Self Led Love with Bahia Miller
Using the transformative lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Self Led Love is an exploration of how our inner parts shape the way we love, communicate, and grow in partnership. Each episode invites listeners to deepen self-awareness, take radical responsibility, and cultivate more authentic, connected relationships.
Episodes
19 episodes
The Art of Inviting Your Partner to Explore IFS with You
Have you fallen in love with Internal Family Systems and desperately wish your partner would too?Maybe you've experienced more self-awareness, more compassion, and more spaciousness inside yourself through IFS—and naturally want to share...
Grief, Shame & the Parts That Protect Us – with Tara Minshall
What if the criticism, conflict, shutdown, overthinking, or emotional reactivity in your relationship is actually protecting something much deeper?In this powerful episode of Self Led Love, Bahia sits down with IFS practitioner and grief...
From Power Struggles to Connection: Parenting and Attachment with IFS + The Neufeld Approach
What if the key to raising emotionally healthy, resilient kids isn’t controlling behavior—but deepening connection?In this episode of Self-Led Love, Bahia Miller is joined by parent coach and IFS practitioner Lisa Winer to explo...
Parts, Patterns and the Sacred Mess: Reflections from IFS Level 3 Training
SELF LED LOVE episode 13 - Reflections from IFS Level 3 TrainingAfter completing the highest level of IFS training available directly from the IFS Institute, Bahia shares what's alive in her after a week of deep immersion — and what she...
Why you keep having the same fight over and over (and how to stop it)
Do you and your partner keep having the same fight on repeat — different topic, same exhausting pattern? In this episode of Self-Led Love, host and certified IFS practitioner Bahia Miller breaks down exactly why couples get stuck in th...
Self Led Sexuality 101 – with Patricia Rich
What if your sexual self is already whole and complete? IFS-informed sex therapist Patricia Rich joins host Bahia Miller to explore self-led sexuality, the Six S's framework, internal consent, and how couples — especially parents — can reconnec...
How to Have Difficult Conversations — A Self-Led Structure
A Three-Part Framework for Walking Through the Fire with Courage, Clarity & CareIn this solo episode, Bahia Miller offers a practical, parts-informed road map for having the difficult conversations that matter — not to win, not to bl...
Speaking FOR Parts – FROM Self
Learning to speak FOR Parts, FROM Self — rather than from a reactive part — can transform the way we communicate in relationships. In this solo episode, Bahia Miller explores the difference between speaking for your parts vs. sp...
Intimacy Inventory Experiential – Using the 5 P's of IFS
What if you could transform your most important relationships — not through big dramatic changes, but through 1% shifts in how you show up?In this episode, host Bahia Miller leads you through a guided IFS-inspired meditation using the
[MEDITATION] Points of Light – Seth Kopald PhD
Join Seth for his signature Points of Light meditation. You will be invited to circulate love and light throughout your whole system between parts + self. This meditation can provide a boost of connection and coherence to your syste...
The Team Within: IFS, Attunement, and the Art of Being Understood – with Seth Kopald PhD
What if being truly understood by your partner feels almost identical to being loved? In this rich conversation, host Bahia Miller sits down with Seth Kopald — Certified Level 3 IFS practitioner and author of Self-Led — to explore ...
The #1 Skill for Self-Led Love
Struggling with recurring fights in your relationship? Wondering how to rebuild emotional safety after disconnection?In this episode of Self-Led Love, I break down the most important relationship skill for long-term intimacy:
ADHD in Partnership: Untangling Resentment, Shame, and Shared Responsibility — with Dr. Carol Shilliday
ADHD can impact partnerships in all sorts of ways. And without both partners doing the U-Turn to connect with their own parts... resentment builds... and the spark dwindles. In this episode of Self-Led Love, Bahia Mill...
The Parts Detector in Relationships: Managers, Firefighters & Exiles in Action
Understanding how our parts show up in relationships can transform the way we connect with ourselves and our partners. In this solo episode, Bahia Miller breaks down the different types of parts — managers, firefighters, and exiles — and ho...
Mom Parts (in Partnership) with Jessica Tomich Sorci
Motherhood changes everything — including which parts of us are in the forefront. In this episode, Bahia Miller is joined by Jessica Tomich Sorci for an honest and tender conversation about the profound identity shifts that occur when a wom...
The Gift of Triggers: Healing Relationship Patterns with IFS
Discover how triggers in relationships can actually be gifts for growth. Bahia Miller guides you in noticing your emotional, mental, and physical reactions, turning inward to understand your parts, and practicing cu...
How to Save Your Relationship (even if you feel hopeless)
Bahia Miller explores three foundational strategies for approaching the question “Can this relationship be saved?”—especially when things have been hard for a long time.In this episode, you’ll learn about:Why ...
Self Led Love Explained: How Internal Family Systems Transforms Relationships
Bahia Miller defines SELF LED LOVE and the importance & nuance of taking responsibility for your parts, building trust with yourself, and showing up consciously in relationships. Learn how noticing and tending to your inner par...