Wishing Care For Self & Others - Dealing With The Inner Critic (Day 7 / Last Day)

Ever wish your inner critic would finally give you a break? Sean Fargo closes our seven-day journey by teaching a simple, reliable practice that replaces self-attack with grounded compassion. We start where warmth is easiest—thinking of someone or an animal that naturally opens the heart—then repeat four steady phrases: may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you be happy, may you live with ease. From that genuine warmth, we turn the same phrases inward and, yes, even toward the inner critic itself.

Across this guided session, we explore why loving-kindness is more than feel-good language; it’s a trainable response that reshapes the brain and nervous system. By pairing intention with repetition, the practice becomes a habit you can call on the next time you make a mistake, fall short of a goal, or feel the urge to spiral. Sean offers practical cues—eyes open or closed, breath linked to phrases, starting with an easy person—to make the ritual stick without forcing emotion. You’ll learn how wishing safety and ease disarms shame, how happiness loosens perfectionism, and how ease keeps problem-solving clear and creative.

We also step into the advanced edge: extending goodwill to the parts we resist—the inner critic and even people we dislike. This move isn’t about excusing harm; it’s about reducing inner conflict so you can set boundaries without carrying the weight of resentment. Listeners often report less rumination, faster repair after missteps, and a gentler, more courageous approach to growth. By the end, you’ll have a compact script you can use anytime to soften harsh self-talk and build resilience from the inside out.

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Transcript

Welcoming Day Seven

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Welcome back. We're now on day seven of dealing with the inner critic. I'm Sean Fargo. One of the most powerful and profound exercises we can do to tame our critic is to replace the negative, harsh critique of the critic with a sense of care, a sense of loving kindness, a sense of well wishing, that we feel a sense of ease, that we feel a sense of worthiness, that we feel a sense of competency, that we feel a sense of likability or acceptance. So the practice is actually quite simple. And if it becomes a habit, a simple habit that we do day by day, we'll literally rewire our brain and habituate the mind to have this as our default reaction the next time we make a mistake or maybe do something that's not that we intended. So the practice is quite simple. You can close your eyes or look downward or keep them open, whatever is most comfortable for you. But we're going to bring to mind a person or an animal that naturally makes our heart sing, that naturally opens our heart. Someone or a pet or an animal that we just naturally love so much. For me, sometimes it's been a squirrel, a cute little squirrel, or I've used the Dalai Lama, or girlfriend, or someone I really love.

Four Core Loving Kindness Phrases

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And the practice consists of four phrases. May they be safe. May they be healthy. May they be happy. May they live with ease.

Turning Warmth Toward Yourself

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Now if you thought of someone who just naturally made your heart sing, those well wishes were probably quite pleasant, very easy. And so from there it can be helpful to bring that sense of care and kindness to yourself May I be safe.

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May I be healthy. May I be happy? May I live with ease.

Habits That Soften Self-Judgment

Series Completion And Next Steps

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And from there call me crazy, but you can even wish loving kindness for your inner critic. Or someone you don't like. Or someone who you feel is an enemy in some way. Wishing them a sense of safety and ease. Just practicing this loving kindness practice over and over. It's okay if you don't always feel it. But just getting in the habit of wishing others and yourself safety, health, happiness, and ease will influence the way that you treat yourself. And over time start to dissolve the inner critic bit by bit and replace it with a sense of brightness and spaciousness and love. And guess what? Congratulations. You've completed the Dealing with the Inner Critic series. Thank you very much for your participation and for dealing with your inner critic because it's not easy. I know, it's very difficult. But thanks again, and we'd love for you to join us the same time tomorrow for one of our other meditation series. We look forward to seeing you then. Thank you.