Wives Not Sisters
A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud.
Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.
Wives Not Sisters
Understanding Detransition: Real Experiences from Queer and Trans Voices
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In this episode, Alix & Kayla explore stories from people who have transitioned and later detransitioned, unpacking the deeply personal, emotional, and complex experiences behind those journeys. From informed consent and puberty to trauma, social influence, and the evolving language around gender identity, they discuss how identity formation can shift over time—and why holding space for nuance matters.
Through anonymous community stories and open conversation, they reflect on how gender, sexuality, and self-perception intersect with mental health, relationships, and the pressure to “figure it out” too quickly.
This is a compassionate, layered conversation about gender identity, detransition stories, queer community belonging, and the reality that self-discovery isn’t always linear.
00:00 – Intro + Life Updates in Nicaragua
02:00 – Hyperfixations & Mormon Memoirs
04:20 – Marriage “Would You Rather” Game
15:20 – Today’s Topic: Transition & Detransition Stories
16:00 – News Story: Malpractice Case & Gender-Affirming Care
20:00 – What “Detransition” Means
22:00 – Informed Consent & Medical Decision-Making
26:30 – Why This Conversation Matters in Queer Spaces
30:00 – Anonymous Story: Transition, Fertility & Identity
32:00 – Puberty, Body Changes & Gender Confusion
38:30 – Trauma, Identity & Transition Motivations
44:00 – Social Influence, Language & Self-Understanding
48:00 – Internalized Misogyny & Gender Expectations
52:00 – Does Transition Resolve Dysphoria?
55:00 – Therapy, Root Causes & Identity Exploration
58:30 – Growing Up Tomboy & Gender Expression
01:02:00 – The Complexity of Identity & Final Thoughts
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