Love & Life, Sorted
A Cambridge PhD sociologist's intimate, no-BS talk about love, family and everything in between.
Join Dr. Sandy To, marriage and family sociologist and author of the acclaimed book, China’s Leftover Women: Late Marriage among Professional Women and its Consequences (Routledge), featured in TIME, CNN, BBC, and more, for no-BS conversations about the stuff that really matters: dating as a high-powered career woman, finding a marriage partner over 30, who's doing the work in the marriage, what's the catch on motherhood and fertility etc.
Whether you're single and skeptical, married and mystified, or parenting through chaos...Let's sort life, one chat at a time!
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Episodes
15 episodes
From Career Woman to Full-Time Mom: How Kitty Quit Her Job After 20 Years to Raise 3 Kids in Australia
Ever wondered what happens when a high-powered career woman quits her 20-year job in investment banking to become a full-time mom of three—and relocates to Australia?In this raw and inspiring episode, my high school bestie Kitty shares h...
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Episode 14
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33:10
Should Women Make the First Move in Dating? Yes AND No
In this episode of Love and Life, Sorted, Dr. Sandy To dives deep into one of the most debated dating questions: “Should women make the first move?”Drawing from classic advice in "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider (wh...
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Episode 13
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25:54
End-of-Year Life Reset | How I Used "Designing Your Life" (Stanford Method) to Pivot My Career & Find Fulfillment
Are you feeling stuck in your job, drained by overwork, or wondering what’s next in mid-career or as you approach retirement?In this episode of Love & Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To shares her raw experience attending the exclusive pilot ...
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Episode 12
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26:21
4 Types of Women in Modern Dating & Marriage (Which One Are You?) |Traditionalists, Maximizers, Satisficers, Innovators
Which type of woman are you when it comes to love, career, and marriage? In this episode, Dr. Sandy To breaks down the 4 female archetypes in today’s dating world: Traditionalist, Maximizer, Satisficer, and Innovator – and reveals exactly how e...
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Episode 11
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20:03
Women Breadwinners | Navigating Role Reversal, Challenges, and Relationship Success
In this eye-opening episode of Love and Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To dives deep into the rise of women as primary breadwinners in modern relationships. Explore the challenges of gender role reversal, including resentment, housework imbalances, and...
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Episode 10
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How Old is Too Old to Have a Child? Pros, Cons, and Real-Life Stories on Late Parenthood
In this episode of Love and Life, Sorted (formerly Date Right 4 Your Type), we dive into the controversial question: How old is too old to have a child? Drawing from a real Hong Kong case of a 58-year-old woman welcoming her second baby, we exp...
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Episode 9
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3 Reasons Matchmaking Is the Best Way for Finding Love | Singles' Day Special
On this Singles' Day (11.11) episode of Love & Life, Sorted (previously Date Right 4 Your Type), Dr. Sandy To reveals why matchmaking is the most successful way to find a lifelong partner—outperforming random encounters, d...
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Episode 8
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Overcoming Mom Guilt | Reclaiming Your Identity as a Career Mom in Motherhood
In this heartfelt episode of "Date Right for Your Type," Dr. Sandy To dives deep into the raw realities of motherhood for career women. From the long journey to finding a partner and starting a family, to the shocking loss of self-identity when...
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Episode 7
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Is It Wrong to Date a Rich Guy? Love vs. Money in Modern Relationships
In this episode of "Date Right 4 Your Type," Dr. Sandy To dives into the age-old debate: Is it wrong to go for the rich guy? Exploring popular romcoms like "The Materialists" starring Dakota Johnson, and "Sweet Home Alabama" with Reese Withersp...
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Episode 6
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16:52
Who Pays On A Date? Why Men Should Still Show Chivalry in Modern Dating
In this eye-opening episode of "Date Right 4 Your Type," Dr. Sandy To dives into the age-old debate: Who should pay on a date? Sparked by a recent viral Hong Kong story where a man abandoned his date with a staggering $10,000 bill (including a ...
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Episode 5
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20:51
Dating as an Undercover Mission | How to Connect Authentically Without Intimidating Men
Discover how to approach dating as an undercover mission with Dr. Sandy To on "Date Right 4 Your Type." Learn why downplaying your accomplishments can help you build genuine connections and avoid intimidating potential partners. In this episode...
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Episode 4
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26:34
#1 Reason Successful Women Struggle to Find Love | Men Are Intimidated by Successful Women
Have you ever been on a date that you thought went really well and you were 89% sure it was heading toward something meaningful? Except he didn’t ask you out again…The reason is - you were too accomplished for him! Struggling...
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Episode 3
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29:26
Get Past Your Mental Blockage to Find Love
Tired of sabotaging your own love life? In this episode, we tackle the mental blocks holding you back from finding love. Discover how to stop rebelling against well-meaning friends and relatives who genuinely want to help you find a partner—oft...
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Episode 2
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19:58
Why Stay Single When You're Fabulous?
Are you self-sufficient, fabulous, and financially secure, yet wondering, "Why do I need a partner?" Join Dr. Sandy To on Date Right 4 Your Type as she explores the empowering choice of seeking companionship—not out of need, but want. In this e...
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Episode 1
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