Self Led Love with Bahia Miller
Using the transformative lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Self Led Love is an exploration of how our inner parts shape the way we love, communicate, and grow in partnership. Each episode invites listeners to deepen self-awareness, take radical responsibility, and cultivate more authentic, connected relationships.
Self Led Love with Bahia Miller
The Parts Detector in Relationships: Managers, Firefighters & Exiles in Action
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Understanding how our parts show up in relationships can transform the way we connect with ourselves and our partners. In this solo episode, Bahia Miller breaks down the different types of parts — managers, firefighters, and exiles — and how they influence patterns, conflicts, and intimacy in partnership. She explores the protective roles these parts take on, why they sometimes cause friction, and how bringing awareness to them can create space for healing and deeper connection.
Reflection:
What are the dominant parts showing up in your relationships? As you listen, notice what your exiles might be carrying underneath and how your protectors are trying to help.
Free resources:
- Self-led Love Checklist: bahiamiller.com/checklist
- Transform Your Triggers Unblending Meditation: bahiamiller.com/unblend
Work with Bahia:
If you’d like to learn more about working with Bahia or explore her offerings, visit www.bahiamiller.com for details.
Want to go deeper into the work?
🎧 For our podcast community:
Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22
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🌈 Free resources + more from Bahia:
Bahia’s Unblending Meditation: https://bahiamiller.com/unblend
The Self-Led Love Checklist: https://bahiamiller.com/checklist
www.bahiamiller.com
🔮 For couples who are committed to growth and ready to build real emotional intelligence together using IFS — the Self Led Love Lab waitlist is open: https://bahiamiller.com/waitlist
Want to go deeper into the work?
🎧 For our podcast community:
Join the Repair for Relationship Resilience Workshop for $22
Use code PODCAST
https://bahiamiller.com/repair-workshop
*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*
Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.
Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.
This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...