Ep. 27: When You Become the Mother While Healing the Wound

In this follow-up to Shake Off What Your Mama Gave You, Crystal and Laken explore the complex emotional terrain of becoming the nurturer while still healing maternal wounds.

Because sometimes the mother wound doesn’t fully reveal itself until life asks you to become what you once needed.

Whether you are raising children, building a business, leading clients, or mothering your own inner child — this episode is about the tension between caregiving and grief.

Crystal and Laken unpack:

• why maternal wounds often intensify when women begin caregiving,
• the grief of realizing what you didn’t receive,
• how resentment can surface in unexpected ways,
• and how to mother yourself while becoming a safe place for others.

This is a conversation about breaking cycles without perfection, grieving without shame, and learning how to nurture from overflow instead of depletion.

Because healing the mother wound isn’t about becoming flawless.

It’s about becoming conscious.

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Transcript

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SPEAKER_01 0:37

Welcome back to the Low and Slow podcast. It's your girls, Crystal and Lakin. And today we are circling back on the juicy episode we did a couple weeks ago. We got a lot of really good feedback from the mother wound episode. And so we want to circle back on the topic because what happens when you become the mother, right? While you're still healing something you've never received, right? It's this unique sense of grief per se that you start to experience when a woman becomes a mother and when she starts to um, you know, realize that like you're being asked to nurture others, right? While still grieving this thing that you actually have not gotten yourself, or maybe you're not used to getting yourself. And so this is gonna be an episode that lands for a lot of women because sometimes we don't even realize that this is happening until some of these things uh come into our lives. And so we're if you're tuning in today, we encourage you, if you haven't listened to the Mother Wound episode, go back, reference that, uh, press pause on us and come back.

SPEAKER_00 1:48

Yeah, and this it doesn't necessarily mean that you've physically become a mother, right? It's like it's not just in bearing or raising children or or you know, nurturing children. This can be, you know, a caretaker in any form, whether that's taking care of family members or leading a team or holding space for clients, depending on the type of work that you do. And at the essence of it, it's really just being the woman that you feel like everyone relies on you, everyone leans on you. Like you're, you know, you're the um the what's that point in the pillar that I'm trying to think of? That the keystone, right? Like that thing in the middle. It's like if you take it out, everything's gonna crumble. And sometimes it doesn't fully surface right away until life asks you to be that person for everybody else. And that's when you crew you are able to gain a lot of awareness around this wound for the first time. And that can be a little overwhelming.

SPEAKER_01 2:46

Yeah. So we're gonna break this down today into like arcs, into pieces, right? Make this really digestible for you, right? We're gonna first start off with straight up recognition, right? This is this moment is something that so many women experiencing or are this is the moment when so many women are experiencing this and they may not have the language for it, but can we recognize it and normalize it in this moment, right? They're showing up for someone else and they suddenly realize fuck, like I don't know how to give this um to this person without depleting myself, right? I'm I'm not sure of how to do this. I'm gonna, you know, maybe this is where you're bumping into patterns of what you've normally done before, right? And so um it's that realization in that moment, can we just normalize when this happens that this is the first, this is the first step. We gotta become aware of it.

unknown 3:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:39

Caregiving has a way of exposing the places that are still really tender inside of us because it's asking us to expand our capacity beyond ourselves, you know, and it reveals, it reveals where we're undernourished and where we're not taking care of ourselves. Because if we find ourselves getting triggered by that or having a negative emotional response to the needs of others, it's usually because we're not meeting our own needs.

SPEAKER_01 4:10

Yeah. Facts, right? And often what happens, um, what rises anyways isn't anger, but it's it's grief, right? It's grief for what you didn't get. It's grief for what maybe no one noticed that you needed, right? Which is a huge one of like, God, if I could just go back to my little self and I just realized that little girl needed a hug or needed some support or needed some somebody to tell her it was gonna be okay.

SPEAKER_00 4:38

Right. Yeah, and this will show up in conversations too, like with with um with kids a lot, like you'll hear mom say, like, well, nobody was there to do that for me when I was growing up, you know? Like, and that's that's that patterning that's coming through.

SPEAKER_01 4:51

Yeah. So this episode, being that we have a previous episode of this, we want to incorporate a couple different things than what we normally incorporate into the episode because anytime, especially with women, right? And we're talking about the mother wound, like the body has to be involved, right? The mind is creating the environment that the body's responding to, and the body is getting our physical meat suit involved. It's getting um, it's getting the feelings involved, it's getting the somatics, right? So I want you to just take a pause right here. And as we're talking about this topic, right? This grief that's coming up, um, can we just do a body scan, a body check-in? Like, you know, what where when we're talking about this, do you feel grief in your body when you hear that? Right? Can we just do a scan? Is it in your chest? Is it in your throat? Is it in your shoulders? Maybe your stomach, right? And this is not for you to do anything with this information, it's just to, like we said in this first digestible piece, recognize.

SPEAKER_00 5:54

Yeah, just notice it. And then we can move to understanding when caregiving activates old wounds. So it's it's little things that can become triggers. Like, you know, I mean, a big one, a very noticeable one is gonna be your child crying or a child that you're taking care of crying. Um, something else that may be a little bit more insidious could be, you know, someone just needing a little too much from you, or wanting to need like physical comfort a little bit more from you than what your what your capacity allows for at that time. Your your partner or someone close to you asking for emotional support that feels very fatiguing, or um anything that is a a drain on you, or how that feels in the moment. And suddenly your nervous system tends to react a little bit bigger than that moment calls for, right? This is where we see like I I just can't, or you know, this like snap or this quick reaction that often looks like overwhelm or over stress or irritability. Um, but it's not that's not where it's coming from.

SPEAKER_01 6:59

Yeah. Because it's not just in that moment that that's what's happening, right? It's in it's the moment that's happening colliding with every unmet moment that happened before, which I mean that's a bar in itself of like, hold up, I'm experiencing something in real time that I didn't even get, that I have no evidence of that I'm needing to deliver on, right? And it's waiting, like, oh my God, fuck. And if we can just say it like that for a second, where it's like, yeah, it's going to activate something, right? So all of this is stored in our body. When you playing a record and you go to that specific groove and scratch in the record, it's gonna play that song, right? So it's like the same thing, it's going to activate that unmet need before.

SPEAKER_00 7:49

Yeah, and that that's where the nervous system is gonna recognize, like, oh, this feels familiar, right? And the familiar pain is what's gonna get activated first because our nervous system is always gonna go towards what's most familiar over, you know, what's novel or what's different or what's gonna challenge us to change.

SPEAKER_01 8:05

Yeah. And so when it gets activated, right, this is also sometimes not only just grief, like we're gonna name some of these emotions and things coming up because these are signals, uh, signals from our nervous system. The body is talking to us. Girls, are we listening? Right. Um, sometimes resentment shows up here too. And women feel shameful admitting that shit. That, like, yeah, there is resentment within you around certain things, right? And it's very vulnerable to say, especially to another woman or to your partner, that it's like, I'm feeling resentful about this, right? It's like it's it's really dropping the armor and being like, um, there's a wound here that I know that looks like it's a scab or maybe a scar, but like this still hurts me, right? It's the hardest thing for an adult to say that hurt my feelings, or that I'm still feeling something around this area, and I'm a grown-ass woman now, right? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:03

Yeah, resentment is almost always a sign of something being repressed. And the only way to offset resentment or to battle it or overcome it is transparency, right? Like that requires vulnerability. So, if you know, what's the opposite of repressing it is expressing it, right? So anytime I feel like there could be a hint of resentment under this, right? What am I not expressing? What am I not speaking? What am I not being um honest with myself about, and again speaking it out loud, because then I'm gonna harbor resentment when I don't.

SPEAKER_01 9:44

Yeah, absolutely. And like resentment is often where it's like they're cousins. There's grief and then there's resentment. And and resentment happens when grief has nowhere to go, right? The space hasn't, the container hasn't been provided for that grief to really be felt in a safe way. And so it's gonna show up now as a new thing. It's kind of like it's manifesting itself into its uh new emotion, right? It's evolving over time. Um, all right. So we talked about can we recognize? We have the recognition that this is happening, um, where caregiving starts to activate these old wounds, right? And then we want to bring back in the body here. The body is going to remember before the mind can understand. And let's actually talk about like how that feels in the body, because it is when this happens that women seem like so confused of like, well, I I just don't know why this is coming up right now, right? Like, I'm so sorry. So maybe we start to apologize of like when we're getting emotional, of like, I've worked to this, like, I don't know why this is coming up, right? And it's because your your body remembers, right? When we go to that specific line, it's gonna play that song, right? So the mother wounds aren't just emotional stories or these memories that you have, like these are things that somatically live within your body. And I want to take a second to touch on this because, like we talked about in the mother wound, the first mother wound episode. Um you are born inheriting stories of mom and dad, right? So there are things that are ultimately that you're born with because they're in your DNA, right? They're in your fascia, they're in your body, um, that are not yours. But then it is this place of when you are unlearning what's yours, what's not yours, where you are now deciding like, what do I do with this information? And how how can I learn to live with what's somatically store like stored within me and what can I release, right? Like what is mine to hold on to? What do I get to change or put down that's not mine?

SPEAKER_00 11:57

And oftentimes you're not gonna, you're not gonna link them out of the gate. You're not gonna tie that, you know, my tight jaw or my upregulated, shallow breathing, or this like intense irritability that I feel, or this, you know, overwhelming exhaustion that it's tied to an emotional story, or it's tied to something that's deeper, right? We think this is just a result of stress or working too much or you know, putting too much on my plate. But again, like we said before, that it's not this moment, it's it's the compound effect of everything leading up to that, and where you didn't meet what you needed for your body or your mind leading up to this scenario, and then your body can only go so far. So when your body is having these physical red flags that it's raising, these symptoms, right? That is it, it's literally just doing that. It's saying, hey, this needs attention, right? Like it needs to be paid attention to. We need to go back into an internal process of understanding why is my body telling me this and what is it trying to tell me?

SPEAKER_01 12:59

Yeah. So like when these things are coming up and that we can just normalize for a second that it's like, yeah, my body is remembering here. Like, can we call it out? Of like, oh, body, you're talking to me, great, right? And when we start to do that and when we can understand that, then we can also start to even question of like these other things that are present in the body, of like those feelings of wanting to disappear or the times that we've shut down, or to disassociate, right? Like they're all of these things are happening because the emotions have no, like have nowhere to go per se. They're just we're just flooded with them.

SPEAKER_00 13:38

Yeah. And in those moments, a really good tool is um something called orienting, right? And this is just to bring myself back into the present. So when I start to disassociate because all these alarm bells are going off and I'm really struggling with that, that's a really good way to pause and then take in your surrounding to bring yourself back into the present moment, right? So um using your senses to identify things in your environment, naming three things that you can see, right? Or even, you know, going through the sentence. I can, I can smell this, I can, you know, taste this, I can hear this, right? Like using the senses to bring you in the present and then letting your body register that to recognize, okay, this is where I am, I'm here, I'm safe. This is a feeling that is not belonging to this present moment, but it's attached to something in the past that I'm already aware of.

SPEAKER_01 14:29

Yeah. And with this orienting, the more that you do it, like I want to speak on this because I know it's challenging at first, right? Of like when you can catch it in the moment that this is happening, like it's like a lot of times when we haven't caught it, it's like I've it's that default pattern, right? But when when we catch it in the moment, right, maybe one where our child does something, right? And then we're, you know, going to respond and you like catch yourself and you're like right. Like, okay, I'm here. Um, can we catch, like, I was about to operate out of this place, right? And actually, that's not what's happening here, right? It's like catching it is is the piece where that orienting back in is going to be the piece that happens um when you decide to like respond from a different place. Like this is this is the the difference, right?

SPEAKER_00 15:21

And it's not gonna be the go-to, right? No, it's not gonna be the go-to, it's gonna take practice. Like it's it's okay to to allow yourself to be like, oh, I didn't think of that, and then think of it later, and then still do it because then we're getting the practice in, and eventually it will become the go-to if you're intentional about doing it often enough, even in reflection.

SPEAKER_01 15:40

Yeah. I think also too, like when this thing is coming up and you're catching yourself, it's like maybe obviously not to your child, but just in general, like saying it to yourself of like, I talk to myself all the time, right? It's like, oh, that's that thing coming up again, and like I don't I don't need to do anything or fix it, but if I could just like name it and say it out loud, like I can make it tangible to where it's like this is what that is, but that's not what's actually happening now. See, like, you know, like let's let's come back to what's actually happening right now and respond to that. So um that is a skill that the more you use it, like that muscle, it starts to it will get clearer and clearer every time that you use it. And it's not about figuring it out, it's just about differentiating. Yeah. We talked about in the last episode um the reparenting, and that was kind of like the wave that we took you through in the first mother wound episode. But I want to spend a little bit more time on that because this is where the reparenting comes in in real time, right? When you catch yourself and when you differentiate. Like, yes, this was this is what was happening, you know, from there, but that's not what's happening now. And this is where like um healing some of these feelings of I don't want to say healing, but like meeting some of these feelings like grief, resentment, um, you know, when you've when you've been like shut down or dismissed or didn't have space for your emotions, right? Like this is where these things become active, like they become applicable because reparenting is not like this theory that's like, oh, just try this, right? It's in the moment where that's when you're deciding different. It's when you're overwhelmed, right? It's when you're um you're flustered as hell, it's when maybe you're like activated in a way that you could operate not how you would want to, but you're going to choose something different instead. So I'm going to choose like softness instead of attack, right? And it's in that moment where we are starting to acknowledge that that reparenting is happening in real time, whether we recognize it or not, when we are choosing different.

SPEAKER_00 17:48

Yeah, that's the part of recognizing your self-talk and like the ways, the ways that you're shitty to yourself, right? It's like saying something to yourself like, you know, this is hard for me because I need to be taken care of too. Like I have needs too, my needs are important too, right? It's it's um shifting from, you know, I recognize a lot of ways that I'm very aggressive with myself. Like I, you know, push myself in a way that isn't always nice. And I have to catch that a lot of times and be like, oh, you know what? I'm actually doing great and it's fine. Like, you know, or when I mess up something and it's like, you know, we all do this where we'll be like, oh, it's stupid, or like you idiot, right? And it's like, no, I'm not an idiot. I'm a really, I'm I'm a smart lady and I can do this. Like I'm doing just fine, right? It's like just reframing that for yourself. And it again, it's not gonna be the go-to at first because we have these really firmly ingrained patterns and a lot of a lot of bad habits when it comes to the way that we talk to ourselves. But can we get into the habit of recognizing it when we do do it and offering ourselves an alternative so that over time now that's the new go-to?

SPEAKER_01 18:54

Yeah. And I think, you know, even in that if the the sentence that happens after we feel that moment of like, oh, I could respond in this way, but then I choose to respond in this way, is like this is where also the vulnerability comes in, right? Like you said, this is hard for me because I needed care too. So let's say, like to a partner, or like maybe your child who's grown now or like, you know, older, where they can understand of like, this is where true vulnerability comes in because they're actually seeing you in that moment of like, this is something I I'm not the best at giving myself because I did not have this, right? Or this is something where, you know, when this happens, it makes me feel like this way, right? Because now you're getting the inner child involved and it's no the inner child within you is no longer alone inside the trigger. You are listening to what that inner child is saying, right? You're giving the inner child the mic for a second to say, not literally like, what do you need in this moment, but I'm listening to you and I'm also being vulnerable with the person maybe who's across from me or um, you know, experiencing the dynamic with me back and forth that you're allowing yourself to be seen there too. So it's like that trigger in that moment. It's, you know, I think about this um with when we had Melissa on, she was talking about this, where it's like um even being able to acknowledge to your kid of like, you know, like I'm I'm upset, like, yeah, mommy shouldn't have responded in that way or whatever, and like, you know, she was frustrated, and just being able to like take accountability of like what that was, and that's the vulnerable piece, where then you're like bringing bringing little you into the conversation without reacting from the little you, if that makes sense.

SPEAKER_00 20:42

Yeah, um it's as simple as you know, when something comes up around if you feel overwhelmed with all of the things that you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself around about doing it, you know, the right way, then it can be something as easy as, hey, it, you know, it doesn't have to be perfect. I don't have to do this perfectly for it to be okay or for it to be done or for it to be, you know, enough, right? It's like, or when you feel like everyone's leaning on you and it feels overwhelming and you have not met your needs, just recognizing it's okay that I have needs, right? Like I'm allowed to have needs too. I'm allowed to meet my own needs too in this mix. I'm allowed to be included in the bucket of needs, right? Or just a matter of telling yourself that you matter, right? When we have a really big habit of being like, oh, it must be nice, or um, I wish I could do that for me. It's like, okay, can I do that for me instead of I wish I could do that for me? Is that possible? Can I make my needs matter too? It's just reframing it to yourself. And it it's we don't do it enough, and it's it's really, really important.

SPEAKER_01 21:55

And because within this episode, we're putting more of the nervous situation. Some like grounding practices, right, in place. Like again, it's stored somatically. Like the power of these little things, these 10 little fingers, right, on your own body is powerful, right? They they need to feel from you, like from you to you, from you to your parent current self to little you. Like all of those versions of you are it are stored within your body. So it's like as you're listening to us, like, can you just put one hand on your heart, one hand on um on your stomach? I like to put my thumb like right above my navel. And it's just like, can I just take a deep inhale and a deep and a slow exhale? And just ask yourself that really good question. What do I need right now that I usually deny myself? Right. And in that moment, it's like this little practice when the trigger is there can be the thing that has you respond differently. And whatever the answer is, can you allow it to come without judgment?

unknown 23:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 23:05

Because it's the judge, like the judgment that comes afterwards that will be the thing that makes you not do it. But can you just allow it to come up and give yourself what you need for a second in some way, shape, or form?

SPEAKER_00 23:16

Yeah. Yeah. A version of that that I do with a lot of my clients is like take a breath and then just ask yourself, you know, what's one thing that I can do that will help me right now, and what's one thing I can stop doing that's not helping me right now. Right. It's just like getting curious with yourself and tapping in.

SPEAKER_01 23:32

Yeah. And I I mean, I think it's important, even just with like any kind of and I get it. I don't mean like in the middle of your triggers, like, you know, making it this whole big thing, but just something intentionally within yourself where it's like, I need to acknowledge that I normally do this, and what is what is it that I actually need rather than just doing what's default.

SPEAKER_00 23:53

Yeah. Yeah. Or what is it that I'm usually denying that I I could accommodate for me instead of accommodating everybody else and continuing to deny myself. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And I it's also important to remember that as we're working towards breaking these cycles, that it doesn't have to be perfect. Okay. Like breaking cycles does not mean becoming perfect. That's why we keep reiterating like this is not going to be the go-to, it's not going to be the default out of the gate. This takes intention, it takes practice, it takes rewiring. It's it's working through something differently than how you're used to doing it.

SPEAKER_01 24:28

Yeah. And this is the piece that people may not like. It's like doing this work, breaking anything, the word breaking itself. Like, yeah, it's not easy, right? And you're it's not easy. You're going to get triggered, right? You're going to react sometimes. Um, you're going to feel that grief in the middle of practicing this, right? That does not mean that you're failing, right? Those are actually signs that you are doing something different. And it, I think it's the piece that it's like we want to hop, skip, and jump to, okay, I feel better about this, right? But it's like just like in relationship, like, how do you heal from things in relationships? In relationship where you can actually practice giving yourself what you need and still staying within yourself and not, you know, not immediately abandoning yourself or like, you know, just going along with what the other person wants. Like it's it's actually being it. Can I stay with myself through the areas that I'm triggered and know that this cycle is like I get to keep meeting it? It's not going to just go away, but I get to keep meeting it differently each time, a little bit different, a little bit better.

SPEAKER_00 25:38

Yeah, it's just like anything else. Like, can we focus on the things that are within our control instead of outside of our control? Right. It's like recognizing that just because I'm noticing this and it's uncomfortable, the fact is that I'm still noticing it, right? The pattern is becoming something that is in my consciousness as opposed to something that is in my subconscious or not available to me. And consciousness is where I have the access to it to be able to break it to begin with. So can I focus on that as opposed to, oh, it's, you know, I haven't gotten to the outcome that I want yet. I haven't arrived yet. It's like the same thing as when we're just focused on, you know, the outcome of, you know, what the number is on the scale as opposed to all of the things that we're doing. And like our energy is getting better and we're improving our sleep and our nutrition is so much better and we're moving our body, but it's like we're telling ourselves none of that matters because this one outcome that we haven't achieved yet, it's the same thing here, right? It's like, oh, you know, I'm still responding the same way in all these in all these ways. Okay, but you have awareness of it now. And so now we can we can shift.

SPEAKER_01 26:38

Yeah. And in the shift, and as you're shifting in that, right? Like the goal here is not to be this flawless mother, right? Or in motherhood or in birthing something new, right? If you're, you know, it's not just about being a mom to children, right? It's just anything where like being a mother, you're that's it's that sacral being, like you're creating there's joy, there's aliveness, there's um vitality, right? Like in any of that, it's not to be flawless, it's not to be this flawless caregiver. The goal is having the awareness with repair, right? So like I can be aware of these things, and then that integration piece is like, how am I repairing it? Right. Because I could be aware all day, could be in my consciousness all day. And if I just keep choosing to do the same thing, I keep staying in the same cycle. So can the goal here is not to be perfect or flawless, right? Because no one's going to be, but can I each time when I am aware of it, when it does stand out, repair it differently, right? Need it differently. Sometimes I think, you know, women think like if I still struggle with this, then I must not be healing. It must not be working. Um, you know, what did I do all this for? Like, I've been in therapy about this for years, right? But often healing is going to look like feeling that same fucking trigger over and over again. And you're like, God damn it, right? But it's like eventually when you stop shitting on yourself for feeling the trigger and you get to meet yourself in like think about the word reparenting, right? It's like a parent is going to have to parent a child more than once, right? When you are reparenting, that means you're going to be parenting more than once, right? You're redoing the thing that you've already been doing. And so it's feeling that same trigger and responding differently this time. And if we keep responding the same way and we're also aware of that, it's like, oh, okay, this is this is also where I get to do different, right? It's it's all information.

SPEAKER_00 28:53

Yeah, it's like people think that the the problem is what goes away. The problem is not what goes away, the problems aren't going anywhere, right? It's just how we respond to the problems and how we choose to handle them differently, how we show up differently and more aligned with you know how we want to show up, our desired identity, our desired self. And that's where the growth is. That's the rewiring. That's you know where we get into the possibility of our nervous system actually changing and reflecting what we want to see.

SPEAKER_01 29:20

Yeah. So I I love that this this podcast, we named it the Low and Slow Podcast for a reason because gosh, so many of us are I'm myself included, fucking puckered. Okay. Like we need to breathe. All right. The most free things in life breathing, sleeping, walking, and we just take advantage. We don't take full advantage of them, right? So it's like, and I'm not saying like get on the podcast and we're doing like kumbaya and breathing together, but like really, when's the last time you took a breath? When's the last time you let like a slow exhale out through your mouth? Like when I'm on calls with clients, I'm like breathe slowly, and I want you to blow so much air that my hair looks like I'm a model, okay? Like breathe, blow it all the way out, right? Let your shoulders drop, let your jaw soften. Your body is is already carrying these things, and your body does not need to carry all of these generations of yourself, of women before you alone. Like you can, you can we can let some of that go, right? And um, you know, if this episode we like I mentioned, like the we know that this is going to hit for a lot of women. Why? Because we all came from a woman, right? Like if this episode stirred maybe grief in you that is still existing or is unmet or that you don't know what to deal with, can I validate you for a second of like it makes sense if it stirred something up in you, right? Because sometimes grief only surfaces when we're safe enough to feel it, right? If we've been in protection mode, if we've been in survival mode where none of this was happening, and then all of a sudden it's happening, it's like, oh my goodness, well, now I'm in more of a space where I can actually deal with these things, right? And a lot of the times that's looked at in a negative light, and we don't see it in that way, that it's like, oh, wait, I it feels like this is going to shit, but this is actually my body saying, like, can can we take a look at that? Take a look at this because I'm wanting to feel safe around somewhere that didn't feel safe enough before to do something about it.

SPEAKER_00 31:33

Yeah. And if you find yourself in a space where, you know, you are in a caretaking role while you're still trying to heal this mother wound, then you know, you're not you're not behind, and there's nothing wrong with you. You're just finding yourself, and that's really important work.

SPEAKER_01 31:49

Yeah, it is. It's sacred work when a w and this is why with women, like the power of sisterhood, the power of just women being on their own journey and like not comparing and not um, you know, this is gonna look different for every woman. And while women are figuring it out, can can you celebrate the woman figuring it out? Can you stick by the woman figuring it out? Like, can you can you know that she's doing her sacred work just like you're doing yours? And like ultimately, women, when women are doing this work within themselves, they're becoming, they're becoming the safe place, which the safe place that a lot of this world needs, not just within themselves, but for you know, for everyone that is impacted around them when a woman operates from her safe place. Not because you got everything right, but because you're choosing like this consciousness for yourself over repeating same the same cycle.

SPEAKER_00 32:49

Yeah. So, ladies, if this episode resonated with you or if you know somebody that's just carrying all this resentment and feeling like shit about it because of their caretaking role, um send it to them.

SPEAKER_01 33:05

Yeah, like they're quiet about they're just harboring it, right? They're they're not they're in there alone, right? If that's happening, if you're ready, if you're in a space where you're ready to do um this work in a more deeper embodied space, I want to invite you to our peace play love retreat. Yeah, right, because this retreat is created for ex these exact types of healing conversations. It's a container, a small, intentional, safe container where we are allowing you to see where it's not just peace play love, right? What is underneath that? It's inner child work, it's all these stories that we've been carrying, it's all these feelings that we have felt for a long time that have been sitting up on the shelf. And it's like now they're in the forefront and we don't know what to do with them. We don't know how to integrate them, right? It's like this space within our woman, uh, within women's retreats are is created for you. And can you give yourself permission to be in the room?

SPEAKER_00 34:09

Yeah, in a room where your nervous system can actually downregulate and soften, right? It's like where you get to be witnessed by other women in a way that doesn't um doesn't happen very often, completely free of judgment or performance, right? And it's like where you can release all this stuff that doesn't serve you. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 34:27

Yeah. So that's your invitation. We hope that you enjoyed this episode. As always, we really appreciate you guys being here. And we love to hear from you. We love to hear your feedback. If you can like, share, subscribe, share this podcast with one of your friends, your homegirls, your coworker, somebody, right? Everyone's got a mama. Share it with someone that is the most free thing and most helpful thing that you can do. And we'll see you in the next episode.

SPEAKER_00 34:55

See you next time.