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005: Deliz & Myra: What Is You? Think about it...

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We start with a quick reset breath and a simple challenge that sounds easy until you try to answer it honestly: “What is you?” From our San Diego yoga practice and journaling habit, we (Luther, Deliz, and Myra) lay out three very different ways of moving through the world: the analytical listener who stays steady in chaos, the friend who becomes “the light at the end of the dark tunnel,” and the kind of energy that pushes people toward growth when they’re ready to change.

That identity talk turns into something you can actually use on a Monday morning. We explore the idea of “single action, multiple return” a personal rule that creates a chain reaction of positive outcomes. The examples get real fast: stress snacking at work, cravings for chips and sweet bread, the chaos of rolling out of bed at the last second, and why waking up even one hour earlier can change your whole day. We also get into reducing screen time beyond just your phone, including the constant screens at work, in the car, and on the couch.

Then we go one layer deeper: what if our biggest modern “toxic exposure” is overstimulation from electronics and social media? We talk about attention spans, headaches, algorithms, and why social media can feel both connecting and draining.

Subscribe, share this with a friend in San Diego (or anywhere), and leave a review with your one rule that would change everything.

Welcome And Reset Breath

SPEAKER_01

Hey, girls, this is uh episode five of uh your daily dose. It is a self-help podcast located in San Diego, California. My name is Luther Falmer. I am your host, and I'm here with Deliz and Myra. Say what's up, girls.

SPEAKER_03

Hello. Hi.

SPEAKER_01

Hey, and yeah, this is episode five. So please, if you are walking, running, laying down at work, let's adjust that posture. Let's take a nice inhale to reset, hold at the top, and open mouth exhale to accept. Wonderful. Put some energy in that spine and let's begin. Awesome. Hey, so what is the last time we met? We um so in our a part of our yoga practice, I guess if you recall it yoga practice, a part of us doing yoga together Monday and Wednesdays, we try to journal and reflect at the end of each session. So last week, what day was it?

SPEAKER_03

Wednesday, June 17th.

SPEAKER_01

Why did I skip a page? I skipped a page. How'd that happen? So June 17th, the question of the day was what?

SPEAKER_03

What is you?

SPEAKER_01

Oh, do we want to share this? Did we share? Oh, we didn't have time to share.

SPEAKER_03

I had time to share. No, I think I passed.

SPEAKER_01

Cool. Cool. So, Myra, you got time to share today? The question today was, What is you?

SPEAKER_02

So I had a hard time thinking about this. And I think and I came up with the word later because I didn't like the word I used to describe it, uh

Journal Prompt What Is You

SPEAKER_02

to describe myself earlier, and that was the word analytical. So I feel like I try to look at facts objectively without like I like I'm an empathetic individual and I, you know, I empathize with people, but I try to look at things like neutrally, right? Like if somebody comes to me for advice, I try to look at both sides and kind of consider both feelings and then objectively give advice based on that. So I feel like I'm that's more of the thinker in me. Like I take emotions into consideration, but it's not my final decision, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01

No, totally. I feel that we definitely have some parallels there. I feel like I'm I'm definitely logical. And you know, have you ever felt like, damn, why don't I feel like you right now, or like the proverbial you, like when someone's like pouring it out, and I'm like, yo, I want to feel you. Trust me, I'm there for you. I just don't do this like you do this. You ever felt that way? Yes, all the time. It gets crazy, right? And you get these looks like, are you? I'm like, yes, I'm listening. Yes, I care. I promise. I just don't. It doesn't. Yeah, I feel you. And I I actually I'm struggling to even talk about it because I I feel yeah. I'm gonna say, Well, I don't know. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02

I know, and sometimes I like think about it. I'm like, am I a cool person? Do I lack empathy? But I'm like, no, I understand your emotions, it's just that that's not how I view like that's not my first instinct, right? When it comes to like addressing a situation. Dadlies has known me probably like half of my life now, right? Daddy's yeah, for sure. And Dadlies is the most the more emotional one between both of us. Oh, absolutely, a hundred percent. And I acknowledge her emotions, but she knows I'm not going to necessarily cry. Oh, yeah, absolutely. When she starts crying, because I don't know, it's just like I I I'm too much of a thinker, I guess.

SPEAKER_03

And I think it's more it's different because it's um a I feel like it's either you're a logical person when you think about things, or you're an emotional person when you think about things like the first thing that comes up, how am I feeling, or how am I making another person feel, as opposed to logistically, let's think about this. Like, oh how I feel like I don't know, it's different, but to each their own, I feel like we all process emotions and situations differently, and it's okay. Yeah, nothing wrong with that.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, and I think the older I get, I used to wonder when people would open up or be emotional. I had like two phases to this. I was like, I would just be like, yo, get away from me with this. Like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. There's other people in the room that you need to be doing this with, not me. Or I would just feel like so um, and that's not being uncomfortable. I would just shut it down, like, nope, I don't feel this, so I don't want it near me. So I would like shut it down, and then the second thing is just being uncomfortable. I was like, oh my god, they're hugging me. Um they're touching me, what and they're saying all these things. I'm like, what do I do? What do I do? What do I do? I'm like, okay, okay, fly on the wall, just you know, listen, be open, and everything. But the older I get, the better I've got at um, you know, listening and just being like, okay, maybe someone doesn't like want a response. They just want, they they they trust that you can handle what they're about to tell you, Myra. And uh that's all they kind of want you there for. They're like they're not using you, but they just feel like, hey, you are so strong, and you can take um this emotional bearing that I'm holding inside of me because it's so heavy for me. So I like have to let it out to someone. And probably that's because I know we've talked like privately, and like you've shared during class, like this person opened up, like, oh, like this is probably why it's happening.

SPEAKER_02

That's true, because people just want somebody to listen and we provide that avenue for people, right? Yeah, because you you're right. I do have a lot of people like just come pouring out their emotions to me, and it's like I'm just listening, right? Like, that's all I can do, just because I I will not react right the same way. It's just I'll listen to you and I'll acknowledge your feelings, right?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah. All

Logic Versus Emotion When Listening

SPEAKER_01

right, let's uh let's go to Deliz. But there's a second part of this question, but let's go to Deliz with this one. So the question today was, what is you? And a context of this was like, um, this question was asked in of like uh I think I I asked in the context of like if you get up from the table, right? Like what would like your closest friend or your dearest friend say about you? Right? I think that's what the context is how did they describe you and all that?

SPEAKER_03

I went totally emotional on this. I said I feel like sometimes I'm the light at the end of the dark tunnel. Okay. I feel like that's the best way to put it.

SPEAKER_01

Interesting. So are you are you just a light or are you a part of the dark tunnel?

SPEAKER_03

I both. I feel like sometimes you need that little beacon, but to get there you have to go through the dark tunnel. That's what I put.

SPEAKER_01

Interesting. I think before we dive into this, let's go to the second part of the question, and because I think it'll be a little bit better about that. So the second part is questions of why do you believe that about yourself? And let's start there with you.

SPEAKER_03

With me, yeah. I said I sometimes see what other people can't see in themselves. Okay, so I absorb that energy.

SPEAKER_01

All right, now I see what you're saying, uh, being the light at the end of the tunnel. And do you feel like that's like for all friendships, relationships?

SPEAKER_03

For the most part, yeah. I feel like family, friends getting a little emotional here.

SPEAKER_01

Why do you uh get emotional when you talk about this?

SPEAKER_03

Because I feel like sometimes I forget to see this in myself. So it's like I know I can do it for other people, and sometimes it's just harder to do that for myself. And just having that balance for myself so that I can be there for the other people that I care about.

SPEAKER_01

You know, I think when uh certain people are light in other people's lives, they just shine and shine and shine, and uh no one recognized it until the light's off, right?

SPEAKER_03

Oh, yeah. That's the thing, it's a good way to put it.

SPEAKER_01

Um, but like you're you're illuminating everyone else um live and showing them what they need to see, but you don't have any light for yourself. I think a lot of people fall into that. Um that thing of you know, uh, I did a so I had my yoga restorative yoga final today, and you have to have like in the intro of it, you have to set an intention for the practice and then have like an overall message. And my message was just to surrender. Um, I think in this world, I say this all the time, it's it's hard, hard life that we live here, and life should be hard. It's fun when it's hard because we see it all the time, these rich people committing suicide. Um, I and I've met some wealthy people, and they're like, dude, I'm just so numb. Like there's just nothing. So there should be some struggle, some trial, tribulation, something just to spice up life. But you shouldn't let that stuff weigh you down. You gotta surrender it and let it fall off of you and let gravity do what gravity does. That shit's heavy. You're supposed to be light. Let it fall, you rise, and take care of yourself. So that was like a big thing uh during my practice today for a restorative class was just surrendering all that. It's really hard to do, but super powerful to be the light uh for someone else. I think the most um powerful thing on this planet is uh to live for something that's not yourself, you know? I people that like that have nothing to live for except for themselves. What and being a veteran, I see this a lot because so many people detach themselves from their family. And I've uh talked to a lot of veterans. When they're when they're when they go to go in service, they move to a state or a different country, and they're away from their family, and then there's a detachment, or they wasn't close, or they join their um the military to be away from their family, or whatever it is, to get away from a situation, and they get used to being alone or PCSing, jumping from spot to spot to spot, so they don't have a flag, you know, they don't have any roots, they don't have they don't develop any um any um like a true home. A true home. So you live this world only caring for yourself because that's that mind state, and I see a vicious cycle in with a community that I'm I'm close to a veteran community, where I'm like, hey, you need to be around someone that will call and just check on you. That does a lot different. Like if you're in a community and they're like, hey, I haven't seen, you know, um John just use the the placeholder John Doe in a week, and if they call you, that's awesome. Like that's really awesome, and a lot of people don't have that, and just to attach yourself or to live on this world, not for yourself, but for something else. It's really cool. It's really cool. It doesn't mean you gotta have kids. I don't think anyone in this on this podcast wants to have kids. So yeah, yeah. What was your what was your part two, Myra?

SPEAKER_02

About why I think people view me this way.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, like why do you believe that about yourself?

SPEAKER_02

I think I mentioned earlier it's just I feel like when people come to me with all these emotions or just seeking kind of like my view objectively, I feel like that's when I realize like that's how people view me. Um, and just when I'm feeling like I'm facing a stressful situation, whether at work or personally, I feel like I try to look

Being The Light For Others

SPEAKER_02

at the facts and then say I have a problem at hand. What I try to do is say I'm gonna take this step by step, you know. Like, I don't know, my mind automatically starts calming down and I start like looking at the situation, just analyzing my next steps. So I think that's why I I thought of that first.

SPEAKER_01

I'm really curious. Um, because you know how do I say it? Because what you just said there, you you have a belief and you've like fortified this belief because when you are approached with a problem or a situation, you can logically look at the variables and be like, okay, this, this, and this, make let's make the equation and we're gonna figure out the equal sign, right? But this is life, and I know you ran into like emotion and trust and things that actually you cannot have it. There's no measurable amount of trust, truly. Either you do it or you don't, right? I trust you a little. What the hell does that mean? That's non-existent, or I like you, I like I like them okay. Like, what does that you run into these variables that you actually can't measure, but you can just say things, so you have to have that emotional side help you figure out those problems. So, how like that that has to, you know, what you're 31. So you've definitely ran into problems where you're like, fuck. So how do you ever explore that emotional side of yourself to figure it out?

SPEAKER_02

I think I struggle with that. Yeah, I I and I feel like a lot of people are just automatically thinkers. Like, I'm really good at like figuring out emotions for others, but then for myself, I have a hard time being emotional and looking into myself and seeing and acknowledging my feelings. So I definitely do struggle with that. And that is like sometimes when I go to friends, that's what I'm struggling with, like my own emotions. But I admit I tend to be a little close off when it comes to my emotions and just acknowledging what I'm feeling sometimes.

SPEAKER_01

Like Bancy, I think the world is honestly a web and we're all connected. I did this restorative theme, and literally my whole thing was surrender and take care of yourself. And you two both were talking about how you can do so much for everyone else. But when it comes to that time to be kind to yourself, show like light up your world, it's super hard. Man, I struggle with that shit too, but um, I don't know. I think I I think I'm I think I've been on the other side of being so destructive to myself in ways where uh I like I've been in pain and just being like, I'm just supposed to feel this way. Not even considering the the other side of just being like, hey, I put myself in this situation, I can be kind to myself and get myself out of this situation. I think I just got a lot of reps of being pretty uh and not to any intents, but pretty shitty to myself, where now I'm being really good at being okay and balanced and good to myself. But I fall in a different thing. I feel like if I uh I help others, it's being good to myself. Uh so it's uh it's a little little um a little, I think easier for me. For the question today for me, uh what is you? I said that I'm energy. I believe I'm energy. I'm uh I'm meant to be attracted by people that want their energy amplified. Um I feel that I think, and I used to I used to feel like it was weird, maybe, maybe it was weird, but um I've always been anytime I see someone, I want to hear improvement. Not obsessed with results. I just want people to understand that today, tomorrow, today, tomorrow. What does that mean? Today, tomorrow. Tomorrow's in the future. You gotta keep moving. And I've just seen people just being stuck in this fucking past so much, and it's been two years. I'm like, hey man, what's up? And they're like, Yeah, I'm still living in the same spot, still at the same job, still doing the same thing, complaining about the same problems. I'm like, man, that is just brutal. And that upsets me. That upsets me. Where I always like to check in, and when you're ready to amplify yourself, you're ready to go, I'm gonna be the fuel to that fire. I'm gonna be like, dude, let's go, let's do this, let's do it in a smart, sound, educated way. Let's take care of ourselves. But yeah, I just believe I'm energy, honestly. And like, why do I believe that? Um, what did I say? I'm having a hard time reading my own handwriting. Jinx. Right.

SPEAKER_03

Double jinx. I don't really know. Let's see.

SPEAKER_01

So it's something the fact that I want to be, I don't even know. I don't even know. Oh, I you know, I said I want to be what I want to attract, basically.

SPEAKER_03

Okay.

SPEAKER_01

That's that's basically what it is. The reason why I believe that is it's a I I say this. It's an it's an everyday struggle, but I want to be what either I am or what I want to become. And I want to just attract those people in my life.

SPEAKER_03

I like that. Yeah, I can see that.

SPEAKER_01

And this was a Wednesday post. And guys, um, if you're listening to this podcast, let's check in with a nice reset breath on our next command. Take a nice inhale all the way in, hold at the top, and exhale. Adjust

Surrender And Finding Purpose

SPEAKER_01

that posture, put some more energy into that spine, and we'll continue the podcast. So every Wednesday I asked this one question. What's that one thing you're gonna do on a Wednesday? I mean, I mean on the weekend, because we stop our practice on a Wednesday. So, what was that one thing you're supposed to get done on the weekend?

SPEAKER_02

I actually I was really happy about this one. I put no plants this weekend, do laundry, and join peas, and eat pokey on Friday. And guess what?

SPEAKER_01

Check check it all through that. Whoa. What pokey spot too? Yeah, that's yeah, what pokey spot I DoorDash.

SPEAKER_02

But I I but listen, you guys should have seen the shame in our face. Listen, it was my cat and I just doing laundry on Friday, and it was beautiful, it was really nice, actually.

SPEAKER_01

It was beautiful. If the cat wasn't there, would it be beautiful? It was just laundry, Myra.

SPEAKER_03

Hey, laundry can be meditative, right?

SPEAKER_01

It can. You're you're right. You're right, you're right. Beautiful. That's that's fucking hilarious. Uh but what Pokespot?

SPEAKER_02

Actually, I'm trying Pokey Chop, I think, is the one that Poke Chop.

SPEAKER_01

Is that it's a PB, I believe.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, I'm like, it's actually pretty good.

SPEAKER_01

I'm glad that you brought up pokey. Um, I was listening to some podcast about pokey, some one of my MMA podcasts, and someone brought up that the number one poke spot in the world, you know where it's located?

SPEAKER_03

San Diego? No, New York, no, Hawaii.

SPEAKER_01

Close, close. Hawaii, but close to San Diego. You're not gonna believe this.

SPEAKER_02

Tijuana.

unknown

No.

SPEAKER_01

Big Bear, California.

SPEAKER_03

What? Really?

SPEAKER_01

Yes.

SPEAKER_03

How?

SPEAKER_01

I don't know. It's like oh, I don't even know. Like, look up your phone right now. Like, look up greatest pokey shop in the world.

SPEAKER_02

I'm like, Big Bear.

SPEAKER_01

It's literally Big Bear California.

SPEAKER_02

Poke shop.

SPEAKER_01

But what's funny is um, like, so about three weeks ago, we're talking about poke. Obviously, I'm not talking about this shit. James and uh some other people in the yoga class is talking about it, and they're talking about this big bear spot in I mean this pokey spot in Big Bear and how great it is. And then I think on the air, it's one of my big podcasts I listen to. They're talking about this damn poke poke shop in Big Bear, California.

SPEAKER_02

It's called Tropicali.

SPEAKER_01

That's it. That is it.

SPEAKER_02

But okay, I've been burned before by people's rankings or like Yelp reviews because like when I went to Vegas, I had all these high expectations.

SPEAKER_01

Where'd you go in Vegas?

SPEAKER_02

I don't even remember, but it wasn't great.

SPEAKER_01

I think it's crazy.

SPEAKER_02

I use Yelp, which I guess was my mistake. And I went to the ones that were like decently rated, and I was so disappointed.

SPEAKER_01

My you have the Liz number, she knows where to go into Vegas.

SPEAKER_02

I know she said just to some places, but they were a little a little far from us where we were staying.

SPEAKER_03

But I also think Vegas is a place where a lot of people travel to, so you can't really trust reviews, right? Exactly. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01

But what what is so we we mean the first review on Google for Tropicana?

SPEAKER_02

Tropicali.

SPEAKER_01

Sorry, they're not paying us. I could say it wrong any day. What's the first review?

SPEAKER_02

We're not bad.

SPEAKER_01

All right here's the first review.

SPEAKER_02

What if an Fantastic place. Great food, drinks, service, and atmosphere. The tiki tikor is outstanding with tiki mugs and t-shirts for sale. We went when they were when they first opened, so there was no weight at all.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, it is a tiki bar, yeah.

SPEAKER_02

The chiriaki chicken and waffles were delicious. The tiki drinks aren't as strong as at most tiki bars, but they were just as delicious. You can eat inside or out. The deck has a wonderful lake view. Highly recommend it. We will definitely be back.

SPEAKER_01

First off, give me some snaps for that reading. Good job. Snap, snap, snaps. Second, you're basically saying fuck that review. I don't believe you.

SPEAKER_02

I have to try it, is what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_01

But isn't it funny it's in Big Bear? Isn't that crazy?

SPEAKER_03

That's crazy. I was like, let me look at these photos on Instagram. I was expecting why. Oh photos of the menu. I don't want that.

SPEAKER_01

Tell them tell them to Instagram since it's audio only, you got you gotta tell them to Instagram if they're gonna look it up. What's Instagram to the spot?

SPEAKER_03

Hold on.

SPEAKER_01

You know, we have a to whoever is listening to in is Belgium and Germany. I'm I'm blanking.

SPEAKER_02

No, they're a separate country.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah? My bad. My bad. What's what's the cap no out of state? No, no, it is Belgium. Who's ever listening in Belgium? We appreciate your support. I don't know how you found the podcast so soon, but we appreciate your support.

SPEAKER_02

It's I think you're confusing Berlin with Belgium because Berlin is the capital of uh Germany.

SPEAKER_01

Okay. But it is Belgium. It is Belgium. I'm down to try to spot since they have um waffle fries and teriyaki chicken, but I'm not a pokey fan at all.

SPEAKER_02

Why don't you like pokey?

SPEAKER_01

I'm just not into it. I'm not. I think you guys, uh, this is gonna be a whole podcast on its own. I think you guys abuse your food way too much. All that shit that you put on top of it, that's food abuse.

SPEAKER_02

That's because you don't like vegetables.

SPEAKER_01

It's not even vegetable. It's like the garnishing and like yo, just eat the fish. That's it, that's all you need. Little soy sauce, you gotta put this and that and all of this. Like, come on.

SPEAKER_03

Best fish was that where did we go? Somewhere on convoy, but they had toro tuna.

SPEAKER_01

It was that AZ sushi spot or something like that.

SPEAKER_03

And it's like wagyu. Seafood wagyu smelt in milk.

SPEAKER_01

I like that. But then you gotta put the all like why are you putting all that shit on it? I don't know. It's food abuse. That's all I'm saying.

SPEAKER_03

But the Instagram is at Tropicali, that's it.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, look at there. Hey, what was your weekend thing that you were supposed to get done?

SPEAKER_03

We were supposed to try a new breakfast place in TJ, but we didn't try a new place. We went to an old spot called Cafe La Flor or something like that. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01

Yummy.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, delicious.

SPEAKER_01

You're gonna return?

SPEAKER_03

Always.

SPEAKER_01

Coat cafe la flor. I like it. I was supposed to organize podcast stuff.

SPEAKER_03

How'd that go?

SPEAKER_01

Hey, I got it done.

SPEAKER_03

You did.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, got it done. And I didn't check. And what's most important, I didn't buy anything new. There you go. Found everything. It's so funny. I have all this shit that I just never use. And our friend Keith was like, you can't throw anything away because you're never gonna know when you're gonna use it. And ever since he said that, I'm like, let me just go into my fucking box before order this cable off of Amazon. Guess what? Have the cable, have the micro SD card.

SPEAKER_03

Let me go shopping in my backyard.

SPEAKER_01

Seriously, it's so bad. And then I'm like, this is why I don't have any fucking money. Or like, this is why I don't have like the money that I should have. I'm like, whoa, where's all my money going?

SPEAKER_03

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_01

All of this and food, God, food, food, food. All right, well, that wraps up our recap of last uh week's uh journaling session and everything. That was really cool. Um, yeah, that's a really big question. Um, like who or what is you? Uh, take some time to yourself to reflect about that. We put in contacts just to help you and guide yourself to an answer, and it doesn't, again, this answer will change as you get old, as you get older, as you experience, as you meet new people, as things shift and change, but you gotta have some core values to yourself, and I want you to stick to that. And it sounds like for um Myra, you have some really strong core values of sticking to the um the numbers and the facts that tells me, and well, it shows me that you know you are you you're very loyal, and um you're always gonna basically be at a table and set the person straight, even if they're your friend. And Liz, that tells me like you being the light in that dark tunnel, yeah. That tells uh yeah, we all know that. If you personally knew to Liz, yeah, you would know that. But hell yeah, hell

One Rule With Big Returns

SPEAKER_01

yeah. So we're 27 minutes in. I just did that nice recap of the journal. And what is today's journal topic? What are we gonna talk about? What are we gonna talk about today? What are we gonna talk about today?

SPEAKER_03

Usually you already have the questions ready.

SPEAKER_01

I got it, I got it.

SPEAKER_03

I was like, what do you mean? We've never been asked this before.

SPEAKER_01

So, our question today, we uh did a podcast actually uh yesterday on Father's Day. Uh Myra, I don't know if you listened to it, and today is June 22nd. Yes, Monday. Yes, and what I've been obsessed with, or the new obsession, is single action multiple return. So a lot of people look at this in finance. We're like, dude, where can I give you ten dollars and you give me a hundred dollars back? 10x return, right? So before I I ask you the question, or the well, this would be the question. What is one rule that you can implement in your life? One thing that you can do or stop doing, think about it like that, that will cause an exponential uh change. Not an exponential change, how should I say it? So one thing that you can do that will cause multiple positive things to happen. For example, we said going to bed on time. Think about it. Like um, I read this email from this uh guy, Alex Ramosi. He basically just explained if you're going to bed at 10 p.m., you're not going that means you're not going out at 10 p.m. That means you didn't have a chance to be mugged in the alley because you were asleep. That means you didn't get wrapped around uh pole because you wasn't drinking and driving, or you didn't have time to drink. That means you woke up on time, you didn't miss the job interview. Think about that one single action that caused multiple things, and you can't use going to bed on time, and we can't use anything that we talked about yesterday. Okay, so what would be another rule? One rule. And uh on the podcast, if you're uh if you're still listening, allow yourself to pause right now and jot it down, and we'll be right back. Awesome, and we are back. Okay, so we took a question of the day. It is a Monday, June 22nd. And what are we talking about? What was the what was our question to Liz?

SPEAKER_03

What is one rule you can implement in your life that will cause multiple positive things to happen?

SPEAKER_01

And we gave an example of just going to bed on time in our last podcast.

Snacking Stress And Self-Control

SPEAKER_01

Now that we got Myra here, Myra, what's that one rule?

SPEAKER_02

I gonna say stop snacking so much.

SPEAKER_01

Stop snacking so much? Yes. What do you consider snacking?

SPEAKER_02

Like any, like not eating shapes, like not actual food. Like I'm just snacking.

SPEAKER_01

You're you're a snack merchant? I am, and it's I know someone else is a snack merchant.

SPEAKER_03

You know what? I've been good. I don't have temptations at home, so I can't eat it because I don't have it at home.

SPEAKER_01

That's dude, that's yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Lucy just got some snacks or oh yeah, I did. He had to go put them in my office, like, put them away.

SPEAKER_01

Dude, I got the Ube Party Mix. Have you had this stuff? No, girl. I I know that you just said stop snacking.

SPEAKER_02

Don't introduce me the new things, please.

SPEAKER_01

Girl, this guy introduced me, uh, introduced to me uh by uh a friend Eva in the uh B day camping group. Dude, this Ube party mix, I think you can find it on Costco. It is in on Amazon. It is just delicious. It's just trell mix, sugar, honey, and a lot of ube. Sweet. Yeah, it's so tasty. I was actually thinking about getting some vanilla ice cream and then crunching it up. Oh my god. Oh, you had to bring up the snacks. Get out of here.

SPEAKER_02

Listen, it's my most severe addiction.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. More than uh shopping, you think?

SPEAKER_02

I would say it's a combination of both.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

But with snacking, I feel like it's the next thing I need to address because I'm like still like I struggle with it. Like, I'm like, it's a new week, new me, and that still doesn't work.

SPEAKER_01

Oh girl. I have this talk to myself every time. I'm like, okay, this was the last J I'm gonna smoke. I'm done. And I'm like, hey Delys, let's go to dispensary. I'm like, God, and I'm like, new week, new me. I'm like, oh god, Jesus.

SPEAKER_02

I know it's June already. When is it gonna start?

SPEAKER_01

Please say that again. My God, it is June.

SPEAKER_03

Like we're done with the year.

SPEAKER_01

What what makes you snack? Boredom, stress, or do you just like to snack?

SPEAKER_02

I think all of that. Like, I stress is my stress mechanism. Like when I'm at work, like we have a little store with snacks. So I'll snack a knot or I'll snack if I have something I packed. And I think like I sometimes when I'm really stressed, I just want to chew on stuff something. And it's my like stress coping mechanism. Also, when I just want a distraction, like I'm bored, I'll eat, like I'll snack. And the thing is, I don't snack, I try not to snack so much, but it's really hard, you know?

SPEAKER_03

I agree.

SPEAKER_01

Yes.

SPEAKER_03

But I like crunchy snacks, salty, crunchy snacks. Pressels?

SPEAKER_01

Both chips.

SPEAKER_03

Chips is my guilty pleasure.

SPEAKER_01

So what okay, so what's your what's your like what's your go-to snack? You say you have a little snack office, like a little uh what is it?

SPEAKER_03

Um a little mini mart.

SPEAKER_01

Little mini mart at at work. So what is uh you know how since you you know Myra's boss lady, uh where she works, by the way, she's uh she's boss lady. So dude, they'd be like, hey, no one's allowed to touch this.

SPEAKER_02

That's Myra's It's the last one. Oh so I like my pop chips. I also like love bread, and I feel like a lot of Mexicans will connect with this, but bread is life. Carb, yeah. Oh, absolutely. Just bread, like ban? Pan with a pea.

SPEAKER_00

Pun. Pun? Yes, pun.

SPEAKER_02

And it's not even like I have to have a huge like piece of bread, like just a little bit. Like that, that is my daily addiction, I swear.

SPEAKER_01

Sourdough?

SPEAKER_02

No, it can be it's more like sweet bread.

SPEAKER_01

Sweet bread?

SPEAKER_02

Like donut. Not donuts, like fully. I won't eat a full donut like that, but like, you know, just like pastries, I would say.

SPEAKER_03

Okay. I love butter but sourdough, not sourdough with butter. I love butter. It's more butter than bread.

SPEAKER_01

I eat all the sourdough. I like bread too. I use bread as like if I don't want to make mistakes and overeat, I just fill myself with bread. And I'm like, okay.

SPEAKER_02

That's a good strategy.

SPEAKER_01

That's kind of what that's what I do. That is what I do.

SPEAKER_02

I also like sweet things, though. That's also the thing. Like, if I'm gonna eat something savory, I want something sweet to balance it.

SPEAKER_01

All right, Myra's favorite snack is snack. Gotcha. What's your favorite snack? Chips. Chips?

SPEAKER_03

I would say chips, chips or popcorn.

SPEAKER_01

Like I definitely will snack for sure. Uh but I I think like my my thing is Coke Zero. God. Oh yeah. It's so good. It's so good. Uh like that fridge cigarette, getting all the cancer, drinking all those microplastics, man. Cracking a cold one, man. That fridge cigarette. That's why it's called a fridge cigarette. Like for real, it's giving you all the cancer. It's brutal.

Waking Up Earlier Than Necessary

SPEAKER_01

It's brutal. Alright. Um, what so what do you what do you got?

SPEAKER_03

I said wake up early enough, and this means like an hour before I need to be somewhere, or do something.

SPEAKER_01

I I really wish you would do this. I think it's crazy that you can roll out of bed and go to work. Yeah, say, like I noticed seriously, I think it's insane. And like you just do it every day. I'm like, there's no she gets out of bed and she like, how can I help you? Like, straight into like the mode. I'm like, there's no fucking way. I at my old job, if I would get a phone call, they would like try to be like, we can't have his phone ringing until 10 30. Like, because I'm gonna be super nice to whoever I'm talking to, and then as soon as I'm hanging on the phone, an email is being sent. I'm like, why am I on the phone? Like, like, I need my body to wake up and every I don't know how you do it. Truly, like it it's like impressive. Uh it's crazy. I yeah, please.

SPEAKER_02

You know who's like that too? My sister, Melissa. Yeah, she will wake up literally like 10 minutes before her shift. And I don't understand because I have to wake up an hour before to drink my tea, my protein shake, my coffee.

SPEAKER_03

This is why I need to wake up early because it's like if I wake up early, I'm like moving and get hungry and I can snack before I start. Because then I like clock in and I'm like, okay, let me go make my coffee between these calls. I'm like, when? I can't. It's so busy.

SPEAKER_01

Dude, I got um, yeah, you have to. I got a little upset with myself because I was like, fuck, I'm actually old. Because like I woke up We're young, yeah, young, but you know, I'm at we're at that age where you're like, okay, if I wake up and I have to be somewhere at like in 30 minutes, I'm gonna be fucking late. Just to get ready and get out the house and all the choices I make, and it's nothing like put pants on, brush teeth, you know, whatever. I just I'm not fast anymore. I I'm literally it's 30 minutes to get out of the house. I'm like, how? How? Like, how? It's it's fucking crazy. How? Oh, look at here. Oh, look at here.

SPEAKER_02

You're on to something.

SPEAKER_01

You know yourself.

SPEAKER_02

Look at here. Oh, that's smart.

SPEAKER_01

People can't understand what's happening. Uh, I figured out how to I don't know, someone else told me.

SPEAKER_03

So we're trying a new thing or trying mic stands today. So it's just kind of figuring out.

SPEAKER_01

But we're in a beautiful park where we just ran and did a great asana. We meet every Monday and Wednesdays. Come out and check check us out. Train with San on Instagram.

Reducing Screen Time In Real Life

SPEAKER_01

Oh man, I put reduced screen time, and we can go into this totally, and it's not, I and it's not just with your phone, it's all screen time. TV decompression time, reduce all screen time, even when you're working. How often are you looking at a laptop screen or a monitor? And then you go home. No, fuck that. You get in your car, your eyes go straight to your GPS, looking at a screen. Uh-huh. Get out, get out the car, wherever you're going, straight to home, TV on couch mode, looking at a screen. So I think you should reduce screen time. All right, here we go. Why do you think you uh struggle with this? Wait, we already talked talked about. Why do you think you struggle with that?

SPEAKER_03

I love my bed. Yeah. I really do.

SPEAKER_01

And uh, sorry, I I totally um forgot to mention that. Um say what you uh your role is again, just for someone that's gonna listen and like got lost track.

SPEAKER_03

Your role was Oh, my role was to wake up early enough to an hour at least before I need to be somewhere, do something.

SPEAKER_01

And the second part of the uh journaling is why do you struggle with that?

SPEAKER_03

I love my bed.

SPEAKER_01

Love the bed, man. So how do you fix it? Do you get a like a shitty bed?

SPEAKER_03

I think I just need to go my alarms again. I got to point where like I'm not listening to my alarms and just but I think part of it is going to bed on a consistent schedule and kind of being like, okay, I'm gonna get up at this hour. Because when I have to wake up early, I do it.

SPEAKER_01

But same thing, I wake up 10 minutes before I think this is so my mom used to anytime we had to do something, or I had to go like for school, or anytime I was like, hey, I have to be at X amount of time, she would always get me there an hour before, and I'd be so mad. I'd be like, what the fuck, dude? Like, yo, I could have been like, I don't know. I was about to say something, but this hey kids, we we I'm 31, we didn't have social media back then. It's very, very new. Get off of it. All right, back to it. But yeah, that's I think that's why I just have this internal clock, even in the military. Like, I and I'm glad that she did that. I was always just like boom, I'm I'm on time, whatever, and I would see people frantic in the room or whatever, and then they would always forget something and all that. I'm like, you did all that rushing still to get yelled at. Like you did all that still to be late. Fucking insane. Fucking insane. But I for me, I set my rule if you just one thing that you can implement in your life that's gonna cause a bunch of um positive things, I believe, reduce screen time, and not just with your phone, screen time at work, screen time at home, just reduce screen time. Go on more walks, go camping more, talk, talk more, honestly. And why do I feel like I struggle with this? I don't I have this weird thing, like I don't really feel FOMO, honestly. I I I used to, and I'm honestly I I'm so proud that I don't even suffer from that shit anymore because I would rather be home, truly. But I also have a FOMO of connection now, like not actually being there or whatever, but like when I know there's like UFC event happening, and I'm like, my phone's not there, and I'm like, dude, you should see me, Myra. I'm like scrolling down to refresh every two seconds for updates. Like, and I just feel like I have to be connected, I have to be informed 24-7 because what's happening in World Cup, then the playoffs, sports, politics, this, that, this viral, this funny meme. I just feel like I gotta be connected, and I don't know why. So that's why that's why it's uh it's hard. It's hard.

SPEAKER_02

You know what's funny? I don't consider my work screen time. You should I know I should, and we talk about that, but I always don't consider that my screen time because I don't consider that my personal time. Like I have to work, but it's your time. That's true, it's your time, Ira. That's true. Well, I already I can't, I I've been wearing glasses since I was seven, so I mean, whether or not I lose more eyesight, it doesn't make much of a difference to me. Yeah, but you're right.

SPEAKER_01

I don't consider my work screen time, and I feel like it's it's gonna, you know, I don't know, and this is where I get a little wacky and uh tin fool hatty or whatever, but um and we're gonna uh let's let's wrap the podcast. It's getting a little dark and everything. Sorry, I got you girls out here all late. Um, but we're we're in the middle of a park shooting the podcast in San Diego. Come on, this is awesome.

SPEAKER_04

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_01

This is just great. This is where I get wacky with this screen time stuff. Let's

Tech Exposure And Mental Focus

SPEAKER_01

talk about toxic exposure. Oh, we just got heavy. No, for real. Our parents was exposed. Think about their generation. They're they were in, you know, they're working in coal mines, working in the fields, being exposed to these pesticides if they're on farms. Like my mom worked or still works in like a paper mill. Like she creates these like massive stanchions and all that. But think about uh processing filters, what they were letting in the air way back when. And now all of this cancer and health problems are creeping up, right? Stay with me here. I'm about to make the connection. Our exposure is the electronics, the screen times, and everything. That's what we're being exposed to, not the pollution because we are aware of that. There's so There's everyone's trying to make some money in California. You get exposed, slippage, whatever, you're suing, right? So they they're like, no, we can't fuck around with this. Let's do we have guidelines for this, this, and that. You know all the guide, all the guidelines that things have to be implemented. We we own a business in San Diego. Like the the checks that you have to go through to get your correct business licensing or COI to enter in venues, so many safety marks. Where's the safety marks for screen time? Because I feel that I know more people now that have a lot of headaches, a lot of ocular migraines, that have that are wearing glasses. Like this is happening. And I'm just saying, uh this is me just being wacky and weird, I guess, but I think being overexposed, overstimulated to all these buttons, colors, lights, screens is doing something to us that we don't know what it's doing until we're probably 60, 70.

SPEAKER_02

Well, you know how they talk about how the new, like the uh younger generations and how much uh their concentration has suffered because of this. Like they can't concentrate for more than a few seconds because that's all like all these short, like all their their short videos, iPads, whatever they may be using, and how they're constantly used to this bright, like, you know, videos, like with all these like noise and all these things, and that's how they're dopamine correct. Well, I feel like at least for us, more so. Well, I feel like for us at least we had more of a balance, right? Because we I didn't have I had a cell phone in middle school, but it couldn't do everything that it does now, right? Like the iPhone was not a thing until like what high school, potentially college for us. And I feel like I am at least grateful that we had that transition going into technology. Like, I could not imagine being a kid now, and then that's all I know, right?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like I love being outdoors. Um, you know, I I I won't even go there. Um I hear kids saying, like, I'm depressed. I never said I was depressed or like knew what it was until I was like closer to 20 than anything. And I hear like teen like teenagers saying like I'm depressed and whatever. I'm like, whoa, that's a heavy word.

SPEAKER_02

And you know what though, the other thing is social media didn't become what it was until we got older too. Oh, yeah. Like, like the I feel like that's also what's messing up all these kids.

SPEAKER_01

I don't know, something happened in 2016, it really changed the internet. There was two uh big years, uh recently, 2016 and 2020. Uh and 2020, um the pandemic pandemic, TikTok, all that other stuff. But I remember, and um I just remember people used to be a little bit more modest on social media. Like um, there was less skin, I think. And I felt like there was more guidelines and rules with this, but like now, men and women, you can basically be naked, and like the reason why I say that, I remember when people would post a photo and like they had cleavage exposed or whatever. It was like this thing of like, oh my god, I cannot believe she posted that. You didn't tell her, you like it was around circles. I remember this, like girl, you didn't tell me that my boob was hanging or whatever, and now

Social Media Shifts And Algorithms

SPEAKER_01

it's like show it.

SPEAKER_03

Oh yeah, show it.

SPEAKER_01

Like what caused that? That shift, like what caused that?

SPEAKER_03

I don't know. I think it's also a lot of the I want other people to see that I'm living this lifestyle also, too. It's just like I care what other people think about me, and I'm like, nobody cares. Literally, they're just they care about themselves. No, they're doom scrolling, they're like, I want to look at I don't know, the pups dancing, whatever. They're not even looking for people a hundred percent. It's just like memes took over.

SPEAKER_01

That is so funny. That's so I get so pissed off I see someone doing something dumb that I know I'm like, why are you posting this? But if they post their dog, I'm super happy about it.

SPEAKER_03

See what I'm saying? I'm like, I I want to say this everyone has something that they gravitate towards, but post more pups, man. Cat videos. Oh god. There you go. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_01

You know what? I I'll give you this. Some of the cat memes are fucking hilarious. Cats are amazing, especially when like like the orange cat when it looks all grumpy and shit, and people like meme it out and certain things. I I love that. I think I posted one in the group chat. Um, what was it? It was about no, that was a little dog. Yeah, it was a dog. I'm like, come on. That's totally me. I'm like, I don't want, but I want to be close enough to just, you know, yeah, I don't want to taste the tea, I just want to get the get the temperature.

SPEAKER_03

Gauge what's gone.

SPEAKER_02

You know, it's funny as we're talking about that. It's like I struggle with social media. Like sometimes I'm like living my life, right? And I'm like, oh, this would be a great Instagram post, right? Or like an X, like, oh, I should make a story about that. But it's an afterthought. Like later, I'm like, oh, I should have done that, right? Like I try to have more active social media because I'm like, I should try a little, but it's just hard because it's not ingrained in me to be doing that all the time, right? Like when I take pictures, I take pictures for myself, not necessarily thinking I'm gonna post them on social media. Yeah, like I'm trying to like make social media work for me, but I I I just struggle posting.

SPEAKER_01

I don't know. I think look, there's going to be a time in my life where I don't post anymore. And I'm gonna be really happy about that.

SPEAKER_02

So but for you, I feel like it's also because of the work that you guys do. You do have to be active on social media. For me, I don't have to for my work um purposes. So like I feel like I have more of the freedom not to be as active, right? Yeah. Um, for you guys, it's like it's not really optional because of your business and what you do.

SPEAKER_01

Now, if you if you could like if you is there someone that you follow, or and you don't have to like shout out a tag or whatever, but you've seen like a you know, seen someone's grid, and you're like, oh, this is really nice, and you wish that you had like something like that.

SPEAKER_02

For sure. Like, sometimes I check out people or things like that, and I'm like, oh, like I should try something like Myra checking people out, not like that, but you know, like when you ask somebody or like make a new friend, or you're looking at people's like Instagram polls, I'm like, wow, like I wish I could like post like this. And it's just it's not something that naturally comes to me, I guess.

SPEAKER_01

I've thought I've thought about it too, where uh what is social media? Is it um like there is a lot of bad in there, but there's some cool stuff because like I always bitch on like oh I hate social media. Why do I have to do this? This nuts, but you know, I've we've made some cool like the the friends that we have made through so Brittany. Yes, is an example, like a connection that we made through Instagram. She's local, she's great, she's wonderful, and she's awesome. And then she invited us to her wedding. What the fuck? What is that? Like we have a seat at her wedding, like that's pretty cool, like sound of weird. Like, yeah, you know, it's not, but like that's what social media should do. But you have to go through all these waves of like, and it's actually I honestly, if it was just all real people, I'd be cool. But like these bots, and I showed her like how my Instagram, it's all like male Instagram, female Instagram are two different worlds, and I really wish someone would fix that 100% and just show me who I'm fucking following. I don't want and just show me puppies and cat memes, okay? I don't care about this Instagram model that's trying to buy my thing and show me their ass and try to get me to subscribe to their OnlyFans and whatever, and then the thing is if you sit there and you're like, what the fuck is this, Meyer? If you sit there and you watch it for like one, two seconds, your next four fucking recommendations is that I'm like, come on, come on, you know, and I've never thought about it for you guys.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, me either. Because for girls, I feel like it's like they're trying to sell us products or things like that. 100%. But it's never like, oh, I'm gonna put this mail out here, you know, like go buy whatever on OnlyFans. Like it's never that, it's always like hair products, like fashion, things like that funny.

SPEAKER_01

She'll tell you. I asked her, like, I'm not even being nosy, like, what's on her phone? I'm like, hey, what's on your timeline? I just want to see, like, is this in your space yet? Has this came on your timeline? I'll just be like, I don't know. I just asked you something random that's on my timeline. I'd be like, are you seeing this? And you're like, no. I'm like, why is it? And it's it's truly there's something different about, and it's nothing that because I've tried this. I put myself as a female on Instagram for a while. It can hear you though, it can hear your conversation, it hears everything,

Practice Invite And Closing Breath

SPEAKER_01

it tracks everything, so it knows I was lying. Like it knew it right there.

SPEAKER_03

Like, this is a guy.

SPEAKER_01

I'm like, what the fuck is this?

SPEAKER_03

But anyway, hey, we're crazy because he unfollows and then they come back.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, yes, but hey, we're approaching an hour. We've lost all the sunlight, and the cops are definitely gonna come and be like, what the fuck are these three brown people in this really nice park doing? This really nice white neighborhood. Right, but hey, look, if you guys want to come practice in self-proclaim uh from our white neighborhood joking, all jokes, all jokes, all jokes. It's yoga. We love everyone here. Uh, please come by. Um follow us, train with sand, all one word. Train as your training with sand, S-A-N-D, on Instagram. I will send you the location. We train Monday and Wednesdays. If we get bigger, we'll open up another day, but that is the schedule for today. Tell a friend that you know a friend in San Diego that teaches yoga and has a podcast. Please share it. Thanks, Myra. Thanks, Liz, for this awesome podcast episode. And until next time, please remember to take a nice deep inhale, subtle exhale, and be kind to yourself. We're out.

SPEAKER_03

Bye. Good night.