"I'm turning __ and i'm not where I thought I would be"

Have you ever felt that way? then listen to this and feel better today.

Jackie from Intermittent Fasting Foodie has inspired me to try OMAD or eating one meal a day and i am loving it so far!

Gin Stephens is the other awesome lady who inspired both of us, check out her book Delay, Don't Deny and her other book Jackie from Intermittent Fasting Foodie has inspired me to try OMAD or eating one meal a day and i am loving it so far!

Gin Stephens is the other awesome lady who inspired both of us, check out her book Delay, Don't Deny and her other book

Transcript

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Hey guys, Natalia Schneimler here. I help boy moms have a better relationship with their sons and themselves by teaching them the tools how to manage their mind so that when anything comes up in life, they know exactly how to take care of themselves and their kids. Hey guys, how are you doing? I just got back from a little trip with my oldest son and we went to visit my parents in Ontario for a few days and we went to a hockey game. He's a big hockey player. He loves to play hockey. And I'm now a crazy hockey fan. And it was really fun. The Leafs, Toronto Maple Leafs won. And we spent the whole weekend with my parents. Went to the CN Tower, which is like the tallest tower in Toronto. Did a couple of touristy things. It was really fun. We just saw my brother, the cousins. So it was really so special just to have that one-on-one time with him and my parents. Because we are such a big family, we just... There's just always so many people around. So it's just very special and rare that we get to spend one-on-one time together. So it was really great that my husband supported this and we had that one-on-one time. So that was lovely. And I wanted to share with you something about if you're going through the same thing. For example, if you're turning 30 or 40 or 50. And you have this thought that goes something like, oh, I'm turning this much and I thought it would be somewhere else in my life. So this is what I just coached my friend on, my client, my slash friend. And this is what I'm offering to you today is that if you're feeling like this, then you are simply not accepting where you are. Because you had ideas about what it would be like when you would be turning a certain age and it's different. So you're disappointed. You're just like, no, no, no, this is not what I planned. This is not what I imagined. And you're also maybe comparing yourself to other people at that age too. and where they are and again you think that you should be at that certain point just like some of those other people and if and if you're not and you're feeling a bit bad then this is my offering to you is all you have to do is start thinking about accepting where you are yep You haven't made this much money in your business yet. Nope, you haven't lost the 10 pounds yet. You can just say, okay, this is where I am. I'm working on my business. Yep, I am this much weight. I don't have the kids yet, for example, right? I haven't settled down, whatever it is. Just kind of like tell yourself, yep, this is where I am. And it might seem really hard in the beginning because you don't want to accept it. You're like, no, no, no, I just don't know. I thought I'd be somewhere else. So you just keep arguing with yourself in your head over and over and over again. And just you keep being stuck on the idea of what you thought it should be. So start shifting yourself from that idea slowly to the idea, okay, I'm not there. I'm not. Just like tell yourself, I'm not where I thought I would be and here's where I am. And yeah, you might have lots of different feelings about that. Disappointment, sad, you know, unsatisfied. whatever whatever the feelings are but that's fine process them feel them and start accepting it and this is where you are yes and it comes with a bunch of a whole bouquet of different feelings but ultimately once you have accepted it once you have felt all those feelings then comes a relief because you no longer have to pretend to be that somebody that you're trying to be. You're like, oh, thank God. I can just be honest with myself and people around me that yes, I haven't made it in my business as successful as I wanted to be. Or yeah, yep, I'm still overweight. So what? This is as good as it gets. This is me. What you gonna do, right? Instead, dreading seeing the people for your birthday and afraid that they're going to think oh no she still hasn't lost the weight or oh no she you know she still hasn't made it in her business instead of dreading seeing them instead of dreading facing the truth and not really wanting to see them the people for your birthday because you have not accepted where you are so instead of all that you're actually going to be a eventually, right? Once you do it at peace with where you are and you will enjoy yourself more and the people on your birthday because you'll just accept, okay, yep, yep, this is the mess that I am and I am embracing it, accepting it. I don't love it, but this is what you got. This is why I love the quote from that book by Viola Davis where she says, All I have is me and that is enough. You guys heard about that in another episode, but I love it so much because this is where we are in our life and that is enough. We don't need to be anywhere else. But of course that comes with the whole journey from denying it to getting there. That takes time and effort. It could take you a moment just hearing this and then realizing, yep, this is it and accepting it. Or it could take you a whole month. trying to resist it and really not wanting to accept it. And actually, you know, you could be really, really upset. Like, you know, the journey to accepting it could be super upset, super frustrated, super angry. And then after you really feel it out, then you're like, come to terms with it and say, and you know, it always is just, basically coming to terms with it for yourself. Like you don't no longer have a conflict in yourself. Yep, this is what we got. It's not great. I don't love it in this specific area, right? It's not like the whole thing, but whatever thing that you don't think that you're matching to what you thought it should be, whatever that part that's off, that's the part that I'm talking about, right? Because you have your whole life. There's so many aspects to it that are great, but you're probably like had a checklist. By the time I'm 30, I'm going to do this, this, this, this, and this, and having all that, right? So if you're off on one point, you're just going to be zooming in on that one point. So basically, just knowing this is where I want you to start. I don't want you to rush to accept it right now, but just knowing Think about it this way. I am not accepting where I am. Okay? And this is also just like the episode that I did about what's the opposite of when you're comparing yourself to other people. This is it. When you're comparing yourself to other people, you're not accepting where you are or who you are. So... Just tell yourself the truth. I am not accepting this. I don't like this. This is not okay. This is actually, I do this to myself a lot. I'm like, this behavior is not okay. This extra fat over here is not okay. I'm not accepting it. I'm not accepting it. No, no, no, no, no, right? So just start there. All right, guys? I love you all so much. This is why I'm sharing this with you. So you can take these little pieces, tiny pieces from my life and use them for yours. All right, guys? Have a great day. Come see me on Zoom. We can chat and make your life better today. Feel better today, okay? And that will trickle into all of your relationships, okay? So go to my website, www.coachingnatalia.com. Sign up for a free session and I will see you on Zoom. Love you.

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Bye.