Boundaries & Grace with Taylor Chandler
Boundaries & Grace with Taylor Chandler
High Effort, Low Return: When you’re doing the work for two
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I illustrate the over-functioner/under-performer dynamic. These are high-effort people who get low returns in their relationships. The markers of the dynamic are clearly laid out as well as the consequences of allowing this problem to persist. I share about my over-functioning past and how I changed in order to get what I give in relationship.
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Timestamps:
00:03:30 Introduction to the Over-functioner / Under-performer Dynamic
0:04:00 Marker #1 - “This relationship will fall apart”
00:04:23 Marker #2 - You’re drained
00:05:19 Marker #3 - When they pull away, you give more
00:09:49 Marker #4 - You’re managing, not partnering
00:10:54 Marker #5 - You negotiate your needs
00:14:23 When the problem persists
00:18:31 Solving the problem
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Disclaimer: The content provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care or therapy.
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