3 coaching questions to restart fading motivation.

We explore how the questions we repeat shape our focus, emotions, and results, and how a small shift in wording can turn stuck energy into practical motivation.  

Drawing on coaching sessions and real-life experiments in fitness, business, and habit building, we show why your brain reliably hunts for whatever you ask it to find, even while you sleep, and how to use that fact to your advantage.  

We walk through a simple 3-question sequence that helps you get back on track with your goals. 

Along the way, we unpack common traps like asking blame-heavy questions that generate worse stories, and we offer easy reframes that shift you toward agency, clarity, and consistent progress. 

You’ll hear practical ways to install “question habits,” plus a lightweight system for tracking proof that your new questions are working.  

Whether you’re aiming for better health, stronger leadership, or a calmer mind, the process is the same: ask better, act sooner, and let repetition compound.  

If this resonates, follow the show, share it with one person who needs a nudge, and leave a quick review so more people can turn curiosity into change.  

What’s the one question you’ll start asking today?  

Transcript

Welcome And Purpose

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Hello and welcome back to another episode of Change Wired Podcast. My name is Angela Shorina. I'm your host. I'm your partner in change, personal and collective transformation, your health and high performance executive coach, and just someone who's really passionate about human potential and learning, figuring out how to do this more effectively, at scale, more consistently, so we all get to live as our best selves, and by doing so creating an amazing world with uh this just assumace to it, uh, astonishing ourselves at what we can accomplish. So, this podcast is all about learning how to grow, how to change, how to consistently get closer and closer and closer to our potential to our best selves. I want to start with a quote today's podcast. I was thinking, how do I introduce more quotes? But before we begin, I'd like to invite you to subscribe, to share this podcast. If you've been listening to this podcast and finding value, please do share with one person, please do share one insight, mention this podcast, rate, review, one action that helps this podcast to reach more ears so we all get to create more human potential in our world. And now back to our episode. Tony Robbins has this amazing quote: The quality of your life is the quality of your questions. Just think about it. The quality of your life is the quality of your questions. If you start your day by asking yourself, well, why am I so unlucky? Why am I always uh feeling like crap? Why am I so unfit? Why am I so dumb? Why I can't figure it out? Why things never work out for me? Why does the do I always get myself into this situation? Why, why, why? If you start your day asking yourself these questions, guess what's gonna happen? Your mind will find answers. Your questions are like directives for your brain to get out there and explore the possible reasons or answers to these questions. But if instead you ask yourself questions like, okay, I wanna get into the best shape of my life. If I were truly committed to doing so in the next year, let's say, what would I do? How would I set myself up for success? What do I do differently from what I do now? What does keep getting in my way? What do I keep putting in my way? If I were truly committed to do so, what how would I start my day? How would I finish my day? What I will not allow into my day? Another example. If I were to uh become absolutely committed to getting into the best financial and business shape of my life, what would I do differently? What would I start doing today? How would I organize my calendar? What will I uh allow myself to do or not to do? What people will I uh meet more of, less of? What will I read more of, less of? Questions are very powerful in that way that they direct your mind, your attention in the direction where the question goes. And so if you do want to develop a certain area of yourself, if you want to change a certain area of yourself, or you want to change things in the world, you gotta ask more questions about that so this magic happens. Even when you're not actively asking these questions, your brain keeps working on the answers. You probably heard about these examples when people would be working or in some problem and you know consistently asking themselves questions like how do I figure out how do I do this? And they would be battling with this the dilemmas or problems. And then when they go about their day, or sometimes they wake up in a dream or in the morning, and they're like, ah, I got the answer. Guess why that happens? Because your brain keeps working on the problems, on the questions that you state for yourself, and the more you do it, the more you repeat that like the same question or the same sequence of questions, or the more you inquire about certain area of your life or performance, the more you the more of your resources, the brain will dedicate to that. A good example, I I'm doing a lot of uh experiment with advertising, and certain things didn't work yesterday. I'm like, well, I wonder why that worked then, but not this time. And I was thinking about that, thinking about, thinking about that, and then it just went to bed. And I was still thinking about that, going to the gym today, and no, I did not get the answer, but I was thinking about that, and I talked to a friend about that, and then he started talking about something which which he does online, and then all of a sudden I'm like, ah, that is the answer. And if I were not asking myself this question, that would never happen. So that's another power of the questions that you keep asking yourself because you keep talking about that, you keep thinking about that, and people will start giving you answers, or also start telling you about that. So, questions have this power again of attracting to you the answers that you need or the solutions to get to where you want to go. There are three questions that I ask all of my coaching clients all the time. Whenever we are working on any change and we sometimes go through periods of not having it all figured out, or being stuck, or feeling some resistance, like my clients would say, Yeah, I want to do that, I want to get fitter, or I want to improve my feedback giving skills, or I want to improve my communication skills, or I want to start feeling differently, more confident, that we would uh talk about things and then we would um together brainstorm a few practices, and then they wouldn't do it. And one of the things that I use this all the time is the sequence of these three questions to get through this resistance and that stuckiness and get moving. What I ask is uh okay, in regards to this area like leadership, fitness, confidence, are you where you want to be? Like right now, are you where you wanna be mentally, physically, emotionally? And very often they would say if that's something that we are working on. No, not really. Then the next question is Is what you're doing right now working for you, for where you wanna go? You just said it's not where you want to be. So where do you want to be? And is what you're doing right now working for it? Like the way you do things, is it working for that? And then the next question is if not, what will you do differently? Because we all understand that in order to do things to get different results, we need to do different things. So this sequence of questions helps the person help might help you to reflect on the fact that, yeah, you know, I actually am not satisfied with how I have things, how things are. Okay, you're not satisfied with you, so is that what you're doing working for you then? You're like, no, it's not working because I am not satisfied where I am. Okay, well, if if that's not working, what will you do differently, right? Are you happy with where you are? Is what you're doing working for you? And if not, what will you do differently? And to sum it up or to make the active response or action-taking muscle stronger so you get right into action, I would ask the next question is okay, what's one action that you can take right now, or as soon as we stop our session, that will move you closer to where you wanna be, right? Because we already just asked questions about you're not satisfied where you are, you know you gotta things differently. So what's one thing that you can do to move towards the direction of your aspiration? So questions. Questions is the quality of our lives, and the kind of questions we ask will define what our brain will work on and how we're gonna feel and what we end up doing differently, right? You might meet a person just during your day, and they might look at you, you know, in some maybe ambiguous way, like kind of weird, maybe positive, maybe not so positive, you're not sure. And so if the question you ask is, uh, what's wrong with me, uh, that they looked at me that way, it's gonna create a completely different train of thought. If you were to ask, oh, I wonder what's on their mind, how's their days going? They're looking kind of weird. Maybe I can help. You see, that would create a completely different train of thought, of action. And I think the mastery of self, one of the big pieces of that is noticing those questions that you routinely ask yourself. I don't know about you, but I very often would think through this question somewhat subconsciously, and the only thing I would notice is the after-effect, the feeling. Like, ah, you know, I'm not feeling that confident. But then again, once you notice the feeling, you might ask, well, why is that? And by asking and letting yourself sit with that with the question, you might discover that, uh, I actually was thinking about that, and I was asking myself this question. And if you're not getting the right kind of solutions or answers in your life, in your business, in your fitness, in your relationships, you might ask yourself, what kind of questions am I asking myself on a regular basis? Maybe those are the wrong kind of questions, and that's why my brain gives me the wrong kind of solutions. So maybe it's time to redesign the questions and start asking them regularly, consciously, right? You might set up an alarm on your phone or snooze emails to yourself to get reminders or on a regular basis about certain questions that you want to ask yourself more often in order to move a certain area of your life forward. So, to sum up this episode, let's get back to the quote by Tony Robbins the quality of your life is the quality of your questions. And so the question to you, to your listener, is what kind of questions do you need to start asking yourself in different areas of your life where you want to create different results? What kind of questions do you need to start asking yourself to start getting different answers? And not only that, I always say that these questions, like some questions, but this specific sequence is the best way to boost your fading motivation for any kind of change. Are you where you wanna be? Like not me, not the world. Are you where you wanna be? Is what you're doing working for you? And if not, what will you do differently? And then to get into action, what one action can I take today to get myself moving in the direction where I wanna go? So the quality of your life is the quality of your questions that you ask yourself consistently. And if it doesn't come naturally, naturally you don't have good questions. You can ask Chat GPT, you can borrow questions from people smarter than you when you really allow them to unveil their internal dialogue and just try it out. Try for a week this experiment. Ask yourself on a regular basis different kinds of questions. You might borrow this three for boosting your motivation every day. You might actually set up a sequence of emails, send yourself literally seven emails or as many emails as you'd like, and set them up so you get them received every morning for the next week with those questions. Are you where you want to be? Is what you're doing working for you? And if not, what can you do differently? The quality of your life is the quality of your questions. Guys, hope this was useful and you already started brainstorming what kind of questions and when and and how you can make it consistent, what kind of questions you can ask yourself to move your life, your business, your relationships, your fitness forward. So start asking better questions consistently and be blown away by the difference in results that that habit creates. Thank you guys for tuning in. Thank you for listening. Until next time, keep growing, keep changing, keep asking better questions. And till next time, get closer to your best self. Talk to you soon. Get wired for change.