Wives Not Sisters
A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud.
Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.
Episodes
43 episodes
I'm A Lesbian Married To A Man
Can you still call yourself a lesbian if you’re married to a man?In this Quickie episode, Alix & Kayla unpack one listener story that immediately sent them into a spiral of questions, nuance, and identity politics. After a Sister Wif...
Late In Life Lesbians
What does it actually mean to be a late-in-life lesbian… and is there even such a thing as “too late”?In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most requested topics from the Sister Wives community: realizing you’re...
Does My Ex Girlfriend Listen To My Podcast?
In this Quickie episode, Alix & Kayla spiral into one of the most accidentally hilarious conversations yet after realizing an ex might be lurking on their podcast TikTok. What starts as a simple “wait… does she listen?” quickly tur...
We're Getting Divorced
What actually counts as a divorceable offense… and what’s just relationship growing pains?In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most complex (and very requested) topics from the Sister Wives community: divorce. ...
Hooking Up With Your Bestie's Ex (Amanda Batula, Ciara Miller & West Wilson)
What happens when loyalty, love, and timing all collide… and someone crosses the ultimate friendship line?In this Quickie episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of the messiest (and most talked-about) relationship dynamics: hooking up w...
WLW Strap Stories
What happens when you ask the internet for their most chaotic strap-on stories?In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of their wildest listener-submitted topics yet—and you guys absolutely delivered. From TSA agents pulling harn...
My Girlfriend Has Only Ever Been With Guys
What happens when great chemistry meets… not-so-great sexual compatibility?In this Quickie episode, Alix & Kayla respond to a vulnerable listener question about navigating intimacy with a “baby gay” partner who’s never been with a wo...
Masc And Femme Beauty Standards
What does it actually mean to be masc or femme… and who decided the rules?In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most unexpectedly heated topics in the Sister Wives community: masc vs. femme beauty stand...
Aspyn Ovard is in a Throuple
Alix and Kayla are back with a quickie—but this one spirals into a very juicy conversation 👀In this episode, they dive into the internet drama surrounding a longtime influencer whose life took a major turn—from young marriage an...
Girls Hooking Up With Girls
What actually counts as sexy… and what’s just awkward?In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into a spicy (and very funny) conversation about lesbian sex, flirting, and the little moments that can either turn up the heat or comp...
WLW Couple Reacts To Heated Rivalry
There’s one very gay show everyone seems to be talking about right now… so naturally, Alix & Kayla haven’t watched it.In this quickie episode, they dive into the internet’s latest obsession — “Heated Rivalry.” From th...
Bi Girls With Husbands
Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most requested topics from the Sister Wives community: the experience of bi women in relationships with male partners. After asking their audience for stories and questions, they unpack everything from “all...
Becca Moore & Zoe Boyd DM Drama
What’s worse: sending a cringe DM… or fumbling someone you already married in your head?In this Quickie episode, Alix & Kayla break down the viral DM moment between Becca Moore and Zoe Boyd that divided the internet. When a flirty (...
Understanding Detransition: Real Experiences from Queer and Trans Voices
In this episode, Alix & Kayla explore stories from people who have transitioned and later detransitioned, unpacking the deeply personal, emotional, and complex experiences behind those journeys. From informed consent and puberty to trauma, ...
Cat Missal is Gay & Tell Me Lies Finale Reaction
Did the Tell Me Lies finale actually deliver… or are we all just emotionally attached to chaos?In this quickie episode, Alix & Kayla break down the Tell Me Lies finale—spoilers included—and unpack everything from to...
WLW Travel: What It’s Really Like Traveling the World as a Married Lesbian Couple
Why does queer dating sometimes feel like relearning everything from scratch?In this episode, Alix & Kayla talk about the strange, funny, and sometimes emotional reality of navigating attraction, identity, and dating after stepping o...
OMG…My First Time Hooking Up With Another Woman
What is it actually like the first time you’re with a woman?In this episode, Alix & Kayla talk about first times with girls — the magical ones, the awkward ones, the confusing ones, and the ones that quietly change everything. Drawi...
The Body Image Episode: Millennial Women, Diet Culture & Gender Expression
What does body image look like when you’re queer, partnered, confident… and still unlearning everything you were taught?In this episode, Alix & Kayla get deeply honest about body image, desire, and self-perception inside queer relati...
I'm WLW, But I'd Never Date A Woman
In this episode, Alix & Kayla unpack one of the most controversial queer takes on the internet: being attracted to women, sleeping with women, but not wanting to date or marry them. Is it preference, internalized homophobia, avoidance, or j...
I Lost 50k Followers When I Came Out
What happens when you come out online—and thousands of people decide they’re done with you?In this episode, Alix & Kayla unpack cancel culture, internet outrage, and the emotional, financial, and personal fallout of coming out public...
Should Straight People Be Allowed In Gay Spaces?
In this episode, married queers Alix & Kayla debate one of the most polarizing topics in LGBTQ+ culture—from gay bars and lesbian parties to allies, baby gays, and the future of community spaces. It’s thoughtful, funny, deeply personal… and...
What's With All The WLW Breakups Lately?
Why does it feel like every WLW couple is breaking up right now?In this episode, Alix and Kayla unpack the recent wave of WLW breakups—from emotional burnout and attachment styles to visibility pressure, queer dating dynamics,...
Cheating Stories in 3, 2, 1…
Is it cheating… or just crossing a line?Alix and Kayla kick off the new year from Nicaragua by playing "Cheating or No?" —breaking down gray-area relationship scenarios like shared playlists, DMs, flirting, emotional affairs, and ...
Is This Female Friendship or Gay AF? Untangling Homoerotic WLW Dynamics
Are homoerotic friendships a canon queer experience? 🌈Recording from their new studio in Nicaragua, Alix and Kayla dive into homoerotic WLW friendships—the kind that blur the line between “best friend” and “something more.” From red/...
Chosen Family, Holidays, and Saying No to Expectations
Family, queerness, religion, and the holidays—this episode goes deep. Alix and Kayla open up about navigating strained family relationships, missed weddings, religious rejection, reconciliation, and what it really takes to protect your peace as...