The Void (Beginning Formation)

In this episode, we enter the void—the powerful beginning of your transformation journey. As a holistic, spiritual life coach, I guide you through this phase where you begin building a strong, protective energy barrier while evolving into your highest self.

If you’ve been feeling more emotional, experiencing distance from others, or navigating the silence that follows releasing toxic connections, this episode will help you understand why. The void is not abandonment—it’s a sacred space for growth, reflection, and protection.

We explore the difference between reacting and responding, recognizing emotional triggers, and understanding how others may challenge your growth. This is your invitation to pause, reflect, and choose new patterns that align with your healing and transformation.

Remember, your energy is sacred. You’ve come too far to return to what no longer serves you. Trust your path, honor your boundaries, and embrace the becoming.

Until next time—peace, light, and love.

Transcript

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Hi, and welcome to Abandoning Cycles. My name is Tone and I am a holistic spiritual life coach. Whether this is your first time here, first episode, or you've been with us the entire podcast, welcome. It's a reason why you're here. If you are here, then you made the decision to seek answers to a lot of the questions that pertain to people, relationships, connections in your life, and why those individuals keep showing, the same individuals with the same patterns and same behaviors keep showing up in your life. Why you keep attracting the same people. That do not benefit you, that may be triggering to you, triggering a side of you that you no longer want to see. That it only keeps you stagnant, but doesn't nurture that side of you that engages you to become that best version of yourself that you want to see. With that being said, whether you are a light healer, a light traveler, a conduit, an empath, or just unlighty seeking answers, welcome. This is the void. This episode talks about the beginning of the transformation stage. This is where we start to formulate a strong protective barrier during the beginning of that transformation beautiful stage that you will go through to become that version of yourself that you want to see. Imagine that you are beginning to transform into something beautiful, a beautiful being. As a light healer, light traveler, conduit, an empath, you are going to attract others who want what makes you shine and radiate so bright in this current moment. If you keep giving your light to others, at the end of all of it, what's left for you? And after you have given all of your energy to others, does your light still shine the same? Does your or still look the same way it did in the beginning before you started giving out your energy? Alright. In this phase that you may have already started to experience or are getting ready to experience you may notice that there's a lot of silence. But this silence is different. You will recognize that this silence is needed. Or you may recognize rather that this silence is needed. Silence is required in order for you to really build that protective barrier around yourself, for you to know how that protective energy barrier is going to be formulated. If you keep getting interrupted, how will you know how to protect yourself in your energy from those who do not respect it or do not understand? And in the silence, you may have moments where you may feel alone because you took a step back from someone or some people, or you cut people off. Silence is not abandonment. Some people feel guilt sometimes when they think about taking a step back from others and how the other people feel, because if you are a light healer, a light traveler, an impatient, a seeker, then you're also a giver. You're also a supporter, you're also a caretaker. So it's going to feel natural to think about others before yourself. So you may feel like it, like you abandoned someone, or they abandoned you, or you took a step back, so therefore you feel like you are alone. If you asked for guidance, if you ask your spirit guides for guidance and understanding, right, then this is an opportunity to start forming your protection against others who will not fully understand and who may not want to understand because all they know is that you abandon them. When in reality, they abandoned you a long time ago mentally and emotionally by not supporting you and not fully being there for you. This is why you made the conscious decision to take a step back, because if your needs are not fully met, or at least 90% met get met, or 85% met, then what are you doing? People don't even get 50% in relationships. Some people settle for only 25 because they never had someone just show up for them. Not give support, just show up. So then people settle. Just because someone is physically in your space doesn't mean they're entirely there and supportive to your needs. You can be full in a room with people and still feel alone. You can be in a room full of loved ones or what you would consider to be loved ones, friends, or associates and still feel alone mentally, emotionally, spiritually. You are never alone. Trust in your guides, trust in the universe, treasure path. You're building your cocoon, your chrysalis for a reason. And you know at the end of it what you want to see, what you hope to see, what you hoped will be the outcome. Even if someone feels like you abandon them, that's their own feelings. Sometimes those feelings are projected onto you. Sometimes people present themselves in ways after we take a step back or cut them off that cause us to react or respond. You know what I'm talking about. Those people who you take a step back from them, and then all of a sudden they see you. They see the support that you're no longer giving, the time that you're no longer investing. And then they start to they start questioning your answer, your actions, they start questioning your behaviors as if you did something wrong. What happened? You changed. Well, yeah. Of course you're gonna change. Because if you meet somebody and they're not giving you what you are giving in return, or at least matching it, or at least giving close to what you're giving out, which you're gonna are you're at least satisfied with what you're receiving, then of course you're gonna change. There might be resentment that may be built over time because you're tired of giving. Right? So yes, it forces us to react or respond. Majority of times people react. People often hold up mirrors that uh unveil pain that keeps us stagnant. What I mean by that is imagine that you're having a disagreement with someone and they are questioning you about your actions and why you've changed. Why you're not the same. And it's coming out in a very confrontational way. Where it's making you feel like you do something wrong. Will you react? Or will you respond? Alright. When they do hold up these mirrors to us, we have to recognize when it's occurring. Because and this was gonna go deep. Sometimes people present themselves in certain ways to get us to steer off of our paths, to steer, to walk off of our roads or our sidewalks or our journeys that we're meant to be on, because they don't know how to find their own, their own path, their own journey, or they don't want to put forth the work to do so, right? So if we react, reacting is like us stepping down to their level, right? So if they're angry, they're upset, they're confrontational, they're yelling at us, if we react, we focus on the the frustrating parts and energy that's coming up, right, in the moment, in the situation that is happening, which allow us to remain stuck because what it does is it reinforces a lot of these patterns that we're trying to get out of. Alright? If you have somebody who wants to argue all the time, who wants to argue all the time, then guess what? Then you pick that pattern up because you reacted to that, because they got you to engage in that argument, and then you go, Whoa, why did I do that later on, but now the pattern's being being reinforced, right? And then it's gonna take even longer to come out of that, to get back on that path. So think about it like this every time, if without that protective energy barrier that you're in your Christmas, every time you react to a situation with someone, especially if you haven't started the journey to cut them off or step back, just imagine you starting your journey all over again from the beginning. We're at the start level now, all over again, every single time, because they want you to be able to start with them. You can't be ahead. Oh no, no, no, no, you can't be ahead of me. Walking on your journey and determining where you're going in the new connections and new communities and new people and a new life for yourself. How dare you believe me? This is what happens when we react versus respond. When we respond, we have the opportunity to take a step back and ask ourselves why the person andor the situation bothers us the way it does, and what lessons we can learn from that interaction by responding, we are enhancing our protective energy barriers in our crystallis that increase better transformation process. Some people don't want us to grow and will constantly interrupt the energy protective barriers in our crystallis that we put up, that you put up. You're basically trying to create inner peace through this time, better understanding of your journey, of where you're going, where you're headed, trying to create that space to reduce the noise so you can hear your spirit, guys, so you can hear the universe, and in order for that to happen, there needs to be a moment of silence to create that protective energy barrier for you to be able to transform into who you were meant to be and who you were meant to connect with. Alright, as a light traveler, a light healer, a conduit, an empath, a seeker, you are meant for so much more. During this phase of your transformation, recognize when people are trying to get you to react versus respond, reacting takes you back to a comfort zone of a pattern that you already outgrew in the previous chapter. And we discussed this in the first part, the first 10 episodes of abandoning cycles. Responding allows you to pause, respond or not respond. Alright, so you pause, you choose to respond, and continue introducing those new patterns, new cycles, and new relationships, and a new you when you respond. Or not respond. I mean, you know, and not everything needs a response. Remember, silence speaks where words fail. So if someone tells you, oh, it's gonna be better, it's gonna, I'm gonna change, I'm gonna do better, and their words are nothing to you because the actions don't follow. Okay, well then what what else is there? A silence. And what do we do with silence? We take that energy back, get back to our life, get back to the light that we shine bright, and we'll continue to work on ourselves or start working on ourselves and our growth. Okay, which is really, really important. So during this beginning of the transformation phase of the void, please focus on the protective energy barrier that you need and what that looks like. The beginning of what is really necessary, what is required for you to become that version of yourself that you want to see. What's the first step? Is the first step you know really figuring out who you are? Are you who you were meant to be? The relationships that you've have formulated that you have taken a step back from. What relationships do you want to see? What connections do you want to see? And what will it take to get there? Is it gonna take you getting out more? But being protective of your space, your energy, your time, not giving to everybody who may or may not know what to do with your light, your time, your power. Will it take you really engaging in interest or activities that really increase those positive chemicals in the brain that create inner peace and calmness? Whatever that looks like for you during this moment of silence, as you build this protective barrier around yourself and your chrysalis, this is the time. Whatever anybody says to you to try and make you feel guilty or try to make you feel a certain kind of way, any anything other than how you would like to feel, does it really matter at this point? Because if you give back in, are they gonna be the same person? And are you gonna find yourself back at that starting line with them because it makes them happy that you're lost and confused just as much as they are? As we close out, remember you sacrifice too much to go back to previous behaviors, patterns, people, associates that did not benefit you. And why would you want to go back? You've invested too much into yourself into seeking the answers to why you attract the people that you do and why you behave in such a way? Why do you give to others and support others who may or may not deserve it? Why do you give your power to those who don't know what to do with it? Why do you end up in confusing patterns with others who are lost and then you become lost with them because you want to help them, and in return, you get trapped as well, you get stuck. You have acknowledged that your energy is sacred and cannot be shared with everyone. Some people will take your energy because they may not know how to harvest their own healing comfort energy. That doesn't mean that you have to give all of your energy. People will never learn how to give to themselves in a healthy way if you continuously give to them. By focusing on your growth and your healing, you are helping others. They may not understand in the beginning. Some way some may never understand your transformation. However, it is also not your job to make someone understand. People can ask questions, they have options. People make choices, they can choose to ask questions to better understand, or they can choose to make assumptions based on what they feel or what they think. Nonetheless, it's not your job to step in and help them. Or have to over-share or over-explain yourself when they still may be stuck and confused as to what's happening through your transformation phase of the beginning of your transformation phase. Protect your peace. In the end, it will be so worth it. Until next time, peace, light, and love. Take care.