Women's Intuition: Why You Need to Trust Yourself More

Have you ever ignored your intuition only to discover later that you were right all along?

In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins explores the psychology of women's intuition, self-trust, overthinking, and why so many women have been conditioned to question their own inner knowing.

Julie discusses the connection between intuition and emotional intelligence, the impact of people-pleasing and perfectionism, and why intuition and logic work best as partners rather than opposites.

In This Episode

•  What intuition really is 
•  Why women often struggle to trust themselves 
•  The connection between intuition and self-confidence 
•  How overthinking disconnects us from our inner wisdom 
•  Why intuition and logic work together 
•  Practical ways to strengthen self-trust

Transcript

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Have you ever had a feeling about something, a relationship, a job, a friendship, maybe even a business decision? And deep down you knew. You couldn't explain it. You didn't have all the evidence. You couldn't create a spreadsheet to prove it, but you knew And then you talked yourself out of it. You gave someone the benefit of the doubt. You waited, you overanalyzed, and you asked 10 other people for their opinion, and eventually, what you knew all along turned out to be true. And if you've ever had that experience, my friend, this episode is for you because I wanna talk about women's intuition and why we've learned not to trust it, and why reconnecting with it may be one of the most powerful things we can do. But before we dive in, if you love this podcast, let me know. Send me a message on Instagram or follow me on Instagram, julielucacollins. I love to be able to hear what your thoughts are, and perhaps maybe some of the insights that you grabbed. And don't forget, share this episode with someone who needs a reminder that she can trust herself. And stay with me till the end. I'm gonna share why intuition isn't the opposite of logic, and why the healthiest decisions often require both. Now, for centuries, women who trusted their instincts, emotions, bodies, inner knowing, were often labeled irrational, emotional, hysterical, difficult, too sensitive, too much. And listen, it hasn't happened just centuries. It's still happening. We are labeled all of these things, and over time, many of us have learned an important survival skill: stop trusting yourself, and trust authority. Trust everyone else's opinion. Trust the rules that the world sets out. Trust the system. Just don't trust yourself. And the cost, it has been, enormous for most of us because today we see it showing up everywhere. We call it overthinking and self-doubt. Maybe we call it people-pleasing, perfectionism, or the analysis paralysis that keeps us from doing the things. Many women are not struggling because they lack wisdom. They're struggling because they've learned to question their own wisdom. Now, intuition is not magic. Let's get this real. Let's clear it up because I know that some of you may be thinking this. Intuition is not a mystical superpower, and it's not irrational, and it's not anti-science. In many ways, intuition is your brain processing information faster than your conscious mind can explain. Your body is constantly gathering the data, the facial expressions of the people around you, maybe the tone of voice that someone has when they reached out, the patterns, energy shifts. You walked into a room, and you feel like, "Ooh, what's going on here?" And perhaps maybe someone is acting differently, and we don't notice necessarily with our brain, but our body is noticing these micro signals Your nervous system often notices things before your conscious mind catches up, and sometimes what we call intuition is simply awareness that hasn't yet become language. Now, you've experienced it. Think about your own life. Have you ever known a relationship wasn't right before you admitted it? I know I have. I can tell you that's the one thing in my first marriage. I always had that feeling, "Don't do it. This is not the person you should be marrying," but I, I didn't listen. The same thing for jobs. You know a job wasn't a fit before you quit. Someone wasn't being honest with you before you had proof. And most of us, and often most of us, you know what happens? We override our signals ourselves, and we explain it away, and we rationalize this. We stay longer than we should. We convince ourselves that we're imagining things, and then later we say, "I knew it. I know I did." And the truth is many times we did know. We simply didn't trust ourselves The cost of self-betrayal, my friend, is that something that breaks my heart because every time we ignore ourselves, we are teaching ourselves something. We are teaching ourselves, "My voice doesn't matter, and my instincts are not reliable. Other people know better than I do." And eventually, we stop listening altogether. The real cost isn't making the wrong decision. The real cost is losing trust in yourself. Because once we stop trusting ourselves, you start outsourcing your authority. You let everyone else decide. Everyone else influences you. Everyone else directs your life. Now, intuition and logic, I want you to know, are teammates. One of the biggest misconceptions is that intuition and logic are in different camps, that they're enemies, and they're not. The healthiest women use both. Intuition gives them direction, but logic gives them the structure that they need. When intuition is saying, "Hey, something doesn't feel right," logic starts to investigate why. Intuition may be saying, "This opportunity feels exciting," and logic helps create the plan to move forward with. Intuition may be saying, "Hello, pay attention," and logic helps you decide what to do next. We don't need less logic. We need more trust in ourselves. Again, I tell you, in my first marriage was something that from the very beginning, I had that nagging feeling that this was not what I needed to do. And for the majority of my marriage, I knew the marriage was not working, but I worked so hard. Hey, there's nothing wrong. There's nothing that you can point to that tells you that the marriage is not working. And I stayed. I stayed for a long time. In all of these moments in my life when I knew something wasn't right, instead of listening, I explained it away. I worked harder. I stayed longer. I tried, in that marriage, for instance, to make things fit. And I discover that later that my intuition had been right all along, and it was trying to protect me. And there have also been moments when I trusted that quiet inner voice, started a business, said yes to an opportunity, followed my idea, and made the brave move, not because I had all the answers, but because I trusted myself enough to listen. Now, the moment of truth is the most powerful voice in your life shouldn't be the loudest. It should be your own voice. So here's your brave move for today. The next time you catch yourself asking five different people what you should be doing, stop it. Pause. Before you seek another opinion, ask yourself, "What do I already know?" Not, what do I fear? Not, what does everyone think? What do I already know? Then sit quietly long enough to hear the answer, because chances are your wisdom arrived before certainty did. And my friend, your intuition isn't something you need to earn. It isn't something reserved for special people. It isn't woo-woo. It's, it isn't irrational. It's one of the ways your mind and body communicate with you. The challenge is in learning how to find it. The challenge is learning how to trust it. So stop outsourcing your authority, for Christ sakes. Stop waiting for the permission we often sit around for. Stop convincing yourself that everyone else knows better, and listen. Pay attention. Trust yourself, because you've been carrying most of the wisdom you need before you realized that you were carrying it, and that, my friend, is your brave move. Now, remember, I love you so much. I am so grateful that you are here listening. And don't forget, if you're looking for a supportive community, a place where you can be understood, have accountability, and have other women who can be the influence that help you trust yourself more, join The Confident You Co-op. The link is in the show notes, and I hope that you go confidently in the direction of your dreams, trusting your intuition