S3 EP 195 Falling on the Sword vs. Following the Dream: A Me First Moment

Holy synchronicities! The universe has already started moving pieces around and of course in unexpected ways. From broken ACs to unexpected job offers, I’m unpacking what happens when you put the "work" into the vision and let go of the reigns (get out of the fucking how's) and finally let the universe open the doors - instead of me muscling them open (ha!).

Here’s what we dig into:

• Why “accepting” your current situation can actually keep you trapped but can ALSO help you let go: what a conundrum!
• How falling on the sword (for kids, jobs, relationships) can kill your spirit — even when it's from that place of acceptance. What if you stop? 
• The difference between masculine “forcing” energy and feminine surrender/allowing energy in manifesting
• Why abundance is more about vistas and freedom than dollar signs (but we also LOOOOOVVEEE some cash, don't get me wrong- gets me more vistas)!
• How synchronicities (like dream apartments, job offers, and even massage therapists!) show up once you shift

💭 Questions to Ask Yourself This Week:

1. Where in my life am I just “sucking it up” instead of following my soul?
2. What does my version of abundance look like — and how can I feel it today?
3. What would it look like to truly put me first without guilt?
4. Where can I stop pushing and start allowing?

This episode will help you see how visioning and surrendering work together — you get clear on what you want (2030 you) and then let the universe line up the path.

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🎧 Tune in now and let’s see how quickly your future self can start showing up.

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 Aloha witches and bitches! Welcome back to the pod. A lot has changed since we sat together last week. I really can't believe it. I'm currently. Looking out a window vista of this awesome city slash mountain view in downtown Honolulu, which is one of my favorite places. I lived here in 20, uh, 11, maybe.

I lived downtown and I had this. Killer three bedroom condo. It was right over this Banyan tree. And when you would walk through it had these floor to ceiling windows, just like where I'm sitting right now. I know they were built by the same people and you could like, it was like you were walking in the treetops.

I frigging loved it. And just for that view, and if you remember last week, if you turned in last week to the episode. Not that I think all you guys do is sit around and listen to me, but if you happen to listen to me talking about 20, 30 Addie and what abundance meant to me and really getting that defined, one of the things in there was having a window wherever I live with this magnificent view, like just a panoramic view.

Like I think views can all be. Different, right? Like sometimes I love a beach view, a city view, a mountain view. Like it doesn't really matter to me. If it's expansive, it gives me that heart opening. Oh my goodness, gratitude, awe, joy, wonder. I just get that feeling. So I know wherever future 2030 Addie is, she's.

Seeking views in vistas, right? It's like the, when I was traveling in the rv, you guys, and I was up in Oregon and I went in these sand dunes behind where we were camping and I hiked to the top and you could see out like two miles ahead to the Pacific Ocean and it had like little, um, little lakes in between and trees and you could just.

See this immense vista, and it was just so awe inspiring. I dropped to my knees and was like sobbing in gratitude and it was just one of those moments and I, I'm not quite there with this view, but it's. Interesting how this view came about, especially after me working on building vision and acceptance, letting the universe take the wheels and you guys are just not gonna believe the shit that's happened this week.

I look back, I was in the shower and I'm like, oh my God, this is even deeper than I thought it was. So I'm really just gonna open up here to you guys like I always do. From my heart about, oh my God, what this is showing me and me, the one that has sought out to put herself first, how I really, really haven't been, and I have been allowing limiting beliefs of society, if you will.

Also to put a crank in my plans. Um, and I think some of this comes from some motherhood, guilt and things along those lines. So I'm really just gonna open it up here and share with you guys. So I, you know, so last week when I was talking about this expansive view, these feelings of abundance, I'm also.

Like almost two months in on doing my Daily Me first guide plan again every day. And part of that process, you guys, so connects me with my future self. There's dreaming involved, there's a spiritual reflection, and it really helps guide me every single day to doing just a little bit more to dreaming. For this future self and getting those vibes now, like the acceptance of my job, right?

Like just being happy where I was at. How can I make this the best experience in this job that I've decided I'm going to stay in. I'm gonna stop job hunting. I'm not gonna do any of those things, which if you're just tuning in a few months ago, I've just got so frustrated at my job. I was like, I went and told them I was gonna start looking and.

Then I decided to go just do a coaching course and really get that certification and go in all on me. And what I've learned in this coaching course you guys, was that I'm pretty damn good at doing most of the stuff they teach. I'm not saying I haven't learned, but I was like, oh, it was kind of like a reaffirmation of shit.

You are a good coach. You are a coach. Like I was calling myself a mentor, but I think I really did. So many of the key things they teach us. People us to do in coaching. So I'm honestly, I'm gonna take a little break. I was supposed to go through and do the signature course and then get my ICF accreditation.

I think with all the doors opening right now, I'm gonna take a break on them. I'm just gonna put a stopper until the next opening and I'm going to play out what this fall is bringing and what the universe is opening these doors. And I do realize I'm a little all over. So much I wanna tell you guys today, so just hang in there with me.

So we've got the view, right? We had me dreaming last week talking about what it looks like for me to feel abundant, what she looks like, healthy eating, food, strong, all of that. I end up going to CrossFit, lifting weights. Get this. I'm in my massage yesterday. And no one ever makes a comment about your body in a massage.

Right? And he gets done. We literally, it's not one of these masseuses that's talk, or I guess it's a massage therapist, excuse me, that he's not one of these guys that was talking the whole time. Right. He gets done every, we're getting toward the end and he goes. My goodness. Have you always had this kind of mu, you were just born with this kind of muscle and I'm over here feeling like a flabby beast.

You know what I mean? And I start laughing. I'm like, I'm so glad you could feel them. And he goes, are you kidding me? He's like, you are so strong. There're you have so many muscles. And yeah, they're all bound up. But he is like, there wasn't one area that you just aren't really strong. And he is like, I'm so jealous of you.

It's like the Hawaiians that are all strong like that. I'm like, I know. That's why I'm. My youngest is a beast. She's like part, whatever the heck, I am Olympic muscle lady. That's what the DNA people say, and then part Hawaiian muscle. I'm like, she's just, you know, she's, she belongs at like CrossFit. I'm like, get in there and start lifting.

Anyhow, now that we don't all belong there, get get out there and start lifting those weights everybody. That note was most loudly to myself because this, I did notice when I got skinny last time, you guys, how much weaker I was because like I was telling you guys, I have to lift so much right now. Every time I go to yoga class, I'm lifting an extra 70 pounds, right?

Like how strong am I? So I really wanna do this when I'm losing this time is to get one of those weight vests in every pound I lose. Stick it on the vest. It's kind of like my reward. I get to carry around this extra pound. Think about that on my body. Think about how much I'm carrying around. Okay, well, I do have some weight loss stuff to talk about this week, but I wanna tell you guys about this other shit.

So I'm visioning vistas. I'm talking about the abundance of this. I'm talking about future Addie and what, what she looks like, how she. Feels all of this stuff, right, and I just keep working on this vision. Meanwhile, in real life, I'm letting go. I'm accepting my current circumstances and doing everything I can to be in the best vibes I can in that current circumstance, and maybe everything I can is a little bit of an exaggeration.

But I'm constantly improving, right? Rather than pity me, dirty diaper shit. I'm stepping up and creating the life that I want with the hand. I'm dealt right now and being like, okay, I'm accepting this job, I'm doing this, I'm doing these things, whatever, right? So this week our AC dies, dies and I'm like, oh my God, you guys know me with my skin and my allergies and all this shit.

Like just. Uh, being open aired. So I tried to tough it out. I was like just sitting there with my fan on me. Remind me of when I was little in Michigan and we'd get a heat wave and we'd all have like our window fans and then we'd have one just blowing on our body and you just didn't move. That's what I felt like this week and I just finally was like, you know what?

I'm gonna have to splurge and go Airbnb. And when I lived downtown, I just. I always loved living down here. I love being able to walk to all the restaurants, having everything like right at my fingertips. So I thought, you know, it was actually less expensive to stay in Waikiki, but I'm like, I'm gonna stay downtown.

It's closer to work. I get good parking there, so on and so forth. So I book this Airbnb and I'm sitting here and I'm looking around these floor to ceiling windows that I've always, like I said, it's just like awe inspiring for me, and it just. Feels so good to be here and be in this space that is also mine, right?

Like, I mean, it's an Airbnb person's, but it's my space right now, right? Like right now I'm in this house of my exes with my daughter and I made the just. Decision also to stay there just because I really felt like the places I could go afford to move and live and still have a decent lifestyle. I would be nowhere near her and, and or I'd be roommate anyway.

And why not just roommate next to my daughter? I have all these reasons why I have decided to just stay there when it was going to be a temporary thing, and it's worked really well for us co-parenting. You know, but also, I'm not married. I'm not married to you. I, this isn't my house. It's very uncomfortable in a lot of ways, but I'm also very grateful to be right there for Millie.

So it's been just a lot of just. Confusion with that. So I, so I've just accepted that, right? I've accepted, you know what, I'm gonna stay here. I think this is the best thing for Millie, whether or not it's the best thing for me. I'm doing this because I think it helps me provide the best support to her that I can right now.

Right? So. So anyhow, I've accepted that I've accepted the job and then I'm just working on me, right? I'm like, okay, I'm gonna do this coaching, trying to get up early and go to yoga, working on my skin health, doing all my natural naturopath stuff. Just really going all in on trying to be the healthiest me I can.

Meanwhile still doing some binge eating, things like that to emotionally deal with, I think shoving me down. You know, so when I talked about in the beginning of the episode being just open and raw here, what, what I realized, oh, I gotta tell you about the job first. And then I, I don't, let me forget to come back to that.

You guys bookmark that shit. Okay. I promise I'll come back. So I, this week I was like. I, I always have the job alerts and a lot of times to keep track for my jobs. Like I'll notice she posted one of our jobs for, um, my manager that's hiring and it wasn't the right pay range in there and we're not gonna get the good applicants.

So anyhow, I get the alerts all the time. And here was this property management alert. You guys, there's literally. None of these jobs on the island. They literally made a job that was kind of like my old job out on the west side of the island in of a beach, and it's for a general manager position. And I was like, are you frigging kidding me?

Like that? That is like perfect, right? So I was like, but you've already decided you're happy here. You got this new routine with your yoga in the morning. But I get that two hour commute you guys, and then also being frustrated with things in my workplace and really trying. Trying to overcome it and love where I work and all of that, and just feeling like I'm beating my head against the wall a lot and trying not to be that.

'cause I know my thoughts create my feelings, my actions and everything, right? So anyhow, you guys, I get. I, I was like, well, let me just reach out 'cause I know all the players too, right? Like I know it's this very small island. You guys, in our business, there's not a lot of people that would do what we do out here.

So I messaged the regional because I was having issues applying. It didn't even like let me apply it. Said, oh, you're already an employee here so you can't use that link. And I'm like, well, I'm not an employee there. I like to be. Possibly I'd like to talk to you about it. So anyhow, I ended up reaching out to her and we just ended up having a really great conversation.

She is narrowing this down to the final two applicants and. One of the things she brought up was we were talking about money and she said, you know, we were hoping to really not be on the high end range of that. We were hoping to give a hundred percent housing discount and be on the lower range end of it.

And I was like, at first I was like, you know, I can't do that because I've so set my mind on, I'm accepting where I'm at. It's okay. I, it's on, it's, I've only got 635 more days. Like what kind of. Do you know how it feels to live life where you're like, I've only got 635 more days, and I do realize, like I am the master of creating my life, right?

I am like, fuck Ed, you know, you can create it right now. What do you want it to look like? Right? So as she says this, and I'm starting to say, well, you know, I'd really, I say, you know, I'd like to put a pin in that Lauren, because I really. Like if we get to the point where we're discussing salary, where I'm one of your fine, your pick or whatever, hopefully I'm like, it would be awesome.

If I'm your pick, then you know, then I'd like the opportunity to just really visit what that would look like for me. Because I don't wanna just spur the moment answer you, because money isn't everything and perhaps there's something I need to hear more in having that space and, um. You know, Millie had made a comment that maybe they weren't so excited about going back and forth again because there was a lot of trauma with that.

When I lived here back in the day and I was thinking, I'm like, you know, almost 16, it's almost like, take my car, go back and forth. You know, like, I mean, there's so many different ways I could look at this. So, as I was showering today, this is where we're getting back to the, my bigger ahas. I was like, you know.

How crazy is that you guys? Here are these big things in my life where I've just accepted, and that, by the way, have absolutely affected me carrying around a fat suit. Again, I know this, I see it. I know when I'm out of balance and when I'm unhappy and when I, when I listened back to my podcast last week, I just heard freedom, freedom, freedom.

My soul doesn't like when she's free and I feel so trapped everywhere, and that's the truth and just. Me accepting it, accepting I'm trapped, accepting this am my choice. You're not trapped if it's your choice, Addie, right? Like I keep trying to convince my soul this because she doesn't, I don't think, believes me.

That we've accepted and that this is just what we're supposed to do. And in fact, I remember talking to Renee in my spirit guides. I ha, I think I have a meeting with her next week, but like way back, like maybe last year. And she was like, I just keep hearing move. And I was like, move my body. I'm like, I'm trying to go to the gym.

She's like, no, just move. And I was like, it just felt insurmountable. And also seeing Millie. So this. You guys, if this all pans out, I'm not gonna fucking believe it because it's literally like stepping back into my old self a little bit as my new self with all these kickass tools, having my own space, my own kitchen, this job that I know I will be rewarded at, that I'll feel accomplished.

It's gonna be a much harder job. It'll be a harder job for less money, but I think I would feel so much better at this job. Like so what is really matters, right? What matters is that emotional connection that I have through. Through being and through doing things right through accomplishments. I think we were learning this in life coaching this week about, um, the ways we, we are really satisfied in life and some of 'em through family, through love, all of that.

And one of 'em is feeling accomplished. Like we want to feel accomplished and I'm definitely overqualified for my current job, but that's not just the problem. Like I just am not. I don't feel accomplished. I don't feel appreciated. I don't like all of these things that I'm in a job I'm way overqualified for.

Right. And I, I feel, I'm not, like, I'm not able to. Expand my wings, if you will, and how much that's affected my life Outside of the job has really been eye-opening for me. And then I come home and I'm in this environment that isn't mine. Like I, I just don't feel like I can like whip out the camera and do a Facebook live with you guys anytime I want.

Or, and the kitchen, like it's not set up how it's set up the kitchen. You know, there's just things like that. I can't just leave my yoga mat in the. Front room. I can't just set up a mini studio in a corner. I'm like making five different rooms outta my one room. And I don't think until I allowed myself to open myself up to the possibility of something different, if this would work out, I would be on the same side of the island.

I would have that free housing. But then what would that mean for Millie? And I realized in my thoughts on this, the only reason I wouldn't do it is because of her and what I've. Always told, taught myself I had to teach myself this. Back in Arizona, you guys, when I decided how could I be the coolest mom across the ocean?

Because for all intents and purposes, it looked like child abandonment, right? And my kids. Know better. They, they know who we are and all of that, but you know, I was over there because my mom was dying, whatever. And look, I still obviously had so much guilt about it, but I decided it would be so much cooler if I could be the mom that shows her how to live her best life and give her adventure.

She wouldn't have being over there. And obviously over, over here in Hawaii, and obviously I'm back here now to help make sure she gets. S the support she needs during high school in particular, and she wasn't as able to escape as much, and I just couldn't have that. It was one thing when she was little, and I could take her for big, long periods of time, but with her schedule, that just wasn't happening.

And while I think that. I don't necessarily, I don't wanna be across the ocean from her. Can I be down the block? Absolutely. Could I be in downtown Honolulu? Probably not. I just don't feel like I would get the time or the access. But I think if I could be close on that side of the island and make that work, you guys, this just might be part of 2030 Addie happening already.

Can you believe this shit? So, okay. What else? There was something else though. Let me look at my notes because I feel like. So it's been 45 days of me doing my plan, my Mefi guide plan where I vision, I plan, I do spiritual connection. I do like all this stuff, right? So 45 days of that, I've also leveled up my silent meditation in my space, and I've been using my yoga space at work.

More like just stepping away, taking a break. We've even been focusing on this in my, um. Cool Future dreamers group that, um, the KF deer, as we call 'em, don't ask. I don't even, who the hell came up with that name, you guys, and why does it start with a K, like the cigarettes? I don't know. So anyhow, in the Kf Deers group, we were trying this new 50 minutes on.

And a few minutes off, like you didn't have to do a full 10 minutes, but every 50 minutes you're taking a break. And Amy and I totally failed at this. Real was, was much better than us. And I wanna blame it on property management, but that's just, we can step away too. Can step away. It's a little, it's hard maybe when people are actually in your office, in your face, but I don't have that problem.

I think, um, Amy might in the group. Okay. I'm way digressed. So we've been working on that. Oh, I did wanna talk about the regain. So listening to Corinne and Nobis, I'm back. I've been back in the group all year. I haven't lost weight, you guys. In fact, I've gained weight, but I know I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be, like putting this coaching in my head again, specifically around food and having all these ahas about myself and my current weight gain in this.

Status of my body and the acceptance of that and just being like, not this huge judgment of myself because I gained weight. It is what it is, right? And it was real simple. I think Corinne said in something I was listening the other day that just really hit home. She was talking about regains and how it's just your body.

Our minds are so primitive, right? They wanna keep us safe. And when you're in these environments where you're feeling. Stress, anxiety, overwhelm, discomfort. When you're feeling all of these things, your mind will slip back into these old patterns much easier than the new patterns I built with Skinny Addie that were in place for five years.

I had 45 years on the other side of it where. I had not healthy Hab habits built around, um, around my emotions and learning to really feel my emotions and understanding. Like for me, I think so much of this is about that soul feeling. Trapped. Remember when I talk about the 300 pound ball of misery and how she was just in there banging on the wall.

She was like, lemme the fuck out. I wanna explore. I wanna see the world. I wanna do all these things. And I just kept shoving it down with food, just not listening, thinking it was impossible to do something like be a mom across the ocean, get an rv, travel the world, and still have amazing relationships.

And here I proved that wrong and I proved it wrong because I was determined that what society told me it had to look like. It didn't have to look like what support for Millie needs to look like, doesn't need to be the easiest, most access accessible option. It can look different and it might turn out better for them in the end, right?

It always does. And here's where I laughed at myself in the shower today. I was like, oh my God, Addie, this is a classic case of non me first thing, like to the highest degree to falling on the sword to this is, this is. Um, what do I wanna say? This is comparable to staying in a marriage for your kids. I'm like, I'm not even fucking married and I'm there.

It's the same thing when you stay in these relationships just for the kids versus following your heart, your soul, your. You're what? What you want to put in the world and what is going to make you happy there. Like why do we as women not believe that if we follow what makes us happy, it's gonna make everyone, everything else fall in line like we intrinsically don't believe that.

Did that hit home for you? Like, oh, well, if I went off and took off and did this stuff to make myself happy, everyone else would be miserable. And I can tell you this, what I learned through that time of really putting myself first and daring to throw some big middle fingers in the face of what society said a good mom was, and saying, fuck that.

I'm gonna show you what a good mom looks like being across the ocean. I'm gonna show you what a good mom looks like, not being in the same house. I'm gonna show you how that can be even better. For my child. Right. Versus sucking it up and we stay there 'cause it's easy, 'cause it's accessible, all of that.

I'm like, oh my God, ed, you totally are doing this and I'm doing this because, oh, it's only two years. I can suck it up for two years. I'll make this the time I build the runway. I'm like, so now I'm at this point like, okay, if this job doesn't pan out, is this a big sign that like, I really like when I told my oldest daughter about this opportunity, she like started squealing when I said about the a hundred percent home offer.

And she's like, mom, you are gonna be so happy. It's gonna solve all your problems. Like, and she knows me better than anybody on this planet. And I'm like, I know. Like it just really. Would solve all of that because like when I have my own groove, when I have my own kitchen, when I have my own stuff going on, my control of it.

And something else I heard in, uh, when we were talking about regains and, um, I started doing, listening to this regain course Corin had and, and the Nobis and um, they were talking about. Or it might have been in one of the podcasts or something, I can't remember, but someone's talking about, Hey, let's clean up your environment first.

All these little slips you've allowed to happen. Clean up your environment. And one of the biggest things I did when I first started losing my weight was take control of my environment. And I'm not in environments. I can take control of very well. And I think I have started to do that at work since I've accepted it.

You know, I've started to take control. You know what else is funny is I was going to set up my walking treadmill. I got, I was gonna. I haven't got the treadmill yet, but I was gonna set up the walking desk that my old boss had given me, and she reached out to me this weekend. She said, Hey, do you have that?

And I was literally taking it in the office that day. I was in the back of my car and to set it up and I said, well, funny you should ask. I have not. Do you need a back? And she's like, yes. And this was before I had the job interview or anything I have to say. I was feeling a little disgruntled. I was like, oh man.

Like I was gonna get my whole office set up. And I thought about that. Every time I have gotten to the point where I'm getting an office set up, I get in my groove, like something happens to change it. Either I get a promotion, I get moved, offices I get, which is why I was so hesitant to just get it set up.

'cause I'm like, am I really gonna stay here? You know what's gonna happen, and then as soon as I start getting ready to permanently set it up, it gets taken away and a job opportunity walks in and it's just, um, frigging amazing to me, you guys. So don't discount the power of the vision. And then I wanted to tell you guys a little bit about.

Just letting the universe like take the reins, right? Because you get this vision and you just keep working the vision when you see yourself get in the house. When I get in the house of how does a house happen? How does where I'm going to eat happen? How does, how I'm gonna work out when I get in the house and don't just see the vision?

Then the synchronicities don't happen like they do, like. ID you know, when I was like really pushing things like that, real bro masculine energy of I'm gonna get this done. I'm gonna get a fucking job when I was like in that mode. Crickets, you guys, nothing happening. When I'm in this mode of acceptance, release, surrender, allow the universe to take it over.

I'm just over here. Happy little me, working on my vision. When I allow that release of that stuff, pieces move, uh, windows start to open. Right, like literally looking out this gorgeous window right now, I've got like, there's like skyscrapers around and there's hills with houses and there's ocean off to the right and Waikiki, and I can see cars going by.

I can see part of the Ani palace and the YMCA, the historic one over there. It's just kind of really a magical, magical. Place to be right now as I'm talking to you guys about these synchronicities, the job opening, um, Tanya wanting the desk back, like things that are, like, you look at 'em and you're like, is this coincidence?

Or is this all pieces moving me toward my highest self and that I pulled the compass card today? It was about following your true north and your true north is in spirit, right? It's in this magic right within us. It's in this. Being that is not the human being, but the spiritual one and like, what are, what do we wanna create?

What would be fun? And what am I showing the universe I want what I desire? Those things are all, it's just so amazing to me when I look and I'm like, oh my God, you guys like, I can't, like you just can't make this shit. It's the truth of it. As soon as you release, accept, allow, and let go is surrender it and work on those other vibrations.

Right? Like the acceptance, the harmony of it. Getting back to my plan was critical because there is so much spiritual reflection in here, I think too, but also it helps me move forward each day. But doing that and then the silent meditation, I had really gotten away from that and I haven't. Fully added that back in and it's still, I'm like, oh my God, my brain is a genius.

When I'm quiet enough to hear myself, oh my God, I have the best ideas. So good. And sometimes I don't want to hear myself because I don't wanna hear myself stay, I don't wanna hear myself say stuff like, move, change. Shake it up a bit. You can do it. Like it doesn't want to hear those things about being so uncomfortable in the space and what that might mean for my child and how, but how can I be like, how can I make this the fucking best idea ever?

Well, listen, Millie is like 16. Get your driver's license already back and forth isn't that far. You know what I mean? Like it is time to get a little independence here. I don't wanna send her off to college. Not having that independence either. This can be a godsend in our small, sleepy, little beach town going back and forth and not worrying about maybe being on the highway so much while they're really learning how to drive.

I mean, there's so many positives that could come out of this, you guys. I just wanted to share with you the raw and real. And how really, like falling on a sword that isn't necessary and also did something in me thinking it's harder to follow the dream to really put me first, and, oh, I'm just gonna sacrifice myself and my, my, my body, like what I want out of life for what?

That doesn't necessarily make the life better for that person. Millie's not asking me to do that. You know, and even if she was for her to see, oh my God, look how much better it was like when we rvd around the country, she would never change that time of our lives. I know that we had like the best adventures, the best bonding, like you would, you can't find.

A mother-daughter experience like that on this planet. Let me tell you, you stick your kid in a 26 foot RV with you and take the iPad away. There is nothing like that on this planet. Man. We had some bonding like no man's tomorrow. And just like I wouldn't miss being here in Hawaii. For them for anything either.

So I'm really excited to see what unfolds. Oh, and I forgot about this, you guys. Okay. And then I swear I'm gonna shut up. But remember when I saw my naturopath and um, she sent me to the intuitive healer 'cause she works with the intuitive healer and part of the reading was about health. But the other part of it, we got talking about careers because I just decided my career was so derogatory to my health, I had to be gone.

And she was like, you know, I don't see anything in the career for you until. September, you guys, it's August 17th. How frigging cra if, if this job happens, it's September? Yeah, I mean you, I'm like, whoa, no, no, no. And then if that happens, it means probably the other thing happens too, the moving and that becomes like a money thing, right?

Because obviously if I get a hundred percent housing, it's not as much money at the same time. Not obviously, but that that is the truth of this job, right? They have the high end, which is kind of where I'm at now, but they're really hoping to be just the housing and less money. And so I'm like. Oh, I already told you guys that shit.

Sorry, now I'm repeating. It's this view. I'm distracted you guys. But so in the money, so pulling this compass card, that's about my true north. In there it says, you know, material things, money aren't where you're going to find your direction. They're never where you're going to find that. And while I'm all about creating abundance, you guys.

I think abundance, again, is that vibration of having the expansive view of being able to wake up and do yoga with the view of like, those are the things that have wealth written all over it. For me, for me to have three and a half hours to spend on myself in the morning, oh my God, please, yes. Not an hour of it in the car.

Going to a job where I can't, no one ever says, you're doing a good job. Right, like, don't wanna do that. So, okay. Witches and bitches. That's it for this week, I hope. Here's what I want you guys to take from this holy fucking shit, this vision crap works. Get out there, get your vision down, get as clear as possible.

Get super clear. What does it not the how. When you start to say, oh, how do I get there? No, no, no, no, no. You just got a dream. What does she look like? What is it? And it doesn't have to even be. The more specific you can get, I think. You know, maybe the more you can dial it in, like the more I can see my body and stuff.

But again, a lot of it's just feeling like it's a big window with a view. It's not specifically what view I'm looking at, you know? But it might be for you, it might be being on the Pacific Ocean or like whatever that view is that is like aha. That you're visioning that you can go to every day and be like.

Fuck yeah. I did it right. That's what I see in my vision every morning when I see fit me. That is fit because she's living this life beyond her wildest dreams because she's doing it again and it's changed. It's no longer RV Addie that worked while I was RV Addie. Now it's world traveling. Addie, right?

It's condo and. Phoenix world, traveling Addie, you know, like what does she look like? How is that possible? What does that happen? Those are the how's getting the vision clear of what is it I truly want? So the universe knows what doors to pop open for me and who knows where they lead. So that's your work for this week.

If you guys didn't do 2030, you last week, get in there, do the vision. See look how quickly. Doors can open. Things can start to shift and change is just effing crazy. All right, witches and bitches. Until next week, slayer out.