S4 Ep 239: Dream Bigger After 50 | Future Self Diaries #2

What if your biggest dreams aren't behind you...

What if they're just waiting for your permission?

In today's Future Self Diaries, I'm taking you behind the scenes as I dream out loud about the life I'm intentionally creating. No perfect plan. No pretending I've arrived. Just an honest conversation about the future I'm choosing to build—and why I think every midlife woman deserves to do the same.

Because here's what I've learned...

You don't accidentally become her.

You become her one tiny decision, one tiny habit, and one tiny act of courage at a time.

If you've been putting your dreams on hold while taking care of everyone else, this episode is your reminder that your next chapter doesn't have an expiration date.

It's time to dream bigger.

In this episode:

✨ Why dreaming is more practical than you think
 🧭 How your Future Self becomes your compass
 🌅 The power of visualizing an extraordinary life
 💗 Why becoming always comes before achieving
 🚀 One simple way to start becoming her today

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Addie B | Midlife Badassery (00:00)
Hey guys, I just came out of a workshop, so I'm still riding a little bit of a high being in the room with the crew. And I wanted to come share with you now while it's hot, because I am headed into Future Self Week I think so many times we spend so much time thinking about what's broken and what we need to fix, and not half as much time as we need to about creating our future selves and where we're going.

I remember when I was manifesting getting back here to Hawaii and I had this RV that I had renovated. Everyone was like, you can't resell a RV, you renovated. I had it listed for like a couple of months, and I really need to sell this to move back. I knew I was gonna move back to a job, but I didn't have a job. There was no openings, all of these things. And every time I got in that bundle of fear.

I just kept seeing this vision of me here in Hawaii, walking on the beach, being with Millie. And I just would shift into that vision. And the same thing happened when I left corporate America. Lost 120 pounds, got the RV, just constantly building that future self in the vision. I'm such a big believer in not necessarily staying in the future, not faking it till you make it shit. But

being intentional with what I want it to look like, seeing it in my head, practicing it and noticing when I'm being out of self with it, out of sorts, and shifting back in. So today we're gonna dream out loud together because you know I love to do that shit. I just finished a six-month review because on January I was up on my mountain talking about what I was gonna do for the year. And a couple of weeks ago I shared with you, you know, I'm down 30 pounds, I've got my communities rocking.

I've got I've grown my YouTube channel a little bit, even though I'm not like totally at the goals, it doesn't matter because I'm living the vibration. And so we're gonna paint the vibration for the next six months, one year, maybe even 18 months out here with you now. I'm just gonna riff it and then we're gonna be able to go back and look and see. And my job is going to be at my event next weekend, the me first 90 event. I usually take myself and do this process.

on my own. So before that event, I am going to go through this whole process of creating this future self-vision, which we're also working on in the group this week. And then I am going to build out my hat my my goals and my habits and what does it look like.

And figure out little small steps I can take on the path there. So because the universe loves to see some action, right? We can visualize all day long, but if we're not in the vibration of doing the thing now, being grateful now, I'm in this book club and we're doing, I'm in this book club and we're doing this manifesting book right now. And he's talking about how wanting is the opposite of manifesting, because that's coming from a place of lack.

So we can't just desire the thing, right? It's like knowing what you want, where you want to go, but living it now, being in that vibration, being grateful now. And something about that just had really clicked for me because learning to release things has been probably possibly the biggest challenge for me, like surrendering, like getting out of the way and not feeling like I have to push things so hard. But in the same breath.

Also taking action, inspired action to show the universe I want this thing, I want to go this direction. I want to help other women get lit up and get inspired about life and dare to dream big and step into it. And what does it fucking look like? Right. And how dare I live this big audacious life and put myself first? Yeah, how dare we? Let's friggin' go, right? Like that lights me up. That lights my fire in doing what

Coming from that place where I'm already living it. I'm already feeling it. And that's what I was sharing of like building the life I love again and the weight just coming naturally. I was telling the group today in this workshop, I was like, nobody can tell me I'm not skinny right now. Like you guys can leave like a bunch of like trolls, you can leave a bunch of shit comments about how I'm fat or something. I just will not believe you. Like in my mind, it's already done and I'm already there. So all of these other things I'm gonna talk about.

How do I become that person that is already there now and is acting like that now? And and not that listen, not that I don't have anything to do around food and emotional eating. Those are things I feel like will always be ongoing for me as challenges and life shifts. I mean, obviously, because I regained weight, right? But having the tools to be able to.

recalibrate, readjust, reset my goals and my vision and believe in myself, that's the game changing shit, right? Like once you get that school, that skill of how to believe in yourself, the whole world is your oyster. So now it's just taking this skill and translating it into other areas of my life, right? Which right now is nomadic wealthy addie, so I can go live the life beyond my wildest dreams, right? And

I get to do that by doing my passion of inspiring and helping others.

And if you're new here, my name's Addy Beale. This is Midlife Badassery Podcast. And every week, my mission is to leave you with one little nugget to take on your way and hopefully inspire you into doing something in your life you haven't or thinking in a different way. and so today it's going to be this future self big dreaming. And if you're watching real time, it's future self week in our school group, in the

Midlife badass when you could come in and do this real time with us. And I have, my gosh, you guys, I've set up so much cool stuff in there for myself from a business standpoint where I feel like it's all starting to come together. Like I have a topic that I work for the week that is the podcast, that's another video that is the post throughout the week. So we're growing and changing and transforming together. I like to think of them as

Transformation chambers. Like every time you come to a podcast, you leave just a little bit different. Every time you come to a daily post and you self-reflect on it, you leave just a little bit different. And that's what the chamber is, right? And sometimes it's a really big chamber, like the me first ninety event next weekend.

Where you really get in, like we're spending, when do you spend five hours just dreaming and plotting and planning for yourself? And I mean plotting, right? Like what is it you desire? What would it look like if you did show up for the and tell the universe, I desire this? And if you dared to figure out what what gets you stuck and how you overcome that, because that is the secret to life, is figuring out how to make those choices that help us come out the other end that are the

Not as sexy longer term reward choices. So this is going to be a whole friggin year of me being uncomfortable, stepping into the discomfort, daring to dream it here, and then figuring out who is that person I need to become to step into it, using my alter ego identity, creating identity based habits and change because this is where the transformation comes in. And we like to dabble in.

Right. So we're throwing some of that shit in. Give me an Oracle card every day for sure. I s already in my habit. Already Oracle card every day.

a quick recap, Down 30 pounds. My community's at like 500 people. My YouTube channel here is about 286, just so we have these stats to start with. So when we come back and we check this video in six months to a year, we know our starting point, right? So

my ultimate goal when I leave Hawaii, which is 330 days ish, like around there next May or June when Millie graduates. I want to be back in Wonderland. So under 200. And I'm currently 262-ish. I'm right around that 30 pound lost mark. So that'll be another 63 pounds in a year. Totally doable. It's fucking happening. I will be in Wonderland before I leave this island.

And now you're gonna watch me get there. One of the things I've committed to for August that is gonna be part of the plan I put together in my my Me First 90 in my planner when I sit down. I love cracking open my new planner and I get to fill it out. It's so good. But I am going to use I'm going to go live on TikTok every day for.

All of August and share over there. I already go live and weigh in on YouTube on Fridays, but I'm gonna use TikTok every day as accountability. I'm adding that in as accountability for myself. I'm also in my group where

I'm doing it with everybody am going to really use our Sunday check-ins to share

my goals and my mindset for the week to not only keep myself accountable, but to also inspire the other members in there too. I think it's really powerful when we do this together. I am also really dialing in this morning routine where I am getting up, meditating on the cushion.

silent and I'm not in my phone until after I finish my AM habit stack because this right here you guys is going to change everything. It's going to have the most impact on my weight and also on my business. Because when I get in my phone first, the world is has me. When I get on my mat first, I have me.

Coming from this place where it's so much bigger than me, where my heart is centered, my heart's at house set, mindset, soul set, right? And this is the part we hear all the gurus say that's in their habit stack. And it's been so solid in mine. And yet, I I lately I've been really excited to check in on my school community and see what people are posting to my post because we're having fun. And I I see it happening. I see my brain getting hijacked earlier. So

That is going back in my my dream. By the next six months, I'm dialing that in and also getting my movement back on target. healing. Okay, let's talk about my skin. eczema, you guys have watched me go through this, mold toxicity, all of these things, continuing with my detox, continuing with the eating that is sustaining my low inflammation and trying to.

By next year, I want to be able to add some foods back in and really be conscious when there is a flare, but also stepping into the quantum and healing my friggin' self, right? Like I'm throwing everything at that, you guys, because when I'm nomadic addie, which we're getting to, when I'm nomadic addie, I want to be traveling and free and all of that. So that is definitely on the list.

So we got the wait. I'm gonna be back in Wonderland by the time I leave the island. So by the end of the year, I wanna be in the 220-ish area. as far as YouTube goes, I'm sitting right under 300 subs right now. So want to get to that first thousand would be very exciting for me. Like my friend Julie on here on on YouTube, she just did it. I was like, the coveted thousand, right? And she's like, yeah.

I think by the time you're there, you're already there. It's like everything else because you've been seeing the dream and the vision for so long. So I wanna do that.

still scaling to 10k months as far as income goes, right? And I'm nowhere close, and we are moving that needle because my my goal on that was already like April or May, and I'm not there. However, I am so frigging happy with the processes I've set up and how women move through the transformation in my group. They're literally saying back to me what.

I what I am putting out, right? Like how I know they're feeling is being said right back to me. And it's not things I'm sharing here because I'm not feeling that way anymore, but I remember feeling like that. And

That to me just signifies that I'm on the right path. It's all coming together. I'm gonna be able to help so many women go through this process of learning how to create identities and how to put it into your life and using the process and technology is helping us amplify these results, right? My ultra ego GPT is like a little coach in your pocket.

It's like amplification, right? I was on the call tonight with the women and she was like, sorry, I'm talking to a slayer in my chat. Yes, right? Like, yes, why not use it, you guys? Right. And when you can get in the habit and when you're in a culture that is doing this and adapting with it, it makes it fun and it helps you 10x your results, right? And I wanna, I'm gonna do that with this whole process next, the whole me first process.

Bringing that into technology so that you have the support in your pocket, right? Like a real-time transformation happening and technology is making this happen really quick. So this will get done in the next six months to a year. The me first guide method becoming a perhaps an app.

Definitely more chat bots. I think we're huge fans of the ultra ego GPT that you get in midlife badassery. That's part of it. but this is going to be the even deeper work. And I also have something for the ultra ego coming. So, business-wise, those two things being out there and processed because they're going to help people get the results they want to get even faster. And so often.

They think these results are weight loss. And I feel I get you, sister. That's what I thought mine was too. But it's more often creating the life you love and learning how to do that. And sometimes it means letting go of some uncomfortable shit that you don't wanna have to look at. It's easier to just eat, drink, Netflix than toler and tolerate.

Bullshit you don't want you really don't want to tolerate. And let me tell you, when those hormones are gone, you're like, fuck that shit. Cyanara, right? So, anyhow, you guys, I digress because those aren't my goals. I'm I'm on my path to nomadic Addy, right? if that sung to you at all, come come and dare to be audacious. Come to dare it look at what you're tolerating.

By the end of the year, we're gonna be in the 220s, hit the thousand on YouTube. And my community were just right under 500. So it'd be amazing if we were had like a thousand women and maybe 50 to 70 women in my VIP group would be very comfortable before I have to figure out

But what I would say within the next year, having the Me First Guide revamped and in a digital product that will help you accelerate that even more.

Although I still like I'm a paper girl, but also the planets. So, you know, I don't know where we're going with that, but we'll see you guys.

and then being financial, right? Like ultimate financial numbers. Like, what do I want those to look like to have this nomadic life? what are the things I want to like? I say I want to I'm getting to 10K months because everyone says 10K months, but what does that do for me freedom-wise? Like, what does that look like

Paying down debt, paying Airbnbs to stay at, people to maybe help with my business or edit. Mini Slayer start editing the one video a week. she's on the payroll now, right? Like, pay mini slayer, And I really need to dive in those numbers. So in August, I want to get my financial house in order. And I did say this in the podcast.

in January, where I was talking about and I feel like it's still not in order. I want to get as detailed about that and as in it as I am about my weight. So there, I said it out loud and now I can listen back to myself and be like, see, you still didn't show the universe that was important to you, you know?

Was doing all my research for the workshop today and I was doing a visualization in there. I'm doing a a deeper one next month, but I just wanted to get a couple ideas. And I ran across somewhere where they were talking about imagination being the most valuable skill there is, because if you can create in your mind, you can create it.

being able to imagine and see, next fall going and traveling and working from Scotland. I want to work from New York. I want Phoenix to be my home base and ultimately have like my desert house container house with a pool in the rocks overlooking that, right? Like, what does that all even look like financially? Because I'll tell you this, you guys, I'm really good at manifesting things

But not having that like stability with the money and the things I buy. And so I've been doing a lot of work around this limiting money beliefs this year. And part of this, I really have come to realize is that my drive for freedom is so huge. And to me, things like having a house or having things I'm like tied to have been full of fear and it feels restrictive.

So, really rewiring my brain around, hey, I can have that and not be restricted in my freedom. I can own that beautiful Arizona container glass window house overlooking the mountains that my alter ego badass is in. And be able to travel around the world in style and work remotely and do some retreats and light some bitches up, right?

I can do both and I can have and I can hold both and to start to see and visualize that happening. I have a little folder I've created in my chat. This happened from exercise we were doing in the group a couple weeks ago. I have a new Edinburgh file where I'm putting everything I'm discovering and coffee shops I'm gonna see myself sitting at. It's like when the whole RV adventure happened, you guys.

When I left corporate America and got the RV, I spent about it was like six months. I didn't really think I was gonna do it. I mean, who leaves their corporate job when they have kids and everything and buys an RV and travels the country? It seemed impossible to me. I mean, I had to start a business, like all these things. And I just started RV shopping and I was talking about it online. And I said, Hey, you guys, what if? Just like I'm doing right now.

What if I'm a nomadic adventurer and we have little workshops all over the world and we get together and we like learn and grow and do woo shit and hang out? Like, what does that look like if I do that? Right.

And I think like this next year, really maximizing this time with Millie, It's like I heard someone talking about, we only have so much time in the house with our kids. And I'm like, my God, yeah. The only God, I'm talking about 330 days till I leave the island, but that's really we won't be living together anymore. She'll be off in college. And what can I do from now until then to solidify our relationship even more?

have more adventures together, but also what can I, what other skills can I teach her? Life skills, shit that I had to figure out when I was 50, like how your thoughts create your feelings and your actions. And she's I can already hear she's picked up stuff that she's just implemented in her life. It's just part of who she is from listening to her mom life coaching, right? Like, but how can I arm her with those skills to regulate herself, to like do these things that she like

won't have to worry about when she's 50. Even if she doesn't do them right now, she'll have the skill when she's off on her own. And maybe she'll turn to that and not something else, so that's a big part of my year for the next year. And then getting to the financial freedom number

Take off and travel and invest money in my business and just grow and help more people and see more people, right? Isn't that what life's about? So it's just like creating the life you love that looks like a morning ritual and the weight coming off. It's the same with money, right? Like dreaming and creating this environment and things I love and to create and put in the world and the money being the byproduct.

It's all connected like that, you know? So that is a little future self dreaming for today, you guys. And you can come real time, come join us in the group. We're future self dreaming all week. I got even a couple calls that we're going to I'm gonna get my card deck out. We're gonna do a little oracle inspiration, some journaling, some visioning.

And you're gonna do a version of this for yourself, maybe not out loud to the group, depending on how much you wanna engage, but at least on your papers. So you start to say, what if? What would it look like? And not let yourself get stopped by the, well, I can't leave yet the 401k or the kids or the spouse or whatever it is. Just allowing yourself to dream because you never know what can happen.

Sunday we're doing the me first ninety. We're doing the ninety day plan. You guys, we're getting in it. We're gonna take that bigger vision and break it down. And this is where the shit happens. This is where you see transformation in your life.

You wanna define her with me and not alone? Hop on the ride because I'm not stopping you guys. Let's go.