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Welcome to the Gentle Rebellion, where overwhelm is optional. Hello, hello, hello, how are you doing? Lovely to have you here with me. So this week I've got as normal, but it feels more chaotic in my head. Several things I want to talk about, but I've got to pick one. I'm still, as I say this, I'm still between two ideas, particularly inspired by yesterday's coaching session in the Gentle Rebel community. Oh, which one should we pick? Which one should we pick? Does it matter? What if I pick the wrong one? What if I don't do it justice? Right, let's do this one Mountains, mountains out of molehills.
Speaker 1:Let's do that one. I've done episodes before about how to turn a mountain into a molehill. That'll be a couple of years ago. If you want to check back, that'll be worth looking, because that gives us technique for turning a mountain into a molehill. But this week I'm just going to be really honest and talk about how I made a huge mountain, a huge mountain, out of a molehill, well, out of a situation which could have been a molehill had I chosen to see it that way. Let's put it that way have been a molehill had I chosen to see it that way. Let's put it that way, because it feels a bit judgmental, even as I say this, to say, oh Heidi, you just made a mountain out of a molehill. Stressy pants, stressy pants. That's a bit unfair. So here's how it went.
Speaker 1:I went to stay with my elderly aunt and she's lovely and I like hanging out with her. However, most of her relations are not in this country, so it's tricky. But she's fine, she does really well, she's thriving. However, she's also old, she's elderly, so you know she needs some stuff, help with stuff. It's not like she can do everything online, not for that generation. It's quite tricky. She has help, she has carers, there's all sorts of stuff around, so it's not just about me. However, when I go there, if I can help in any way, of course I'm going to do it. So I already knew that there was an issue with her losing front door keys and that it needed checking. So I was on it. I thought, oh, it'll be fine, because either there's a problem and it hasn't been resolved or I just go and get some more cut. That's okay, that's solvable, right? It's not that hard, as long as there's one door key, which there has to be because obviously the carers get in, then everything's fine.
Speaker 1:It didn't work out that way and I'm still kind of looking back at myself thinking how did I let it get to me? How did I make such a bananas out of the situation? Because I really didn't need to. And actually I'm hoping, as I tell you my tale, my sorry tale, you will laugh. I'm hoping you'll resonate and it'll make you feel better about yourself when you do this.
Speaker 1:If you still do it, I don't often do this anymore. This is, this is me when I was in stressy pants mode of being all things to everyone and you know, big career, lots of pressure, and then I burnt out. This is how it was all the time, but not at work. So at work I could just the time, but not at work. So at work I could just manage people really well, kick ass, get things done, and then at home, oh my goodness, I often turned into a raving banshee of stress because I was just suppressing the stress all day, compressing myself and then exploding at home. My poor partner.
Speaker 1:Anyway, I did it again. Oh my goodness, I haven't done this for years because I deliberately practice not doing this, so it's kind of embarrassing really, and I still don't really know how it got to me in that way. I'm still a bit confused, but I'm not going to overanalyze it, I'm just going to let it go. So here goes. Overanalyze it, I'm just going to let it go. So here goes. So basically, the issue of the door keys, which is solved by getting more door keys cut right. If that happens, it's fine, it's okay.
Speaker 1:Became, I just got involved in all the stress and it ended with, when I arrived home Sunday lunchtime I literally exploded into the door and I was aware I was doing it as well. This is what's interesting. So I was kind of like I'm not going to do it. If I say anything, I'm going to say it as a funny tale. It would be fine, but I didn't. I went in and just literally that everything came up about the whole weekend and all the befuddled stuff. And then I was watching my partner. It's like I could watch myself while I was doing it. I could see myself exploding with stress. It's like the stress was vomiting all over the kitchen.
Speaker 1:My partner's obviously had a really nice weekend without me, because he likes space, I like space. We give each other space Really important for us and he's obviously had this lovely weekend. He decorated the windows with these little autumn leaves. I don't, I think. I think we got them in america. I don't know what he's, I don't know he does these magical things.
Speaker 1:He transformed the house into this autumn decorated it was lovely and he'd obviously, and he was cooking dinner and he just basically carries on cooking dinner and he's walking to the cupboard and the fridge and coming back again and I'm part of me thinking you're not really listening to me, you're not really listening to me. And then I'm part another part of my brain's going well, of course he's not, because he just wants you to stop and you want to stop, but I couldn't stop. You know, it's just like watching this train ride. It was all almost like going. It was kind of like a split like this is what you used to be, like maybe this is what. So what's the gift in this for me, seeing how far I've come? There you go.
Speaker 1:Anyway, I'm basically just ranted at him for 10 minutes and then felt terrible and what I did by doing that? Because it didn't really it didn't resolve. Nothing happened. I mean, you could argue there were things he could have done and it would have helped resolve, and there are, but that's not how he functions and anyway, I don't really want to come home and try and resolve. There was nothing to there, wasn't? The thing is, there wasn't anything to resolve because the situation had been resolved, obviously before I'd left, because I'm not going to leave an elderly aunt without a key. So there wasn't anything to resolve.
Speaker 1:So I just felt this need to talk it through. But I wasn't talking it through. I was literally exploding stress at him which was just coming back at me, so I was just magnifying it. You know how you have one thought and then another thought and they're just like magnetizes and expands into this fireball of well stress which, so I created a mountain which I then had to climb down from and actually I felt stressed for the rest of the day. Then I mean, I did think, not as highly stressed because I did things to de-stress, but I still was holding it, and part of it was because I was then not happy with the fact that I'd then done that, because I'd increased the stress by repeating it as a story and it could have been a funny story. And when I've calmed down from it it will be a funny story In fact. Let's see if we can. Let's see if we can do that now for you. Okay. So this is what happened.
Speaker 1:So I arrive, there's one key and I'm like, and I don't want to go in there going, have you lost all your keys? Blah, blah, blah, because because that's I'm going to treat her with respect, it's her house. I'm not going to go in there as if I'm on a mission to to sort out a problem. I've gone to spend time with her because I like her company and, yes, she does need some looking after, but I'm happy to do that, but the main point is to just hang out with her. So I arrive and we get chatting and then I'm aware there's a door key issue, but I don't want to draw too much attention to it. I'm looking around seeing, oh, but I can only see one key and it's in the door. And then we go to go out and unfortunately, I can't find the key. And the only thing that's happened between me noticing there's one key and deciding to go out for coffee and at the same time time we can just get some more keys cut the only thing that's happened at that time is the carer has been and the key was definitely in the door and she wouldn't steal it. But where's this key? So I don't know what to do, because we need to go and get some keys cut and there's some other things we needed to do and we couldn't leave the house because we haven't got a key. And what I should have done with hindsight is sit down and just go. Well, that's weird, because if I'd done that, the issue would have been resolved completely. That's not what happened.
Speaker 1:I'm, then, on the mission of. I'm feeling the responsibility of being the only person in the universe to solve this problem, because it has to be solved, because the shops will shut and I won't be able to get a key cut. I'm going home on a Sunday, so there's a time limit here, right, and I can't leave her with only. Well, now we've got no key. So we can't leave the house because we haven't got a key. So then I remember. So I'm like basic, before I remember there's a key box outside.
Speaker 1:I'm basically gently turning the house upside down. So I'm not stressy pants turning upside down, because, first of all, that's not a good energy, that I'm not available for that energy, and secondly, that's really unkind. It's not my house, it's not my home. I can't just go. You know, sorting, rifling through everything. That's just rude. So I'm just gently looking and I'm wandering in and out of the room where my aunt's sitting. I'm saying that's weird. Can't find the key anywhere. I wonder what's happened to the key? Have you got any spare keys?
Speaker 1:By which time my aunt's saying, no, we definitely had some more cut last week. And I'm like, okay, that's good then. But I'm thinking, was it last week? Was it last year? Because sometimes she forgets and I can't see these keys anywhere. So if there are these spare keys, where are these spare keys, these magical spare keys that should apparently cut? So then I'm messaging her granddaughter, who is the other nearby relative, to say apparently you helped to get some key. Where are these keys, these spare keys that you've got? She doesn't get back to me until the end of the weekend. So that didn't help at all. So I don't know what to do. So I'm messaging. I'm messaging my cousin in America saying I don't know where these keys, I don't know what to do, which isn't helpful because she can't do anything. She's in America. That's why it's all down to me, right, you can see? You can see the pressure here was all down to me. So I'm turning the house upside down, without turning the house upside down.
Speaker 1:I'm then going through all the coat pockets, which I'm not entirely comfortable with but needs must. All I find is obviously tissues and dog the things you take for a dog walk, dog poo bags, dog biscuits, dog biscuits the normal stuff. There's nothing unusual. There's no keys. What do I do Then? I remember, ah, there's a key box outside. So I asked for the pass code, which I ought to know really didn't I? But I'd forgotten. And there's a key in there. I'm like, yes, there's a key, there's the one last key in the world. And I come in triumphantly and say, look, we've got a key, we can go out now and we can get some more keys cut while we go out for coffee. But I'm now down to the even more pressure. I'm the only person in the world who can solve this problem. It has to be solved today, because the shops will shut and there's only one key. And I am joking at this stage. I'm going no, you are not touching that key, it's the last key, you're not losing any more keys. So I'm putting the key in my pocket. So I'm kind of key At this stage. There's still some humor, right. But unfortunately there was another pressure happening, so you can see this collidence of stuff.
Speaker 1:So, also, what was going on is my aunt's having trouble with her bank card. She'd been out for lunch with a friend and it didn't work. And it was her turn to pay and she couldn't pay, which isn't much fun. It's not nice, right, not terrible, but it's not good. And I can't leave her without a front door key and without a bank card that works, and the bank card can only be sorted by her. So somebody has to help her make the phone call to the bank or go to bank. Well, there aren't any banks left, right, so we can't go into a bank because they don't exist. We would have to go into the centre of a city. She's had two hip replacements. This isn't going well, right, and it's Saturday afternoon, probably not going to be open anyway, right, so it's not. This isn't going well, so we're going to have to phone.
Speaker 1:Now, I don't like making phone calls and I also don't know to banks and things like. It's so boring, it's just. Oh, I get, I just get cross. They're the kind of things I procrastinate about, so I've got to suck it up. But then I'm like, well, it's not my, I can't do it. Will she remember the details she needs to access her account? I don't know. And then will she be able to explain it in a way that they understand? How well is this bank set up to deal with an elderly person? I don't know. So I do the first bit, I get her through until it tells her what to do and then I hand it over. So we're through.
Speaker 1:We're talking to somebody. She can't understand this person because they do have a strong accent. I'm struggling to understand them, to be fair, but I'm letting her handle it. She's a grown up. I'm not going to make her feel smaller, but it's tricky. So I'm there to help.
Speaker 1:Anyway, the first guy we speak to says right, we're going to have to cancel the card and send another one, and I'm in the background going is that really necessary? Because she won't have a card until it arrives. You know this is concerning. I'm not. I don't live near enough by, so I'm like oh my goodness, can we just sort this today? And we need to leave because we have to go and get this key cut before the shop's shut. Pressure, pressure, pressure. I can see some element of superhero rubbish going on here. I'm the only person who can sort this. Pressure, pressure, pressure Anyway. Then the call gets unexpectedly ended. Whoops, we can all do it. This isn't necessarily about being 87. This can happen to anyone, right? So I'm like, oh my goodness, so we're gonna have to go through it again.
Speaker 1:Me who likes to procrastinate and avoid these kind of phone calls, got to go through the whole thing again. I force myself to do it because I realise right now this is the best option. I might not be the only person I expect the caring, the carers company that has people who can help with this as well, but at in that moment I'm just like suck it up, heidi, get it sorted, man up, so we get through again. We get another person, also with a different but very strong accent, and we go through the whole thing again and he doesn't really understand what we're saying. He doesn't really understand the situation. The card is working sometimes, but not all of the time. So this isn't much fun. So then I, I just interject and say who I am and blah, blah, and then they, they do the whole security thing so I can talk with her there and that's good. I was impressed by that. I thought that was good. And then, anyway, we get it sorted.
Speaker 1:It turns out I didn't know this. Did you know this? It turns out that I knew I knew about the. So you know this. It turns out that I knew about the. So in England they've raised the contact less thing from a day, from like 50 quid to 100 quid or something. But I knew that you could set it to what you wanted. But what I didn't know was that online shopping counts as part of that limit. So she'd had a food shopping delivered and then it had taken most of it, so she couldn't use a card. Wow. But unfortunately, what should have happened in the shop is it should have come up with an option to put your pin in, but it didn't. It just put up some scary error message. Goodness me.
Speaker 1:And anyway, she's 87. This is really hard, right? I mean, it's hard enough for most of us when we're busy and overwhelmed, but when you're elderly, all this tech is just too much. It's really, really hard. Anyway, so it turned out all we have to do is go to a cash point and unlock. No, we don't even know this. Know this? Apparently it. No, I thought. We then sorted it and then he said if it happens again. You go to a cash point and then you go to the other services and you can sort it out, right. But I thought, okay, so well, now we're going into town to have a coffee to get these keys cut. And I thought, if we go to a cash point and check this way of doing this, then at least we'll know what to do next time. So that's what we do we set off, we take the new little dog off, we go.
Speaker 1:Now, obviously somebody's had two hip replacements and is 87, doesn't walk that fast, but I'm okay with that until I'm on a mission to get this stuff sorted, which I really really want to do. So, to start with, I'm really patient. I'm actually I'm reflecting this that I was really patient and I was and I was genuinely okay with this. But first of all, we went to the key cutting place and the there's two shops next to each other doing this and the first one's shut and I'm thinking, no, no, no, no, this, no, this can't happen, this cannot be happening. I go in the other one and they say, oh, we can't do that because it needs a special machine, and they're closed. Uh-oh, can't solve the key problem.
Speaker 1:In that moment I'm just like, oh well, then something good's going to happen, something good, it's all going to be fine. But good's gonna happen, something good, it's all, it's all gonna be fine, but it's not great, is it not great? Not particularly comfortable leaving my aunt without a spare door key. What if she loses that door key? And also that was the door key in the key box in case of an ambulance. Oh no, it's not going well, it's not going well, it's not going well, it's all getting a bit much.
Speaker 1:So then we go to a cash point and the cash point doesn't seem to have the instructions to get to these other services. The only thing it can offer is reset the PIN. I'm thinking, no, we can't do that. There's no way she's going to memorise a new PIN. That's just not. That's not happening. So I don't press any of the buttons. But she withdraws some cash. So we know the card is working, the card's fine. So I'm thinking we've done it, we've done it. So we go to get a coffee and I am, I'm happy, half the major problems have been solved. Right, it's okay. So we do that. And then we go to pay for some dog stuff in the pet shop because she's got a new dog and the car's refused. Oh no, the problem is not resolved. It's not resolved. It says too many pin tries, which is weird because she didn't get a chance to do any pin tries, but anyway doesn't work. So now I've got two problems again no keys, no bank card.
Speaker 1:I'd argue these are pretty vital things. Now, if I'd not been on such a mission to solve everything like a superhero, I could have thought of all of the other options to this issue. For example, she has carers. I'm pretty sure you can pay them to do extra things like go shopping, go to the bank, sort all this stuff out. So you know, now I'm out of the stressy pants mode I can see all of the other ways of doing this. She also does have a granddaughter, but the granddaughter is very, very busy studying and working. But you know there are other options and we do have one key. So it's not.
Speaker 1:It's not a complete disaster. It just feels like a disaster because I care very much and my aunt is old and vulnerable in some ways, but I can't see any of these possibilities in that moment. I can only see kind of a bit of a disaster. So I think, right, well, I'm at least helping her sort her money out, because that matters. She needs to be able to pay for things. There's things she needs to be able to do.
Speaker 1:So I Google the bank and there aren't any banks. But I think maybe we need to go to this particular bank's cash point. Maybe it's only on these particular cash points. Now I'm saying this, I'm like, well, of course it was never going to be this, but in my head this is the only solution. So I Google where there is this bank's cash point and it's 10 minutes away. So we go and do this and it turns out the machine doesn't exist anymore. I literally had built myself a mountain to climb and I just kept putting rocks on the top of it to climb because obviously this was never going to be the case. Now I've shrunk this mountain to a molehill.
Speaker 1:I can see this was all nonsense and that the entire escapade of driving somewhere and going around in circles trying to park very near to a cash point which actually doesn't exist anymore, with an aunt who just doesn't want to apply for a blue badge so we can park nearer, although I don't know if there were any disabled spaces. But anyway, all of that hilariousness was pointless because, of course, I mean I know banks have closed down and it's a bit of a pain, but they still need their customers to be able to do things. So there's no way that, in order to sort your card out, you have to drive God knows how far in order to get to a particular brand of cash point to sort out. I just don't think it doesn't work that way, does it? Anyway, I just, in the end, go well, that cash back point I have to do.
Speaker 1:So we go to this cash point. It's worded differently. We find the other services, we do what we need to do, everything's fine. And then I'm like now you have to test this card. We, this has to be done.
Speaker 1:But she's got the dog and she's she's getting pretty tired because she's been dragged around to a lot of places and walked further than she normally would with these two new hips. So I go in and just buy something for 49p with her card, and then everything's fine and I'm in this jubilant mood of yes, we've got that one sorted. And then we I mean we do laugh on the way back and she is saying I'm so glad you're with me, because when you do these things on your own. You get really upset and I'm this is fine, and we have lunch in the pub and everything's good, apart from the keys. And then we get back and I think, okay, so I couldn't get the keys cut. They may or may not be some spare keys cut. I don't know where they are, but there's still a chance we can save the day and find the rest of them.
Speaker 1:So I start looking in all sorts of other places for these keys and then in the end I message my cousin, who's in America, so she's asleep. And then I go to sleep and I wake up to a message saying have you checked the key box? So there's a place to keep keys? Oh my goodness, I didn't know that. If I'd known that this is another key box, if I'd known that. So, so it's just how people organize their house, right? So it's just a tidiness thing. Oh my goodness, I don't, I don't. And then I forget about the message because I receive it early in the morning, and then I'm looking for keys again.
Speaker 1:This is what happens under stress, isn't it? You just don't think clearly. Everything's inefficient. It's insane the amount of time I spent looking for keys that weekend and all the time the problem had been solved. There were already new keys cut safely, put, tidied away, ready new keys cut safely, put, tidied away. And if I actually think now, if I had sat down calmly and just allowed the stress to go, allowed myself not to see it as an emergency, then actually my aunt would have remembered where she put the new keys Right and that would have been it and we wouldn't have had to walk. We walked 1.2 miles, according to my phone. That's a long way for her at the moment. She was knackered and it had.
Speaker 1:I mean, it was fine in terms of like we were laughing about it, but it was exhausting because I was worried about her. I just wanted to do these things for her because I love her and I just I didn't do it in a stressy point way at the time because obviously she's there and I don't want to alarm her and she doesn't want me stressed and we like each other's company. But it was stressful. I felt the weight of responsibility, but I didn't need to because I wasn't the only person who could solve it. It would all have got solved anyway. There are other people who can take responsibility for it and I didn't have to sort it all there and then it just didn't have to happen that way. I could have done it differently. I could have chilled out a bit and thought about it, and it could have just really been going to the pub for lunch, going to a cash point and pressing one button. That would have been more fun. So that was interesting.
Speaker 1:Why did I get so stressed? Why? Why did I get so stressed about it? Well, I can see that it's to do with loving somebody who's vulnerable and wanting to look after them. I can see that it's about not wanting my cousin in conscientious, highly driven, big hearted type of person thing that I just go at things intensely like a bull at a gate. I want it sorted now. I can make things better.
Speaker 1:So it would have been fine if I had let it go on the way home, and I thought I was, but I wasn't. I wanted to come home and talk about it. Why did I want to come home and repeat the story, don't know. Did I want to be told that everything would be okay? Did I want to be told I'd done a good job and I was amazing? I really don't know. But in doing so, what I actually did was increase the mountain, because the whole thing wasn't a mountain, it was a molehill, it was just normal stuff. That happens. It happens to all of us.
Speaker 1:So you could say, say, well, as you get older, you get more forgetful and you're more vulnerable, so it's more important, but actually to all of us having a working bank card and a key to lock our door. They're pretty fundamental things and losing them or them not working properly has a big impact on us. They are things that need to be sorted urgently. However, there were other people urgently. However, there were other people who could have helped. There were other solutions and also the key thing that had already been solved, but right under my nose were three spare keys and I was unaware of them. I couldn't see them. How often does that happen? It's like the hidden ease thing, isn't it? That wasn't a problem. It wasn't even a molehill. It was nothing. It was a tiny, tiny molehill of just reminding her where she keeps her keys, or reminding the carers where she keeps her keys, or something reminding somebody who could help. It was nothing. What a waste of energy. That's not how I wanted to spend my weekend with my aunt.
Speaker 1:The rest of the weekend was great. We caught up, we talked, it was lovely, but that wasn't good. It wasn't good for me. I was very tired afterwards and the reason I was tired was I had taken too much on Adrenaline, had spiked, gone into stress mode, probably loads of cortisol going on, all sorts of rubbish, and that just takes time to work its way through my body and for me to recover. I know this because I lived on that for years until it did me in and I was wondering why I was tired all the time.
Speaker 1:So the good thing about this is that it gives me a really clear, if slightly embarrassing, story about what happens when I revert to my old patterns, which doesn't happen. I can't think of a time it really doesn't happen. So it's interesting and I know my mind desperately wants to go. Why did you let it happen? You have failed and all that judgment. But I'm just, I'm not going to bother with any of that. What if it happened? So that I could see very clearly just how far I've come? What if it happened so I could observe myself behaving in a way I used to behave and how utterly silly it is? What if it's all for me? And what if it's also for you? So me owning up to being miss dressy pants at weekend, but being honest about the effect it had and how I increased the effect. So I magnified the effect by bringing it home, ranting it all out on my partner and keeping that stress in my body and my head, going over and over it.
Speaker 1:So much there isn't there. There's so many little tweaks all along the way. There was. There were opportunities to do things differently by seeing things differently, but the only way I can see things differently is by allowing the adrenaline and the cortisol to seep back to normal levels, which for me means pausing, noticing, noticing that I've gone into emergency mode and noticing that, even when, arguably, you could say it is an emergency, you could say that because it was important. However, being in emergency mode didn't help solve it, which means that maybe it wasn't a real emergency, because there are times, aren't, you do need to act really fast, but that this was not one of them. It made it worse. So there you have it. That's what happened to me at the weekend. Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1:It's also interesting because I've also heard myself saying things like I had a really stressy weekend, but that's not true. It's not true Overall. There were lots of. If I listed out all the things I did, then most of the weekend was not those things that I've just described to you. So labeling it as a stressy weekend is unhelpful, because then it becomes rehearsed in my memory as that stressful, which then means it's just. I'm increasing it again. I had an eventful weekend where I accidentally went into emergency mode unnecessarily, and I can see the consequences really embarrassingly clearly. Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1:Anyway, I'm not going to end on that note. What I'm going to end on is this yesterday I received some flowers unexpectedly in the post with a card saying just for being you. Wow, that's what I'm going to end on, because that's the kind of thing I want to be saying. That's the kind of thing I want to hear myself saying. Those are the stories I wish to repeat. However, for you, I'm sharing this one in case it helps you shift out of stressy pants, emergency mode into more effective ways of being. Thanks for listening, please do share, please do subscribe and, if you're on Apple Podcasts, if you scroll they've made it really hard to do this, but if you scroll right to the bottom, you can leave a review which helps other people find it, and I would be so grateful. Thank you, have a great week.
