Love & Life, Sorted
A Cambridge PhD sociologist's intimate, no-BS talk about love, family and everything in between.
Join Dr. Sandy To, marriage and family sociologist and author of the acclaimed book, China’s Leftover Women: Late Marriage among Professional Women and its Consequences (Routledge), featured in TIME, CNN, BBC, and more, for no-BS conversations about the stuff that really matters: dating as a high-powered career woman, finding a marriage partner over 30, who's doing the work in the marriage, what's the catch on motherhood and fertility etc.
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Love & Life, Sorted
Should Women Make the First Move in Dating? Yes AND No
In this episode of Love and Life, Sorted, Dr. Sandy To dives deep into one of the most debated dating questions: “Should women make the first move?”
Drawing from classic advice in "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider (why letting men pursue women matters) and modern insights from "Date-onomics" and “Make Your Move” by Jon Birger (why empowered women need to be more proactive in today's competitive market), Dr. To shares a balanced "yes AND no" approach.
Learn practical tips: Wait for clear signs of interest from him first, then reciprocate enthusiastically to encourage pursuit—without chasing. Discover why high-achieving women intimidate men, how demographics stack the odds, and the power of "opening the door a crack" for real connection.
Plus, the ultimate real-life example: How Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce turned a missed bracelet moment into an epic love story by blending traditional pursuit with timely reciprocation.
If you're navigating modern dating, wondering why good men aren't approaching, or seeking strategies to find lasting love—this episode is for you. Timeless wisdom meets 2025 reality for better relationships.
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🔑 Key Topics:
- Should women make the first move
- Dating advice for women
- The Rules book vs modern dating
- Date-onomics and gender ratios in dating
- Why men get intimidated by successful women
- Signs of genuine male interest
- How to reciprocate without chasing
- Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce relationship story
- Modern marriage market challenges
- Encouraging men to pursue you
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