【EP16】在這個永遠不夠好的環境裡，我們學會了自卑

這集從布芮尼・布朗博士的《脆弱的力量》出發，重新理解「脆弱」：它不是軟弱，而是明知道可能犯錯、被批評，仍願意走進競技場，投入關係與生命。

書中也拆解自卑、匱乏感與完美主義。當我們把表現和價值綁在一起，工作沒做好就變成「我不好」，分數不到九十就變成「我不值得」。

自卑讓人用遠離、討好或反抗保護自己；完美主義則讓人燃燒自己，或因害怕不夠好而遲遲不敢開始。白天把行程塞滿，深夜裡，沒被看見的恐懼與疲憊仍可能讓人突然撐不下去。

真正的脆弱，不是毫無界線地揭開傷口，而是在安全與信任中，辨識自卑、拆解別人給的標準，練習說出感受。你可以做錯，也可以不完美，但不代表你沒有價值。

🎧 暉比尋常——兩個獅子座女生在 35 歲後「換條路走」的真實記錄。

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SPEAKER_01 0:00

What a tiger fan choice, that was a Joseph and the Joseph.

開場與《脆弱的力量》

SPEAKER_01 2:08

So it's eight dinner, you go and simple go ha was simple to the bay.

SPEAKER_02 4:02

So it's a water ting, it is the deep.

自卑與內疚：我做錯了，還是我不好

SPEAKER_02 14:07

What was lamin, or push bait how yet now push the tongs and always in the gon's ho, or sang yao taho soyota waterhouse, tongsi waterhow, but so he was a motor. Or you have alliance. Or you guys do I just central the father to hope. Then city ta whole tone fast in the t niho the uni puna soon. Ni eat to eat one the young. Then how man facing the business need the shall. Neg a sugar gang beats do her nan show. Now this anti don't just fan cow, or drew the juicy young gong zi like the show or jo show her cheese.

匱乏感與完美主義的陷阱

SPEAKER_01 18:30

So it was a gong to meet a hop, cousin make her a senior book or manito you don't hold you as well.

SPEAKER_02 22:32

Then tis in its own easier to dark. Not dread the test got the shallow shall put the beyond tree to number mubile.

SPEAKER_01 23:30

So, six years old, it's a very good thing.

性別規訓與親密關係中的脆弱

SPEAKER_01 26:36

So hu the mean ping jia eager how the new shing. Niaozuko Piao Lia Tanzani Punan Taigu Kab. Niao Fean Cheng Kong. Tens in Ipun Tai Yo Gong Ziun Yang Tai Chiang Sil Nia Tango Mama. Tens in Ibunan Sichuzu, Niao Yo Tzu, Tensipunan Bieran Ju de Nichuan Zi nipuan Jating, Tao zu ho ne chosu uluko. So down Ali to we and kao su ni sho ni yu tia. So put the si so ne sing Yalio to da asijong sin ling sang the su Tan duon te hai meo chinwe tshen Jan kao su t yapun so na yapunansu Wunan Tai Pang Punan hai lunan hai cho punan chian shipunan zis Punan pu san mama yapunan yo yu wango yi sing. Say chan jig a chho di data soi ping jawa, banu shen qua the wang tellin'i or two pai shit and chanu shen ships cho wander yeshinus.

SPEAKER_02 27:54

Now posit zanny jan the mua tender yaocho tensi. Now since the panchayo eaker your iangan pa hei. Now say yo yen bay hai ti you bali. So in the micean ying la wo the sing the n type. Yo bay tea. Now dou shen fan shan the joan yi jung woman, the catch and me hun duo penyoto catch down mama so canal you would happen. That's what can doubt that me and do a po see one tea. What's me and do ma gate. Now you so hold the tea you see jo chan jo on the yarli. T be woman sensi nutrient so hway. Punzo nutrient so woman sensi nutrient the jesia east doubt so ne sing guy out your gong so now you see a she yeah. Oh jo chau tongue, you ain't been ego shampan doual pay, fancing the di and she and she who ego the shen go or sure was she mayo that sea di.

SPEAKER_01 29:27

Should the ni cai should tangma yo can de fan. Just so tang to hold fashion her door and gave the bush pingtia. Should you sure ni may away more, ni shall high hope de can rebo, ni some pani suit the pay shall high siam book go to ni subs away on tier shall high. Nisubs high tie so ni the conso yali, na hou thousand new but to yali chan dog shall high ni shall shall high can't eye penny side fan rent holo. J Mama Hungai on what's a matso put to what's a matso book ha. Two whi made a bar, so we the chillon qua two new shing the changia panting tha hold round new shing judder what channel putai sing.

SPEAKER_02 30:09

Do the bajo he homie enjoy hen shall sing. Judder inga yao tzuta ubu be ma ubuebe ta ja tensiti jollo wang se the tio beer and tea the young po tizia go t man tongue.

SPEAKER_01 30:28

Mm do the bali hwa zai b mi and babyer and pin zia, chu yokan tui doum tigga chang ho ta dido nimi me can beer and catia do ema Yama would say put out sea the line yan hui down egger, t bay the shall chan chan lit mean. Nanja one sing womia light down nan sing a bo fan nan si no egoen. Tig a lion ye feh on the chang li cho si ni beo ba down chan lo juin gao hen chian. Uju dou so woman sayong shia la jo rimon ka jan fangsi da lo ya chu she tun a pussy ni kei ku ni kei jani tsi a gansho, ni kei shoe so sangl nanshan mayo, nansen puna tu, nan shuiro y mao chu ko.

SPEAKER_02 31:15

Hakan too who si puton fashi thu tizi canal nan sing the to be jangsu boonan download the and she tai jango egal and lee, or jo than ye henju Hangsu nan si wish a ma tian she my chun j you nan dread poesn't you think the or subsess shen type book go. So, you walk on buyao. No one nanu sai me and do a me and twenty bay one transpoo yang the shanfa what is pushang bay job down like a roots.

SPEAKER_01 32:04

Home shice the hando shon you have nut si wan nanshen she changai sim fei, chicken hat loozi the two ruler. Then sheoshin nanshen changhai sim fe show can you the any sick nan ningo can some mouth and can no nan shing who toi rules ho, chong shing her to the shanghai. Yang ho tacho tia.

SPEAKER_02 32:33

What just uh good nan shoo bo hai dou sint the yin shit singla. Uh tolerant nutrient. Then would you tolerate the go to her tongs diar show, new sind the nin shigan nan sing the n should yali. Who shall we to ye were shall me or hot or far si and double the cur hoo, Han Si Huangang. Sang the gold sep jow found beat. Now la can like how the chong high. Now you should come in the song bia near and hung the chi wan chanbu yang the turchi. Yes, nanwoti, I then ham a chi wang so need the duoti, go hong shit sh in the fangxi yang quite henj now.

SPEAKER_01 33:59

Just so tin pangong shall no to the pancho chin shall job jung jung tang jams. Justin Haman Jung show nan ching shells and yonder new shingles and yonder. Neither show down thing chin root out eager. More because she also needs to in gas young Hanan. So you shouldn't sit in Hua eager Shin and the Chang U. Yeshua is a chiangan go zali mean chung the tan lu tzu. So the sh the shall jan true. Ya putusha woke, say ufen chang her, the jung quang si, u to and the go so bean so will do tan. Well domerong yi so sang. Ujo sianghu the quan si we di chu. Sho is ye sho sian sho is yesin j branchang go tofen sha.

SPEAKER_02 35:42

Uje would then cow some young the run now cangsu some khanas means do. Now batsy fan trend the huan zinc, which is a tesh and jung yelled. O position batsu down changed on bia yan la Sansian shooty, shan't make a shoo ku la bat chong to get be but lung white ball, not easy pin be or changed the nacing the toil, nitsi batal and do che have to be in white jong tin shi los na ha jong to me or being zis away shanhui called out the timi guan si. Should the chen kei lang decide the tiny guan si k lang decide the guansi.

SPEAKER_01 36:24

Now tang y bau ha n and go changu to its brand brown bo sh te toller tea girl tat you the tapu hui chu fenchang the go shoe fenchang dajia de should hatch with the simi the go sho, hapu fen shang. Who the shajin the chan shan yen taha male fui and high boy fen sha. Lugo showed the sira and the mo di chan nika and the ting shoon high boy chu fen sha'sha dunny fen chang the shooting ni shi wang toifang yo sum fan in the ho, chijun tai boi ch to fensa. Has fan thing chu sh or shaigas miangung kai the whole the shore tell shall the ego tank. Que dao gangtai hua li chanda short timi guan si me shi you'an it's a tens line you mean jan dou woman chang i beer and the chan two so do chosen I t the chen two yeah. So the thous di chun sh the yi t hua day ziang Timiguan si a ho yesho ni show eye t ni shoe timi guansi menti i beer and jugoshu dun it's no bat yanatsi the shaho. Sisni her n sho tiena beerin. You may so I made uh junda can boin sea beer and shen the boy me, raho niashiborong ha, near to di tha. Jugo shuan si chien should eye beer, a presentia eye sea the hua. Hong eat you not to hold nichu roots the function to show beer. See you so b su antiguan chicken beer and show only numb kung eye wound sea cash jo on numbung shenkung eye city on shenpuyao folding city. Dang you tia ni j puts the patient. May it shing dog and paint yet do channi wiger and hati jongli kai ni lo shang hai nitity, tie a shang hai nimi matuang guansi. So lia han show de fan sha tong woman, shola e city, shole tai don't guan city me and tanglu to try shoi pa, we say one shio ni, or she out sheung puyao fang shi like guan si.

SPEAKER_02 38:34

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克服自卑：覺察、拆解與重新連結

SPEAKER_02 38:35

the wan su now smob woe or dressy go how now the ma kai shonsio tea silica fang siang would you man sion the de go sian tribe dear go si pans in the dressy this tango tear sho white tolerant bay. Now cho sian tri tiny bishu ya ching shoo to down in sea t bay down jong. Hushua ni sin I shen see in the fun no need to de tender ching shoo need the bay to in seed. Nipish out dress hot. Not dear go shoot, uh peep and the dressing. Ding has a sure ya da one zip and say wood, or eating out food her ma belchants be and think gain either. Then look what hot is pushy out too. Woman pushy out eating out for her being gained beautiful. So it is ni in guy, too. Then trinza lien co doubt to the so tree, to and should chong sin each. Then so was I the country, tonshi a heki wood nitsai, can do the ladya. Nin the outsi and shai the tan tru, ni shanti the foo and le s ni a tin chu ni and do it young ts bay. When pimpsi ya isolant bay shells ye tapu curan shells. How to see the shell shin or hui pot chulai. Doesn't in go to cha nungha go tone, in uncle and tang the me and do it, since it can be and shoo needed the bay. What you do hung your nannian to me and do it young the bay. Now you fascin hard the transit conto.

SPEAKER_01 40:51

Thailand's a basic wasn't the herbia she's all nib that suan. What's the thing uh what's in so tall? That's a one new tea who should line. Then the Tony Ching Bani Chong Sing La Huay and Chin Mia Chong Sing Gan Show Dow Bieran Gain Day. So, Tinia Modons Bailey Myan Bufa Uju K Sha Linsi, I Jan Chi, how she has sent you ha. Did you see what central zi book de found system? Did you build like the shake water? Disangashi, Lugo Yong, Wipo the Huaying, like Huayin City, Witamusho. Tiger and Sibusia. As you show, Shenba, Hong, Z bay the changhai, ton, wo book the chang hai, la hoy out show, oh can dollar with a gun show, would change that chingli jan to the yu gan show. Lugo ni nan, fashion sea the juan show, ni cho di koyoshian solo. Hm Tianjina,

結語：不完美也值得被愛

SPEAKER_01 42:01

woman's hong, tero lia lime, shen laula twenty tiny tiguan yan, bohan two robe, quifaga, high woman, drew her dicing be guansi line, five and show woman sum a bay shinien, boos it in to the thoal e truhat on the wish, so, me the butcher thing limien, gen the chan sh her lian z ye. Er tibet hat to computa di found she harang woman shan sing will book go put you the bay, then she woman changed and she alliancy the she ba tugoha gun what chigger and put you the ba chiven kaila, nikai to shooting near kutan so near can hill shall show chan the sing way, then put it jigger and male judge.

SPEAKER_02 42:41

Uh two of the lead on shoes and a hung won know, and when you're the encantment shoe, y can tell the taza tats on the yen zia. Uh do thin zaifu, do that he's in the woo. Won Bub Shi out, being the young gap, who push a young bought to jun si, and hot he singe woman to go ni children who Ion memor be kai to dian shin to hoyo fong sio function now run her need jung to hoy of fun si, then she inway yo fun sian, so yin taiway to be the change. So my tea that you should allow to leave young now then send you the thing lo Shenhua Shen Chang Tan Tao, deagosai to Chang Chong, Wisham Sho Gwan Li, her young tension cholika, the girl should I ting the guan si jong, which a hide the shia the pushu wan made the fumu, or showan thing the quesu ga. Dow woman chang wei ling dough, fumo, chang, who the tri in shant talent woman ya lu her puts a yong sho ruan sitaran.

SPEAKER_01 43:45

So ho has a chang high bo, ni pusha champion wame, say hate the sun join su ibien yung, ibian high pa ibian chan dinzi the tinti changia. Should zan hula, shen changarang ju, then be wanla, ni ra you ran happy and the whibi chan chan di wash be shen changed, on sati yen bye bye bye bye.