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Facing Your Giants 2/7: You Don't Have to Fight Like Them to Win Like You. #TakeActionTuesday

• Derek H. Suite, M.D.

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Are you trying to fight your battles using someone else's weapons? 

In this powerful episode of The Suite Spot, Dr. Derek Suite continues our "Facing Giants" series by exploring the critical importance of authentic action. 

After naming your Goliath in yesterday's episode, today we focus on how to fight effectively by embracing strategies that align with your unique wiring. 

Drawing wisdom from the ancient story of David refusing King Saul's armor before facing Goliath, Dr. Suite reveals a profound truth: the most powerful approach isn't necessarily the loudest, flashiest, or most conventional—it's the one that authentically matches who you are.

Modern neuroscience confirms this through self-concordance theory, which demonstrates that we experience greater motivation and success when our actions align with our authentic values and strengths. 

When we try to adopt someone else's methods, our brains resist, but when we move according to our natural rhythms and strengths, our neurochemistry rewards us with increased clarity and drive.

Today's challenge invites you to identify and release the "armor" that doesn't belong to you—whether it's a job misaligned with your values, internalized voices of criticism that aren't yours, or expectations that create unnecessary pressure. 

As Dr. Suite powerfully states: "You don't have to fight like them to win like you." Sometimes the most transformative action is subtraction—removing what doesn't serve your authentic self so you can move forward unencumbered.

Join us tomorrow for "Win It All Wednesday," where we'll explore how precision, not force, takes down giants. 

Subscribe to our podcast and YouTube channel to continue this journey, and share with someone who might need this message in their own battle against life's giants.

STAY AMAZING! 

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Greetings and welcome Welcome. Welcome back to the sweet spot. I'm Dr Derek Sweet. As you know, I'm a board certified psychiatrist who specializes in high performance and, more than that, I love partnering with friends and beautiful souls like yourself who are on the journey about living their best life ever, fulfilling purpose. You're listening to the Sweet Spot, and here neuroscience, ancient wisdom and real courage collide to help us rise.

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So yesterday, on Making Moves Monday, we kicked off our Facing Giants series by naming your Goliath. Remember the real challenge that has been standing between you and your next move might be that you just didn't name it, you didn't identify it, because the first step in any breakthrough is having clarity. If you can't name it, you can't fight it, and that's what we covered yesterday. If you didn't hear yesterday's episode, please go back and listen. But look, now that we have named our giant, now that you've named your giant, let's talk about how you fight it. Today's message is simple. It's Taking Action Tuesday. Don't wear armor that doesn't fit you, okay, it's just that simple. Don't put it on and we're going to dive right into. The ancient wisdom gives us an example In 1 Samuel 17, verses 38 and 39, saul and David have a conversation and in that conversation remember, we're talking about David and Goliath here David says something that is extremely powerful.

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That led me to talk to you about the idea of not wearing somebody else's armor. In the ancient wisdom it said this that Saul dressed David, saul is the king and David has decided I'm going to go fight Goliath. So Saul says, hey, take my stuff. So he dresses David in his own tunic and David put on Saul's sword. But at some point David feels uncomfortable and he says I cannot go in these. And he took him off. King Saul was trying to help David, but he offered David a style of battle that didn't match David's wiring. The armor was too heavy, the sword felt unfamiliar and David knew enough about himself to say this ain't it, I'm not going in this. And you know that wasn't weakness, that was wisdom.

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And the neuroscience backs David up. In neuroscience there's a concept I want to share with you, called self-concordance, and that's what was happening with David and Saul here. In self-concordance theory, it means that you are far more motivated and successful when your actions align with your authentic values and your strengths. You see, when you copy someone else's path, your brain subconsciously resists, but when you move in your own rhythm, in your own style, in your own level of comfort, aligned with who you really are, in your identity, your brain rewards you with an increased level of motivation and clarity. That's the self-concordance effect.

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So, beautiful souls ask yourself today are you doing this thing? Are you facing your giant your way, or are you trying someone else's way? There's a quote in neurolinguistic programming that says this People are not broken. They're just in need of better strategies. Your strategy, my friend, has to match your story. What works for them might not fit you, and guess what? That's okay. That's okay. You don't need louder, you don't need flashier, you don't need stronger, you don't need to look and behave like this guy or that gal. You need tools that match your movement, that align with your action.

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On this, take Action Tuesday, real talk. David didn't walk away from the fight, he just walked away from the armor that wasn't his. You don't have to shout to lead. You don't have to hustle like someone else to be successful. You don't have to fight like them to win like you. I'll say that again you don't have to fight like them to win like you.

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Sometimes, the most powerful action, the most powerful addition you could make is subtraction. Take off what doesn't fit so you can move the way you're built. So today's challenge, my friends, is to ask yourself what armor have I been wearing that doesn't belong to me? Is it a job that doesn't align with my values? Is it a voice in my head that isn't even mine? Am I succumbing to just all these expectations passed down that make me feel more pressured? What is it that I'm wearing, that I'm carrying, that I've tried on? That's not mine. Take one step today and drop it. That's the advice here.

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On Take Action Tuesday. Sometimes taking the action might be taking something off, not always doing something to move you forward. Take something off, not always doing something to move you forward. Take something off so that you're free to move forward. Did it ever occur to you that you may not be moving forward because you're weighed down by things that you shouldn't even be carrying and that could include thoughts? So write it down. Take one step today to drop it. Write it down or say it out loud, and release it, because you move faster when you're not carrying what was not meant for you to carry.

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And tomorrow, tomorrow's win it all, wednesday, and we are aiming for the forehead tomorrow. Okay, we're dealing with giants here. We've got to know our strategies. We'll talk about how precision, not force, wins battles tomorrow, win it all Wednesday tomorrow. And how small moves, when aimed right, take down big problems, but first take off the stuff that doesn't fit you, doesn't belong on you. I'm Dr Derek Sweet and you've been listening to the Sweet Spot. You've got this. My friend, I believe in you. I truly do, and I'll see you tomorrow when it all Wednesday. Take care Now. Look if you like what you're hearing and this makes sense to you. Please subscribe to our YouTube channel here, subscribe to this podcast wherever you get podcasts, and look if you have a friend, a family member, someone that you care about, that you think could use this message, that needs to take action for whatever giant they're facing. It could be a legal problem, it could be're facing. It could be a legal problem. It could be a medical problem. It could be a relationship problem. Subscribe and share. Take care, bye-bye.