S3 Ep 196: Buckle Up, Buttercup

My Spirit guides don’t f*ck around. They told me: “Buckle up, buttercup”—and I'm waiting for it...is it the waiting I have to buckle up for, oh dear guides?  This episode is about the impatient in-between, where you want results yesterday but the Universe is like, “Not yet, little Slayer” I share how I’m leaning into gratitude, visioning, and self-compassion to stay in alignment while eclipse season is stirring the pot. Spoiler: it’s not about the house, job, or skinny—it’s about who we’re becoming along the way.

What You’ll Learn

• The trick to flipping impatience into alignment **manifesting gold**
• Why reason-rich gratitude shifts your vibration faster
• Staying out of the “how” when you’re manifesting big things
• Self-compassion hacks when the grind feels heavy
• Eclipses, and event magic is coming! Big Changes ✨

Slayer’s Challenge

Do one reason-rich gratitude today (write the why).
Pair it with one micro-move toward your vision.
Say it: “I’m becoming her now.”

Pull Quote

“When restriction whispers, I go back to the vision. That’s where the magic lives.”

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Transcript

 Buckle up buttercup. That's what my spirit guide said to me a couple weeks ago, you guys, and it's been a ride already. A ride of yours. Truly being in impatient mode. Like, come on, universe, hurry up, show me the results. And spoiler, it's not how it works. Again, that's me forcing things, right?

So really trying to be impatience these vibrations. In fact, I kicked off a 22 days of gratitude in the sisterhood today. On a whim doing Francesca Amber stuff and just signed up. She has this little course. She had written a book about it, kind of like spins on the magic, but also her shortcuts for the gratitude.

So I'm digging that. So far we've done. Um, day one was today and we did 20 things you're grateful for, and it's not just making a list of like listing off things you're grateful for. It's like why you're grateful for those things, right? Like, I'm so grateful for Millie because she is just the most awesome kid ever, and so supportive and yada yada, right?

Like you have. You put the reason into it so you really get into the gratitude vibration. And then today we download a subliminal that she gives you in the little course too. And you know, the idea of that is when we're in this in-between state and during sleep, that there's subliminally this information going into your head, whether it's about abundance or health or.

Ever, all of that. So we're starting that. And I'm all about some quick, easy vibes because it feels really fucking hard. I'm not gonna lie to you guys. Like there's times where it just feels hard. And I was thinking about this because I'm all about, it's not about the fat. It's not about getting skinny.

It's not about getting a picket fence in the house and the kids in the cars. We all know this shit, right? Like all that stuff we're taught to want. The happy isn't there, right? The happy is in us figuring out how to live our soul's purpose and keep navigating ourselves toward those choices that make us feel more in alignment and in, in my mind.

That's where. Um, contentment is, you know, but then I'm always gonna get into Uncontent because I'm gonna keep growing and that's uncomfortable. So anyhow, all these fucking lies we're told when we're kids, right? Like the Happys in this place and all the bullshit marketing does to us about our bodies and, um, what we should look at, like what a relationship should be.

All of these things we're taught, that is absolutely. Not necess, it's not true. Right? These are things that society has created or has decided to tell us that are true. So why was I going on this rant about society? I'm sure I had a purpose, you guys, because it's the sole nemesis of all of us, right? So, and disputing all of that and creating something new for myself, it's like really being allowing myself to let go and let the universe create it without all these.

Little limiting beliefs I have from all that programming. Right. So part of what I'm doing is just. Really trying to let it go. When I see myself get into fear and limitations, it's just like I did when I manifested moving back here to Hawaii when it seemed impossible. Like there was not enough money, there was no way I was gonna be able to make it back here, and everything just literally felt in place.

And as soon as I started to feel that fear or any type of. Oh, that couldn't be possibly because of this, this, and this. I would just go back to my visioning. So this is exactly what I'm doing right now, you guys, because if you listened, last time I recorded, which was not last week, week before, I was talking about just visioning, manifesting and all these things starting to roll into place.

Like this job that was created, like literally created. Out of the middle of the nowhere, that is like my old job, right? It's on this side of the island. And then they say, Hey, it's gonna come with a house. And then that got me thinking about what if I had my own space, what would that look like? Who would I be in that space?

And how much? I'm just really longing for that and that part of the vision. Hey, what if that happens now? Right? What does that look like? And what if it's not through this job? What if it's through something else? And as soon as I get in those hows, as soon as I get in those fears and the feeling of impossibility, I just really try to take myself back and get into the vision.

And I'm telling you this because when something manifests. I'm gonna be like, holy shit. Like first of all, it's crazy if it is this job that that all comes from. It's crazy that that job even appeared. Because it was like the job here in Hawaii, the community director position I took when I first got back here, the job didn't exist.

It was created. It's not like someone left, and there was an opening both times this time too. So you guys, you just can't discount the power. Of seeing what you want and the universe bringing these things into place for you. But where I start to notice myself feeling restriction is when I'm like, so I didn't hear back that week on the job.

And I was like, okay, well. Maybe this job, isn't it? Just keep going into your vision. I can feel this little tingle of, oh, I really thought that was it. I can't believe this. I can't believe I didn't get the call, that I didn't even make the final two. And so I finally reached out and I just said, Hey, you know, um, I.

I'm just excited over here. I'm just wondering if you made your decision on the final tune. She said, you know, I'm so sorry I didn't reach out to you. I got CID and I'm hoping to schedule the final interviews this week. So here are my brain's in this whole other place, starting to tingle in this restriction around this opportunity.

But that really, really made me think, okay, if this isn't the path. What is going to be the path? How are you gonna make this happen? And again, I saw myself get into the, I've gotta do all the things right versus me just creating from visualizing what it is I want. Getting very clear about what I want. And this is what we do over and over again at the Me First Guide events.

Because first of all, I think at this stage in our lives, we have so many limiting beliefs. You guys, we go and we start to dream and we vision and we. Think we're allowing ourselves to dream with abandon, but there's so many roadblocks we put in there. Oh, I couldn't afford that. Oh, my family went like that.

Oh, nobody had like this. You know, and, and yet you don't even know what it would turn out like that. It could be to everyone's best benefit if we listen to our soul and our heart's desire. Right? So getting really clear, this is a first step in any manifestation about what it is we truly want. And what do I want that to look like?

And so much part of like my morning, I see myself, I see my appliances on my kitchen counter. I see my fridge with all my food in it. I see myself just moving through this open, clean space to my yoga, to my meditation alter, to my recording place that's already set up to these things, to just feels clean and pure and.

Amazing. Even like it did in a 26 foot square foot rig. And like I could in this room right here, like I could make that feel that way here. And hell, if I haven't been trying, I really, really want a kitchen back to myself. Like I want my own fucking kitchen. I can't even tell you guys. You guys out there living with.

Spouses and families. I get you. I finally a hundred percent get you. It was so different, and I think it would be different. I wasn't a, in a roommate situation, right. Like when I could take control of it just completely. Versus I know like, listen, I'm a no BS girl. I, I listen to Corrine and controlling my mind and all of that, but it's different when I'm comfortable in a space I can.

Use for my own nutrition. Totally different. And it has put literally fucking 80 pounds on me. Not just that I'm not blaming that there's been a myriad of things, but it's all a manifestation of me being out of alignment. Right? It's, it's all it is. Easy peasy. Getting alignment. Weight starts to come off 'cause it's not about.

It's not about the food, but it is about the food, right? But it isn't about all of those things. It's about being unhappy with so many other things and how can I move myself into better alignment? So anyhow, my spirit guides are like. Holy shit. Addie, buckle up buttercup. It's coming. There's all these eclipse seasons and they're mine.

They're like, this is your eclipse season. Life is changing and so you know me. I'm like, okay. Where? When? No. The interesting part is the second eclipse happens on the weekend of our me first guide event in Phoenix. Like literally. That Saturday, that Sunday is the second eclipse that's coming in September, and I'm like, we're gonna have some witchy woo badass time.

I cannot wait. If you are even near Phoenix or can get there and your little ass isn't there like. This is the time. Like, what are you waiting for? Right? This is the time to step into the arena because there's no way you leave this day and not feel empowered, not feeling that fire in your gut, and inspired to step into that next version of you.

It works for me. Every single frigging quarter. And this one's gonna be even more amazing because we're doing it in person. And even if you've never met anyone before, or me or any, it doesn't matter. It's like you hear my voice, I'm telling you, it's says six degrees of slayer. You hear this, you're one of us.

Like, just hop right in. Hop in the sisterhood. Start interacting, start coming to things. Like, just step into it. You know? You gotta find your peeps. So, okay, so the spirit guides are like. Buckle up, buttercup. The shit's coming and yes, move, move, move. Like again, they said, you know, um, sacrificing things for your daughter.

And I was like, but I haven't felt like I am. I just really felt like I was making this conscious decision that this is where I am closest. This is where we are most empowered to. I'm most empowered to be with her all the time. Right. I don't know if empower's the right word for that. But yeah, I think it is because I can make things ha happen with her better from this position and.

That concerns me moving to a different location and not being as closely accessible, but I'm like, you know what? I can work on, I can. All of that is going to figure itself out because in my vision is again, gonna be this amazing relationship with my child just like it was when we rvd around the country because you wanna bond.

I'm telling you, I've seen a million times. Throw your kid in a. Small little RV with you and travel the country with them. There's no bonding like that on the planet, let me tell you. So. I've got all of these changes coming up and I feel the impatience. I feel the restriction coming. I felt the worry, right?

Like, oh no, I guess I didn't even get chosen in the final two for this job. I'm just like, I feel so resigned to being in my job where I'm at, and I'm really, really trying to shift that emotion. You guys like. Trying to write myself out of it every morning. So when I do my me first guide plan in the morning, I go through the process of drawing the card, getting some inspiration, writing out my thoughts, doing my vision, seeing my future self vision, and then letting all the shit thoughts come up like, fuck, I gotta go this job and I don't feel like it today.

Or. You know, oh my God, you guys, this past week, it was just horrible. We had one of my girls at one of my offices, she literally, I shouldn't even say girl. She was like not. She was probably. Late forties, I would say. And she's been working with us just since February. But the teams in the office are very close.

There's like four people that work in the one office and they, you know, they, that's who you're with every day, day in and day out. And we had really gotten close to her and all of a sudden she just got sick, went in the hospital. They thought it was her gall platter, turned out to be stage four cancer, and literally she was gone.

That week, like we didn't even see her again, and it was just such a shock to the team and just such a reality awareness to myself, right? Like being telling people how I care for them and while I'm at this job, making sure all the people, I am there to nurture and lead, have the best of me while I'm there, and that they know what they mean to me because just because I'm unhappy with certain aspects of my job.

Doesn't mean it, it should be taken out on my people, right? Or like that they should get less of me because of that and. Of course I turned this person passing into it being about me. But we do know this is true, right? 80% of what goes through your mind is about you. So you take whatever it is you're learning out there in the world and make it about you.

There's no guilt about it being about you. It is all about you. A hundred percent whatever you can take from this podcast episode all about you. Right? Like make, how can this benefit you to get clear about your vision? How can it benefit you to cast aside some of the things society has taught you was a proper way to live or show up and work or show up for your family even?

What if you went all in on you? What does it look like? Do you even know? Do you even know what you would want? If someone showed up and said, okay, you got a million dollars today. You can stop working. You can do, or whatever your number is, right? What would you do? What is it you want? Could you answer that right?

And if not, start dreaming. What if you get a million dollars tomorrow? Whatcha gonna do? You might be paralyzed, right? Like start writing out what you could do back to buckling up buttercups. So I get back to, I go to Hawaii last week and I had started to record a podcast for y'all, and I just, I couldn't finish it.

I had like, one day I had to pack it to. Kauai. I was like, I've gotta bomb it and, but I gotta tell you what I did instead. And I know only you bitches I'll appreciate not hearing from me because my ass was floating in the ocean, lying on some beaches. My manager and I went and we explored the whole eastern side of whole Hawaii and literally hit every beach.

There. And then we went over and stayed on our side and did our big resonating event and everything. So it was magical. And I was like, I need more adventures in my life. And now that I'm feeling a little bit better, that feels possible, you know? And then I get a flare up and it feels impossible. And so working on this vision to where I can create when I'm not feeling in that space, isn't that.

W would be amazing. Right? Isn't that what like the magic would be like that I can create it even when I'm in a job like this that I'm struggling with, or when I'm in a physical situation that isn't as comfortable as I would like it to be. This is another thing my spirit guides were like. It's about compassion for yourself right now.

Really being easy on yourself. And, uh, you guys, I know I'm a hard on myself. You, we all are. You are the hardest on yourself for sure. They even teach us this in life coaching school, right? They're like, oh, ask your client. What would they say to their best friend? And you know why they teach us that?

Because we all say nice things to our best friends and not to ourselves, right? Like you can just self coach yourself all day long if you think how you would talk to a friend and not how you actually speak to yourself. And that's pretty frigging pathetic of us, right? Like really start to shift that, you know?

But what I loved was the spirit guide saying it's my eclipse season. Okay, hang on. Now I gotta pause and go look and see when these eclipses are, 'cause I already forgot. Hang on. Standby. Okay, I'm back. So on the seventh we've got a total lunar eclipse, and then on the 21st, Saturn is in opposition. I don't know what that means you guys, but I'm so sure that's some serious shit.

And the 21st is also when we have that solar eclipse and then the autumn equinox comes in. And again, our me first guide, fourth quarter planning is on that weekend in Phoenix. You wanna talk about some magic woo shit. And then Mini Slayer and I are gonna stay the day after maybe a couple days in, just like a little Fairfield Inn nearby where we're doing the event and we're gonna float around the pool and do some stuff.

Like that. I think Friday I'm gonna go hiking on my mountain and if any of you guys make it, I would love to do that kind of stuff with you guys too. So, um, let me know. Shout out if you are. It's just gonna be an awesome time to create and dream and plan together and apparently my entire life is gonna change this month, so.

Come be with me while that happens and while I really tap into self-compassion for myself and bringing this to the event as well, I thought, how can I bring in some just lovely ooey gooey shit to the Me first guide event? Like everyone just leaves feeling like their heart is. Just like, oh, like radiating and singing.

I'm like, I'm gonna do some future self yoga nidra. We're gonna do some heart-centered stuff and really brainstorm and co-create together, but get into that space within ourselves where we're really daring to believe on that physical soul touching level. You know, like, I'm gonna make that shit happen.

It's going to be, um, just. Magical. I'll fill you guys in if you can't make it. By the way, if you want planners, they, I need your planner orders by next weekend. And if you're coming to the event, the planner comes with it and you can order more at a discount 'cause there won't be shipping and all of that on it.

So, um, I'll drop the links in this episode for you guys that are able to make it so, okay. Back to this week. So the visioning you guys, so I did the book, the Visioning. Then we're doing this money book and I just haven't been connecting with it. I really enjoyed the book. It's a Lewis Howes book and I think when I'm in that money mindset, I'm gonna go back to it, but it was funny.

Amy reached out to me and she said, you know, I'm just not. Getting into this one, and I've been feeling that too. So I just shifted myself to manifesting things, like focusing on that manifesting and that vibration, and what better thing to do than to focus on gratitude. And the 22 days are gonna end, right?

During that partial solar eclipse and autumn equinox and the event happening, oh my God, you guys, what is coming? You know, like what is coming? That's, it's that anticipation and excitement of. My God, my entire life is coming. What? What could it be? And to know if I just create, keep creating the vision of what I want it to be, things are moving into place for that to happen.

I've proved it to myself over and over again. Why I doubt this frigging process and allow myself to get in a bundle of shit and act like I can't affect it or do anything about it is beyond me. I don't know why. I think sometimes when we get in the grind, when you get in the day to day, when you, you start working from the man and you need that dollar in your pocket and you're sitting in traffic and everything just feels like friction.

It can feel harder to be in alignment. Right. And I think I was put on this path and shown this path coming from shooting rainbows out my ass for years to remember. What this feels like, because I think a majority of us in the world live like this. Just day to day, like we don't know something better exists.

We don't know that we can create whatever magic shit our brain dream up like, and this is why the Alter Ego course, I keep coming back to this and I need to do one. I need to do an Alter ego course that people can just go get, do an auto play real easy and make yourself an alter ego, because I think that's some game change in shit when you are stuck in.

The day to day, the grind, and especially once we hit this menopause, we got all this hormonal shit going on. Things can feel hopeless and we can feel a little lost and like we've lost ourselves. And it's really coming back to our true self is the journey and this is the age for it. This is the stage for it.

And dare we rise up and create the most magic shit we've ever known we could dare we do it you guys. I say we do, and I say it's by like doing all this little stuff by daring to dream, daring to vision, daring to buckle up buttercup, daring to settle yourself down. When you see yourself getting restriction and go to the vision, say, it doesn't matter, you create it.

It's not the house. Don't worry. If that doesn't happen, then something else is happening. Or if I decide, hey, I want it to happen, that maybe I keep visioning so hard. I created to happen, right? Maybe it's coming anyway. Who knows? But it can be so exciting if we allow it to be. So that's all I've got for this week, you guys.

Buckle up buttercup. Let's see what's coming. Get your, get me your planner orders in by this weekend if you're listening real time. And uh, hope to see you in the sisterhood, doing grateful as fuck for the next 22 days. And listen, step away from perfect. Jump in any time. If you come in day 3, 4, 5, who cares?

Get in it. Look, the, even if you have 10 days of gratitude is better than zero days of gratitude. You know what I'm saying? Don't let yourself get wrapped up in that perfectionism bullshit. Jump in and screw it up. All right, you guys, I love you to death and until next week, slayer out.