The Secret to Living an Aligned and Fulfilled Life!

Do you feel emotionally guarded, stuck in overthinking, or like you’re doing all the “right” things yet unable to manifest the life and relationships of your dreams?

Have you protected yourself for so long that connection, trust, and joy now feel risky? 

Many people try to build a fulfilled life from a closed heart by managing outcomes, scanning for threats, and proving their worth, then wonder why connection, manifesting, and relationships feel daunting instead of natural. These pain points are simply signals that your nervous system is asking for a different foundation.

In this conversation, we dive into why an open heart is the CORE of real transformation, emotionally, spiritually, and even biologically. An open heart is the gateway to self-trust, authentic confidence, aligned relationships, and inner peace. It shifts you from fear to curiosity, from defense to presence, and from survival chemistry into heart-brain coherence where new possibilities become available. 

When your heart leads, life begins to flow from creativity instead of control. This episode invites you to soften the armor and discover how opening the heart changes the energy you live and create from. 💖

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Transcript

Opening & Inspiration

Kristen 0:00

Welcome to Empower Hour with KB, where we talk about all things self-healing, personal growth, energy and manifesting, and relationship health. You often hear me talk about an open heart and an open mind. And this is purposeful. I say it all the time because it is the foundation of positive change and growth. An open heart is actually the gateway to your true self, to your highest timelines, to manifesting the life and relationships of your dreams, to connecting with divine intelligence, and to fully living from your soul and your soul's purpose. From a healing and emotional perspective, an open heart opens the path to self-trust, real intimacy, emotional freedom, nervous system safety, and inner peace. And in terms of empowerment and life design, an open heart is the gateway to authentic confidence, aligned relationships, courageous living, and your most honest and authentic life. An open heart leads to connection, it leads to courage, it leads to curiosity, it leads to learning, and it leads to freedom. While a closed heart leads to isolation, fear, stuckness, self-doubt, constriction. So ultimately, an open heart is the gateway to a fulfilling life. We open our heart so that we can become free, so we can navigate this life from the highest possible space that we can navigate it from. So let's take a closer look at the open heart through three powerful lenses. I'm going to show you this through the healing lens, the spiritual lens, and the scientific lens, the neuroscience lens. So we can see why it matters and actually how it shows up in our lives in real time. Number one, the healing lens, the open heart is a nervous system state. An open heart operates from receptivity, from presence, from curiosity, and from self-trust. And these are all things that lead to healing and personal expansion. Where a closed heart operates from guardedness or armoredness, as I call it, it's continually scanning for str uh threats. It's about proving our worth, and it's about trying to control outcomes. And we don't come here to this planet with closed hearts. Our hearts are wide open. But it's through the traumas and dramas and experiences that happen that some of us have learned it is quote unquote safer to lock down that heart, to build a mode around it, to build three-foot walls and a fortress around that heart. But the problem is that it blocks the things I've already said. It blocks us from expansion, it blocks us from loving, it blocks us from growing, it blocks us from living a fully expressed version of ourselves, and thus leading to a fully expressed life through the spiritual lens. Coming from an open heart means we're aligning with the highest energy in the universe. An open heart aligns us with the highest energy of the universe, which is capital L love. And that's the frequency that connects us to life, to others, and to our own potential. When our hearts are open, we're no longer moving through life with fear, with scarcity, or with control. Instead, we're in alignment with creation itself. And this is where your highest vision, your deepest creativity, and your most meaningful experiences will naturally emerge. Acting from the space doesn't mean we're being naive or we're going to tolerate harm. Because sometimes that's what people think it is. If I open my heart, that means I am now vulnerable to all the chaos and pain of the world. Because at some point, when your heart was open and someone hurts you, the brain kicks in and says, Let me close this. Well, it really is the ego that kicks in and says, Let me close this heart, let me clamp down here so that I don't have to feel that. But this doesn't mean that we're being naive or that we're gonna tolerate what's coming at us. It means that we respond from wholeness, from clarity, from integrity, from our values, and from a connection with the divine. It still is necessary to set boundaries, even with an open heart. The boundary is not a closed heart. I need people to understand that. There's a lot of confusion in the world about boundaries today. I hear it all over social media, people saying, Well, this is my boundary, that's my boundary. And I'm like, those aren't what boundaries are. Boundaries are lines and limits with other people's behavior. If they're showing up with disrespect, if they're showing up being that kind, if they're mentally, emotionally, verbally, or physically abusing you. Boundaries are important, but when we set boundaries from an open heart, they look different. Instead of this weird constriction guarding, also running from life, because we might think we're boundarying, boundarying, but what we're really doing is we're hiding from life, we're hiding from the beauty, the fullness, the experience that is there for us. I cannot stress enough how much life has to offer. But if we're functioning from a survival mode, if we're functioning from a place of a closed heart, we're only experiencing a tiny, tiny fraction of what we can actually experience. And the third thing is looking at this through the brain science lens, the heart and brain coherence. The heart's electromagnetic field is stronger than the brain's. Did you hear me? The heart's electromagnetic field is stronger than the brain's. And when the heart and the brain are in coherence, the body shifts into regeneration and creation mode. Elevated emotions like gratitude and compassion change gene expression. Where a closed heart keeps you in a survival chemistry that is rooted in cortisol, adrenaline, hypervigilance, and a repetition of the old identity. An open heart creates coherence, which means our brain waves slow. The body is willing to receive new information. We become biologically capable of new choices. We cannot create a new life with the same old emotional signature of our past. And when we open our heart, we change that signature. Boy, I'm seeing a lot of emojis going up. Right on, you guys. I'm so glad that you're picking up what I'm throwing down today. Welcome, Kareem. Thank you for joining, guys.

Karim 7:46

Kristen.

Kristen 7:47

Welcome. Hi there.

Karim 7:48

Your usual's on. Yeah.

Kristen 7:50

I love it.

Karim 7:51

Great, great topic as always. Um, that's a big one. And it's uh it's one that I think um I got a really very personal story on this one because of some of the stuff that you know I'm involved with or you know, have been involved with in big ways. And man, people will close up, they put all those walls up inadvertently. It's not a choice. Sometimes people don't realize they've sort of calloused themselves to things, and they don't realize they're in a pretty dark place. You know, they feel like they're protected by closing up. It's a very counterintuitive feeling, or you know, and I deal with some like macho type guys, you know what I mean? And so you have these conversations with some of them, and and you know, you have to get a little bit mushy and start talking about this kind of thing, and they're just they're not they're not comfortable with the topic because it's a very the immediate visceral reaction to this exact type of comment is that's gonna make me vulnerable. It's the first thing that happens, and and I get it. I mean, I really do. I totally understand how that immediately feels like you're gonna be laying out all this stuff, you're gonna be opening yourself up by design, you're taking your armor off, all this sort of notional idea that you're exposing yourself to the elements or to someone's harshness or risk or whatever. And that's kind of especially if you're in in especially in today's world with all of the sort of the way the world's kind of been tuned in to be attacking and judging and all that. So being open and having that open heart to your point is is a challenge for a lot of people. Um, one of the interesting ways that I think I've seen people find a way through it, and I'll include myself in the mix, is it's tied to our previous talks at times where it's about taking a bit of a risk, going out of your comfort zone to do it. And surprising yourself about how you're not, it's not a vulnerability, it's actually a strength. And I know it sounds like just cliche a bit to say it that way, but it really is a very interesting paradigm shift because you don't believe it's a little remember Indiana Jones in in the last crusade movie where he's at the that cliff and his dad's like, You must believe, boy. And he's like, take the step out into like off into the cliff, and he steps, and it's actually a bridge, a pathway, but he couldn't see it until he actually stepped on it. And it's a really good parable, you know, it's a really good visual analogy of it's tied to a bit of faith. I mean, and I'm not going down a religious path per se, but it is that it's a bit of take that leap, get out of the comfort zone, test it. The worst that can happen is that you go back into your shell. And that's essentially what I've had to tell a lot of these guys. I'm like, hey, look, man, I'm not telling you to do anything that's permanent. If you like it, you like it. If you don't, it's not it's not your time, it's not your time, but try it. Go get a puppy. Yeah, you know, try it.

Karim 2.0

Kristen 10:33

Kareem, I have a question. Yeah. So first, I would love for you to share to anybody who's new here because we get new people all the time what it is that you do, because you referred to that in the beginning. And then I would love to know why it's important for you to have these mushy conversations with them. Like, what is it that you're trying to lead them to? Because I think I understand, but I would also like to know where you're coming from with that.

Karim 10:53

Yeah, absolutely. So I'm just I'm you need so for those that don't know, I've been involved in intelligence and and sort of uh special operations type things that harden a lot of these guys up. A lot of the people I've worked with, you do some stuff that's really dark in terms of like pursuit of trafficking and things like that, which is you you really see some horrible things and it really hardens you. And so it's a it's critical for us to have those types of releases at times because you come back from some of these things and you have to have conversations about it. And sometimes you don't, you just want to sit there and stare at the wall because you don't really know how to internalize it. And the only way to kind of protect yourself is to do exactly what we're talking about now. Because otherwise, you kind of go down a dark path. You can't not not in terms of you close up because it just seems so bad that you're like, oh my gosh, I could never be vulnerable at that like that in that way. But it's quite the opposite. Because if you don't go that way, and what's so ironic about it all is that the conviction that we have to go protect the innocent and the weak or the meek is so critical. It's so interesting because by definition, that would imply that we were opening our hearts up to that. But it actually has the reverse effect in the operation, pulls you out of that ability to feel like you can be open. Um, so that's a big one. Um, and come back, Kareem. Yeah, sure, sure. You got 10 seconds left.

Kristen 12:12

Go ahead and come back so you can finish that. And I have a follow-up question too. Okay, we're gonna bring Kareem back up again because I think this is really important, especially what he's talking about in the in the quote unquote machismo world and these guys that are doing like really hard work. You guys, we have to understand this is not easy for these men. Yes, and women who I'm not sure of your teams, but you mostly talk about men.

Karim 12:32

Oh, yeah, big time. And and yeah, they're they're probably the most critical team members that we have because there's aspects of some of this that we have to have some of the maternal energy there immediately for some of this stuff. It's critical. Because sadly, the perpetrators a lot of times are just men, you know. So the last thing they want to see are a bunch of guys rolling in heavy, you know, even though they were there to protect. It's terrifying. And so there's got to be aspects that are the feminine energy. We need something to to provide a comfort value. So, yeah, and they have even harder jobs because that instinct kicks in. And my God, they are they are the most amazing team members we've ever had because they help us in a huge way. They help us do exactly what you're doing right now, yeah, is understand how we need to soften. And by softening, we get stronger. And that's a very again, these there's a lot of counterintuitive concepts here because you're sort of, you know, logic tells us, and men, heavy logic, rah-rah, you know, that if you open up, you're exposing yourself. And it's like, yeah, in a physical capacity. But in the way that you're talking about vibrationally, if you don't, that vibration goes low, yeah, really low, and it can pull you down and you become incapacitated. Yeah, exactly. It destroys your relationships, it destroys your you know, your friendships, um, inadvertently, and you you know, you don't and you don't realize it. You know, I've had some really unfortunate situations where um remember our last talk where someone jumps to conclusions about what I might be thinking? That's an effect. That's an effect where they're closed up, they're not willing to take in, you know, uh an understanding very quickly. They have to be sort of like, whoa, slow down, man. You know, I'm not attacking you, I'm not your enemy. You know, not everyone is out to get you, I promise, you know. And that's kind of the effect. And I think that closed heart can result in an extremely kind of vacuous sort of, you know, you're alone. You feel very alone when you're closed up because you're alone in this cat in this capsule when you close it up.

The connection between an open heart and intuition

Kristen 14:23

Right, exactly. And also, I'm on from a different perspective, if they're experiencing these really harsh scenarios and terrible, sad things, and they don't process through that, that's gonna get stored in the body. It's you know, it suppresses into the body, and then what happens is they're end up gonna end up getting sick. So it's not only their their physical world, the relationships and stuff, their body's gonna get sick with this. So it's important to constantly move that energy. Another question I have though, because we've talked about intuition a lot, and I believe we we must have an open heart in order to receive our intuition. So, in your line of work, I we've talked about this. I think I know the answer, but for the for everybody who's listening, is how important is that intuitive aspect?

Karim 15:07

Oh man, that has kept me alive and my team alive more times than I can possibly tell you. And it it that is the key in more times than I can count, than just extremely good, well-planned out ops. Like, yes, that's critical. But what gets us in and out of a situation alive is absolutely our guts, our gut instincts, and those things that kind of say, no, not the time. No, something. I don't know why. I don't know why. I can't tell you guys, I'm not sure what it is. Trust me on this. And over the years, they've sort of said, okay. Nobody argues. It could look like the perfect situation, but they're like, no. And and we generally kind of have a consensus on it. Everyone kind of goes, Yeah, I've had this, I didn't sleep well last night on this. I just, I just can't. I can't, I don't know why. And we'll say, not the time, not the time. So you're 100% right. And that is very much because we're coherent, and that's the best word we kind of use. And that coherence, which is another vibrational term, is super, super critical for anything, whether it's your relationships, whether it's your team, whether it's your business in many cases. And when you're off, when you're off and your vibrations are all off kilter, or someone within the team is just dragged down and they're in a lower state, um, you know, we all feel it. And I think that's exactly what you're talking about. That um resonance, that's the other word I was gonna use, is critical. And you brought this up with Joe Dispens's work, and it's exactly what that is. And I've had tangible experience with that feeling, like physically, like where I can feel it, and it's very interesting. And it's yeah, people chalk it up to adrenaline, they chalk it up to endorphin hits, and maybe I'm sure there's chemistry in this too, but it absolutely has to do with how there's an electrical vibration that that manifests that you cannot describe, you don't know where it's coming from. It's in a completely different quantum state than we can probably discuss. And it's a very interesting thing that I can't explain it, but I can tell you for sure it's 100% have been a critical part of how I've I've managed uh for a lot of years.

Kristen 17:04

Yeah, Kareem, such a powerful share. Thank you so much for taking the time to come up today.

Karim 17:08

Thanks, Kristen.

Kristen 17:09

Yes.

Guest Two: Julie

Kristen 17:10

Always appreciate you, Kareem. Got it. You know, I love that Kareem comes in and he very boldly and bravely talks about the masculine portions of these things because we often think it's a female thing, and sometimes females are the more open-hearted. I will tell you, I've seen both though, where I've really, really open-hearted men and very, very closed-hearted women, and vice versa. So this is really about both genders. And I like that Kareem comes in as sort of a representative of the male gender in this particular talk and sharing this about how you know there is a balance between the masculine and the feminine and what is really needed. And it just makes me wonder, and you can back channel me, Kareem, if you like. It makes me wonder if sometimes that, because I am very heart open and I do follow my intuition and I make decisions quickly. I'm not an indecisive person because I've learned to follow the feels. I wonder if sometimes on the team that you've if it's been a split where half the team is like, yeah, I'm not feeling this, and the other half is going, no, no, no, this is all good. Let's push through, let's let's make this happen. Because they're not connected. And I've seen this, you guys, this is a big part of this. And it wasn't, this wasn't necessarily on my outline to talk about, but intuition is a huge, it's a huge byproduct, for lack of a better word, of an open heart. The more open your heart is, the more intuitive you are because you do receive that type of information through the heart. So keep that in mind for those of you who might be thinking, I'm not very intuitive. I I don't have intuition. And I've heard this, you know, just smatterings of this throughout my life where people say that, and like, oh yes, you are. You just have to learn to tap into it. It's available to us all. It is one of the gifts, if you will, talents, skills, just part of our toolbox that we were given before we came here to navigate this life. And in my opinion, it's the best tool. It's the best tool because it is never wrong once you get in touch with it. You know it's never wrong, and it's always going to guide you if you're quiet enough, if your heart is open enough, and if you're willing to listen. And now we can have Julie. Welcome, Jules.

Kristen 19:11

Welcome.

Julie 19:11

I was enjoying listening to Kareem as well. For the same reason, really, is it's rare we get uh a gentleman come up and express so clearly. You know, Kareem is a very giving person, you know, he's he's sharing the love, if you will.

Kristen 19:28

Yes, and he's neutral and he's just yeah, the way he explains things, I think, makes it very digestible for a lot of people. But you do too, my sister.

Julie 19:35

So I'm I do. I do do a thing where I tell you a story about me, you see. This is the thing. So I would love the skill set that Kareem has got to be more to be able to explain things without coming from a particular side, if you like, he's just neutral, as you say, you know, in in his uh in the things that he's discovered and he shares with us. So I like that.

Kristen 20:03

Well, not really there's always a place for personal stories, though, too, because it's so that it's so relatable.

Julie 20:09

Yeah, I agree. I agree. I was gonna say to you about intuition. Now, sometimes I feel that my intuition is really quite prominent in me. And the times that I don't feel it is when I don't trust it to be there. That's interesting. So those times, like Kareem has said, is when I'm becoming um more defensive, more judgmental about myself or my experiences. When I make myself a victim of things, that intuition dies off quite a lot. But when I'm in a space of uh centeredness, I mean by that being in the moment, you you know that I talk about that quite a lot because uh that's where I discover the the things that I can use in my life to uh to glide through life, even when it's a little bit challenging. I can just center myself and be in the moment and say to myself, Are you alive? Yes, are you breathing? Yes. Are you in a safe space? Yes. At this moment I am, and that is when suddenly this lovely feeling inside, the one that we feel but don't have words for, which is pretty much what Kareem was saying is I I know it's there, we know it's there, we feel it, we know it, but can we describe it? And the words are just not enough. They just don't quite hit that nail on the head. But the clearest I can get to describing it is that notion of being. Alive there.

Kristen 22:03

It does feel very alive. Absolutely.

Julie 22:06

That's when your intuition you can start to feel that intuition in you. It'll inspire you, it'll inspire action, it'll inspire words, it'll inspire the ability to share and be open-hearted. That's what it does. It allows you to be non-judgmental of others and yourself, which is hugely important, coupled with trust. You've got this far love. You made it. Now start, you know, listening to that feeling, you know. Listen to it, especially when it's giving you love. Because intuition speaks through love. So there you go. I am indecisive, and I'm usually indecisive when I can't hear my intuition, you're quite right.

It's all backwards

Kristen 22:56

Yeah, right. And and you went, I'm gonna circle back to a little bit. When we are in fear mode or victimhood of any of those things, we've actually now activated survival mode. And in survival mode, you know this, Julie, but for those listening, in that survival mode, we are detached from the feels because the brain is just saying, I need to get the body to live. So the brain is working diligently to try to quote unquote solve problems or whatever it might be because it's trying to get you us to live, where we really don't have to be in that space. We can settle and calm, like you said, saying, I'm safe right now in this moment. And it's in those moments of safety, which is kind of ironic because we want so much to be safe. So we really want to hear that intuition, but it's in those moments of safety that we hear our intuition. It's all backwards, you guys. Everything that we're striving for out there in the external world to make us feel a certain way, the job is ours. I know it's crazy. We all hate it, we all buck against it, we all throw tomatoes at it, but it's really the truth. I was just speaking to someone last night who was talking about a relationship that they were in and these things that the person was doing, and I, you know, and how they were relying on that person to fill this particular void. And I said, You do know that that's your job, right? You do know it's your job to fill that void. That's because why you keep returning back to this person that is not a healthy relationship for you, because you're looking for them to fill this teeny tiny one little place. So all these other things are not working, all these other things are dysfunctional, but they fill this one void in me where that void is fillable within this person themselves. I know we don't love this, do we? We really want it to be easy. We want to buy a package, we want to Amazon it to us, we want to get the magic pill, we want to find the perfect person. You know, we want all these things external to us to make our worlds better. And guess what? They're not the cure, they're not the antidote, they're not the solution. So I believe that once we truly understand this on the deepest, deepest level, then that's when our life starts to shift. I gotta start doing for me. I gotta start taking care of me, I gotta start filling the voids within me, which means I need to make myself safe, I need to make myself feel loved, I need to create a respect for myself, all the things that I've talked about so many times on here. And when we do that, that's when things start to shift. And that's why I wanted to come up and talk about what it means to have an open heart today, because I do say open heart, open mind a lot. And some of you might mean, you might be thinking, what does that really mean, Kristen? What does it mean to truly have an open heart? Like, can you expand on that? Why, sure. I'm gonna expand on that so that you guys can really understand. So it makes sense to you because information is power, knowledge is power, understanding is really the most power. And how do we understand everybody? Drum roll through an open heart. So when we start to open our heart to new truths, new ideas, new perspectives, all these types of things, guess what? We're taking in information that's actually going to have a major, awesome, positive impact on our life and our personal development journey. Welcome back, Jules.

Julie 26:03

Um, I enjoyed the part of the story that you were saying about your friend looking for someone to fill this void. Um, we've we all do that. Yeah, we we all do that. We all try and fill the void with someone else or to be like someone else, or you know, we do that all the time. But the thing is, is that usually leads because what what's happening there is we're creating an expectation, or we're telling a story, or we're wanting someone to be a particular way, and we all know that that doesn't happen, so it creates this thing called disappointment, disappointment, frustration, you know, and all of those things, those kind of down vibes that we were talking about earlier, which then stop you from being open again. So it works that way, and in my just below my picture, you'll see a uh a little statement. I changed it from all the glorious things that I'd written before. You know, I was saying all sorts of wonderful things, and I changed it to one sentence. I see it.

Kristen 27:10

The sentence is I am not your answer, dot dot dot dot dot. You are. Yeah.

Signs your heart is open

Julie 27:19

And when we discover that and we start to work with that, my goodness, we fill that hole, we fill it because we suddenly realize we've got the tools in the box, suddenly realize we can trust ourselves, we suddenly realize that we're wholesome, and then we walk that way, we talk that way, we feel that way, and we did it all on our own. Yeah, all the information is great, it really is, because like you said, it it all adds to the toolbox that we, or I in my case, are gonna be utilizing when I come across any challenges or great times, even you know, just generally through my being. I'm gonna use those tools, that knowledge, that understanding, that's what's gonna fill the hole for me, and it's gonna make me feel great.

Julie 2.0

Kristen 28:17

You know what just came up for me while you were talking? First, I was wondering, I'm like, I wonder if Julie's always had an open heart. I'm sure at times she has closed it, X, Y, Z, blah, blah, blah. And then I was thinking about fear. And I thought, you know, for me, myself, the my I've always had a very, very open heart. It's those moments of extreme fear for whatever reason, something that happened in the external world that I really draw in and I constrict. And I feel like I feel like I'm walking around through life in this bubble that is barely an inch off my body. I feel like I can't move. I I'm scared. What is that bringing up for you, Julie? And have you ever felt in that space? And what did you do to get out of it?

Julie 28:56

I've had some absolutely awful experiences in my life. I have had to um walk constricted, like you said, holding my history like a ball in chain around my ankle, dragging me through any decision I make, any hope that I have for the future, dragging this ball of history behind me. I couldn't change it then. I can't change it now. It has given me the lessons that I need. Now I can just shackle off, I can break that shackle and walk forward. And the way that I say that to myself each day is I am not the sum of my experience. I am not the sum of my experience. I can glean things from it to help me going forward, but I am not the sum of what's happened to me. I am a soul pure and good as when I was born. And that deserves space, time, a voice, and a good life. So that's why I say I'm not the sum of my experiences. How dare I think that I am? How dare you?

Kristen 30:17

How dare me! How dare all of us?

Julie 30:21

I'm breaking free, girl. Amen.

Signs your heart is open

You listen openly - less defensiveness

Boundaries are calm not angry

Kristen 30:24

Hallelujah. Right on. That is awesome. Thank you so much, Julie. Oh, you guys just delivering as usual. Thank you so much. Oh, we're gonna jump into now the signs that your heart is open. And I think this is important because you can just weigh this up against yourself and say, Am I functioning from this place? And you can put a little like check mark, okay, you know what? I'm doing that pretty good. And maybe a little, you know, circle about the areas that you can maybe work on through having an open heart. Because I, like I said, the open heart is really the gateway, it's the pathway, it's the yellow brick road to living the a highly fulfilled life. And it is through connection, through intuition, it is through the energy that the heart resonates out because the heart does resonate out in energy that depends who you talk to, but I think it's like three meters wide or nine feet, or I don't know exactly. I forget. I forget those small details. My brain does not hold on to details like that, you guys. So I'm always saying something like that. My encouragement to you is go research it yourself. And I would go through Dr. Joe Dispenza or um, what's my other favorite guy? Forgetting his name, gray-haired guy. Um, mom. Kareem, if you're still in here, you know who I'm talking about. I can't believe I'm forgetting his name. I love this man. Anyway, moving on. So you can find that out for yourself. But if we know that the heart makes a resonance and it or it resonates energy like that, and that can literally change our field. But also, like I said, it can um change our gene expression. Oh my gosh. No, Paul, it wasn't Miguel. Um, dang it, I've quoted this guy so so many times. It'll come to me. It'll come to me. I see his fake. Greg Braden, Greg Braden, took me a minute. Both of them amazing, amazing resources. Go do your research yourself, go look things up, make sure it's coming from the true source, though. Lots of AI out there right now. When we truly start to work with having an open heart and and deeming ourselves safe, because Julie said the operative word right there, I am safe now in this moment. And that can be a small practice that you can do is put your one hand on your heart, another hand on your belly, and take deep breaths and tell yourself, I am safe. I am safe. It is safe to have an open heart. It is safe to enter life with curiosity. I am safe to bring in more information. It is safe to trust myself. And when you add emotion to that of gratitude, appreciation, and love and trust, and you anchor that into your body, your body will respond to that and your heart will open. It's magical, it's mystical, it's beautiful, it's spiritual, it's scientific. This stuff is all proven now. I'm not here just spouting a bunch of airy fairy woo-woo. This is all proven now. So we're gonna go into signs that your heart is open. So you can just look at these signs and say, hey, all right, the first one is your body feels soft, you soften, your breath is calmer, your heart beats rhythmically, your shoulders drop, your jaw and clenches. You feel warm or spacious in your chest, in your heart center. You feel open to life. And like, was it Julie that said you feel alive? Yeah, it was Julie that said that. You feel alive. There's an aliveness to it. So, and it makes for me, just trying to put it in words in real time, I just am excited. I just want to go see and do and experience because I'm not afraid. Because my heart is open, I know that I'm going to receive the exact information that I need to receive when I need to receive it, if there is a perceived threat. Because guess what? It's happened. I was always alerted to a perceived threat. There's been many things in my life, I won't get into details, where I was on the precipice of something really bad happening. And my little intuition, because my heart was open and I was connected to source energy, it was like red alert, something's not right here. And it wasn't this fearful thing, it was a soft whisper that was like, mm-mm-mm, don't go there. This is bad, this is not good. Even before I had the language to express it, all I could say was, I don't like this, or I don't like him. Do you see what I'm saying? So when we go back to those areas in our life where you knew things, maybe you didn't trust it for whatever reason. That's okay. Sometimes we are pushed away from our intuition, our instincts based on the authority figures, the elder, the older folks around us that are telling us certain things and trying to brainwash us into certain things. So we lose touch with it for a minute, but that doesn't mean it's gone. It doesn't mean it's gone. So you can rekindle this. And by the way, you guys, it comes fast because it's there. It's waiting. It's waiting, it's there. It's not like you've got to cultivate this, you've got to make this. All you got to do is open the doors to your heart. When you open the doors to your heart, all that stuff starts happening. And by the way, it's not scary. I need you to understand this. It's not scary. The liberation, the freedom, the strength, the power feels so good. You're like, holy moly, why did I wait so long? Hopefully, you're not saying that was judgment, because this is a judgment-free zone. This is a shame-free zone. We don't shame ourselves and judge ourselves here in my stages or anywhere else in my life. You, if you're in my personal life and I hear you judging you, one of my um daughter's friends said something one day about themselves. And my daughter looks at her and she goes, Oh, and she said this sweet and smiling, and it was fun. And her friend is like, my daughter, and she goes, Oh, you can't say that in front of my mom. And I did. I said, Oh my gosh, no. And and I said my thing, and it was smiling and laughing, and it was a good thing. But I walked away going, you know what? She heard it from me. You know, she heard it from me. And of course, my delivery and my love and everything that's involved in it, I feel like she heard it for the first time. And it was a really beautiful moment. So the first thing, your body softens, just like Cream spoke of, okay? All those things. You feel spacious, you feel open, you're soft, your body relaxes, your breath is calmer. When I say your heart beats rhythmically, once I learned some things from Dr. Joe Dispens, and he was talking about heart not beating rhythmically, I thought, why does my heart not beat rhythmically? Oh my gosh. I started paying attention to that. Guess what? Yeah, in those moments of fear, my heart was doing weird things. In those moments of survival mode, in those moments of, you know, extreme nerves or what have you, I was like, this is what he's talking about. So now that I knew the difference, because you know, our heart usually is, unless it's pounding in our chest, we really don't feel it, right? But when I paid attention, quiet and laid down, and I could feel it, I'm like, that puppy's out of order right now. So guess what I did? I breathed into it and I said, regulate, get in coherence, beat rhythmically. You're safe, heart. Thank you for showing me where I was dysregulated. And guess what? Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Soft, rhythmic, powerful, and strong. So another thing you can look at. The second thing you can tell when your heart is open is that you can listen openly. This is so important. So many people in my life, oh, not so many people, let's say past and um a little bit present, where people can't listen. They're not curious, they're not collecting evidence, they just need to win, they need to be right. All right, they're not really understanding what's happening here, they're not seeing the deeper meaning that's happening here. They're not curious and open to understanding. They're in defense mode. Closed heart, closed heart, closed heart. That's all that is. So I have taken up the practice for those of in my life who have had, you know, maybe a history of a closed heart. And this is true, of course. These are people that are close to me, and we've had these conversations before. I don't just blow it at them out of the blue. But I'll say, like, open heart, open mine, open heart. I'll put my hand on my heart and say, open your heart, your heart open. Let's have a real conversation that's rooted in love, that's rooted in connection. Let's not try to win, let's not try to be right. Let's try to understand each other. An open heart does that naturally. It's like, yes, tell me about you. Yes, tell me what you're feeling. Okay. Tell me what you think I did. All right. And you see what I'm saying? That's met, that is so much more of a balmy stance than us fighting and wanting to be right. Now, I raised my hands on this, you guys. I was that way. I get it. But I worked, I efforted, I put things into place to not be that. And I did this through evolution and I did this through time, and I did this through layers and layers of learning and learning and learning that didn't feel taxing to me. Because back 15 years ago, when I first started this really deep healing work, I've always been on a healing journey, but not like I dove in like I did 15 years ago. I started to feel the effects of it. I was like, more of this, more of this, more of this. And that's the thing too, is once we open our heart and we feel the positive effects of an open heart, we want more because it feels amazing. And then you, like I said, you have your parameters around thing, things, right? Where you're like, okay, my heart is open. I'm I'm loving, compassionate, understanding, my ears are open, my mind is open, all these channels are open for me, and you're over there acting like a jerk. So guess what? Right over there, I'm not closing my heart to you, I'm closing a boundary around you. See what I'm saying? So it's not that you shut down and you close down because homie's acting like this, you set the boundary around their behaviors and you continue on with your beautiful, loving, open heart to the rest of the world. And here's the thing: when my heart's been open, I was more able to recognize where I needed a boundary. Because when my heart was closed and I was coming from protective note mode or scared mode or what have you mode, what happened is that I couldn't quite recognize because I wasn't a clear channel. And because I wasn't treating myself well, it was hard for me to recognize truly. I mean, I could see it with my mind, I could watch it, I could, I could like, hey, that's not okay. But because I wasn't treating myself well, it it didn't really look any difference. There wasn't a delineation between. So once my heart opened, I'm healing, I'm really taking care of myself, that delineation became clearer. The third thing is is that, well, I've just kind of talked about this, your boundaries feel calm and not angry. So that means we can say no without being a jerk, without screaming, without shutting down, without closing the door, without running from people. Because a lot of times people won't say no, they'll just distance themselves, or they'll distract, or they won't ask you to answer your question directly, or they do these things that are really just habits and patterns that they put into place. Okay. And this is just, we become very clear with our yeses and our no's because our hearts open, we know the difference. We can tell what's okay, what's not okay. It's very clear to us rather than, oh, I'm scared if I say no, this is gonna happen, that's gonna happen, they're not gonna like me. No, we just are like, no, that's not good for me. Okay. Also, our honesty doesn't feel harsh. Oh, one of the things, and this is this might be controversial, and I hope you I hope you feel through your open heart what I'm about to say. I have watched the most people-pleasing door maddie accepting the unacceptable people who have worked with me. And they are getting stronger and they're speaking up and they're saying their truth, all the things that they've said to me through their frustrated frustration and confusion, and they're finally starting to say them to the person that they need to be saying them to. Not through heart harshness, not name-calling, no jerkness, okay? But they're finally saying it, and then they come back to me and they say, Well, I apologize to them. I'm like, Did you hear the skid marks?

Kristen 42:28

Errp.

Respond rather than react

You see the human before the behavior

Receive openly

Self-talk changes tone

Trusting more than controlling

Joy returns to the small things

You hold conflict with care

Guest Three: Truth

Kristen 42:29

I'm like, what? And I don't say it like that, but I'm like, why did you apologize? Well, you know, I'm not apologizing for what I'm what I said. They said, Well, but did you say it mean? No. Did you say it harsh? No. Did your name call? No. Were you nasty? No. So what they're really doing is apologizing for what they said. They're apologizing for being honest, but they weren't aware of it. They just felt bad because they were truthful. Okay, an open heart says, My truth matters. My experience of you matters. What I'm seeing of you is clear. I don't need to now go get 40 people's opinions to tell me that what you're doing is not okay. I feel it, I know it. And I'm gonna bring it to you, and I'm not going to apologize for my honesty, especially when there's patterns of this that have gone on, especially when you use I feel statements, especially when you have put up with so much. You guys, when I I could tell you stories upon stories of people who have put up with some ish for decades, for so long, and they've not stood in their power. They just kept trying to morph themselves around the situation based on their lack of self love and believing that this person was their source in some capacity. But when we start to speak up, it's gonna feel very awkward. And when our heart is open, like truly open, and we're really we're really coming from that place, resist the urge, you all, to go apologize for your honesty. That's just your fear. And I'm telling you this from both sides of the fence. I've been on that side because now I feel bad because the homie's feelings are hurt, female or male, or whatever. Well, you know what? It's the truth. And I needed to say that truth to take care of myself. And I went and I did the apologies. And once I truly loved myself, once I truly sat in that, and this is not arrogance, this is not selfishness, okay? I am not that way, period. But once I truly sat in that, I realized there was no apology to be said. This was their baggage that they gave to me, and I handed it back. What's that statement that says something like, if you don't want to be called out on your stuff, or you don't want people to talk negative about you negatively, then don't do the thing. Right? People get so upset when you say something that they did, but you're like, homie, you did it. Not me. Not me. So people don't like it handed back to them because, oh boy, there's a huge flashlight looking at them, pointing it out, and they don't want to hear it. They don't want to hear it. But that doesn't mean it's your apology. This is why I always say an open heart, you know, is required for this to come from a place of love of yourself and of them. Do you understand? When we come from a place of love of ourself and a love of them, we are more likely to deliver in a way that we're not going to feel regretful about. Okay? So also this means an open heart means that we protect ourselves without closing down. And it means we set boundaries with respect. We speak to people with respect about their experience. I love having had this practice because I have a lot of people in my life. I have um in my family, and my kids, and everybody else. And I, you know, there's all kinds of levels of healing. You know, they're kids and they're growing, and there's moods and there's stuff, and there's a husband, and there's all these things. And I have practiced over and over again how do I state things that I'm grounded in my truth, I'm grounded in my honesty, I'm grounded in my worth, and that I'm not going to feel like I need to apologize for later. It takes practice, you guys, okay? The next thing that your heart is open is that you respond instead of react. This is huge. Because when our heart is open and when we are calm and when we are coherent, and when we are in creation mode and thriving mode, we will catch the triggers. Okay, we have triggers. What are triggers? People think it's just emotions. That's not a trigger. It's not just an emotion. A trigger is someone touches your wound, someone touches your button. The full truth about triggers is it's not other people to tiptoe around our wound. It's our job to heal the wound. It's the fact that the wound is there in the first place. All right, because if it's not there, no one's touching it. Trust me, both sides of the fence on this one. I was triggered this, trigger that, everywhere, trigger, trigger. Nowadays, I don't get triggered because I worked on healing that. And staying in that open-hearted, calm, healing space allows me to be able to show up in a healthier way. I will say there are times I'm compromised. There's times I'm going through something. There's times I've had fear that day. There's times that I'm tired. That's a biggie for me, you guys. Tired. I that's why my sleep is my holy grail. It truly is. But you know, really working on all these things congruently can really help us show up in a better way. So we respond instead of react. We we create a pause between our the trigger and our reaction. That small little pause gives us a moment. We can choose our words, and we're not feeling like we're hijacked by the stories of our past. And basically, we're living in safe safety and not survival. And the next thing, number five, is you see the human before the behavior. Listen closely to this. This is this is, we all are dealing with all kinds of personalities, all kinds of levels of wounding, all different levels of healing or not healing. And what I've noticed is that when my heart is open, when I've done my healing work, when I'm calm, I can notice the people's pain behind their actions. And this has been a big deal for me because this allows me to show up at least in my own heart with compassion. Again, not without boundaries. If I need boundaries, I boundary up. But this means instead of judging them and going, oh, you jerk, you're acting like this again, blah, blah, blah, all the things. I'm like, I know what's behind this. I know this was a wound that I didn't create. I know this came before me, or it came from somebody else, depending on the person I'm talking about. And I noticed that there's pain. And that allows me to show up in the relationship with compassion. I've showed up with judgment, I've showed up with anger, I've showed up with resentment, frustration up the yin. I've sat there exasperated, just beside myself. I hated all those feelings. It got us nowhere. Non-productive AF. Nothing's happening. So, me, how can I up level? How can I chain shift, grow, morph, evolve myself to show up differently in this situation? One of the things. I started noticing the pain. And noticing the pain and understanding that this person right now is literally kicking and screaming for their life. They think they're gonna die. Not literally, but that's what their nervous system is telling them. And I stay the calm one in this. I don't take things as personally as I used to because my lens has changed. This is really the signature of Capital L love. You see the human before the behavior, or in spite of the behavior, put it that way. Number six is you can receive. Huge. We all know that a lot of times people compliment us and they bounce off, or we try to give them a gift and they don't want to receive it. Receiving becomes as natural as giving. You understand that by your receiving, it's actually giving. When someone gives you something and you receive, oh, you've just given them a gift. It feels amazing. So we will receive compliments, number one. We will receive gifts, we will receive love, we will receive hugs, we will receive kindness, we will receive help. We're not suspicious, we don't think there's a motive because our heart can tell the difference. That's another reason we want to have an open heart, is because the heart feels manipulation, you guys. You know it. You've been manipulated, and you know when someone's doing it. And even depending where you were on your healing journey or on your evolution, when that person is manipulating, you might feel this. I always feel there's no way I can describe it. I just call it a crunchy feeling in my chest, maybe like a paper bag. I can't really describe it because it's not physical and pointy like that. It's just a little it's kind of a moment that I feel in my chest. But so many times I overwrote it. But I started to trust myself. Okay, so my heart was open. I felt it, but I overwrote it. And now I'm like, nah, I feel that. That's not groovy. That's not okay with me. I'm not happy with that. The next one, number seven, is your self-talk changes tone. When we have a closed heart and we're trying to self-talk, we're like, you're beautiful, you're enough, you're worthy. You don't feel any of it, do you? You're just staring at yourself in the mirror. You want to punch yourself in the mirror. You're like, this is not true. I'm terrible, whatever it might be. Open heart adds the emotion to the words, and the tone and the energy behind what we're saying to ourselves matters. We're gentler with ourselves. We meet our mistakes with kindness, we talk kindly about our bodies, we're gentle, and there's emotion behind it. We all know by now that affirmations, mantras within just themselves is not enough. It doesn't do anything. And this is why people say affirmations don't work, because no, they don't if your heart is closed. But if you start affirming yourself from this true level, this true deep level of you mean it, and you give the love that you are, by the way, no one's void of love. Even people that have big problems, they still have love in their heart because they're a soul, right? You speak to yourself from that love. You will change. You can't not. And number eight is you trust more than you control. Yes, because you believe that your heart will tell you. You trust your intuition, you trust the universe more, God more, source energy more. You're more willing to be open and to trust yourself really above everything and trust the universe. Okay, because you because you will get so in sync with your messages, you will get so in sync with your guidance and your intuition that you'll know that it's gonna come. Now, none of this happens overnight, does it? It takes some time because we need to calm the nervous system. We need to allow our heart to open. First, we need to recognize that it's closed in the first place. Once we recognize that it's closed, and here's the thing, you guys, if we've been living with a closed heart for so long, we know nothing other than that. That's just us. That's just who we are. We don't even know that there's another option. Huge. That's why I wanted to get up on here and say what it really means to have an open heart so that you can know, oh my gosh, well, I maybe my heart is closed. Now, this doesn't mean you're a dunce, doesn't mean you're an idiot, you're a jerk, you're beyond repair, you're broken. Scratch all of that. It means you're a work in progress, you're taking information and you're learning as you are capable to receive the information. Don't judge yourself. That's closed heart, that's negative, that's ego-based, that's lower self-based. The next one is joy returns to the small things. And I have one more, and then I'll bring it my guest. Joy returns to the small things, beauty catches your attention, gratitude arises without forcing it. You feel present in everyday moments. This is so true. You guys know who follow me on social media. I don't really take pictures. We're having these family gatherings, and they're just beyond beautiful. Just beautiful. The narrative in the family chat, based on this weekend moving, my daughter and the cats, you know, Ollie changing households and all the pictures we're sending, and where Beans is sleeping now, and how Ollie's doing this over here. It's so beautiful. I'm so grateful. I fell asleep last night and so much gratitude. So much gratitude. But I didn't take a bunch of pictures. I don't think I took one photo while we were moving. No, I took one outside of um all the trucks lined up. Four trucks, three trucks backed into our driveway, our yard, basically. And that was it. Because I was in the moment. Beauty catches your attention. That's one of the things my husband loves about me. He will point that stuff when I do that. He goes, You're so cute. That's so funny. You do that all the time, you're this, you're that. He he loves that about me, but that's my open heart that he's he's connecting to. He's like, I really like that. And I give him permission to open his heart. Was that him just clapping? I think it was. Let me look. Yes, it sure was. Okay, the next one, number 10, is even conflict holds care. This is important, and this kind of goes hand in hand with number five. You see the human before the behavior, or you see the human despite the behavior. And this means you can stay kind even while disagreeing. Super important. You can stay kind, you can stay rooted in yourself. This takes practice sometimes if you're used to defending and fighting and arguing, and um you're triggered in some capacity, or someone has touched your shame or whatever. You can stay kind while disagreeing. There's no reason to lose your stuff. Repair matters more than proving your point. For me these days, that's it. I want to repair. I want to repair. And I know that I cannot repair if I'm coming from a place of closed heart, trying to win, fighting, all those type of things. You must keep in mind that you don't need to close your heart to protect your truth. Your truth is your truth, and you can still keep it with an open heart. Your delivery matters. When you open your heart and you are open to healing, to growth, to expansion, and you've got someone in your life, whether it be a sibling, a parent, a partner, a friend, whoever, and you hold that space where you want healing, you're willing to hold that space with them. Oftentimes they will join you in that. But again, you're dealing with a whole separate person with all their traumas and dramas and experiences and things that they've had. So that is what you're working with. So again, all this takes time. It's an unraveling, it's a growing, it's an expansion, it's an unlearning and a relearning. Welcome, truth. Thank you for joining me. Us. I'm sorry, I always say me. Definitely.

Truth 56:42

Yeah, it's interesting. The one of the last things you said about pictures, I realized like I really take so many less pictures since I've been living through my heart because I am living in the moment. I have to like be like, oh yeah, I'm supposed to like take a picture and document this moment.

Kristen 56:59

That's so funny. That's the most important thing. Like, oh, I have to take photos.

Truth 57:04

Yeah. And this is, you know, like obviously, like my wounds send me into the default of closing my heart off when things get hard or scary or challenging or any of that. And that's how I lived for a super long time. Um, was like, I wasn't completely closed off, but it was like a very there was a gatekeeper there. And like, you know, you had to be vetted to get in.

Kristen 57:33

That's a good way to say it. I'm glad you're bringing that angle to this because that that draws a really uh more complete picture. Because yeah, sometimes it's just here and there, sometimes it's just gatekeeping, and sometimes it's open all the time, sometimes it's a little bit closed. So thank you for that nuance.

Truth 57:48

I definitely am constantly working on trying to like notice when I'm shutting down when it isn't an appropriate time. And also because I'm highly sensitive, you know this too. Sometimes you have to shut down to protect your energy when there's like a lot of stuff going on in the outside world, when there's a lot of chaos. Sometimes, like, or for me at least, it's like I have not gotten to a level where I can pick and choose when I'm locking energy off. I guess it's like it's a little bit more like absolute for me at this point. But one thing that I do try to do is like I have a couple of different like quick and easy meditations that I can do where it doesn't have to be like, let me go sit down and like meditate for this like period of time on this. It's like something that I can do like actively when I'm realizing I'm in a situation where I'm starting to shut down, but maybe I do want to stay open. One of them, it's if there's like a technical name for it, and this is just kind of like my own version of it, but it's um like an I think they call it maybe like a lion heart meditation or something like that. But it's just like where you visualize your heart opening up and like sending light to everyone around you or to the person that's making you uncomfortable or to whatever it is, and really like you can, or I do it anywhere. Like I'll just like you know, take a moment and just like vision that like light coming out, and just like I'll usually like put my shoulders back and get a little bit more into like a firmer stance, and then just like vision the love just coming out from me. And I find that it definitely softens me after I stop.

Kristen 59:27

Excellent, excellent tool.

Truth 59:28

Yeah, it's really for me, it's just it's one of my favorites when I'm in that moment of like feeling the like regression and being like, no, wait, let me let me change this right now. And then another one is the loving-kindness meditation, which there's like so many different versions of that. But like when I feel myself shutting down, especially if I'm having like friction with someone else, I feel like this is a good one because it's like then I can take that person and be like, may you be safe, may you be happy, may you be healthy, may you live a life of ease. And just like, or pick whatever, those are like four suggested ones, but like you can choose anything that feels right, anything that calls you. And it doesn't have to be just four, it can be more than that, or it can be less than that. But like for me, I find that that really helps. And if I'm struggling with like truly feeling that for the person that I'm having the friction with, like the recommendation is to start with someone that you do love a lot, like a a partner or a child or a parent or something like that, just someone that they're all that love really exists, so you can like feel it with them, and then maybe work to an acquaintance and then maybe work to the person that you're having friction with. Um, but those are my favorite tools to just help me open my heart in real time.

Closing and calls to action

Kristen 1:00:47

That's awesome. Thank you so much for that, Truth. I think that was really helpful to a lot of people. And I'm gonna try. What's the fourth thing of the loving kindness? Happy, healthy life of ease. What's the last one?

Truth 1:00:57

Um, safe, happy, healthy life of ease. Perfect.

Kristen 1:01:02

Thank you so much, Truth. Hello, bye. Excellent chair. Yes, and that's what I wanted to leave you guys with today is just some tips. And so Truth came in just so purposely and on time with sharing her practices because this is a practice, guys. Just understand it's a practice. Don't beat yourself up, don't judge yourself, don't try to make it anything different than it is. It's a practice, okay? We're all practicing certain things. But the thing is that we can train ourselves to eventually start to see through that lens how quickly that happens for you, is going to be different for everybody. And sometimes we might spend a lifetime doing this. But again, no judgment, compassion, acceptance, and grace. Always, always. So the two that truth listed, which is what she thinks it's called a lion heart, open meditation, and also the loving kindness meditation. Also, it's you can go on to YouTube. There's there's apps, there's oh my gosh, just look for meditations to open my heart, meditations for grounded safety, whatever it might be that appeals to you. Vet your meditation people. Does it feel good? Does it make you calm? Are you getting something good from it? Is the music calming or is it irritable? Do you like the person's voice? All those things matter. Don't be afraid to try something different if this doesn't resonate. Sometimes I put on my binaural beats and I'm listening to one and I'm like, oh, I just this doesn't do it for me. So just flip out of it and go find a different one. Okay, give yourself permission. Always, always. There's also the hand on the heart, and you can do one hand over the other on your heart. You can put one hand on your heart, one hand over right over your belly button, and you can breathe in and breathe out, breathe out. I am safe. It is safe to open my heart. I choose to leave with love. I am safe to open my heart. I can release these protective walls, whatever it might be. And you can also use things like tapping, which is emotional freedom technique, and just use a heart-opening script. Many other ways. So just be feel free to research and just know that an open heart is really that's really going to guide you to your most fulfilling life. So if you're closed or guarded, it's going to show up in a way in your life that's very constricting, it's very small, you may not be um be having close connected, intimate relationships. You're gonna be afraid to tell your your truth, you're going to be afraid to set boundaries, you're gonna be afraid to go after the life that you want, you're gonna be less courageous. I mean, there's a lot of things that I've already listed in here, but please know that opening your heart is a way that is going to really, I just when I said that, I saw like this stage opening and these beautiful velvet red curtains opening. You know how they do that on the stage when the performance is opening up? It's just like your life just opens right before you. Thank you so much for listening, everybody. I appreciate you. This has been an absolutely fabulous conversation. If you are listening to this on iTunes or Spotify or any other podcasting platform, please feel free to leave me a five-star rating and review. Tell me what you like about your experience here. Also, Noom Vibers, go ahead and jump over on one of those platforms and leave me a five-star rating and review. You do have to listen to at least one talk first before they will allow you to do that. Get some steam underneath the podcast because it's a fairly new podcast, and they will expand it out more when it has rating and reviews. So if you guys are willing to do that for me, that would be awesome, either on Spotify or iTunes. And it's called over there Empower Our Radio with KB, if or Kristen Brown, if you need to research that. But thank you so much, everybody. I love you. I appreciate you. And until next time, remember you matter.