Self Led Love with Bahia Miller
Using the transformative lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Self Led Love is an exploration of how our inner parts shape the way we love, communicate, and grow in partnership. Each episode invites listeners to deepen self-awareness, take radical responsibility, and cultivate more authentic, connected relationships.
Self Led Love with Bahia Miller
Speaking FOR Parts – FROM Self
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Learning to speak FOR Parts, FROM Self — rather than from a reactive part — can transform the way we communicate in relationships. In this solo episode, Bahia Miller explores the difference between speaking for your parts vs. speaking from your parts, why our impulses to make others change often backfire, and how taking a pause — a U-turn — can help us respond with clarity, compassion, and accountability. She shares practical ways to slow down, understand what’s happening inside, and communicate vulnerably and courageously.
Reflection:
Next time you feel triggered, notice what parts of you are activated. How can you slow down and come into relationship with your parts before sharing with your partner?
Free resources:
- Transform Your Triggers Unblending Meditation: www.bahiamiller.com/unblend
- Self-Led Love Checklist: www.bahiamiller.com/checklist
- Explore more from Bahia: www.bahiamiller.com
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🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:
Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblend
The Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklist
www.bahiamiller.com
🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlist
Want to go deeper into the work?
🎧 For our podcast community:
Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22
Use code PODCAST
https://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop
*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*
Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.
Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.
This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...