Wives Not Sisters
A playful, unfiltered podcast where a married wlw couple dives into the chaos of modern relationships, pop culture, queer lore, and all the little things most people wouldn’t admit out loud.
Wives Not Sisters is a queer-led podcast where marriage meets humor, honesty, and a little too much sharing but in the best way. We’re here to normalize nuance in relationships -- from romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between- and to create a space where deep conversations and dumb jokes can coexist. Through real talk, playful debates, and just enough oversharing, we’re building a community that’s reflective, ridiculous, and radically relatable.
Wives Not Sisters
Bi Girls With Husbands
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Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most requested topics from the Sister Wives community: the experience of bi women in relationships with male partners. After asking their audience for stories and questions, they unpack everything from “allowed cheating” dynamics and open relationships to the emotional reality of choosing monogamy when you’re attracted to more than one gender.
The conversation explores the complicated feelings that can come up in long-term relationships—like grieving parts of your identity, navigating attraction to others, and figuring out what honesty actually looks like in a committed partnership. They also discuss common assumptions people have about bisexual women, including threesomes, monogamy, and whether partners feel threatened by same-sex attraction.
Through listener submissions and personal experiences, Alix & Kayla break down the nuances of bisexual identity, relationships, and the messy gray areas that rarely get talked about.
01:40 – Marriage “Myth or Truth” Game
04:00 – Living & Recording in Nicaragua
06:30 – Relationship Habits & Fight Dynamics
10:20 – Today’s Topic: Bi Women With Male Partners
11:00 – Is the Word “Female” Offensive?
12:00 – Questions From the Sister Wives Community
14:00 – Do Bi Women’s Partners Support LGBTQ+ Rights?
15:10 – The Stereotypes: Threesomes & Open Relationships
16:20 – Listener Story: Open Marriage With Women Only
18:00 – What It’s Like “Turning Off” Part of Your Identity
21:10 – The “Open Energy” of Being Single vs. Married
23:30 – Grieving a Lifestyle or Version of Yourself
26:30 – Attraction Outside of a Relationship
27:50 – “Allowed Cheating” With Women
30:00 – Do Men See Women as Less of a Threat?
39:30 – When an Old Flame Reaches Out
41:00 – Why Waiting Before Responding Matters
45:00 – Honesty vs. Protecting Your Partner’s Feelings
53:30 – Is It Okay to Talk to Friends About Relationship Problems?
55:00 – Deal Breakers in Relationships
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