Tipping the Scale - which way are you leaning?

This episode looks at how we measure things. We tend to look for the most dramatic event because it is noticeable. We have a habit of measuring the gap; the distance to the destination instead of how far we've come.  But the scale has already started moving by all the accumulation of moments gone before. We simply don't tend to notice because they seem small and insignificant. We focus on what's still missing, not right, not fixed whilst unable to see the progress we have already been making. These are the very moments that determine the direction of anything. 

So perhaps the question is not "Is it fixed yet?" but rather; 

"Which way are you leaning?" 

The direction of anything will reveal more than you think.

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Transcript

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Hi, I'm AMD and welcome to Shift a Field, the method I created to help you out of the patterns keeping you stuck. Each week we look at a short insight from inside the program. This week we are talking about tipping the scale. I've been thinking a lot recently about how people measure progress, and I think most of us are measuring the wrong thing. We tend to look for the moment everything changes, the breakthrough, the turning point, the day we're finally fixed, or the day the pain disappears, when we trust ourselves again, or when everything suddenly feels different. But I don't think that's how most change happens. Relationships really end because of one argument. Yet that's usually the argument people remember, not because it caused the end, because it revealed where things have been heading for a long time. The last straw rarely creates the change, it reveals it. And I think progress works much the same way. A few days ago I was speaking to a client, and his carer asked him how he was getting on. Aye, he said, it's not working. A strange answer given that he was standing there putting on his own trousers for the first time in months. Now he wasn't wrong. There were still things he couldn't do. There were still frustrations, limitations, but something interesting had happened. He was measuring himself against where he wanted to be, not against where he'd been. And I see this all the time. Someone walks further, sleeps better, someone stops planning their life around a problem, and someone starts doing things they haven't done in months or years, yet the conclusion remains the same. It's still not right. The more I think about it, the more I wonder if we spend too much time asking, is it fixed yet? Because that's a very difficult question to answer. A better question might be, which way am I leaning? Because most meaningful change isn't a switch, it's an accumulation where the scale begins to move a little bit more, a little more trust, a little less fear, a little more freedom, a little less preparation, and a little more evidence that things are changing. That then eventually tips the scale. And people call it a breakthrough, not because that's when the change happened, because that's when they finally noticed it. So if you're in the middle of changing something right now, perhaps don't ask whether it's fixed. Ask which way you're leaning, because the direction will tell you everything. And the answer might tell you far more than you think. If this resonated with you or it sounded interesting, please find more at amdtherapy.com. See you next week.