Red Flags & Real Love
Break the Patterns is a weekly podcast about relationship patterns, narcissistic abuse recovery, and what healthy love actually looks like. Hosted by Virginia McConnell — Dating and Relationship Pattern Coach, specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery, and former private investigator — this show brings honest, practical conversations for anyone ready to stop repeating the same relationship and finally choose differently.
Red Flags & Real Love
Latest Episodes
Jane Doe #3 — "Broken Parts of People Break People More"
Content note: this episode includes descriptions of abuse, addiction, and violence. Support is available — the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. Take breaks. Come back when you want to.
Real Talk with Mia Hanks — 29 Years, Two Memoirs, and the Long Road to Naming It
Some patterns don't announce themselves. They arrive quietly, build slowly, and by the time you have language for what's happening, years have gone by.My guest today is Mia Hanks, an author and survivor who spent 29 years inside a...
Real Talk with Dr. Eric Williams — The Three Questions Only You Can Answer
Everyone around you can see it. Your sister sees it, your best friend sees it. And none of it moves you an inch. Dr. Eric Williams explains why — and it's not stubbornness.My guest is a licensed marriage and family therapist with 20+ yea...
Rebuilding Self-Trust After Trauma with Jessy Pearson Cheney
What happens when you leave an unhealthy or abusive relationship, but your body still feels like you're in danger?In this powerful conversation, Virginia McConnell sits down with Jessy Pearson Cheney, an Emotion Code practitioner who he...
Always Be Collecting Data with Anil Gupta
Most people go into relationships with hope and a good feeling. Anil Gupta goes in with a system — and he's blunt about why: roughly nine out of ten relationships fail, and most people are on their fifth, sixth, or seventh before they marry, st...