S4 Ep 220: If I Had to Lose 100 Pounds Again… Here’s What I’d Do (Because I Am)

If I had to lose 100 pounds again in 2026… what would I do?

Funny enough, that’s exactly what I’m doing.

In this poolside riff episode, I share the five things I would focus on if I were starting my weight loss journey all over again — especially in midlife when hormones, stress, and real life make everything more complicated.

Spoiler: I wouldn’t start with food.

Instead, we talk about nervous system regulation, identity, small daily decisions, rebuilding self-trust, and creating a life that actually supports the woman you’re becoming.

This is real-time transformation, imperfect action, and midlife reinvention happening live.

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Welcome back to the Midlife Badass Re podcast about your badass living. Coming at you live from the pool, you guys, for you guys just listening on your headphones and not watching on YouTube. I decided to bring you on my walk this morning because I don't want to get out of the pool. And at the same breath, I want to get my stuff done. I promised myself I was going to do. So here we are.

I saw this headline on YouTube and it said, if I had to lose 100 pounds in 2026, here's what I'd do. Well, I didn't say 100 pounds, but that's because they hadn't lost 100 pounds. They only had 50 to lose. I'm like, well, I can do that because I've already done that and I'm doing it. Like how funny is that? And then I got seriously thinking about it and I was like, oh my God, I would tell you guys such different stuff than I did the first time, right? And so that's what we're just gonna

about today. just want to talk through it with you guys because it's such a different journey as I'm losing 100 pounds this time after going through all these hormonal stuff, moves, life changes that I was in a regain. So I lost 120, regained about 80, and I'm down almost 20 this year. But I have, I want to lose 100 because I didn't get back there before.

I even went about it totally different this time, right? Because I didn't start with the food, because I already knew it's not about the food. You know, that's how we started last time. was really like, shit, I was going to go get wave off, so I was just so...

just beyond myself with it, right? Like I had no idea. And this time the weight loss feels easy. It's like the rest of my life just felt like I couldn't get it together. You know what I mean, you guys? starting this time from like body regulation and this came about when I went to see my naturopath, it's been a couple of years now, but when I was doing all the work about really figuring out what was wrong inside of me, like I just

like I was getting inflamed, my face was all broken out and I just like I knew something was wrong but the doctors weren't giving me answers I remember when she asked me when she said where do you feel safe and I was literally like nowhere.

I just didn't have that safety of everything was like a red fire alarm. Like the cortisol was just on rampage. And here I was this, was in yoga teacher training, was meditating, I was like setting my habits, making my plans, doing all my things to try to regulate myself. But I couldn't find this place of like safety within myself. And that, and that was just a real growth period, And then finding out

I had toxic mold levels and I still do right and so I'm going through this detox process but

That's a whole nother journey itself, But there's so much work in there. did Dr. Mindy stuff, learning about hormones and learning about the hormonal hierarchy and how if you don't take care of that cortisol and the oxytocin first, there's no way you're getting to the insulin to the fat burning. And I was like, that means so much friggin' sums to me because I would eat how I eat before and my body just hung on to it. And I know a lot of you midlife women can understand this and hormones too,

I got hormonal replacement therapy, which I think maybe the progesterone has a little to do with waking, but it also helps me sleep. So I'm like, And I'm down like almost 20 this year, you guys. So I want to, haven't updated you on the scale at all, which is another, I hear I'm telling you I'm on this weight loss journey and I'm sharing it with you live. And I haven't even talked about the scale, you know? So I weighed in at Lexus at like 292 and I

Raiden live on YouTube this morning and I was 277 so I'm almost my goal is 270 for the end of March and

That'll be the end of the quarter. And then I will do me a hit my 20 pounds for the first quarter. And then over the summer, my goal is 30. So I'm going big or going home, baby, right? I gave myself this first quarter to get myself in here, get my habits laid out, my meditation, my pool walk, all of the stuff that is doing the regulation that is helping me with that feeling safe. I'm getting my oxytocin, I'm hanging out with people. I'm spending time with my daughter.

those things are really important to the community we've built that is really helping me just engage with other people again is this is just being true to yourself you guys and it helps you like all of those things you feel like they don't matter but it's absolutely important if we're running on red fire alarm alert all the time we're not getting down to it we can't even get into fatburn so when we're looking at it from a goal of our healthiest highest self

It's all related. when I first started I think meditation was my answer for everything and it's still a big part of my answer. Like meditation friggin moves the needle. Like it really helps you regulate your system, but there's so many other things that do too and I'm working on a lot of those right now. So that's the first thing I would say is that you've got to figure out how to regulate yourself. And if you don't know, hey,

come in the Skool community. can't even tell you how many times the word regulated comes up and what our chat box are doing for us.

Addie Kahele (05:38)
And then it's like creating that identity. And you know what I was doing, you guys? I've been counting down until I can go back to Arizona because of my health here is just, there's just like nothing ever dies here and I'm allergic to everything. Okay. And I'm trying to not talk about this a lot, but I want to give you a frame of why it's so important to me that I want to go back to Arizona. And so I was literally like, okay, 1000 days, can be me.

400 days Getting on the hamster wheel again like falling on the sword like a victim. I'm like I know better than this This is what I coach about It's so much harder to see yourself you guys and I think sometimes when you're in it It just you feel like no that can't possibly be it. You know that can't be the solution So creating this identity of who you want to become now mind you I was working on that

identity. Like I have this whole vision and I would even get to a point, okay, if I had the perfect day, what would it look like? And it involved coming to the pool. I'd walk the pool. I would do like do my Pages and my yoga and my meditate. Like I missed my morning to myself. And I had to go sit in traffic for an hour and a half. And so I tried to get around that at work. I tried to get flexible schedule. I tried to leave earlier. I tried like, my God.

two years worth of trying all the things to make that life fit in the life I was dreaming and I was creating like with my perfect day and so when I wake up in the mornings now and I think about that identity and that we were doing alter ego future self-identity work in the midlife badassery community this week I was just like

my God, I'm almost there. The only thing that's kind of gotten out of my habit stack is yoga. I'm working to get that back in. And so far I have two days of doing yoga somewhere in my day. And my PM meditation is sketchy at best. And that really does move the needle for me. So I want to do that.

instead of like creating the vision and allowing, I was allowing myself to be stopped. And this might not seem too weird to you, but this is what I tell everybody else, right? It's like as a coach, thinking you self-coach yourself and looking back and being like, my God, and then hiring a coach that was like calling me out of my victimhood.

She's like, you need to write that whole story. You need to own every piece of these last two years of the weight, of the work, of all of that, and finding the limiting beliefs and busting them out off the charts, right? So that is really the second thing I think. So first, understanding how to regulate your body. And sometimes on a weight loss journey, we end up finding this toward the end. But especially when we're at middle age, I think it's impossible to sometimes

time to see that weight loss? No, because of the hormonal hierarchy until you regulate your body. So why not start with the regulation? All right, like ask diet culture, you guys, it's not about these diets and foods. And I tell you, I go and I am like doing some competitive research and stuff like that. And I'm like, if I see another like uberfit and kudos to her, I don't want to sound bitter or anything, but like some uberfit seventy year old woman that lost her 20 pound little pooch in mid

life. I'm just like where are where are the rested women that have been fighting the weight their whole life and have finally figured this shit out over 50? That's us right? Like that's where I want to be hanging out. That's this channel. So follow along because we're figuring it out together and it's what we do and I feel like it's just ever going to be evolving. know so doing it again this time and this 20 pounds I'm like I just have no doubt I'm becoming this person.

It's like the first time I went live on Facebook back in 2018, because I had asked my future self, what would you do now if you were so certain you would achieve the outcome? And I was like, well, I would go live on Facebook and tell all my friends and family. now spoiler alert, I've been going live forever and even through the weight gain, but I'm doing this. Like I will do whatever it takes to get to this goal. And I'm taking you guys on the ride with me and I'm going

to

do it through this regulated Self

Addie Kahele (10:10)
So that's the second part is really deciding who I want to become, what I want it to look like. And this is the life I want it to look like. And I want to go be in rooms with other women dreaming and planning and plotting their big, bad ass lives. That, right? Yeah, we can talk about weight loss and food and fasting along the way and whatever biohacks we're finding out and hormones and stuff like that. But the big thing is the dream is the vision is that tickle of excitement of what is coming.

That's the game changer shit. That's the, that's the big number two, I think. And the third thing is starting small, like taking that big goal Cause of course you just want to go get weight loss surgery at the GLP-1 when you have a hundred pounds to lose it. And you're like, my God, it's just so big and overwhelming and whatever. instead of like being like, okay, I'm going to lose.

20 pounds and lose 1.5 per week or whatever that looks like. And the bigger I am, like right now I can tackle a big ass goal pretty assuredly. Like I know at this weight, like I can lose 20 pounds. Yes, I can do that. Even with my midlife hormonal shit. And by the way, I need to take one. And my weigh-in would have been much better today, but I had a little Costco.

pizza derailment this week, you guys. And it was really interesting to watch my brain around the pizza because I saw myself going to get it. I was getting Millie some dinner because she had an appointment and it was late and I didn't have dinner made at home. I a lot of lessons in this day. And so I watched myself. I'm like, we're gonna a pizza. And then my mind totally bargained in two pieces because the scale was already

down three pounds for the week already and this was on Tuesday. So I was like, oh, you could have a couple pieces of jokes on friggin me. They're still in my stomach. But coming from a place of observation with that, okay? of seeing my mind be like, oh, the scale was a head. And this happened to one of my clients had messaged me too. And she said, oh my God, I got back in wonderland. And then all of a sudden I'm

getting a donut and a frappuccino. She's like, what the fuck? And I'm like, well, this is us getting to that next level. It's that regulation. It's that self-sabotage because our brains want to keep us back. They want to keep getting the dopamine hits. They want to keep us safe. They want to keep us there. So you can take that donut and I can take my pizza and we can do one of two things with it, right? I'm like, we can make ourselves feel guilty and feel like shit and whatever.

that what's that gonna do? That's gonna just help us gain more weight, eat more pizza, right? Or we can be like, okay, what am I gonna learn from this? And I was doing this while I was eating because this is how far down down this wormhole I've been in these last eight years, right? I'm like, okay, I see this. And I had two pieces, you guys. And I was eating it. I'm like, you know, it's not even that good. And at one point, I had wrapped one up and put it away. But I was sitting there in the car waiting. I was bored. was watching a show. I was

Total distraction eating. Totally distraction boredom eating. so next time, and Millie and I talked about this on the way home because her choice had got her wasn't that great either. Like next time, honey, either I have dinner made for us at home and we just know it's going to be there. But if I can't do that for some reason,

then we're doing like Panda Express or Subway or like a better option around there. And I'm really, because of all my allergies to stuff, I'm really trying to not eat any of those things right now because it just physically doesn't help me, which makes your whole decision easier, right? But there's a whole conversation about restriction. That's another podcast. So we're not even going there. So small steps, not only small little steps every day, like

That decision right there was a three pound decision. You know, like it's those little simple decisions each and every day. And to come from a place of not judgment, but of awareness and being like, I see that. And you know what? Next time we go to that appointment and I know Costco is there, I'm either getting myself a better option and I'm going to plan that ahead. I'm going to have a better plan.

I didn't have a good plan.

Addie Kahele (14:37)
And that brings us to the fourth thing I would do. And that is what that just did. The whole pizza story. Building trust with myself again. Like trusting myself, I got this. Next time I come up here, I'm going to make a different choice. And every time I show up for a choice that honors my plan, that honors my goal, that honors my future self and who she is, every time I do that, I'm building credibility with myself.

I'm rebuilding that trust that I know I'm going to show up for what I'm saying I'm going to show up for. This works for business, works for health, so many things. Like showing up for this podcast here today. my gosh, you guys, like talk about stepping away from perfect. I'm supposed to have like a ring light on me and being in a desk and I'm floating around the pool. This is, this is how it's getting done. You know, I'm sharing my story.

and I'm doing what I want to do. And the other part of come it's so nice out here today, you guys. Okay, so third thing is the small, small baby steps, right? And the fourth thing is building that self trust.

Addie Kahele (15:44)
The fifth thing I would do is similar to number two. build the life I want and start living the life. I want one little decision at a time. One little, I'm going to go float in the pool moment. One little, I'm going to get up and meet myself on my yoga mat in the morning. One little, I'm going to walk outside that door and get some sunshine that

is a part of that future self I'm building, right? Like how can I create the most badass version of herself? And if you don't take the time to think and dream and create her, then you're just letting life create you, you know? And we're here to be this vibration like attracts like was listening to a little Dr. Joe this morning. was doing this future self walking meditation and he's talking about epigenetics.

and how the cells in our body respond to your emotional frequency. You're creating from this vibration of either gratitude or joy or wonder. I'm doing a lot of work with wonder right now. It's just coming up. I have a wonderful life. I have a wonderful business and a wonderful way I do business. I have wonderful health and a wonderful way on in health. Like the word is wonderful and wonder is something to

put in your aura. So that's the fifth thing I would do you guys. losing 100 pounds again and coming out of this place, the food was in there nowhere.

build the most fantastical

fucking amazing lives as we lose the weight, right? Like, cause that's always going to be a part of it is the health because health is our number one asset, right? And then I want to do shit like I want to go to Scotland and I want to like, you know, there's so all these fun things I want to do and why, ⁓ I had started to tell you this guy, you guys this earlier and I, I scrolled of course. So I want to, I want to wrap it up with this. When I was talking,

about counting down the days. I had totally put myself on the shelf. I was telling myself this story that ⁓ when that happens, when I can get back to Arizona, when I can get back to when I'm not in on this hamster wheel I put myself in on, when I can get back there then I will have this life.

Look at the life I would have been missing had I let myself keep saying that story

And now mind you, it took like a year to get my head out of my ass, but I only got out of my ass because I keep getting up and doing the shit you guys. Right? Because I keep getting up. I've done a 90 day plan every quarter. I've done the dreaming. I've done the visioning. I've done all of them. I kept adjusting and I was like, how can I be more of her right now? You know, and just in case you're wondering, this is my new mountain. Remember how the mountain saved my life? we got an airplane. Can you guys hear it?

So can you guys imagine? Right? Like I wouldn't be floating around in the pool on a Friday morning recording a podcast.

I would be sitting behind a desk doing the job I'm really good at that didn't take a lot of effort from me and I got paid really well. But I wouldn't be doing this. I wouldn't be having a wonderful business with wonderful pay and a wonderful forget life. But before you think I'm a unicorn.

I want to share a couple of people with you coming up because like Lola had reached out to me and she was headed to the Bahamas this week and she reached out and she said, Oh my God, thank you so much. Bahamalola is on the roll. we worked together for a whole year. And during this time, she created this whole new identity for herself. And cause she decided she wanted to be this Bahamalola that just could go to

the pool in her two piece and not be self-conscious no matter her weight. She's skinny now by the way but like no matter her weight she wanted to go in. She was confident in that two piece before she had the body that was confident in that two piece. she's like I'm Bahama Lola you know she created this whole identity for herself and became it and along the process also like got rid of all of these she was very much in the whole I've got to do

everything for everybody and you know taking that weight and that burden on herself and finally setting up boundaries. This is the identity work you guys. This is the stuff that you decide who do you want to become, how to get there, what are the things that are getting in your way

I'll invite you again you guys if you're not yet in the Skool community jump in because we are creating our future selves and our alter egos those are the things I would do if I am losing 100 pounds again,

Alright you guys, that's what I got for this week. I'm gonna go back to, I've already walked the pool for two hours.

And I did some yoga. So I did some upper body work I did some push-ups and stuff like that because they had a challenge going in the group I did like five push-ups, All right. Love you guys. I will see you next week. Snare out.