Yo Mamma Let You Go

“She let herself go.”

Shut the fuck up.

She didn’t “go” anywhere — she just stopped performing for you.

That phrase isn’t descriptive, it’s control. It’s a warning to women: stay polished, stay desirable, or you’ve failed.

Meanwhile men can fall apart publicly and it’s just called “life.”

A woman changes — weight, energy, priorities — and suddenly it’s a character flaw.

No. She just stopped centering you.

“She let herself go” really means: she stopped being consumable.

And people can’t stand that.

Music By Nathan Wills

Transcript

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You're tuned in to BD BD. Bitch, don't be dumb. I'm your mama. No daddy's allowed. Beaties. Welcome, everybody. Pardon the background. First of all, beaties, new listeners, lovers, welcome to the bitch don't be dumb podcast. A podcast for biological women. Because we get fucked. Nothing's for us. This is our space. Let's get it in. Happy Wednesday, ladies. Apologies for the background noise. I need to get my shit together with my recordings. I need to like get a microphone happening and maybe stop recording in the streets. But you know, this is what we're doing right now. So thank y'all for sticking it out while I transition to my next recording place and bring back the microphone, etc. Episode 20, Beaties. How's your week? What are you guys doing? Are you working? Are you not working? Are you warming up? I am. I got a fucking tank top on right now, ladies. Fuck yes. Can I get an amen for all the other bitches that have been locked in winter and are finally like opening their windows, wearing something a little bit shorter, a little bit tighter. Summertime, ladies, kitties out, asses up. Radio, episode 20. What are we gonna talk about this week? What is this week's episode called? This week is called Let Your Mama Go. And when I say Let Your Mama Go, that's not referring to me, your mama. That's referring to the mothers of every single person who uses the term uh she let herself go. She let herself what? What the fuck's okay? You know what I'm talking about, ladies. Let yourself go. Let me tell you something. Coming from your mama, this is for the young and old beaties. This is for the middle-aged be this is for all of the beaties. Never ever let anyone say about you or anyone else. Oh, she let herself go. Life is extraordinarily long. And for some reason, everybody lives like they're gonna die tomorrow. And I understand the whole, like, oh, seize the day, live like it's the last day. Okay, that's fine. Live like it's the last day, but understand you've probably got a long fucking way to go. What that means is that you're gonna have times when you don't want to fucking do your roots. You're gonna have times when you don't want to fucking go to the gym. You're gonna be 10 pounds up, 10 pounds down, your teeth are gonna get yellow, and then you're gonna want to whiten them, or you're not gonna want to whiten them, and then they're gonna get yellow, and then you're gonna have to do it again. All these things are going to happen in your life to your physical shell that you are, you know, chilling out inside. Your soul is living inside your shell, and your shell will do wild shit as time goes on. Women are wine, and we just get more beautiful. That's the goddamn truth. Anyone that tries to say anything different can really fuck me off. And there's nothing that bothers me like people that will turn around and use the term towards me or any other woman. Oh, she she let herself go. What the fuck are you talking about? What does that even mean? Let myself go where? Let myself go to the toilet, let myself go outside, let myself fucking go dancing, like let myself go. I just really think that it is on some absolute bullshit for people to say that. You are not something that gets let go. Women do not let go of themselves, women embrace and love and raise ourselves up. Ladies, that's what we're doing. We're raising ourselves up. We're not letting go. Who the fuck says that? Who says that? You know who says that? Dirt bag dudes, loser guys who can't get blowjobs walk around feeling bad about themselves, and then they want to come for somebody else. So they find a woman and say, Oh, look at her, she let herself go. I'm gonna let my fist go right up your ass in two seconds if you say that again. I think it's very crazy for people to use that kind of wording about a human being, particularly a woman. Women run the world. Ask Beyonce. And you know what? We will continue to reign supreme. So, as far as all these people go that want to use this term, talking about we let ourselves go, feel free to let your hands slap all over the face, because that is really some fucking bullshit that needs to be put out, dude. And then people feel bad about it. Like, if you are not feeling sexy one day, that's fine, because you're a hot bitch. You are a hot bitch, and you will turn it around. As someone who has participated in the most unsexy thing you can ever do on in the world, have children, as someone who has gone through the most disgusting physiologically violating, although like I love my kids and they're wonderful, but having kids and and birth is disgusting. Don't listen to those bitches that are like it's beautiful. No, it's not. You're traumatized and you're just trying to make yourself feel better. Having babies is disgusting, and you will never look at your body the same again. And I don't care how much lipo you get or fucking how many ashless you get, whatever, you are not gonna feel hot immediately following that, is my point. Even if you haven't had kids, I'm sure that you also have your ugly moment. You fucking felt gross because you got your fucking period in public one day, or your fucking you had anal and it went nasty, or whatever the fuck. Is that an airplane? Jesus Christ, how low is it? Sorry for the noise, ladies, really. I have to get my shit together, but apparently there's like jet fighters above me right now. Anyways, you went to a fucking public toilet one time that was so disgusting, it like traumatized you, and then you had to eat for two weeks and you gained five pounds. Whatever the fuck made you feel gross does not mean you let yourself go. Feeling gross, going through a gross patch, is not the same as letting yourself go. I mean, let's flip it because people only say this about women. When have you ever heard someone look at some dude and be like, damn, you let yourself go? He really let himself go. I mean, I guess people might say that, but it's really fundamentally something that's directed at fucking women. And that's why your mama is here to put it out. And I'm here to encourage all the beaties to do the same. Your mama let you go. Do not let anyone ever make you feel out of step for going through your life. And really, like, realistically speaking, it doesn't have anything to do with age. People be saying this shit to teenagers. Oh, look at Sasha, she stopped playing soccer and her legs aren't fucking strong anymore. She let herself go. I mean, excuse me, PD's. I just really believe I cannot get over these fucking airplanes. I just really think that women have no rights, as I have said repeatedly. And in addition to having no rights, if we dare to live a natural existence, you know, Sarah Jessica Parker style, uh, I don't know what that other person's name is. Like, if you don't get Botox, it doesn't mean you let yourself go. If you let your hair go gray, it doesn't mean you let yourself go. If you stop exercising to the point where like you're blowing your knees for like the male gaze, it doesn't mean that you actually let yourself go. You are allowed to live for you. Say it with me, everybody. I'm really over the objectification of the female species. I'm so tired of the discriminatory nature against girls and the pressure against girls to look a certain way, stay a certain way, weigh a certain amount, walk a certain way, do this, do that. Oh, you let yourself go. Get fucked. I'm gonna let myself go the fuck off on you in two seconds, but don't worry about me. You do you. Who is anyone to motherfucking judge, ladies? And I, as somebody who is 47 fucking years strong, I've been through many phases in life. Sometimes I felt really hot and high up. Sometimes I felt really gross and low down, even though I know I'm hot, ladies. We're all hot. Remember you're hot. You are a hot bitch. And when you feel down, that's when you need to fucking pick yourself up or remind yourself you are a hot bitch. Girl, you're hot, you're getting it, you're doing it. You wouldn't be listening to this podcast if you were a hot bitch. Beady beatty. It's the bitch don't be dumb community. This is episode 20, and that's why we're focusing on something that's, you know, not as outlandish as I usually am, like we said on episode 10, which was things your mama doesn't worry about or things your mama doesn't do anymore. Every 10 episodes we'll take it to like an actual theme, opposed to uh women aren't men, or or don't peg people. It's a little bit more of a serious topic this week, women, because I think that this causes depression in my sisters. I have come across ladies, young and old, who have suffered because of this type of discrimination, and I'm over it, I'm off it. I'm really done with people thinking that they can just shot call about anyone else, and that's why I have to spread this message because for all of you listening, the next time someone says, Oh, she let herself go, slap them in the face or just walk away. Do something, tell them to get fucked, like you know, do something, but you don't have to just sit there and listen to it. And if someone says that about you, they have a fucking problem. I mean, anybody who says that has a serious problem. Like, you shouldn't really say nasty shit about anybody in general, like your words are your bond for real. So, trash talking, I mean, like drunk trash talking with your girls on a Friday, that's fine. Trash talking about your boyfriend, that's fine too. But what's not fine is to really come for people that are not living their best life at that moment. Just because somebody's not living the high life does not mean they let themselves go. Chances are they're trying to fucking pick themselves up, and that's why we need to stand up and unite against any motherfucker that uses that term. You let your mama go. Get the fuck out of here. Who are you to say that to anybody? And realistically speaking, nine out of ten times it is a man saying this. And for the bitches that say this, pull yourself together. Do not judge other women that are on the back foot. Do not make comments about people because of their seeming life. Like, and don't get me wrong, because let yourself go does not have to be thrown at someone in a physical context. People say that shit about oh, fucking Samantha decided not to be a lawyer anymore. She really let herself go. Oh, Wendy and her fucking husband got a divorce. That bitch let herself go. No. Those bitches are going through their lives, living their shit, and it's really none of your fucking business. So letting yourself go, letting her go, whatever the fuck, any context of that term, knock it off. It's fucking ridiculous. I find it offensive and insulting, and I don't think that anybody should stand for it anymore. And honestly, I think my experience with it was because after I had my children, yeah, dude, it took me a minute to fucking put myself back together. You kidding me? I had fucking 20 pounds up, 20 pounds down. I couldn't fucking do this. But I was not worried about anybody else or looking good for anybody else, or feel it's all about you, dude. You need to feel good for yourself, you need to have your own sense of expectation and maintenance, and that goes for your mental health and your physical health. And the world is wobbly and everybody goes through ups and downs. And when somebody else is experiencing you down, and you turn around and say, or some fucking dude turns around and says, I beg your pardon, or she let herself go, mate. Why don't you go let yourself fall down the stairs? Why don't you go away? How's that? I have lived long enough now and been through enough of my own personal cycles. Because when you're young, you don't really think about it. I mean, I'm still fucking young, but I mean we're all young ladies. We're spring chickens in this bitch. But what I'm saying is when you're a child, like teenage life, you don't have to think about any of these things because you're just trying to figure out what the fuck is going on. That's all you're trying to do. You you're definitely not letting yourself go. Anywhere for that matter, you're probably stuck inside because your parents don't want to do anything. But then you grow up and you go through life, and life is cyclic. Ups and downs, left and rights, lots of circles, fuck ton of circles, but definitely cyclic. And when you're going and walking your walk, and someone comes in and says, Hey Samantha, didn't see you at yoga last week. Let me guess, you let yourself go, just tell them to shut up. Tell them to fuck themselves. And don't let anyone ever make you feel bad by saying that to you. I've never actually had it said to me personally, because I feel that people fear me enough that they know if they really did, I would probably punch them. It's something that has bothered me. Hey, quiet. Fritz, cut it out, shut up. Sorry, I'm walking my dog as you're aware. Stop it. Um, no one's ever personally said that to me, but if they did, yeah, uh I would give them a serve because my mouse is pretty much uncensored and uncontrolled in podcast land and also, you know, in the streets. So I'm a little bit pressed for time this week, beadies. I'm not gonna lie. I have like shit going on in my life that you could not even fucking imagine. And again, I don't like to drag my personal shit onto the podcast, although being episode 20 now, episode 20, I'm um I'm pretty proud of myself. I'm proud of my accomplishment. I've pulled up every week, even when shit has been fucking crazy because my life has been out of control, even when I don't necessarily um understand how I'm going to feed my kids the following week, but I still pull up, I still pull up to the BDs, and for me, that kind of consistency as someone that has nothing consistent in my life has been very therapeutic. So thank you all for showing up and for being on this journey with me, the bitch don't be dumb journey, and so the fucking bitch don't be dumb message this week is you did not let yourself go, she did not let herself go. It is not physically possible for anyone to let themselves go. We are erasing that term from here forward. We're not saying that, you're just not. You don't know what someone's experiencing. Who the fuck is anyone to tell somebody else about what stage they're going through in their life at that moment? It's like insane. And I feel that it's something that in the Instagram era that we live in, in an age where every single teenage girl is depressed because she's worried that one day she's gonna grow up and someone's gonna tell her she let herself go. Like, let's let that go. We're letting the term go. We're turning the table, we're flipping the game, and what we're doing, the message of episode 20, the grown-up message of the week: nobody lets themselves go. Do not say that, do not take that. And for any dude that says that, put a hex on him, uh, make a voodoo doll, and put some pins in it. That is what I have to say, and I'm gonna have to wrap it because my life is crazy right now. It's so crazy. But I love that you guys are a part of it, and thank you for letting me be a part of yours. Please tell your friends about my crazy fucking podcast. Please say that uh, you know, straight biological women are taking over the fucking mic every Wednesday, every motherfucking Wednesday. Fucking shit. And yeah, hopefully I will see them or hear them or something. And happy Wednesday, baby.