【EP6】《被討厭的勇氣》：奪回人生的主動權

「會在意你長相的，只有你自己。」Hui 在書上看到這句話，愣愣地停了整整一分鐘。這集我們要聊的，是那本曾在比利上海 14 小時加班的生活裡、把她整個人接住的書——《被討厭的勇氣》。

阿德勒說，決定我們人生的不是過去，而是此刻我們給經驗的意義。比利從佛洛伊德的「家庭塑造命運」走進阿德勒的「目的論」，才發現自己當年留在那個工時裡，不是被環境困住，是為了主管的一句肯定。Hui 則在「會在意你長相的，只有你自己」這句話前停了整整一分鐘——原來這些年的容貌焦慮、體重數字、節食，都是替別人的眼光在活。

這集沒有要你變得惹人厭，而是邀你練習一件事：把自己的課題撿起來，把別人的課題還回去。被討厭的自由，從來不是任性，是自愛。

🎧 暉比尋常——兩個獅子座女生在 35 歲後「換條路走」的真實記錄。

Transcript

目的論：掙脫原因論的框架

SPEAKER_01 2:16

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SPEAKER_02 3:47

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SPEAKER_01 4:23

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SPEAKER_02 5:00

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SPEAKER_01 5:48

Queen Fench on the J to and the Huawoods Join Dow Shuri means

課題分離：職場與家庭的實踐

SPEAKER_01 5:52

on the sweet guanti and choose curtifend. Major and how you tats it the curti ni ing Dow show Naicia need the curti, Naicia bean the curti, Major and Yo see the curti woman beautiful gunsha bear and the ransom. Nitrider say niggun need the jar, who is sure, send the gonzo shall mean you see chance the chief niwan connection, mil banfa chuffen need your curtier, and she home me and go to chang the curti and I see nice inga beer.

SPEAKER_02 6:34

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SPEAKER_01 10:21

Moody Lunda eager hung her sine or two show your share and hack and twice that gongs of ping e then high choice you show the bang with the high shia with a deep. Yahoo chu tangsu, so city mil banfa chian, ego gungha gonzo, so egg tier co chigger teacher just add the moody lunch, how chigger and the moody, just a well, round city, tear show shen that the huon loan. So it ta tru yenlah to like round city, di that changed a huon la nimi and ta moody teach push a choicung ho the gon so.

SPEAKER_03 10:50

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SPEAKER_01 10:51

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SPEAKER_02 11:11

Okay, gunsing should even need she while show oh you and she said to the Jujuan she. How may only shanjong the nan, than yeah, me only shanjong done. You need shantua, me don't wear the tea. Court a seni champion who tried ni some two and business. Nibusu chin. Nania tears, pusu chren and shit now, but could he do a chicken beard?

SPEAKER_01 11:48

With uh wrong so junction shall meet to show e man to mian,

人際關係、自卑與容貌焦慮

SPEAKER_01 11:56

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SPEAKER_02 12:56

You're two needs in true it's the mouth. Then also show season hop or the sun eating hop ho cat in trial, but the bay I'll need the meal real cook. Then don't eat you how can double the shin or tingle quite even jumbo shelter, no so that you go tinn just sound to fancy. How to see the tier cool, and put everyone the go to go. See women do the jams, tier cool. You need co zontian in two hours in hash. Then you put in cool like you think John Tian Popol Noble. Then six hundred changes. You know, the chasia. You would come hot hand, can be and peach. Bien shot in the go. Ny boss is some mingle. Hiya pure taught cannot say huh, near the butter curty, fang shall I has the burong eat. So it's all the good channel to can't say huh. Now tons. Woman sugar tied to the ting. Woman choice how ho says shoe says it. Then mayo make sixing to ingay out shoe.

SPEAKER_01 15:56

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SPEAKER_02 15:57

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SPEAKER_01 16:17

So the agents mean the guanjong. She's a so how needs a shong ho. Should be some dough yao the way here and kind of cannot just kinda then she need to eat the shooter.

課題分離是自私還是自愛

SPEAKER_01 16:59

Then she said go tea on tea and a hobba city the curtian tia, but beyond the curtihuangs. How did you and sang so many tan shows our maintenance beer?

SPEAKER_02 17:23

Curtifandy push eat the way John Sing. What if entry and the other thing is that the body is a how poor housey foods. Down to me, good in the KPI, to Z meo is a mobile. Now Bush Yao Ningetian sort has to do it. Ya. Then she's Hammond's fish or John Single. Ya who shouldn't need John Rempen the Tawan showhood. Shall we mean in the curtain commit to the John Yao Guania and Curti Fanny? Gun do the Sangi. Now can do the battery and found out the Shun Sha. Gun John Yao the Shi Hatin Chu to Dow or Tizai Gosham Young the Yun Shin. What shall go or see Hunter?

SPEAKER_01 20:11

Nash and eat a curti. Hasha on need some that movia, national curti. Then I short is young in and that changing movia, just okay the law bear and the curti. Has you want some to sit in shit but the each?

SPEAKER_02 21:16

So mu thing sitting on trends on high to the woman key sang, which like the Ufa Sang away like Tan Tumba Jose Ufa Shangway, Hose Dang Shao, which is sitting up teasing out choose a dance, your co e

甘於平凡的勇氣

SPEAKER_02 21:40

wash out eat it woman, shall mean phone conduction. Now then should only mean can you pink fat. Now each do the booha. You may be the chanzi be wooha. Now chidao gonzo, you taught in Jen Yukan Siang. So it's a tiban shoe, down e jan, you order so janti, some transient, some my fang, some do. Then Tiban Chant who near milch, new miltian, new milk fong. Who is it? Woman how chang her on eyes like thing eat. Young shoots, thingy beer and bear only. Then she shots a thing tight. Uh guy near yes woman side to John Tinjun showed to John Woman Gaio T. She sing Utrecht.

SPEAKER_01 24:54

Oh, just young shall high com ping and dad Jo Hall. That's yo quite so niyo tension curti gain the shell high. So you would just think that some milk shall teach. So may go and see, you can't do it.

SPEAKER_02 26:33

Do her front shoe side and shang. Should go out. Do her can you so ping find your yin? Would you sound one so her push on the dark wall these things? You would rather would number no line pinchum stingy. So it will ingite the dolls. Then who can high tools? Oh the push her take on the buyout that's a johala. Now with more shall gun too strong.

SPEAKER_01 27:45

Male so easy woman's a mean triple bayful beer and a curti, uh show woman's pubati the curti, chang, gay beer, lamp beer and triple.