2 wrong trip ideas, trust the process

Are you struggling finding an answer to a problem either to you your health problems or relationships or work well I was struggling with finding an idea for a trip and this is what happened to listen to the episode to really see how this can help you with your problem.

Sometimes, we can only discover what we truly want by first exploring and rejecting the wrong options, as the process of trial and error helps clarify our desires-whether it’s choosing a trip destination, a job, or any important decision. So, instead of getting discouraged when things don’t feel right, embrace each step as part of the journey toward finding the right answer, and don’t give up even if it takes time.

Jackie from Intermittent Fasting Foodie has inspired me to try OMAD or eating one meal a day and i am loving it so far!

Gin Stephens is the other awesome lady who inspired both of us, check out her book Delay, Don't Deny and her other book Jackie from Intermittent Fasting Foodie has inspired me to try OMAD or eating one meal a day and i am loving it so far!

Gin Stephens is the other awesome lady who inspired both of us, check out her book Delay, Don't Deny and her other book

Transcript

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Guys, how are you today? I'm going to share with you something that I had a revelation about an aha moment that seems a bit obvious to me now that I am that I've had it, but it didn't seem to me obvious at all while I was going through it. So I want to share with you in case you're in the middle of going through your process. finding the right answer for you and it could be the right answer for let's say food or workouts or finding the right person for you or finding the right job for yourself or finding the right living situation whatever answer you're looking for right now I hope I'm hoping the story helps and so this is what happened this was a few months ago my My husband and I were planning a trip, just the two of us, to get away. We set up babysitting for four or five days and we could not pass up this opportunity. With our four kids, we just wanted to go away and really just rest and just somewhere to do something together, which we tried to make a point of doing that regularly. So we decided, okay, let's do that. But we did not know where we wanted to go and for the longest time I had no idea to the point where I just gave up kind of figuring it out and I just thought you know what let let my husband figure it out because my answer in my head was I don't know where I want to go I don't care I don't want anything and I think part of it was I was too tired from taking care of the kids And I forgot all the joys of traveling because maybe I was traveling with my kids. And I just did not have any desire to go anywhere. So I could not access that point of me where I wanted something, which was weird. So I let it go and I told myself, okay, let my husband figure it out. So he came back to me with three options. And... At first, I didn't know which ones I wanted. And as I kind of was talking to my husband and he picked one, as soon as he picked that one, I realized I do not want that one. And as soon as we moved on to the next, I also realized that I also don't want that one. And all of this happened in the space of like not, you know, one conversation. It happened in the space of weeks. So each conversation was spaced out between the other one. So it was not like a quick aha realization. Each time he would pick one and say, like throughout the couple days, I would be like, oh my gosh, I don't want to go there. We've been there and I just don't, this does not excite me. And so after the first two options, after, you know, him picking them, I just realized this is not what I want. And I want actually this third option that I actually am excited about. So my point here is that I could not have figured out that I want this third option without picking the first two options that were not right. And I did not know what I wanted until we picked the wrong options. So here's What I'm saying is that in the process of any answer, I mean, I know my mom probably already knows this. So as I hear my mom listening and she's like, yeah, yeah, yeah. But, and you probably already might already know this to a certain level, but I want us to expand our mind to apply to this. a situation we're currently struggling in. For example, my friend, she's looking, she's actually applying for a job right now. She had an interview and today she just heard back and they invited her back for another interview, which is super exciting. But all last week, I know she was miserable because she, I'm pretty sure she decided that they didn't want her to come back for another interview, which was miserable and she was depressed and we didn't even meet up. So If you're in a situation that's like that, that you are miserable and you think this is it and you're upset and all you can see is right now, I want you to think that this is just a step in the process of finding the right answer for you, which is Finding the other 99 wrong answers. It's super obvious now, now that I can look at the situation in hindsight, and it could be super obvious to you for other situations, but when we're in it, what if we expanded our mind in these terms that, oh, this is... And it was Corinne Crabtree's weight loss program, and it's awesome. And when I joined it, I actually had a breakthrough, and I told myself, you know what, this might not be it, but I'm willing to do this step to get to the right step. So whenever we start something, we might have the hopes that this is it. Finally, I figured it out. But so often it's not and we get so discouraged and disappointed that we give up. And I just don't want to do that. And I want to encourage you not to do that either. And just keep going and keep like accumulating the wrong answers until you find the right one. And that's my offering to you guys today that it's super trivial with the trip. You know, I didn't know what I wanted until we picked one. I'm like, oh, no. I don't want this one. We've been there. Super boring. That was in my head. And I only figured out what we want by picking the wrong ones. So what if we do the same thing with our job? But that could take years, right? Because as for my friend, she's searching for fulfillment and she's tried a job and that could take a year. and to fully learn it, to fully explore it, to then find out that, you know what, this does not excite me. I'm not learning enough. I'm not thriving here. I want something more. I want more of a challenge. That could be a whole year for one step or more, right? So that's just the minimum. And that could be really frustrating because you just want to be done with the process. But nope, it's a process. So That's what I have for you. Don't give up. Think of it as just a couple of steps, wrong steps until you find the right one. And hopefully it doesn't take that long because I know we are impatient. All right, guys, I love you all so much and I'll see you in the next episode.