Self Led Love with Bahia Miller
Using the transformative lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Self Led Love is an exploration of how our inner parts shape the way we love, communicate, and grow in partnership. Each episode invites listeners to deepen self-awareness, take radical responsibility, and cultivate more authentic, connected relationships.
Self Led Love with Bahia Miller
Intimacy Inventory Experiential – Using the 5 P's of IFS
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What if you could transform your most important relationships — not through big dramatic changes, but through 1% shifts in how you show up?
In this episode, host Bahia Miller leads you through a guided IFS-inspired meditation using the Five Ps of Self Energy: Presence, Patience, Perspective, Playfulness, and Persistence. Like the well-known Eight Cs, these five qualities live within all of us — and our parts, when activated, can block them from shining through.
You'll be guided to choose one relationship in your life and gently explore how each of these qualities shows up (or gets blocked) in that dynamic — and what even a tiny increase might offer you both.
In this episode, you'll explore:
- The Five Ps of IFS and how they differ from the Eight Cs of Self Energy
- A full guided meditation to explore your relational patterns with one person in your life
- How to identify the parts that block presence, patience, perspective, playfulness, and persistence
- Why "1% more" is a powerful, sustainable lens for relationship growth
- How to bring your partner into this conversation as a shared practice
This episode is for you if:
- You're doing IFS work and want to apply it directly to your relationships
- You feel stuck in certain relational patterns and want a fresh, embodied perspective
- You're curious about how your parts show up with the people you love most
⚠️ Please note: This episode contains a guided meditation. Do not listen while driving. You may want a pen and paper nearby.
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Unblending Meditation https://bahiamiller.com/unblend
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*Self-Led Love Podcast Disclaimer*
Self-Led Love is a space for reflection, education, and relational growth. The content shared here is offered for educational and informational purposes only, and reflects my lived experience and professional perspective as an Internal Family Systems–informed relationship coach.
Any stories shared on the podcast are either my own, anonymized, or composite examples drawn from real experiences. Identifying details have been changed to protect privacy and confidentiality.
This podcast is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, legal advice, or mental health treatment. While many listeners may find resonance, insight, or support through this...