a home, we travel somewhere together every month. I could cry. I could cry. Wow, this is so good. And somehow the sweaty first officer I thought was a complete weirdo became the person I couldn't imagine my life without. Funny how one random crew control change can completely change your life.

unknown 40:48

Oh girly.

SPEAKER_00 40:50

That is the sweetest. That is the most amazing story. That is incredible. Wow. Oh my gosh. Speechless. That was honestly so well written. That's so girl. You took a journey, and I'm so happy for you. You sound like an amazing girl, so I'm I'm I'm not shocked that you that you've got this man. Wow. Um, and he should be super gassed to have you, and it seems like he valu values you very highly. Do you know what I love about that story? Sometimes just really throwing yourself into a relationship, you know, just going with that instant connection. Well, not instant, you thought you were sweaty, but after that instant, yeah. And just really running with it. Lydia and I often talk about in the pod how we wear our hearts on our sleeves, and we really sold straight away. And sometimes I think your family and friends and people who care about you can sometimes advise against that. So I love hearing stories like that where it does work out. I absolutely absolutely love love. I know, I love it too. I literally said that to her. I was like, Emma and I love love, and we just we just want to hear every single detail. Um, that's incredible. Like the fact that they've like built a life together, and can you just imagine if there wasn't that crew change last minute? Yeah, I know they probably never would have crossed paths. I do believe in fate though, and I don't think that was a coincidence. I agree, and there's nothing nicer than when someone new just comes into your life. Absolutely. Because I imagine like with sometimes with if your profession is quite like demanding, yeah, sometimes it is hard to meet new people. Hence hinge, yeah. Like or spaces like that, you know. I think with cabin crew, I don't know, I do think you have more free time than. Well, I think it's that you do you you've got days on and days off, but you can only plan so far in the future. I work with someone and his partner's cabin crew, and like she's away for three or four days at a time, sometimes she's away for five. She never knows if she has Christmas or something, or it alternates, or she gets called in last minute. And I think, like, you know, if your partner does the same thing, I imagine it's like, oh yeah, that's normal, second nature. And you have similar interests, like they said that they travel every month because obviously, why would you be a pilot Cavent Crew if you didn't want to see the world? Like they have that interest in common, and it's just it's beautiful. Oh wow, do we know how old this girl is? Um she must be our age, right? I believe she's early 20s. I believe. Yeah, wow. I'm so happy. If you're listening, thank you so much for sharing that story. That was absolutely the story gave me chills. Absolutely impeccable. So good. I've actually in this bio in the episode before, we would love to hear more stories from you guys. Please. Whether it's Chaos, Carnage, or all Love and Butterflies, yeah, please share your story. Everything in between. Absolutely. We would love to hear, we would love to hear so much more. Yeah, 100%. And I think that's just like planted the seed for me. I'm like, how can we hear more from people? We want to hear more. We want to hear more. So good, honestly. Um, also, can I just say on the topic of hinge. The only downfall with hinge is like it's just such a boring way to like meet someone. Oh, absolutely. Like this girly pop has got such a story. Oh, absolutely. There's no story when you're like, oh, Mountain Hinge. Yeah. Can I say one thing? Yeah. Shall I? I'm gonna overshare with you guys. Go on. So I didn't end up going on a hinge date. And I did. I yeah, I will not share anymore. However, we had sort of agreed on that date that we wouldn't tell anyone that we met through the app. Yeah. Because it's just the most awful way to like imagine. It's not very inventive. Imagine like saying that to your family and friends. Like that's quite a weird, quite an unnatural. Everyone wants that coffee shop bump into the sweaty pilot who's just showed up late. Yeah, right? I feel like to be honest with you, I'd probably take that story and really commit to the bit and just like take it the full nine yeah. And it's like, yeah, that's yeah. Like I was he had the book that I wanted and he gave it to me, and then or you met at a snuff within it, you know. Yeah, or you met at like a wedding, yeah. Or you know, yeah, yeah. But the hinge, the hinge updates will will continue. We will we will continue to share more with you guys. If you have any hinge stories yourself, please let us know. Please, oh my god. Um amazing, yeah. But girls, that's the end of the app. What I'm thinking right now is England is playing this week. It is, and you know what, girlies, ain't no dates happening while England is playing, that's for sure. No dates, none. They're playing tonight and Saturday. No girl is going on a date on Saturday night. Not at all. Saturday is for the boys. I literally said to one guy like a couple weeks ago when they played that Wednesday, I think it was, England were playing. I was like, oh, I'm free on Wednesday. And I was just like, oh, England are playing, there's no way this man's gonna want to go on. It's not happening, it's not happening. Um, so so make sure you align on on the league table or that shit before you try and schedule a date with a man. Yeah, especially if England keep winning, it's gonna be a busy summer for you baby. Honestly. That's for sure. Honestly. Um, but yeah, we post a new episode every Thursday. Make sure to show us some love on our socials. We're at girls who overshare on Instagram and TikTok. Make sure to subscribe. Yeah. And click that post notification button so you know when a new YouTube video is up. Yeah. Um, please write in if you want to overshare. The email is in the bio. Yeah, and if email's not your thing, you can just DM us on Instagram. That's absolutely fine as well. But they will be anonymous, sure. They will not. We will not share any information that you do not want to share directly. Absolutely not. Um, and thank you to that girly pop for sharing that lovely story. We love you and your schmands, and we hope you just keep travelling the world and living life enjoying it and just have the best. We'll be living vicariously through you. Absolutely. Um, and if you have any more cabin cruise stories, please tell us. Like, scandalous old ones, please tell us. Yeah, because love's in the air. Do do do do do do love in the air. Okay, let's see what there. Well, thanks for every sharing, D.

SPEAKER_01 47:12

Thanks, and we love you guys.