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What's the Word?
Faith, Discipline & WINNING: Believing in Yourself Before the Breakthrough with Danelle Delgado
In this powerful and truth-filled episode, Danelle Delgado shares how real transformation starts with believing in the person God created you to be.
With raw stories and relatable moments, from sticky-note affirmations to marathon struggles — Danelle reveals how daily self-discipline, “no zero days,” and mental resilience helped her move from survival to success. She dives deep into the idea that before you can truly believe in God’s purpose for your life, you have to start being your word to yourself. WINNING.
Hi, welcome to What's the Word. I'm your host, Jamie McFadden. I'm so excited to have you here. This podcast is all about faith, self-care, and the journey of parenthood. I will be interviewing some of the most inspirational people I know. So join me and let's grow together on What's the Word. Amazing. Okay, everybody, welcome back to What's the Word. I'm your host, Jamie McFadden. I have been waiting for this podcast for, I don't know, five years. No, just kidding. But this is someone who literally has inspired me in more ways than I can count. I literally think about Danelle I'd say at least multiple times per week when I see your beautiful posts and the things that you're doing, you are such an inspiration to the moms like myself in the community, but not just moms, to anyone out there who is literally feeling like you want to win at life. In fact, everybody that's listening right now, Danelle is here and she's going to share with us how we can be winning at life. So a quick little backstory on Danelle. Danelle is somebody that I met about five years ago on the Clubhouse app when everybody was jonesing at the bit on that app. We had thousands of people in the room talking about all the different things and danelle came into one of the rooms that i was hosting and shared a bit about her story that she was a single mom raising three young children she was in a very tough position she had to literally bootstrap it and figure out how she was going to make things happen for her kids so they could have a great life let's fast forward for a hot minute here now she's winning she's known as the millionaire maker okay and as someone who was seriously going through it she now is someone who has teamed up with i can't wait to talk about your engaged stuff with Mike because I'm curious if he's as funny as he is in real life as he is on social media. And we're just going to talk about all the things. So Danelle, I want to thank you again for being here. It is just a gift. You are a gift. And thank you for saying yes.
SPEAKER_02:Thank you. Thank you for pursuing great people to share with the world. I think, you know, it takes a lot of work to do the side of the podcast that you're on that most people don't like to do. And you guys are the one that makes the difference. So easy for me to make time for you. So I'm excited.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Okay, great. So there's a million different things we could talk about. And I say, let's just roll right in. You chose the word winning, right? What, what does that mean to you right now?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. You know, I think if we look at our lives, right, we want to be the best mom. We want to be the best human. We want to be the best partner. We want to be the best at whatever we do. Like there's, there's just this innate sense in us to evolve, to achieve, to advance. And I think that's, that's just our natural state, right? We're born, we crawl, we walk, we run those who train and become Olympic athletes. So, so that's our normal state. And I think the painful thing in life is when we know we're capable and we don't. And I think I I felt like that for so long as a mom, it was like, I was almost great. And then I would like lose it. And then as an entrepreneur, I was almost wealthy and then I'd lose it. And then it was like, I was almost happy in a relationship and then it was a disaster. Right. And so I felt like almost, almost killed me. And then I learned that winning is not easy. about like losing it's not about mistakes it's not about anything other than having the ability to finish what you start and every finish is a win and so when that perspective changed for me I was like I am winning and I started telling myself I mean I started being like how in the day. Then it became, how could I win the week? How could I win the month? Once I learned in 30 days, what I could do is more sometimes than what I could do in a year. I was like, Oh, just break this down. Let's make winning simple. Let's make winning about today. Not like the season. Who knows if I'm going to survive the season. And so I just think life became more about winning the battle of me. every day in my mind, my heart, my soul. And then I started winning at things that like in an inexplainable way. I don't know why I'm so blessed other than I just try to win and I try to bring as many people with me as I can.
SPEAKER_00:Well, and you do it with a smile on your face and you do it with so much joy. You just radiate light. Genuinely, you radiate like you're, like I said, I mean, even your post today where you shared about, you know, remember what you've overcome, right? I saw that and I was like, thank you for coming into my life because I'm in the thick and the as a single mom. So I know where it's like, oh, like we're, I'm like, okay, we're there, but we're not, but we're there. And we just have to be on that treadmill sometimes. But I look at you and I just feel so grateful that there are people in this planet, in this lifetime, like you, who can learn these secrets, whatever you want to call it, right? Like going through it and growing through it and then saying, you know what? Let me give back and let me share. So can I ask you, how has your faith, your beliefs changed? shifted through this journey and how does that play a role in your life today
SPEAKER_02:yeah yeah that's a that's a
SPEAKER_00:very
SPEAKER_02:huge question and one that i don't often answer on the internet so i love that you asked it okay oh yeah totally i'm i'm like an open book i think the whole world knows so that's pretty good right um i think at the beginning right i was raised in a faith-filled family right i was it was poured into me to follow the lines do what the church says and i think um when i got divorced and i was treated a little bit differently by a lot of people that i counted on it it made me uh step away, have a little bit of rebellion for sure for a minute. It was a hot minute, maybe a hot month or year. And, you know, All that I realized in that was when I operated outside of believing in something, something was missing in me. And then I learned that I just had to create my own rules, my own understanding and have my own voice with that. It actually happened when I was in the hospital going through radiation treatment. And I just remember looking in the mirror and I was like, where did I go? Like what, where did I lose? You know, I was always joy. It was always a joy tornado, right? And my face just looked empty and dead and it looked like I had given up. Um, you know, I do a Ted talk on that about how deep it really got, how
SPEAKER_00:ugly. Sensational. If everyone is going to show notes right after this and go watch, it's 10 minutes that will literally spark up your day even more than this conversation. So go do that.
SPEAKER_02:Thank you. Thank you. You know, thank you. Like that's like a lifetime of understanding myself. Right. But it kind of goes along with this. Um, I, I, all I did was Google my name, like, you're either going to die of cancer or you're either going to do something that matters. Like, do you have a choice in this? Right. And so I Googled, I was like, what do I even stand for? And I Googled the now and randomly, I don't even know why. And it said only God is my judge. That's what my name is. And I went, Hmm. And it, it literally brought like tears to my eyes. Right.
SPEAKER_00:Full body chills right
SPEAKER_02:here. Yeah. Yeah. And I was like, Oh God, So all the things that I'm judging myself by that are making me sick, that are making me exhaust myself, that don't really matter. And all of the rules that I put out there, maybe I should just have this relationship that only i will understand maybe it's what the bible means to me maybe it's i'll read all the books and see what everybody's religion means and they're all pretty similar with just weird differences right um but what i learned is anytime we act on something that is a belief told to us it doesn't really sink in and we don't do well with it but when we believe what we believe and it's a part of us it's like our through line um that's why i love people the way they do that's why no matter all the hate on the internet or the good or the bad or the ugly it didn't matter I responded as me that's my beliefs in me and that came from you know I only got one judge really so let's make sure that I do right by me and and all the rest matters and so I think I was searching for that a long time do I believe what everybody tells me do I believe what I believe how do I even know and it's just like a journey of life and if we learn to listen to that instinct I'm pretty sure there's nowhere we can't go.
SPEAKER_00:You know, I couldn't I could not agree with you more. I experienced something similar two years ago when doctors were first. It was like, oh, well, during this pregnancy, it's fibromyalgia. Then it's maybe MS. Then it's something even worse. But we can't you know, we can't there's nothing we don't know if you're going to be OK. We don't know if the baby's going to be. It was this very, very scary moment. Right. Yeah. Where I had to sit in that just like you're sharing. And so that's why I'm so jazzed about this right now, because I know so many moms that listen to this. So many people that listen to this podcast are like in this. position where they're seeking right they're looking for that purpose that passion that you know to get unstuck to really win to whatever and what i continue finding right now is i literally did the other day i not that long ago i basically took my calendar and i was like because i really try to push for things and i was like god this is this is you can decide and i'm gonna whatever whatever is for me that's for the best for the planet for you for That's it. I'm going to say yes to that. And the other things I'm going to do my best to start saying no, because it's, of course, yeah, I think you and I, we want to serve everyone, right? Like, right. There's time for everyone. Exactly. Yeah. So, so I would love because I'm sure that somebody that's hearing you and I talk about this right now, that's understanding the faith through line, right? I'm not here to tell somebody what to believe in. You're not telling somebody you need to, you know, read this exact thing and whatever else. But there's a huge role that that's played in our embodiment of who we're showing up as. And I think that that's so key. Can you speak to, for someone listening right now, that's like, man, I'm in the thick of whatever trench they're in. I lost faith or I lost the belief. I don't even know what I believe in anymore, especially with the world and whatever else. What's like one step or something that someone can start doing today to learn to listen to that intuition that you've learned?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, that's a great question. I think it's about... Picking something, whatever the goal is. It might be a health goal. It might be a business goal. It might be a career goal. It might be a parenting goal. But I truly think, it's funny you say my word, winning, which is finishing. I think we in this world are great starters and terrible finishers. But when you say you're going to do something and you do it, there is a belief that happens. Even scientifically in your brain, we could go into it, but that's a boring podcast, so we won't be doing that. But When you actually are your word to yourself and you start to trust yourself, you'll start to hear what else you can believe in. I think so many people try to find something to believe in that they can lean on and count on before they find themselves. And that's where the error gets made. Then they blame it. Oh, God is dumping on me. Why do people die if there is a God? You know, like all of these things, they try to make purpose. And I'm like, wait, wait, wait. First belief that we should pour into anyone, any kid, any human, is themselves, right? Cause all life comes from what we do. So fill your sticky notes with the beliefs you want to believe, read them, fill your house with that, right? Write your favorite quotes on there, your favorite memes. That's what I did. Like way back when, way back when in my apartment. And now even for some of my high profile clients, I call their spouses and I said, Hey, they need a mental adjustment. I want you to find everyone who loves your spouse, your partner, whoever it is. And I want you to bring them over the house. I want you guys to douse that house and notes for them and change their life, right? I've done that all the time. There is so much power in what you think about yourself that if you really want to believe in anyone else, a God, a partner, a kid, anything, it all starts with how you treat yourself. And it sounds like the opposite of how I was raised. Like I was raised very servant-hearted. My whole family were servants, which is a part of me, but I forgot the part of serve myself. And I think as a parent and a human being, when I learned that I was the gift that I was bringing to the table, the service multiplied. And so I think if you're really searching for something, if you're in the thick of it, man, talk kindly to yourself. That's all you got, right? Talk truthfully and finish one thing, right? You say you're going to eat healthy, do it every single day, check it off a list and be like, yes, I am being my word to myself. Eat healthy for 30 days. Look at the difference it made and go, I think I'll do some more of that. Right. And that's how you believe it's every single day. Right. I have this theory and t-shirts and everything all over the world. It's called no zero days. Right. Because that's, that's how I learned to believe in myself. That's how I learned to make money and earn sales. It was, then now you're not going to make it. So sell one thing a day. That's all you got to do. So one thing a day, you can feed your kids. And so the progress works and everything, believe in yourself for one day. And then you notice, okay, The people who don't believe in you like that same belief, you know, immediately red flag, not for me. I love you. But from there
SPEAKER_01:and
SPEAKER_02:move forward, people are like, oh, bad relationships. And I had these bad experiences and life brought me here. I'm like, brought you there. But let's talk about that. You know, those are the hard things that I had to learn. It was like when I mistreated myself, everything around me went wrong.
SPEAKER_00:Isn't that funny? Like when we can reflect upon it. Thankfully, it's funny now, I think, at least.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Funny looking back. A lot of that was me. And it was also a valuable lesson to be learned that sometimes took me a couple times to figure out the lesson. Yeah. Ever had that happen?
SPEAKER_02:I'm like, you know, it's like. red flags i'm like neon sign frying pan to the head get it type human right it's like oh this isn't being great great great hey then you have an accident you break both your legs okay i get it right like those are the lessons that i usually get they do get better the longer you're alive. Yeah. It's almost
SPEAKER_00:like building up a muscle or something like the longer you've done it. And the longer you've had that resistance training and whatever else, like you're strong. And then you can kind of look at things and go, eh, I don't, I don't need that one. I'll take this one. You know? Yeah. You can look at it differently. So on that note for, cause I have a lot of, of mom friends and colleagues and people that watch and listen to this, that, you know, are always looking for great advice, great gems on, you know, doing it scared or like if I'm ready, am I ready to like take that, you know, like what if, okay, I've built up this foundation of something, but I don't know, do I invest in this thing or that thing or what do I do next? Where do I go next? Do you have any tips on that?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. I mean, always, right. I always, when people always tell me, how do I know if I'm ready? I always go, when you ask the question, you're ready because people who aren't ready, don't ask the question. They just keep doing their, their mundane life. Right. Like I look at it, I call it, I call it this gap. I'll give you like an example. Like, so I always look at things in like analogies that I can see. Right. So I always tell people, the majority of people are like here, here's where you are. You could list out all the things that got you to where you are, what you're proud of, what you wish you could erase. But this is where you are. Where do you want to be? You can look at it. You see it every single day. You're like, I want this relationship. I want this much money. I want to do this for my family. I want to travel here. You see it. You taste it. I've never met a person who doesn't know what they want. Right. Even if we, as moms, even, even as moms, when we did, we're like, I just want what everybody else wants. So everybody's happy. Right. We still know what we want. And so they look at it every single day and I go, great. Well, tell me one thing. If you're standing over here that if you did every single day, you'd end up here. Eventually. Tell me one thing. Nobody ever doesn't have an answer for that. They all know one thing I go. So let me just get this straight. You know what you want. You know how to go get it. So my question for you is, why haven't you done it yet? What's here? And they start naming things, right? They name, I just, I doubt myself. I'm afraid, I don't have time. All the things are the same, whether you're a billionaire or just getting started. The middle, I call this right here, in between, okay? This little valley right here, it's all the
SPEAKER_00:same.
SPEAKER_02:Billionaire, millionaire, the altinaire, right? mom doing nothing else other than momming, which is the hardest job in the world. Okay. Like they all have the same stuff in there. And, and I said, what we have to know is this gap. I call it the gap of crap. It's like total BS. Right. And the only way you get out of it is the problem is most people talk about that gap of crap all day long. I wish I looked like this. I wish I had this skill. I don't know how I am like adult version of the dog ate my homework.
UNKNOWN:Right.
SPEAKER_02:Like, it's inaccurate, right? And I go, okay, so let's just say you don't look like what you are. Okay, so daily, what do you do? You sleep, you eat healthy, you sweat every day. So if you do the antidote every single day, you're gonna love what you look like, right? I know I have seasons of where I'm like, I'm hot. I have seasons where I don't feel so hot because I liked cheeseburgers. So let's be honest, I know how to fix it. Same with your business, right? I don't know how. Well, Google, study, AI, there's an answer. And so I think when people start spending most of the time focusing on what they can do, that gap of crap turns into a gap of greatness. And it becomes exactly how you become what you want. And when you get there, there's not another gap you can't cross. And I just want people in an environment where people build up the gap and they refuse to allow you to even discuss the crap.
SPEAKER_00:So hear that loud and clear. Can you say that last line one more time? Because I want everyone to take that nugget with them today, please.
SPEAKER_02:I want everyone to refuse spending any seconds with people who will discuss your gap of crap with you. They won't. The people who care about you know it's there, but they talk about the things they need to be doing instead. And then they go do those. They mark those every single day. Like people are so much closer to being where they want than they have any idea. I watch people change their life in 90 days all the time. And I, Once you do it once, you can never unlearn that ability in yourself again. You can't, right? I know that I can be incredibly fit after kids, because I did it once.
SPEAKER_00:And she did a marathon, everyone.
SPEAKER_02:That was really dumb. That was my least favorite thing I've ever done. But the best mental thing I've ever done, probably. That like... I've never been a cheater, but I'll tell you what, those last four miles, I thought about it. I for sure was like, I could cut across this grassy knoll. No one would notice. It was the first time in my life I ever thought, where's the shortcut? And then I was like, this is the distance a car should go. What are we doing? Everything hurt and I'm dying is a real meme after that. But when you do things like that, That 1%, like when I tell people, I go, hey, listen, 1% of people in the world ever run a marathon. And I trained to do it in six months and did it. I was probably the slowest ever. However, I did it. So what else could you do that only 1% of people could do, but you could train for in six months? It was six months of my life. We crazy. Why do we think we can't do anything? We could do anything. I went from like zero running ever to to a marathon. I don't know if you call what I did running. It was like limping, but I did it. Oh my gosh.
SPEAKER_00:Just literally like, I was like, yeah, you go, you go. That's so great. Because it also goes to show just how important discipline is in all areas and how that can also help you. Cause there's obviously, I'm sure there are moments still in your life where you're like, I don't really feel like doing that thing that I got to do. Is there ever a moment? All the time. All the time. Yeah. Cause I'm like, tell me the truth. Like, is it, I tell people I'm like with me, they're like, gosh, you must just love working out or you must just love. Yeah. And I'm like, not all the time. Sometimes I'm like, dude, get off of me. Right. But I'm like, but this is where I'm at. Right. And so, so, so you're telling me that sometimes it happens for you too.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. You know,
SPEAKER_00:what's
SPEAKER_02:interesting. So when I first lost a whole bunch of weight, I had a dear, dear friend, very famous human for being healthy, call me. And he was so direct and he was like, I want to call you and congratulate you, but I'm not going to. And I was like, okay. He said, I just want to warn you. He said, there's never going to be a day that your old physical attributes don't come knocking. And he told me this and it stuck with me ever since. And he said, just know the devil comes daily too. And I was like, ow, but that's a real friend, right? To say, I love you. Congratulations. But just remember, it's going to be hunting you. Your weaker side's hunting you daily. And when we can do better and we don't, we got to remember, right? So what has to happen to you daily? What disciplines do you need daily to not let even if you're not a faith-based person, it doesn't matter that your, your weaknesses, your dark side comes knocking daily too. And it's a real thing that I don't think everybody talks about. Yeah. It's hard for me every day. Still. I last night, my daughter was like, it was a hard day. And she was like, I think we should have cake. And I was like, fine let's do it right and we we laughed we both took a bite and then we put it away we're like we don't really want cake we just want the action of doing something naughty because we're frustrated and so it's it's it still comes daily in business in life for me but you you much quicker are able to shut it down
SPEAKER_00:100 and i love i'm so thankful you shared that because i also think you know for people like you and i a lot of people can look at us and say wow you're full of joy you're full of light you're full of love and happiness and good for you right but like i got you know i got demons and the devils at my door and whatever else it's like no no no no i got that too right like i have to talk self-talk every day and i've got to like you know right every day there's things that come through and i think for each of us to remember a lot of it's what we focus on as well, right? Like, do you feel like that? Cause I mean, if you say that you're, you still have that, you know, knocking on your door sometimes or every day or whatever it is, but for you to be able to say no, or I'm going to take a bite and we're done.
SPEAKER_02:Does
SPEAKER_00:that feel like that? Yeah. Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_02:It's way easier. And it's way easier for you to be like, shut up. I know what that is. Right. And that that's the Ted talk. That's I have this belief. I said, our first thought is, Always lies to us. It's our old self. First thought is the habit and pattern you created when you didn't know better. Second thought tells you the truth, right? I thought I was going to die of cancer. I started Googling, researching, and I'm like, oh, 68% of people make it. Okay, so how could I be healthy? When I started focusing on that, I saved myself. And so I think when things pop up, old patterns run deep. And your first thought, I just quickly now go, oh, that was a first thought moment. Okay, second thought, right? And I think if the world lived by second thoughts, we'd sure have a lot of champions.
SPEAKER_00:You know? Oh, my gosh. Okay, so speaking of champions, you have three amazing humans that, like, when I think about you, like I said, I'm in the thick of the young age, and it's beautiful and wonderful, and sometimes I have, when people are like, how do you do it? I'm like, I have no idea, but I look up to people like Danelle because it's like, I believe that, like, if I keep doing this, it's going to keep evolving, right? I trust that. I have this deep, deep, deep faith, and I share that because I'm not, like, here or whatever. However, I want to know, when you look back, at yourself going through the tough part, the dark part, the rough part, when you look at that version of you and you see the version like of your kids, even what kind of, what feelings come through or like what comes through for you now? Like, what do you, what do you feel like?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. You know, you know, it's interesting because I speak for a living, right? I go on all these big stages and people don't believe that I still get really nervous. Like I still shake. like behind the scenes. I have a whole rhythm that, oh yeah, I don't take that responsibility lightly at all, right? Like I'm like, they are paying me big money to be here. There's, in the beginning it used to be like, hey, just affect one life and it'll be worth it. That was the weak version of me. Now it's like, nobody leaves without being changed. Like you have, right? So I'm like working very hard. So I'm still extremely nervous, but I tell you this because my intro story, my intro reel shows the story. And I do that so others know my story before I get up there and I don't have to spend all this time explaining it. But I also do it because I need to watch it right before I go out and talk to people because it reminds me. It makes me teary-eyed.
SPEAKER_00:I just got teary-eyed. I haven't even seen the reel, but I know your story and I'm just like, oh. I watch
SPEAKER_02:it and I am... internally moved of everything we overcame. And I remember even when the picture was taken that's flashing up there, what was going through my mind, who I was, how scared I was. And there's not a day I don't feel so fortunate that it gets to be me. And I do that so that I am fully prepared to be authentic, answer questions correctly, and not a false personified version of myself. I remember Um, I, I remember every step and I think it's, it's important. And I'm so grateful. I still look at my kids and I love those memories on Facebook. Like I posted today because. I remember like crying in my closet earlier that day when that photo was and what was happening inside of me and just going, I think I can, I think I can. I was like, I was like, you know, just keep swimming, Dory. That's been, that's been
SPEAKER_00:my motto. I feel seen.
SPEAKER_02:And I, and I feel like, so when you feel those moments, if you could just pause, remember me for a second and go, this is what I'm going to remember when I made it. And this is when I become the best, right? It's, it's, it's Mike who helped me work out so much. much. And when I wanted to quit in the gym, he would, he would always tell me like, okay, we got 10 reps. I get to 10 and he'd be like, no, now's when we start counting at 10 because you're almost dead and you can't do any more. This is when the workout starts. Yeah. Right. That's when the workout, I'm like, when the workout starts, I just finished the workout, you know? And, and it's the same in life when you're at your hardest moment. that's when the workout starts. And that's where you start developing this muscle that nobody can beat. And if you look at it like that, like I have now beaten so many of those moments, no one has the ability to hurt me, take me out, do anything to my advance. I could lose everything tomorrow, start again and be just fine. And that happened in those moments that you think are killing you. They're not, they're the most critical to your advance out of anything you've ever done. And so I kind of like laugh cried through most of my life. Like, this is so horrible. Oh my gosh, I'm gonna laugh at this one day. It's like snot bubble tears and laughing. It was like so ugly. Right?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:And I still feel that way when I see the things, but it's, it's the thing, that exact pain that made you want to talk to me that makes everyone else relate to me. And if I wouldn't have had that moment, I could have never helped anyone.
SPEAKER_00:Right. No, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Because it is like women like you, Lisa Nichols. I love her too. I love her. She's a wonderful human being. Yeah. There's a few other speakers that they were single moms and have just, it just, it's so, it's really beautiful to see when somebody takes the pain and puts it into purpose and then also gives back. Right. So it's, it's just a really wonderful thing. So I'd love for you to chat a little bit as you know, we're going to get to the close of this soon. Cause I keep these really, relatively short because most of my moms are like, you know, doing things while they're listening. Hopefully you're getting a walk. And I always tell them like, Oh, do this on a walk, right? Like get a walk in movement while you're listening. So what would you say right now is like the most exciting part of your life that you're so jazzed about that we can celebrate you for? Oh,
SPEAKER_02:gosh, my kids. Kidding, like, you know, cause I think when we're momming, we're like, I hope this all works out, but it's kind of like this, like, was that a good decision? Was it not? You know? And the relationship I have with those three and who they have become is, You know, Bella's leaving for Rome to play volleyball in college. My son, Seth, is getting recruited for basketball. My daughter, Sophie, is going to make movies, which is just a talent. And I, for those things, like they're all living their dreams. And we were playing a card game like three nights ago. And one of the questions was, what do you think success is? Yeah. And while you, you know, there were, there were a million questions, but they answered things like, we're so grateful you taught us how to be independent and live everything we dream. There is no other way. You know, we will discipline and love our kids just how you did us. You know, one of them was like, nah, some of it, some of it I won't. Right. But, but that they have reason behind that. It's not something they didn't like. It's like who they became and what would have helped. And that we still have these conversations and choose each other over phones and how they are to other kids. human beings. I got a text from another mom the other day that said, I'm so grateful for your son and what he does in my son's life. You know, it's all day, every day, the tears, the hard times. I'm like, it built these guys. It gave them the opportunities. It made sure they had a different life than I did and they will do it for generations to come. And so that's, that's what I'm most proud of.
SPEAKER_00:Wow. Okay. So you just, you got me teary again, but you also made me think about something that I teach is called the wave system. And it's about really just how do we be well internally and the ripple effect that we have. And so you just brought up something that just resonated so deeply of the ripple effect that you, like you have changed your wave, right? Like you've now shown up different in the ocean. And then the ripple effect is directly affecting your kids and everyone that, like you said, you get up on stage and you're not like thinking about the one person. And I get that. But you're doing this on a regular basis. So now what are you doing for you? Because my whole business is like, okay, we got a lot of moms that are high power. I'm like, women, can we run the world? Because maybe things would be a little bit different sometimes of like, you know, just the compassion that we have and the, I just mean from mothers, right? Like moms, we juggle more than five people at once all day long. And I don't mean that to put anyone down. It's just, it is what it is, right? Any mom I know will call me later after becoming a mom and they're like, man, I didn't know you really did this. This is so hard, you know? And I'm like, sorry, I missed your birthday. That's like, yeah. Yes, it is. Did we have
SPEAKER_02:a birthday this year?
SPEAKER_00:I don't remember. I always tell people like, I will make it to anything you need me at. Like if it's a funeral, if it's something hard, I'll be there. If not, I'm a low maintenance friend. Don't expect me at anything. Like I'm probably cleaning up poop or breastfeeding. Yeah. Mine are always
SPEAKER_02:like invite her, but she's not coming.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I'm like, I'm like, if we can, however, on that note, I think for any of us, self-care, you know, really is just so much deeper than what meets the eye. And at the same time, look, I get weekly massages and I think there's things that we need to do to really just nourish ourselves. What's some of the self-care tips, strategies, things that you currently do in your life that are either non-negotiable or something that maybe not everybody would think about that's self-care.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. Um, First of all, I think, you know, in the beginning I had a tendency to over self-care, right? And it was maybe depression. And which is weird, right? Now, it wasn't a lot of time, but it was like, you need to rest, you need to sleep, you need to write rather than get up and do things. So, so I do have a little rhythm that I do, but it's 90 days to finish what I start. So whatever goal it is, I have three that I do at a time. And I will finish but I finish with a reward in mind. And that reward is designed by me and my children for 90 days in advance and we make it align with whatever the goal was. So for me, my biggest self-care is travel. You know, I love the world. I love oceans. I love beaches. I love what you said about the wave. I want to hear your thing on that for sure. So every 90 days without fail, I don't care if people come with me or not. I don't care if they want to or not. I'm going because mentally I, If I do not, it hurts everyone I love. And so that's just a non-negotiable for me. Some people are like, you spend a lot of money on travel, you do whatever. They're trying to wrap their minds around it. I was like, well, there's a lot of things I could have, but that is what makes me a great human. And I dream up the next goals in this around something that is the size of the dream around the ocean around right like I cannot dream in my home which is funny I built dream homes and whatever it's just not where it happens for me right it happens when I can release and let it go ocean yeah yeah and then um you know that's that's probably a main thing I'm pretty good at massages like you and and those kinds of things um But also, I am super independent. And so I need a long time. And I think my daily sweats are, you know, some days I feel like crossfitting and being a beast. And some days I feel like F45. And some days I feel like hot yoga. And some days I sit in the sauna. But listening to what I need in that mode? Do I need to be a fighter? Do I need to be an athlete? Do I need to be calm? And knowing what I need is how I sweat. So that's kind of kind of strange, but we have to listen to how we need to feed ourselves. And for me, I try to air away from the tendency of letting myself sleep it off and I try to sweat it off in the right manner. And that seems to do the trick for my mind. My mind is the number one thing that I have to care for.
SPEAKER_00:Yes. Oh my goodness. Okay. So agree, agree. Love, love, love. And for those that are listening, book your trip. And also, I know Danelle said in the beginning of this, I asked her, I said, look, I'd love to you know, if we could give something to anyone that's listening today and you just so graciously were like, absolutely, you know, right away. Yes. Can you share with us what we talked about that you're going to be able to do? And we'll put this in the show notes. And if you're listening right now, if you don't already follow her in the show notes, we've got her website, we've got her Instagram, all the things. So make sure you go and click on all the stuff and go give some love. But yes, please share.
SPEAKER_02:Yes. So, um, Here's what I'm going to do. I've got a training for you that I want everyone who listens to this podcast to watch. It's entertaining. It's quick. And it's going to help you hit every goal that you have. And I want you to follow the system for either 30 days or 60 days or 90 days. I want you to work this system for one goal that's for you. It can be a health goal. It can be a business goal. I train a lot of entrepreneurs and CEOs and all their teams. The one goal, it works for anything. Watch the training. Apply it for yourself and ask me if you have any questions. Like it's a life-changing tool. When they say the millionaire maker, this is the same tool that I use to help CEOs make billions, entrepreneurs make millions. It's also the tools I use to save myself. And so this is all you have to do. I want you to text the word GRID, G-R-I-D. This is my grid to help you hit a goal to 970-970-970. 6 5 0 wait I'm double checking to make sure that I have it right this is how how silly I am oh my
SPEAKER_00:goodness no this is amazing and this is hilarious in the moment no wait everybody that's listening right now you're listening right now and I literally put her on the spot okay so here we go so okay 9 7 0
SPEAKER_02:yes 9 7 0 6 5 0 6 1 7 1 6171. Okay, you got it now. Yes. I couldn't remember the numbers. NPS, I say these numbers often. However, it's hilarious. It's mom brain. You guys have that once in a while? Tell me in the comments. You have mom brain sometimes too. I don't think there's always enough coffee in my life.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, yeah. Are you a mom? So I continuously have to reheat my coffee. I'm like, why is my coffee cold again? This is my third reheat of the day. no joke exactly at some point I just I'm like you know what like my daughter's like mommy again I'm like you know what fine I'm just gonna put ice in ice like
SPEAKER_02:I do it too that's exactly what I do I'm like this is ridiculous I and then I can't remember where I said it and so I'll make another one and then I go upstairs and I find it and I'm like oh
SPEAKER_00:I look everywhere and I was like okay did I put in the dishwasher where did I put it and literally today I walk out we're leaving and my daughter's like mommy it's It's right there. Like in a really random spot where I'm like, why? And then I'm like, oh, that was at 6 a.m. when I was in the garage doing a workout with the baby and then he was breastfeeding and I went inside for something else, right? Like this is real life. Mine's like by the dog
SPEAKER_02:food, the laundry, the kid's shoes, or in the fridge or in the microwave and I forgot to hit start.
SPEAKER_00:The microwave, the microwave, that's like my first go-to check for that. Actually, I'd love to hear from any of the moms that are listening right now because I know they're laughing like, okay, me too, me too, me too. Like, I would love to know where do you normally leave your cup of coffee? Yes. And where's the strangest place? That would be a funny story. I want to know. I want to know that too. We can make a fun little, we can make some Instagram real like collab.
SPEAKER_01:The
SPEAKER_00:weirdest place we put our coffee. So speaking of Instagram, funny, this and that, I love seeing you and Mike. Yes, always. All right. So always take a new client. So here we go. Maybe somebody's going to jump in and we're going to do this together. What is it like working with Mike? Is he as funny in real life as he is in his Instagram?
SPEAKER_02:It's funnier, funnier. I think you get to see like maybe a 10th of Mike. He's absolute joy, easiest person to hang with, travel with, laugh with. He is an absolute right.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I love that. That's so awesome. Well, no, it's just that it's just it's so beautiful to to watch all that unfold as well. And just to anything that I can do to support what you guys are doing and what you're putting out there, I want to please do. And last but not least, what is the biggest takeaway you want someone to get from this call today that means more to you and your heart and your intuition than anything else?
SPEAKER_02:I think probably this one message, right? All of us who would be listening today to your podcast because you're amazing, have a similar heart to serve others. And sometimes we feel like winning for ourselves is the wrong move, right? We have to serve everyone else first. So all I want you guys to do is make a list of the people you'll help when you win your biggest. I want you to visit it all the time and remember that if you don't win, those important people in your life lose. And That's not okay with us. And so the best thing you can do is really build yourself to that point, surround yourself with those people that you go, who loses if I don't win? No, I'm winning today. I'm just going to win the day, to win the week, to win the month, to win the year. And when I do that once, I can't forget how. And that's what I hope everybody gets today.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, okay. My tears welling up again. It's, I mean, this is such an honor and a privilege to have you here with me today. I really, I want to just tell you how grateful I am, Danelle, and for those that get to listen to this conversation and be a part of, you know, our funny coffee stuff, but also the real deal and the truth of where you're at and how you really had to go through so much, let's say, of the dirt to grow into these beautiful flowers and how you're paying that forward with people like me with people like the audience I have with your children with my children with like everybody that gets to be exposed to this beautiful growth that you have experienced that you share and I just want you to know that it is it is it literally is something that fires me up and lights me and anyone I'm sure that's around you up so much to the point where we're like yes let's go win so everybody let's take what Danelle is saying wherever you are today and Make sure you text GRID to that number and let's go win together and then share that love with somebody else. Danelle, I can't thank you enough. Thank you everybody for being on What's the Word.
SPEAKER_02:Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. You are incredible. I can't wait to see more of what you're doing in the world and thank you for all that you are.
SPEAKER_00:You're so amazing. Okay, everybody. Well, that's it for What's the Word today. I'm going to say goodbye, but I'm going to, Danelle, stay on one more minute because I just want to thank you. Okay. Bye everybody. What's the Word?