Heartsing Podcast | Future Self | Meditation | Weight Loss by Namaslayer

Ep #37: Follow Your Heart - with Mary Beall Adler

July 16, 2021
Heartsing Podcast | Future Self | Meditation | Weight Loss by Namaslayer
Ep #37: Follow Your Heart - with Mary Beall Adler
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Quantum Field, Heartsing, Epic Adventures, Biohacking, Future Self--what don't these two talk about?! LIVE from Colorado! Slayer & her Badass Aunt, Mary Beall Adler. Mary is the the CEO of Georgetown Bagelry, a Creativity and Human Potential Coach, mother of six, biohacker extraordinaire and wears many more hats, including cycling the coast of Africa in 2022. Kick back, grab some tea and hang out as they talk about how to create change in our lives and step into fear! Let's light this B up!

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Do you know that there is something magical inside of you, but you don't know how to uncover it. The Heartsing podcast is dedicated to just that helping you put yourself first and figure out what lights you up. I'm your host, Addie B AKA Slayer of Namaslayer. And through my journey of losing nearly a hundred pounds, uncovering the magic of my soul and building the life of my dreams.

I'm leaving no stone unturned in the process of self discovery, and I'm here to share it all with you. So let's get started. Welcome to the Heartsing podcast. I have a special edition here for you today. I just happened to be in beaver Creek, Colorado with one of the people in my life has always been a huge inspiration and more like a sister to me,

but she is my aunt Mary Beal Adler. And I've asked her to do this podcast because she's really has so many amazing stories in. I want her to share with you some of the wisdom I get in our 1 million Markopolos when we're not together and inspire the inspires. So much of what you hear me do and put into action on the podcast from biohacking to Dr.

Joe Dispenza, from embracing my creativity to following my heart and being a successful female entrepreneur and everything in between Mary has been a source of infinite knowledge to me and continues to do so. She's not only my aunt, which should make it raising enough to want to listen. I mean, there's like two crazy field, which is the most world. Oh yes,

my friends and, and there are some more, we we've reproduced, but let's dive into this special edition of the podcast with a spiel, witches, healers, and light warriors here to live in love and create magic in our worlds and hope it touches your world and your heart in a special way. Today. I am going to read you Mary's bio,

since she will never tell you all this about herself. And you need to know a little bit more maybe than we just share blood. Although that's fun. I'm Harry is a successful entrepreneur, author, creativity coach. She owns and operates the Georgetown Bagelry retail and wholesale bakery in the DC area with a bachelor's degree in English lit from university of Maryland attended Antioch law school for a couple years.

So, you know, she can advise me on all things as well as what you should know from this, right? But she turned the bakery internal award-winning success with no formal business training. And as a mother of six in a veteran in the business space, Mary's also sought after expert in women's leadership and work-life balance issues. She has a heart for philanthropy,

cycling, yoga, meditating, breeding, playing the piano, teaching meditative spin. Most recently Mary's big adventure she's off on is working to buy the whole coast of Africa. It's called tour deaf freak, which is, is just amazing. I kind of want to jump in there since Mary and I were like, what do we want to talk about today?

And we're not scripted at all you guys. So this is just going to be us talking from our hearts. Mary is really, you're just really good at doing things and creating magic in your world and creating a life and doing something epic, like tour Def freak. And what you do on your bicycle is, is just big. Can you tell everyone how I even got into this and got this idea and how,

how does a dream is happening? I'm begging at the bio. I'm like, oh, I need to, we need to update the bio. If you don't mind. If I just step back a little bit kind of synchronicity in my life is my name. I wanted to go to business. I've always been able to make a buck. You know,

as hard worker, we grew up in the Midwest kind of part of our DNA after undergraduates, I decided they were advertising. They wanted creative people in their MBA program at the university of Maryland. So I thought, well, that's me. You know, I'm always doing something creative. I'm always working, doing business. I could felt like I could run anything.

I was always making a good bit of money, just being creative, went in. And I took that M cat and scored negative. Literally you could have guessed and scored better on that test to get into the graduate school of business. And it just dumped, found any. I was. So I cried, you know, I thought it might that's stupid.

And I thought, well, I'm not going into business. What can I do? And I looked at the opportunities and the things that were going wrong in that moment. I guess that's one thing is looking for the opportunity and adversities long story short, many years later, probably 25, 25, 30 years later, my initials, which I use for creativity and human potential coaching,

our MBA, my married name is Mary Beal Adler. And I have an MBA from a different perspective. They do run a business. I am a city. Oh, that just brings me a certain confidence in listening to my heart and looking for opportunities when it seems like there are none like zero nada. And I just love being an MBA. You know,

a little diversion there, a little squirrel. No, I'm glad to, I'm glad you did squirrel away. Well, no, I think this is great. What you said about finding possibilities in adversity. I think that's something that I really work to, to teach now and how, and lead to help people find because that's where we get stuck. We fail and we stop the letting I didn't pass the test to get my MBA,

to stop me from becoming this CEO and running one of those As much as possible about business and you know, they're different. And I think that's for me a real feminine energy. I can do it from heart and from a whole different energy center than, you know, prefrontal cortex, which the majority of our society I think has done. It's been exciting to have the bagel shop,

to play with and experiment with that approach to business. Yet at the same time, you know, for me, I had a real block with numbers since I scored negative on this thing. And I never was a math whiz, but, but I, I just sat next to all the, you know, my forums and business things. I'd sit next to the CPAs and accountants.

I made them my best friends and I swear, I Picked up And you know, it's like, I, I kind of to this day, it's one of, it's a bit of my dark side. I am, I can read a spreadsheet, you know, I can do all of that stuff, but I don't do it like everybody else. Cause I look deeper Well,

and here's the thing that is, that is in that story is we are told these are the paths. These are the only ways to go do these things. You need to get the MBA. You need to go to school. I tell my kids, this I'm like, you don't have to go to school to be, you can decide to be whatever you want without that in a lot of ways,

like I've learned more taking online courses in the past three years than I learned through my entire college education. And I went to school as an adult where I was really excited. I had like straight A's because I was like all Addy time. Right. I was like 28, 29. I went in later. And so I think I was really dedicated. And I think so many of us get,

we let our dreams be stopped because we didn't get in that school. Or, you know, we can't possibly be that thing because like, it's like the unicorn effect like, oh, I can't lose weight. Like Addie did because she's, you know, often in RV adventuring or something like that, where that has nothing to do with it, you know,

A great mentor of mine, Mark Allen from new world library. I said, well, you know, everything in its own perfect time for this or something better, it's a different kind of energy coming from that approach. The learning is available. If we are in that, then we get into the fast Beautiful. The learning is available. If we are,

I always say the knowledge will come when you need it, when you're ready for it. Right. It'll be there. It'll find you almost. Okay. Absolutely. And when that happens, you know, that unexpected, those magical moments when it pops into your life, this knowing this experience, this whatever, for me, that's what I know. I created it from the field.

Why not? And they want to know more about the field because you're probably going to bring that up. I feel the quantum Field I've dug very deep into Dr. Joe Dispenza's work all of his books. And I am one of his advanced meditation. Students attended all several of his, a week-long retreats. So the meditation practice was actually, I got into meditation via added TM just kind of took it from there with things that came to me,

synchronicities in the universe that I couldn't ignore. And I just kept learning more and more. The idea is working through energy centers and having the ability to elevate my self to higher emotions becoming nobody, no one, no thing, basically entering the pump field, putting my thoughts there. And the energy comes back to me to create whatever I want to create in my life.

And not just things, but experiences. Healings is pretty amazing to witness spontaneous healings. Once I actually was part of that whole experience, I couldn't ignore it. So I do spend a lot of my energy go in there, you know? Yeah. Well, and that's what I've been talking about. I think most recently about signs and being when I'm,

when I'm in flow, right. When I'm connected, when I am in alignment, the signs in the doors and the universe. And you'll say to me, you're creating from the field, right? And at Chopra we call, you know, Deepak calls it the field of infinite possibilities, right? Same quantum field. It's like the same place where we are creating from it.

Make no mistake. I see Dr. Joe on my path soon too. I'm like, I'm finishing where I'm at now, but you've definitely inspired me. And I've listened to a lot of Dr. Joe Dispenza stuff too. And it's really, it's just all so magical when you start to dig into this possibility of the oneness, which I think is what you're talking about there.

Like when I talk about the unity consciousness, right? Where we're one where you're no one, nothing, nobody, and this is where we create from. And when you allow yourself to be there more and you spend less time doing, but then more things happen in time is infinite and we're creating from this place. Yeah. Yeah. Know, I think it's really important to remember that there are many roads to the same place to be available for our own unique ways of learning.

Our ways are different, but they converge to, you know, one that's And we learned from each other in that, right? Like sharing back and forth and not being closed minded to the possibilities of, oh, what's that, you know, what's that you're talking about. What's that new thing I can learn, you know? And it might not be knowledge for me at that time,

but it's a tickle in there. And then it'll come from me. You know, it's like the true darks Mary's wearing on her face right now. These glasses, you guys, these true dark glasses, which block all the bad rays Actually feel the differences in my body. And my sleep is like off the charts. And a lot of it is circadian rhythm and protecting my eye.

Talk about why sleep is so important. I think that's the, it's so key. It's, it's key to weight loss. It's key to being in alignment. It's, it's key to feeling good. And I'm really, I'm, I'm really working to try to get more. I don't get very good sleep. I know the darkness I have, the eye covers even have earplugs.

Now I'm doing the sleep mode. Like I keep just like adding things in trying out, you know, There is a magic number for screen time lights. So you put on the blockers, these are partial day blockers. So if I'm in front of the screens, I usually wear them. But there's blue blockers, the red ones at night, two hours before you go to bed,

you put those on, it, tells your, your eyes, tell your brain that you're winding down and it's time to sleep. Not to mention it helps your, your eyes. Yes. And these are the true darks we're talking about you guys. And yeah. So I got the day in the night and I, I have been able to improve my sleep when I'm at home,

but I think there's still, I'm still also, you know, so like The blue blockers, the total blockers make a difference, but also turning everything off a few hours before you go to bed. If you're going to read, read from a book is still, if you have light, you know, protect your eyes because as part of the rhythm of your life,

and also the earlier in the evening, you eat the magic number is three hours. This is ideal to not have any food whatsoever before you go to bed and then drinking 16 ounces of filtered water before you go to bed, you know, you think you're going to get up and pee more. You won't, you'll, it'll be pretty much the same as you ever do,

but it helps your body do what it does while you're sleeping, re re flush itself out and rejuvenate. It just gives it that, that advantage. Let's, Let's get back to dreams and do a biohacking episode, maybe another time, because we could go on about biohacking for like, right, right. Let's shift back and kind of, cause I want to talk about how you create,

you know, because, and your signs, you like being open to seeing, like knowing and being intuitive, listening to your heart and your body, because you're so good at those. Right? And I think creating boundaries in your life, this is where a lot of women, I work with struggle too, because you have a lot of demands on your life.

You know, you're, you're married, you guys have kids, you have the business, you're traveling, you have the biking, you have all of these things going on. And yet you're manifesting so much in your world and creating time to get to the quantum field and get in tune. My priorities have shifted big time when I do, I spend,

you couldn't ever have told me, I'd spend three or four hours a day meditating, but I do. And I integrate how I meditate with other things and I've become really good at it. So that I, and this is practice, you know, it's just like showing up for myself and starting and doing like walking meditation. I was preparing for learning about it.

And I thought, you know, I can read all that long, but I just need to start doing it. So I downloaded some stuff and I just got in nature and got up every morning and showed up for myself and started walking. And I can tell you, I, most of the time, I didn't feel like doing it. But once I took some action and just started moving,

then the sound comes on and I immediately go into trance now and be there be my future self imagining and visualize who I am at the deepest level of who I want to be. And what I expect of myself in the future defining the future is that 5, 10, 15 years, what does that, what does it look like? That's one, that's one thing. So like walking meditation,

laying down meditation, I'll do my B Beemer. Pete is a PEMF device for circulation's hallway on there, but I do blessing of the energy centers. I got to tell you guys, I think I've been using the Beamer. I'm like, I have to get one of these things. It's so cool. I do feel it. I feel my circulation better.

I've only been doing seven minutes on the lowest level a couple of times now I feel so good, but I've also been, I've also been taking a lot of time, which is what you're saying right now, too. Right? Like I've been taking, as soon as I made that shift, I've been telling you guys about that. As soon as I made that shift to putting so much time into myself and investing in my connection with me,

with my, I am with the universe, right. W however, we want to define it when I put more time in just being, you know, and I've been going to the pool and being in the sauna and the spa, and, you know, just being still in, quiet in those spaces and the Beamer in all of these things, I'm just feeling so good and so grounded in so many ways and having great conversation,

you know, being here with you in person and not having the Marco polo and Jonathan and us, you know, connecting with people that we can have these like-minded discussions with. And there's just energy. I mean, when we don't talk, he, it's just a great vibe, you know, you know, you're being supported. Yeah. Yeah. Well,

and that's how the sisterhood is too. Exactly. It really is. It's just a great thing. And the more I take time to strengthen my energy centers, shock rose, you know, and really embody those feelings, knowing what all of that is and visualizing the different emotions and actually naming the multitude of emotions that exist within me. And the real power is elevated emotions,

you know, higher, higher, above higher joy, higher love. That happens for me by really understanding all of the other emotions, you know, the dark stuff, because that's where the lights I come up, the light seep through. And that just brings me incredible joy to experience that I double layer things. I lay on my Beamer and I do a blessing up the energy centers almost daily and sometimes twice a day.

So how do you go about doing the blessing of the energy center? Is this where you picture, you, you do your picture of like in each energy center, as you go through is that I do that personally. I do have visualizations for each energy center and that's a powerful, I can actually do it on my own. So that's the beauty of using,

you know, having a teacher that really cares about learning the science behind why we do what we do. And the more we understand that, just the easier it is to transcend and be in trance and to heal and change from the inside out, Marrying the knowledge with experience, which is, you know, when we teach, like when I teach the primordial sound methods,

so much of it, only a fraction of what I'm instructing is the method itself. The rest is all knowledge, because at some point you're going to have these experiences. And if you don't have the knowledge to marry with it, then it becomes something different. And as you deepen your experience, like what happened with both of us with TM? I think we both wanted to grow.

You hit that point with your meditation, that you want to expand your knowledge more. We headed off on these different paths to expand it. You were expanding through Dr. Joe. Who's fascinating. I'm going to expand their NAS and Yeah, that, and also 20 years of sun, you know, Dave Asprey's place, I'm really going and spending a week up there.

Let's talk about Dave Asprey for a minute. Cause not everyone knows who he is or what biohacking is. And we've kind of mentioned him a few times. We call Mary the biohacker, by the way, she has two hashtags in the sisterhood and they are sparking Nadir in the biohacker. She is a biohacker extraordinary. Tell everyone what biohacking is and how you kind of got into it.

Well, first of all, Dave is the grandfather of biohacking. He coined the phrase that was adjusting your outside world and inner world to your best of event. That's basically it. So what's around you, your environment, what you put in your life experience and inside what you eat, how you heal your energy, that's it. You know, I was really surprised when I got into,

he wrote the book fast. This way you guys will hear me talk about when we did, you know, we talked about fasting and all of that. It's so multifaceted. It is so also rooted in a lot of ways in Ayurvedic science, you know, the science from 5,000 years ago, and Dave will talk about it too, you know, in the spiritual journey of the biohacking,

how science is being married to spirituality in this aspect. And it's really spirituality being that dive inside and sound healing and mantras and energy vibrations, you know, sound vibrations, you know, the, the biohacking, because it is all part of the universe environment where absolutely. Yeah, the sound healing is immense. I'm not deep into it. I do play,

you know, connected to a lot of musicians and things like that as kind of a different angle. And there's So many different ways to go in everywhere. And I have noticed like when we go to Rancho, Puerto and Mexico and my husband and I go about once a year and we go to the sound, meditation, sound, healing meditation every day.

It's just one of the most beautiful things. And as, as I've done it more and I don't do it a lot away from there, cause I'm doing all these other things, it's just, Heartsing an action. You know, I see things about myself that I can embrace or change or was insight through that second, You know, I got a,

I got a sound bowl, I got a singing bowl. It doesn't sing there. I got chime to finally, when I finished meditation, you know, and I'm like, oh, I can do that. Cause I just ding them Allen, but I got sound walls like beyond me. But I do love that. Like when I've been to like an aerial yoga and you're hanging the cocoon and then they do the sound bowls and they wash over you and you just,

and that's what like BJ mantras are too. I need to give you your mantra while you're here. Cause that's like a, that's like a energy sound vibration. Like some of the music Dr. Joe Lee, you know, those are all sound vibrations, right? Like, oh yeah. And it like get those different waves working in all of that stuff.

And our bodies can create this. And the sounds of nature. Oh, is on the chairlift. I don't know if I told you this. I think I did. It was so quiet up there. And I thought, listen to all these primordial sounds, you know, now that I have this awareness of what a primordial sound is, the original sounds and just the wind coming through the trees and like,

oh no, I'm so cheesy. Right. It's true though. It's magic. I'm out riding the Aspen leaves. You know, they like flicker in the wind. I swear. I can hear them. The whole heart coherence of mind, coherence, the bird start flocking. You, you know? Yes. Right. Oh, tolerant. What, what are your birds again?

My birds, the east coast are Redbirds. And probably because they stick out so much. I mean, I really notice them. They come and say hello, and it's just like, fascinating here. It's been these black, they're not really blackbirds or duct, dark blue. And I don't know what they're called, but they do. They hear me,

you know? Well, I told you I had my, I have my hummingbird twice. The same one when I was in heart coherence at, I was meditating the pavilion. And then again at the pool and she was so loud, like singing her wings were singing, like to get my attention, like to where I open my eyes and I would look,

and it was like, like Tinkerbell up there. So this isn't like just zipping all over. And I'm like, there's, there's my signs. I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to be doing right now. Having that, knowing right. That where you're connected to everything. Yeah. Everything and its own perfect time and place right here right now. Right?

Yeah. Beautiful. So on your bike. Okay. That says, well, let's talk about the bike because you are creating, I mean, you're going on this epic trip and I remember you first talking about this. Yeah. I'm going to go on this tour, Jeff freak. And I'm like, okay. All right. What, what is that?

And, well, I guess you're here. I don't have to tell everyone. I can just asked you Mary what's tour. Deaf freak. Yes. It's a cycling expedition race from Cairo to Cape town. It's basically Eastern Africa down the Nile. And I haven't immersed myself in the actual direction jet until I sent the GPS. When I have the routes and I put them into my garment,

then I'll look more at that. But there'll be time. Once we start to do all, all of that, my main main prep has been insight, work, human potentials stuff, biohacking B, having the ability to heal myself quickly because so many things happen on an expedition like this. This is four months of covering the country day in and day out on your bike with all different kinds of weather,

all different kinds of people from around the world. So I imagine one of the most challenging things is the group energy and everybody getting along and you know, having good days, bad days. And what does that look like? So I've really done the work to be able to, you know, sleep on the ground. Your sleep is rural. We,

we sleep in a little town, so you're riding all day. You get to, you get to where you're going and then set up your tent and sleep, you know, really making sure that I know how to get good sleep, hold presence and awareness for other people, things like that to really be a great group team member. That's been my major training.

Yeah. Yeah. Meanwhile, you're biking 80 miles like, oh, you feel like, oh, I just went for 30 miles. Right. I know you like to compare it to my swimming laps, but it's not even clear, Which have nothing, you know? So I know I get that. Okay. So 30 miles is nothing. Well in the mountains,

it's something. Yeah, It is. Yeah. We're like at 8,000 where we're up there And I finally feel like I'm breathing now, but it does, you do wake up and feel like you're on caffeine or something, you know, But toward Africa, I mean, how all of this happened was I look for, I like to be the best version of myself possible.

What does that look like? What does that mean? A big part of it is, you know, lightened my fire and lighting my heart. Things will come into my experience that I just can't ignore. And one was randomly, a woman popped up on, I don't know, something, maybe the tube for oldest, women's cycling all the continents and the Guinness world record.

I'm like, damn I can, I can win. I can beat that one. So that kind of, you know, like sparked me in the back of my mind. I'm like, well, I've gone across one continent and I can do, you know, and then I'm thinking how old I am. And then I, I looked at, and then somebody else mentioned a tour,

deaf freak and old friend that I've bred cross country way. It's just like, I couldn't stop thinking about it. I thought, well, I'll start there. That's the hardest one. From my perspective of all the continents, the United States, the way I did it doesn't count. It has to be north to south. So I just decided to do it.

And I signed up and I did, but I didn't sign up just for one. I signed up for the epic version, like all seven, it just lit my fire. And I had, So you signed up for all seven continents or you mean all seven countries? What do you mean it's continence, but I, you know, I'm doing Africa first,

so then like every couple of years, and then you have a lot of things to juggle, like family health, after being out like that, I know I will be a different person and just reacclimating to home and family and you know, regular, like how I decide to do things like this is, I know I will learn an extreme amount of valuable stuff about myself and other in the universe,

you know, other people. And I can bring that back and make a difference in lives. Yeah. And you know, people are, people are gonna listen to this and be like, oh, that's great, Mary, but you have the luxury that you can go and do all of these things. Right? Like, you know, everyone looks at everyone else's life and thinks this,

right. No, but they do, but they do, right? Yeah. Well, I had no idea how I, how I would afford to do this, or my husband would be like, you know, I mean, four months away is huge. So things like that, but I didn't think about money ever. I mean, when I,

when I took over my business, I was three quarters of a million dollars in debt. Okay. I, that was beyond my imagination. That was just like, oh my God. You know, like how in the world? But I knew deep, deep, deeply that I have a great product. All the only other couple of things I need to really have a successful business is financial controls and marketing.

So I put those things in place and very, very slowly, I didn't doubt, you know, the quality just, you know, step by step. Did it, What do you, what do you think stops most people from doing epic things in their life, Fear, fear, maybe I've had friends say like, how do you make a decision?

Like I said, well, I listened to my heart and what lights it. I can't ignore that because that's me, that's really how I become the best version of myself and people that are important to me will embrace that and help me fly with it and teach me what I need to know to be successful. I have like a whole slew of incredible people,

resources that I can go to for help and knowledge. And I just ask, So how can other people apply stepping into fear? You know, like how, how have you been able to step into fear over and over again, taken over a business, three quarters of a million dollar in debt? How much they got to have so much fear. I mean,

I know I wake up every day in fear and I talk about all the time. Right? Like I, I mean just, Yeah, go ahead. I think we all do it in different ways, but I look for the opportunity and I, I don't look outside of myself. I look in, and I really listened to my heart. And if that resonates,

that's a right. Right action. For me, it's been interesting because I've been with business stuff back in the day. I may have been doing it for a long time. It was all men. I just didn't have the wherewithal to play the games of one upping everybody, you know, and I just was honest and not for anybody else before myself,

but I had many people just not believe, but I felt really great about my integrity, you know, just basic needs. We're able to be. And you know, I was able to put food on the table for my kids. That was big. That was the, that, you know, that was like my main concern at one point, I mean,

I was a single mom and three kids Study And business that was in insurmountable debt. I thought now I looking at it like damn Right. Hindsight, right? Like when we're in it, it feels like Overwhelming, big, huge insurmountable. And where do you start? So number one, start with yourself and listen. But you know, we, we grew up with our mothers taking time for a spiritual practice.

So that was, that was like not a unique thing for me, but I can't say I really did it once I created space to just be and sit with myself. I didn't even get into other energy centers. So it was, it was here. And honestly, this is the best place to start as heart. It's our energy center and, and it's such a great resource.

It's my guide. Yeah. And the capacity to dream because without a vision, without a thought about, I can be something more, I can do something more. I could, I could bike Africa. I could go off and start my own business. What if I bought an RV and travel the country? What, what if I biked America? What,

you know what I mean? And you guys, it's, it's taken action, you know, it's small. Yeah. For the unique things that light your fire will be totally different than ours. And that's what makes us as we're also unique. It's like not to like really get off track, but like, your microbiome is like, that's, that's why diets don't work.

You know, we're all unique. And every, those little guys inside of us change every three or three or four months by what we eat. So, you know, it's not just us. We have a whole universe going on within, Or we go in there with mine, we get into microbiome Viome and gut health. And that's a whole episode in itself.

Right. We can talk about that for quite a while. Yeah. I'm thinking about dreams. You know, I used to think dreams were like something that happened at night when you're sleeping and they do right. Or you get up, write them down. But my main dreams, boy, they blast away eyes open, you know, game on when I,

when I allow space, which to me is kind of interesting. That's shifted over, over time and experience and stuff. So Are you talking about sleep dreams or dreams? Just like gold dreaming, like visions, Vision, future Self creation, Future Everything. Yeah. And I find like when I get away from the vision and that's where, that's where my most recent turning point was.

Right. Like I think, I think we go through just these phases where we feel kind of like stagnant and then, but you know how to get out, you know, like now I do anyway, I didn't win the ball of misery. Right. But now I know, Hey, I just hit my amp stack. I do these ritual things that get me back out,

but I had not kept building my vision. And I knew I kept writing, build the vision, build the vision, but I just wasn't getting clear enough with it. You know what I mean? Like walking in that future self, it was like, I B had become this version that I had envisioned so long. I'm her now. And now it's like,

right, right. And to keep formulating, it's like a constant process And we keep doing it, you know? Well, it occurred to me when I looked over at my vision board, I was like, oh, you know why? Because I've all these travel pictures on there. And we talk about that. Right. Like traveling the world. And I know I want to do retreats and things like you're talking about,

you know, when you go to Mexico and when you do, like, I want to do these things because I want to see the world. But I also love doing retreats and workshops. It's like, it's my zone of genius. Like I love it. It's kind of like being the captain of the team and getting everyone to gather and the vibes and the energy and teaching and just being like,

I feel like I'm in my zone, you know, even when I did the virtual camp. And so to be able to do that in these places where we can use the earth and the energy and the experience, like it just lights me up. I looked over at a vision board I had, and I realized that I hadn't taken this vision to the next level and with my business.

And then it becomes before meditation, after meditation getting in that space. So when I get in the field of infinite possibilities, I'm releasing the vision. Right. I'm creating the vision. I can see it and I can feel, I can see myself there and I feel my heart opened up. So You put the thought into the universe And then, and then I release it and I release it.

And then, and then I just watch. And when I see myself get in the fear-based thoughts, when I see myself get in the how, and I feel uncomfortable and it's so difficult, I'm like Solaire. That's how we talk to him. Me when I'm in trouble, Slayer, get to the mat. That's what I say. And I lay out my yoga mat and I get in child's pose or just get down on my rug or whatever.

And I just say, how can I serve, show me, I'm open show, you know, allow the windows to come. And just being open to that and getting in that stillness again, like, yeah, I do the same thing, but kind of in a different way, how do you do it? I I'm wherever I am. I find something in my body that I can ground.

And I practice embodiment. Like if I'm sitting here, I, I go deep into my gut and feel the, just kind of grounded myself. And then I noticed from the inside that the sensations that means to me, emotional then usually there's a really simple stuff I can do. That might be really my new, it may be throwing the clothes in the dryer and getting my,

my environment around me organized or simplified or, and in that motion will come more the next, the next right thing, the next step for progress. And for the bigger things that, that seem bigger than that, you know, it might be like the final thing, but basically it's the preparation going in is that is the joy of life. And then this,

those surprises happen. And I know I've created it. Right, right. When, when all the synchronicities start to appear and it, and it comes through that alignment, just feeling yeah. Through feeling the oneness. Yeah. Creating it and stepping back and allowing Something happened, it just is not great. It never has been great. There's flips and errors and stuff.

It feels hard. Where was where when right when you release and let go, it's just all so easy. That's my new thought. It's just so easy. It's easy and Relaxed. Yeah. Yeah. And it positive and it flows. And when it's not in flow, it feels just more uncomfortable and more, it just feels harder. Yeah. Unhealthy where,

but when we talk about taking action with things like habits, because those can feel hard for people to, when you're in the messy, middle, middle of building the neural pathways in your brains, you know, this is a different thing than creating your future self and your dreams and your vision because our brains are wired to want to have the rewards, right?

Like on a biological level, like to understand this about ourselves and how important knowing your habits and your habits stacks are because without our habit stacks, we wouldn't even be having this conversation. Both of us True and change. Even when I create these like little, you know, little things and they turn into a stack and I practice them for few months,

they're ingrained. They're like, I don't even have to think about them. My, how I challenged myself is changing because the biggest block for me is change. You know, where like, I'm like a creature of habit. So habits are terrific. You know, I have to really look at those habits and tweak them continually so that my flexibility is maintained.

And my, So your attention to it, it's like when you were talking about people, riding their bikes and when they get closer to home, that's when accidents happen, because they let the attention go and driving a car. It's the same with habits. You know, when we get so used to doing something and we don't change it up, like James Clair talks about in atomic habits,

we hit that plateau. And we decrease, we actually decrease our capability at that habit or our yeah. Because it stays the stagnant. So, you know, it's funny you brought that up too, because we just were talking in the sisterhood on the MEfirst guide, the planner, I had mixed it up and I made just like subtle changes this quarter and outside commented.

She's like, you know, I'm really liking that. The changes just a little tweaks because she's like, I didn't realize it, but I'm a creature of habit. And that she was enjoying like the little bit of a challenge, just a slight little tweak. I thought that was interesting because I had noticed it too. And I thought to myself, I'm like,

I'm going to change this every quarter. Just like small little, like change a box here and there, you know, like, and not rock everyone's world with a whole new habit, but to keep it interesting and keep it flexible. And then, you know, I think it will carry over to other things in our lives. Yeah. Well, and as humans,

we want to keep learning. That's something else too. Oh my God. We could talk forever. Let's talk about just knowledge real quick. And then I think we can, we can probably wrap it because, oh my God. I'm like, I know I don't, I guess I could just have footage for the next five years, but knowledge like learning.

So this is what happened to me, Marin, when I was, when I hit that ball on misery, I had stopped growing, you know, even like really in my job, even though it was huge, you know, it was the, I was at the apex of being onsite. Right. But it was stagnant, you know, I wasn't,

I wasn't learning. I mean, I'd go to leadership things and learn here and there, but I wasn't personally growing. And so I started, my body started growing because it was so uncomfortable. I just kept eating and drinking everything in sight somewhere along the way, because in my thirties, I was really into like Jack Canfield and rich dad, poor dad.

And I did some multilevel marketing and was really in that growth space. And then, you know, I got married and moved to Hawaii and got the job, the house on the, all that stuff. I thought that we're happy was going to be an right. Right. Yeah. And it wasn't. So what was my point here? Oh, growing and learning because you and I spend so much time in our days learning,

but also taking breaks from learning, I think is important to how much time a week do you think you spend just learning things? Oh, continually. Yeah. Unless I'm in transition, just coming here has taken a week. I'm getting back into learning mode, but I also have like a lot of projects that need to be wrapped up and finished. So I kind of consider that learning too,

because I have to figure out how to upload, download things on time. If I have to learn another software, I'm trying to open another shop from a distance. And I'm learning that I'm always like thinking about what's the next certification thing then I do. I just love, I love being with biohackers and, and young coaches. So a lot of the things I'm involved with them,

like the oldest one there I'm like the crown and I love it. I just have all these like young friends. It's fun. It keeps it us young learning does. And I mean, so as humans though, even we want, like we want to grow. And when we stopped growing, you know, that was a lot of my ball of misery,

I think, And how to grow and where we want to grow. There's so many different directions to take ourselves. That's where that like stillness and really sitting, being with ourselves and knowing, knowing ourselves incredibly well, that can be probably the most scary thing on the planet. Things will come up that I just really don't like about myself. I'm like,

that is that, is that me? You? And it's usually stuff. I don't see myself that comes from other people. Like that's that's what do they say? The five, the five people closest to you that you spend most time with. And it's not just so spiders they're five. Yeah. So that, they're a reflection of you that you draw people to you that reflect what you want to see Where we're going and what we want to be.

So that's something I really pay attention to. And it's continually shifting my friends are very different than they were five years ago. Yeah. And I love that. I know I've changed and I've grown when new people step into my life, but light my fire that I have, that I learned from, and that really want to see me be the best version of myself possible.

And it's a mutual thing. You were to tell a Heartsing podcasts listeners out there, give them one piece of advice to just kind of get started on their journey of maybe digging deeper. They're probably already on some self. What do you think is the single most thing they can do for themselves? Okay. The single most thing that you can do for yourself is sit and be still enjoy that inner adventure.

That's the adventure of a lifetime right there, right inside of you. You don't have to go anywhere well, but it's right here. Just sit and start. It's so beautiful in there. Yeah. And, and being still learning to be still, that was beautiful. Well, Mary, I think we should wrap it up and thank you so much.

I appreciate You, man. All right. Which is in bitches until next time I slept out bagel bagel on, Hey, are you guys still there? Let me know if you enjoy this conversation on the road. I think I might do more of these as I'm out visiting more epic women in my life, around the country. What do you think?

I hope you took away as much as I did from this episode and are fired up to listen to your heart. You can email me anytime at Slayer at Namaslayer dot com. I love mail it's in my blood from summer camp. Nothing lights me up more than hearing about something as shared in my journey that inspired some action of yours or just how the heck you're doing.

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