You are not alone 💛

There’s a part no one talks about enough.

The part after the big move.

After the launch.

After the adrenaline.

After the “I did it.”

Sometimes what follows isn’t euphoria. It’s a dip.

In this episode, I’m sharing honestly about coming off the wave of launching Sucker Society and brushing up against old stories of not being enough, self-doubt, comparison, and the strange emotional low that can show up even when something is going right.

If you’ve ever hit a goal and still felt unsettled…

If success has somehow stirred insecurity…

If you’ve wondered, “Why do I feel off when I should feel proud?”

This episode is for you.

We talk about:

•Why emotional lows often show up after big highs

•The “now what?” crash nobody warns you about

•How achievement can stir up old scarcity and worthiness wounds

•Tools to move through spirals without making them mean something about you

•Ways to come back to steadiness, perspective, and self-trust

•Why feeling this does not mean you’re failing

This is part personal story, part gentle reality check, part toolkit.Because you are not broken for feeling a dip after momentum.

And you are definitely not alone.

Sometimes the wobble after expansion is just your system catching up.

Press play if you need a reminder that hard moments can coexist with beautiful things unfolding.

Takeaway:

Don’t let a passing low narrate your whole story.

If this episode resonated, share it with a friend who needs this reminder too. 🤍

Transcript

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Hello and welcome back to After the Burnout. I am your host, Jacqueline. And if you're new here, we just hop right in. I'm a functional health coach that has now created functional health lollipops. So welcome. Today I am actually in my car. I did not go home to get my equipment and get all set up or anything fancy, and it is raining. So if you hear thunder or if you hear the rain pattering on the top of the roof, that's because I literally said, you know what? The point of this right now is to be able to pick up in the moment and share what is going on behind the scenes and just shining light on the fact that you're not alone in a lot of the things that you feel like you're alone in. And this weekend, I knew this low point was coming. I just didn't know when, but it came this weekend after we launched two weeks ago. The suckers, I was riding a high, I was so excited, and I still am, and these things can too can coexist, but I felt this unnerving wave. Like I knew it was coming. So this weekend, when I was just figuring out, okay, what am I gonna do next? Where do I need to go? How do I keep this pop popping? And how do I do this? And da-da-da. Like, and then I almost went like to the other spectrum of like eff it. I don't even know why I started this, this is so stupid, and then the other spectrum of like, oh my gosh, like I'm crying. Somebody just sent me a happy, like a good review. They love the suckers, they love the product, and then it would swing back to it's still not enough. What do you think you're doing? You think you can keep this up, and like it was this constant back and forth, and I was pissed that this emotion and this feeling was coming in, and that I was having this uh feeling of not enough because I know through God that I'm perfectly and wonderfully made, but then I'm at the flip of the coin thinking this is not enough, it's not enough, it's not enough, it's not enough. And I mean, my goodness, the whiplash that I had this weekend was quite literally the most annoying thing because I wanted to fix it. And as I was talking with a mentor coach that I'm in her programs, she has a lot of amazing brain-based, neuro and trauma-trained programs to bring in the body and the mind, and I she allowed space this morning, which God bless her, because she did not have to do that, but allowed space for me to really just connect with her. She had written something on Friday that was extremely vulnerable and opened up a box that ripped me to shreds because it's her inner critic was very similar to how my inner critic is, and to hear somebody else talk about that was I've never felt more seen. There are plenty of things like you see people do, they're like, Oh, I messed up today, but this it was so deep that she allowed us to see, and I reread it today, and it just tear tore me apart, it tore me apart because it is this constant Jack, you're not enough. But this is our inner critic, and this is something that over the last year for me, I've been working on really hard to just silence her and tell her to shut the F up already. And as I was talking with Kate today, is her name. She again held the space, but was able to say, Hey, that voice, it you're not trying to completely silence her because she even says she goes to war every single day with this little bitch. Boohoo tuba is what she calls it, one of her programs, that wants to always be heard, and then she's loud. And when you start to quiet her a little bit, it feels I mean, it feels like you're fighting her. Gloves are on, we're in the ring, let's fucking go. It's the other voice that's saying, Hey girl, you're doing so dang good right now. Like, I am happy that we've gotten this far. Hell yeah! Like, I'm happy for just being here. Wow! And then she comes into the ring, and it's like you're not enough, you should be doing more, and it's just constant battle of trying to get that voice every day to not be so effing loud. And the more that I've sat with that, the more that my perfectionism likes to come out. And if I don't hear her a lot, I'm like, oh my gosh, look at me, oh my gosh, look at me. I I'm doing so great. What inner critic! I only have my inner nice voice, or whatever you want to call it. And of course, that's why this weekend when it came back, it was like a tidal wave, and I I thought that I was through it, but the kicker is this voice is not going to ever go away. And the more that we try to have these things completely disappear, the more we're setting ourselves up for uh failure in a sense of never feeling okay because that version of us is still within us, she's just a little quieter, and that transition for my brain really helped. And I've heard it before, it's been a minute, but I the reminder of hey, you're not trying to completely assassinate her, we're just trying to quiet her down, and you're gonna have to go to war with her every day because she still wants to speak up and say, It's not enough. Ooh, try harder, you need to keep going, and it's an inner boss bitch, inner boss bait, whatever the hell you want to call it, with the other version that says, You are perfectly adequate as you are, and that was something that we did in EDMR therapy, tapping my legs little by little and saying, I am adequate exactly as I am, over and over and over and over, rewiring that neuroplasticity, which we all can do, we all can do that, but there's still versions or voices, and she knows better than I. This she calls it part uh therapy or part training. So, you know, you're splitting yourself into third person in a sense, and I do this all the time, and I thought I felt like a crazy person, but I called it my little inner bitch voice, I called it my little inner sweetie voice, and then it was like I would have a third person observing it, and I didn't tell many people that okay. But now that she said that this is uh definitely part of therapy work, I felt a little less crazy. So when I was able to step back and observe all these, uh it like literally felt I mean I'm like taking my hands and pinging them back and forth, it felt like a ping-pong machine and just going or pinball machine, going back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. And as you work through this stuff, you're you're never going to be fully exempt from it, you're never gonna fully have it gone and exonerated, it's gonna always be there. But the beautiful part about any kind of nervous system work and working on the inside and working on the the pieces of us that we want to shove down and just say, like, oh, I just need to take care of my health and everything's gonna be fixed. And I used to believe that. I really did. If you take care of your health, everything's gonna be fixed. While there is a very nuanced notion to that, because yes, taking care of your health ups of frickin' tootin' rootin' lootly helps with your mental clarity and obviously your um anxieties and stress and etc. That does not mean that it is the only thing, which again I used to believe, that will help move you out of this heavy, heavy feeling. And this is again why I brought nervous system work into my practice. And sometimes it is very hard when people don't want to hear it because they think that it's not gonna solve anything, or if they just get to this next version of themselves, they'll be okay. I'm gonna tell you right now, when you're getting to that next version of yourself, you are quite literally tearing down what you've always believed, aka look at my shit. I have always believed if I try harder, do more, then I am enough. And then the flip of the coin in me saying, You're enough as you are, and obviously God saying, Lady, you're enough as you are. But I've torn that version down little by little by little to where she's not this big beast, it is more like a meek voice that's in the background squeaking up, and sometimes she's louder than not at times, but she's not this big, big, over like David and Goliath. That's what I think of. Like, I'm not, I'm not, I'm no longer David and Goliath, or Goliath, I should say. I'm I'm the voice that is much, much, much smaller. I can still hear her. But getting to this version felt really effing hard. And I know some people won't go there, try to go there, it's too hard, stop going there. Sometimes you go there and then you revisit it a year later and you're like, oh, I feel more prepared for this. I've seen that many times. Sometimes it takes people three, four years to be able to come back to even remotely looking at what it would look like to shift how their reality has been because they're so effing fed up by this reality they can't see straight anymore. But it just takes people different timelines to learn where that shift needs to start. That's not bad. I said this many, many, many times on the podcast, but I have not done a podcast in a while. Things have been a little kooky. But you're not good, you're not bad. We put ourselves in those boxes, and it's the thing that will always pull us back to the place of we're not enough. Oh, there it is. There's the evidence. And that's not the case. That's not the case. I'm not bad because I'm having these thoughts come back up that I thought I was done with. Nope. I'm literally just noticing it and saying, holy shit. And some of it is a deep-rooted fear that has always been ingrained in me of if I am not smart enough, if I am not successful enough, then I'm not enough. And that's also another layer of what I'm battling. And it's hard as a business owner. You have you're you're up against competition, if you will, in a sense of trying to be be more, more, more. And at some point recognizing the work that I've done and continue to do, not only as in myself, but just day-to-day showing up is enough. It is good enough, and that's a lesson that I'm learning almost every day and Tuesday, and I'm not bad for it, neither are you. So if you're going through this today, one, you're not alone. Not alone. Sometimes these learning curves, if you will, sometimes feel like they take longer than they quote unquote should. And let me be completely transparent with you. About, oh, what am I? I'm 11 minutes in here. About 20 minutes ago, I was bawling my eyes out. Balling my eyes out. And the craziest part was it was going from bawling about the product to bawling about not being enough and the flip of a hat in the same cry. Not even a pause in between, the exact same cry. And it was wild. It was wild. But that is also working through that emotion that I was pushing down all weekend. I was pissed about it, I was mad about it, I was sad, I was annoyed, I was all of the things, and I allowed those emotions to be with it, but I wasn't allowing myself to hear it because at the depth of it, I felt like a loser weenie head for going through it. But now stepping back and having this perspective of like, oh, well, hang on, Jacqueline. You're not actually a loser-weenie head. You were just not working through it or allowing yourself to work through it. You wanted to be only one way and only a certain way, and that's why you felt like you were stuck and why you were running into. I I don't know. That's all I can answer this weekend. I don't know. I don't know. And I did know, I just didn't want the answer to be that answer, was another part of it. Because that answer made me feel a bit icky. That answer made me feel that I was again behind and not enough, and etc. So I didn't answer it that way. I kept saying I don't know, and it prolonged getting to the point where I am now. So if you're working through it, I got you. You have you. Ask yourself some questions with some curiosity today. And if it comes to an I don't know, table it for if it's consistent, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know. Table it, come back an hour later and see if you're able to pull one thing out. Well, it's kind of this. Oh, okay. Okay. On to a little bit of something. Alright. If you're if you're pulling something else out that feels really heavy, don't tug at it. Just gently say, ooh, okay, I got two things here now. Are they related? I don't know yet. Set it down. So we're not working through these things night and day or or more so in the just the same sentence. Sometimes it does take two days. That's what it took me this weekend. Two days in talking through it with somebody to even just get my voice out like this. This right here is how I process a lot of my stuff. I'll send voice memos to myself, and then I'll be able to process like what it truly is. And without judgment, I haven't I'm not taking it to my husband, I'm not taking it to a friend, I'm taking it to myself to work through. And I didn't do that this weekend, to be fully honestly transparent as usual. I didn't do that this weekend. I was trying to just work through it and figure it out and just uh suck it up and move on, Jaclyn. Like you should be happy. You it it's not that bad. We say this all the time to ourselves. So if those are the statements that are happening, typically we're pushing down the root or root of what the heck's going on. So allow yourself to kind of dig a little bit and maybe you get to a root, maybe you get to two roots, and then you can see if they are connected to each other and start there. So this is like actually a little bit of a coaching session today, and that's okay because I feel like this is what we need a lot more of right now in the space of just the health industry. It's been interesting taking a step back, which will be a different podcast, probably for a different day. But it's been really interesting stepping back, and I already felt it while in it, but the ick ick that I've gotten from the industry lately is uh it's been very interesting. Very, very interesting. If you want to hear the podcast, I'd love to love to share it, but let me know if you would like to hear my thoughts on uh where the heck I see there needs to be change and what needs a shift, because it has become worse than the wild, wild west out there in that health industry at times. So I hope you have a fantastic day. And if you need a chat, you know where to find me. Peace out.