Unapologetically myself

Are you feeling bad you don’t like something?

Are you feeling bad that you said no to someone or are you apologizing for something hat’s just true about you?

Well, listen to this episode to work through it together with me as I share all the things that I am accepting about myself and no longer apologizing for be unapologetically yourself.

Jackie from Intermittent Fasting Foodie has inspired me to try OMAD or eating one meal a day and i am loving it so far!

Gin Stephens is the other awesome lady who inspired both of us, check out her book Delay, Don't Deny and her other book Jackie from Intermittent Fasting Foodie has inspired me to try OMAD or eating one meal a day and i am loving it so far!

Gin Stephens is the other awesome lady who inspired both of us, check out her book Delay, Don't Deny and her other book

Transcript

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Hey guys, how are you today? I am sitting in the car again, my favorite place to record for you. So I want to talk about this phrase that I heard that really stuck with me and made me think. So this phrase is unapologetically myself. And maybe I've recorded about this before, but here we go again. Just because I think it really struck with me and stuck with me. And I think It's something that we can kind of incorporate and practice. And I really thought that what does that really mean to be unapologetically yourself? At first, I've always thought like surface level, I thought that would be something that we do with our positive sides of ourselves that are things that we are proud of about ourselves. But then I really thought like what if they actually mean being okay unapologetic about parts of ourselves that we're are not proud of and I instantly had a list of things that I am not proud of and I started really trying to be okay with them and saying you know what that's me and I'm not going to apologize for it and some things I've gotten really good at that already and some things I haven't so I'm going to tell you a couple of them One of them is I actually started with a neighbor who wanted to get together and I just didn't have space in my life for that in that moment. And I felt bad about that. I felt like I should and I feel bad that I don't want to or I don't have space in my life. And so I really, really struggled with that one until I kind of gave myself permission to be okay with it and not apologize for it. You know, I thought maybe that's okay. That one, I think I've gotten really good at and decided that, you know, the perfect situation is happening and I don't need to be apologizing for it. Whatever happened, however my reaction was, was perfect. Then another one is, I wrote down, but this was a long time ago, so it makes me laugh now. I feel bad I don't like Halloween and that I don't like dressing up. And that's the truth. I didn't grow up with Halloween. I really could care less about dressing up. Even about the kids. Like, I really, yeah, I like the pictures of them in costumes, but not to a degree that some people actually love it. So... And part of me felt guilty for many years because I've been here for, I don't know, 25, 30 years, that being part of this culture and people loving it so much, I felt bad that I don't. But once I kind of heard this phrase to be unapologetically myself, I thought, well, maybe this is just myself and I don't need to feel bad about it. And you know what's magical about this? That I think I actually started enjoying myself more during Halloween and enjoying the kids more. You know, this is the best part. So try for yourself. Be more unapologetically yourself. Same thing with Easter. We're not religious. We did not grow up celebrating Easter that much in Russia or here. And I don't get me started on Easter. I've enjoyed this Easter a lot more than other Easters, and my friend Sharon and I always have a good laugh about it because she loves Easter, and I don't get it. Like, seriously. Chocolate eggs, for what reason? I don't know. And all these years, my kids were so little that I found it actually hard. I had to organize and take care of my four kids for a long weekend for no bloody reason. So, I don't know. And I had to go buy all these Easter things. And I just didn't feel it. I didn't get it. I don't want to do anything. And it's just not my holiday. But as I started doing this, and I kind of actually took off the obligation off of my head to do anything more than chocolate eggs. And I accepted the fact that I don't like it. I've enjoyed it more. Sharon sent me the pictures of the cookies she's made for Easter and I got inspired and I made cookies with my kids. We colored the eggs and I just started actually doing more of the Easter things and enjoying it more just because I accepted the fact that I don't like Easter. So it really works wonderfully. So try it. The other thing, what else did I write down? Um, that I am not apologetic for. This is just, I added today, I don't like making breakfast. Oh my gosh, you guys, I don't like making breakfast for my kids. I'm too sleepy. I'm enjoying my coffee. Leave me alone. And I, this morning, Out of nowhere, well, not out of nowhere, I asked them, do you guys want eggs and sausage and bacon? I already had some bacon made and sausage from yesterday, so I just made some scrambled eggs. And then one of the kids didn't eat the eggs, so of course they got cold, and then he just decided to throw them out. Well, I lost it. And I just felt like, you know, I took my time, made the breakfast, and you didn't even bother eating it. So there you go. That just solidified the fact that I don't like making breakfast. And my boys are pretty good at they can make their own eggs when they want to. They can grab granola. And I'm just trying to convince myself that it's okay that I don't like making breakfast. In fact, I've actually played around with the idea that it is my contribution to my boys to not make breakfast for them so they can make their own breakfast. There you go. I'm the best mother ever. What else did I write down? I don't like playing with my kids. And this is more in terms of... And that's more, I came to peace with that way back when the kids were little. And I think I just heard someone else kind of admit that they don't like playing with little kids. And I just gave myself permission to not like playing with them. And then I became okay with... Things that I did like, like reading them a book. So this last one I still struggle with. It is when I'm PMSing or I'm irritable because I really think I should be always nice. 100% of the time I should be happy, nice, and lovely to be around. So that one I'm still working on. Theoretically, I understand that that's not possible because we're human. But I feel really bad when I'm mean, when I'm irritable, when I'm annoyed. So that one I'm still working on. When I get it, I'll share with you guys. So what is it that you can do to be unapologetically yourself? What is it that you are apologizing for that maybe you can stop? Or you can just claim that, hey, I don't like Easter. I don't like Halloween. I don't like whatever it is, and that's okay. And then you're going to enjoy it more. I promise you it's going to be so fun. All right, guys, love you all so much. Have a great week, and I will talk to you soon. Bye.